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- Nā ʻ Lovelelo aloha 5
- Pehea e hana ai nā ʻōlelo aloha i kāu pilina
- Ke ala olakino e hoʻohana ai i nā ʻ Lovelelo Aloha
Ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi manawa aha nui i ka manawa aʻu i heluhelu mua ai i ka puke 'The 5 Love Languages' na Gary Chapman. Me kaʻu kāne, e haʻi pinepine wau iā ia i ka mea kupaianaha aʻu i manaʻo ai a hāʻawi iā ia i ka mahalo nui.
Ua aloha ʻo ia iā ia, a ʻakaʻaka mākou i kekahi lā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻokuʻu i kona poʻo mai ka puka no ka nui o kāna ego.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ua ʻike pū wau ua kaumaha iki kahi ʻāpana o aʻu no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa iaʻu ka ʻano o ka hoʻomana mai iā ia.
Nā ʻ Lovelelo aloha 5
Hoʻokumu ʻia ka puke ma ka manaʻo e aloha mākou i kā mākou hoa i ke ala a mākou e makemake ai e loaʻa. I loko o kahi noiʻi i mālama ʻia ma kā Chapman's Ke ʻ Languagelelo ʻ modellelo, ua ʻike ʻia ʻo nā kāne kūlike i ka ʻaelike o nā ʻōlelo aloha e hōʻike liʻiliʻi ʻole i ka pilikia.
Eia nō naʻe, hiki i nā pilikia ke ala aʻe no ka mea ʻaʻole ke ala a mākou e makemake ai e loaʻa ai ke aloha i ka ʻōlelo aloha mua a kā mākou hoa, no laila ke kumu ʻeha a hōʻole ʻia paha mākou i kekahi manawa.
'ʻO nā ʻ Lovelelo aloha ʻelima i hōʻoia iaʻu ua hoʻohana wau i kaʻu ʻōlelo aloha mua me kaʻu kāne, a ʻo kēia ʻo' Words of Affirmation. '
He aha nā ʻōlelo aloha ʻokoʻa ʻelima:
- Nā ʻ oflelo Hoʻoikaika
- Hoʻopā Kino
- Na Hana o ka Hana
- Manawa Manaʻo
- Makana
ʻO ka maʻamau, hana mākou i ʻelua ala ʻokoʻa e hōʻike ai i ke aloha a mākou e makemake ai e hoʻohana a hele kūlohelohe mai iā mākou.
Inā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe ʻo ka mea o nā ʻōlelo aloha i luna kāu mea nui, hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi i kahi ʻano o kēia me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā nīnau ʻelua aʻe:
- He aha ke ala nui āu e hāʻawi ai i ke aloha i kāu hoa?
- I ke ala hea ʻoe e makemake ai e loaʻa i ke aloha hou aʻe mai kāu hoa (ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e like me ka nui āu e makemake ai)?
Ua lilo ia i mea hoʻomākeʻaka ma waena o wau a me kaʻu kāne. I kēlā me kēia manawa e uku wau i kaʻu kāne i kahi mahalo, lilo ia i hōʻailona na ia e ʻōlelo i kahi mea maikaʻi i hope.
Ua hana iki ʻia paha, akā ma ka liʻiliʻi he manawa kūpono ia nona e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai i ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kaʻu ʻōlelo.
I kekahi manawa e poina nō ʻo ia no ka mea ʻaʻole ia i kūlohelohe iā ia, no laila hāʻawi wau iā ia i kahi nū & wink me he mea lā e ʻōlelo ana, 'ʻO kou manawa kēia!'
ʻO Joke kahi, ua kōkua kēia e hōʻemi i kaʻu 'pono' nona e ʻōlelo i nā mea maikaʻi iaʻu a no laila ua paipai iaʻu e haʻalele i ka nānā ʻana iā ia e 'hoʻopakele' iaʻu a hāʻawi mai iaʻu i ke aloha i ka manawa a pehea wau e makemake ai.
Ke hana mākou i kēia i kā mākou pilina, hiki ke lilo i meaʻai no ka hōʻeha mau a me ka hakakā.
Pehea e hana ai nā ʻōlelo aloha i kāu pilina
ʻOiai inā ua aʻo ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo a ʻike piha kāu hoa i kou makemake e loaʻa ke aloha, he aha ka hana ke hāʻule lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ke aloha ma ke ʻano āu e pono ai?
Inā ʻaʻole mākou e akahele, hiki iā mākou ke neʻe i ka hoʻopiʻi a me ka hōʻino no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i kā mākou hoa ke ola e like me ka mea i manaʻo ʻia e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻokō i kā mākou pono no ka mea he ʻike ko lākou.
ʻO ke kuleana ʻana i kā mākou hoa pili no ko mākou pono ʻino he pāʻani weliweli ia e pāʻani ai. I ka hana ʻana pēlā, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke lawe i ke kuleana piha no ko mākou mau manaʻo a i ʻole aloha iā mākou iho.
Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopaʻa i loko o kahi pōʻai mau o ka nānā ʻana i ke aloha ma waho o mākou iho, kahi mea mehameha a ʻeha hoʻi ke ola.
Ke ala olakino e hoʻohana ai i nā ʻ Lovelelo Aloha
ʻAʻole kēia e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole pono nā ʻōlelo i kahi pono hana. He mea nui wale ia e hoʻohana iā lākou me ka ʻike. Inā hiki iā mākou ke hana i kēia, hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia ia mau mea e kōkua i kahi pilina hohonu a e kōkua iā mākou e hōʻike iā mākou iho me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hāmama.
ʻO ke kūʻokoʻa maoli i kā mākou pilina kahi e manaʻo ai nā mea ʻelua i ke aloha a ʻae ʻia no lākou ma o ka hāmama, kamaʻilio olakino.
No laila, pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻohana i nā ʻōlelo e hana no kā mākou pilina ma mua o ke kūʻē iā ia?
- Hōʻike iā ʻoe iho me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a lawe i ke kuleana piha no kāu mea e makemake ai
ʻO ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i kāu hoa o kāu ʻōlelo aloha ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole. Maʻalahi no ke ola e lawe, a inā ʻaʻole ia ke ala maʻamau a kāu hoa e pane aku ai iā ʻoe, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopoina a nalowale paha i kā lākou honua.
Paipai wau e haʻi akāka a maʻalahi ka mea āu e makemake ai. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā pili kāu ʻōlelo aloha i ke kino a ke manaʻo nei ʻoe i ka makemake i kāu hoa e ʻoi aku ke kino me ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, "aloha wau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻānai i koʻu mau wāwae a hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kahi ʻapo."
Me ka pono ʻole e hoʻāpono iā ʻoe iho a kuhikuhi i kā lākou hemahema; a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hāhai me kahi mea e like me "Aloha au iā ʻoe ke hana ia mea e pili ai wau i ke aloha a me ke aloha, he aha kou manaʻo?"
ʻAe mau iā lākou e ʻōlelo no ka mea pono lākou i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo ai inā hiki ke loaʻa maoli iā ʻoe i kahi manawa i hāʻawi ʻia.
I kēia ala, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i kahi manawa a me kahi, ma mua o lākou e manaʻo nei e hāʻule koke lākou i nā mea āpau i kahi manawa a kaomi ʻia paha lākou.
- E hāʻawi i kāu ʻ Lovelelo aloha iā ʻoe iho!
I loko o kēlā mau manawa, ke ʻike mākou iā mākou iho e hōʻeha a hōʻole ʻia paha no ka loaʻa ʻole o kā mākou hoapili, a me ka naʻau a me ka noʻonoʻo paha, he mea nui ia e aʻo e hāʻawi iā mākou iho i ke aloha a mākou e ʻiʻini nei.
He manawa kūpono kēia e ʻōlelo i kāu ʻ Lovelelo Aloha a hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho.
I kēia ala, aʻo mākou iā mākou iho e hōʻoluʻolu iā mākou iho a aloha iā mākou iho me ka ʻole o ka hilinaʻi ʻana i nā kumuwaiwai kūwaho e aloha ai.
- E hoʻihoʻi i kāu mau wānana
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hoʻohewa ana i kāu hoa i loko a i waho paha no ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe i ke aloha e like me kāu ʻōlelo aloha, ʻike ʻoe ke hana ʻoe i kēia, ke hoʻolālā nei ʻoe i kāu pono ponoʻī ʻole i kāu hoa.
ʻOiai he ʻoiaʻiʻo paha i loko o ke kuhi ʻana, ʻaʻole paha e noʻonoʻo ana kāu hoa iā ʻoe e like me ka hiki; he mea nui loa e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ka nīnau: 'ma hea wau e noʻonoʻo ʻole ai i kaʻu hoa a i ʻole iaʻu iho?'
Hiki i kēia hana o ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana i kā mākou kuhi ke kōkua iā mākou e hoʻonui i ko mākou ʻike i ka nui a mākou e hoʻokō ʻole ai i kā mākou mau pono ponoʻī. Hāʻawi iā ia iā mākou e hana a hoʻōla i ko mākou ʻehaʻeha, kahi pinepine mai nā ʻeha o ka wā i hala a pili iki i ka hana a kā mākou hoa.
Hiki i nā ʻ Lovelelo aloha ke lilo i mea hana maikaʻi loa e hoʻonui i ke aloha a me ka pilina i loko o kā mākou pili aloha.
Eia naʻe, he mea maikaʻi mau e hoʻomanaʻo inā mākou e hoʻohana iā lākou e hoʻohālikelike a pēlā e helu ai i nā helu i kā mākou hoa, ʻike pinepine mākou i ko lākou nāwaliwali ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i kahi e hōʻike ai i kā lākou ala ponoʻī.
I koʻu ʻike, ʻo ka nui o ka hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokuʻu i kā mākou hoa hana i hemolele, ʻo ka nui o ke kūʻokoʻa a mākou e hana ai i loko o kā mākou pilina, a no laila ʻoi aku ka nui o ka lumi no ka ulu ʻana, kaʻae ʻana, a me ke aloha maoli no kēlā me kēia.