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- E hele ana ʻelua a ʻekolu a ʻoi paha
- ʻO kēia wale nō ka hoʻomaka
- ʻO kēia kahi kumuhana kahi i nui ka noiʻi
- Nā kumu makahiki ke hiki mai i nā hopena o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a nā mākua
- Hoʻohālike nā keiki i kā lākou hana ma nā mea a lākou e nānā ai i ko lākou kaiapuni
- No laila he aha e hana ai?
ʻOiai i loko o ka pilina o nā pilina a me nā male, aia kekahi mau manaʻo like ʻole.
Hiki i kēia ke laulaha mai hoʻokahi a i ʻole ʻelua mau hoa e hoʻohana ana i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hāmau i kekahi manawa sniping, e hoʻopihapiha i nā leo kiʻekiʻena kiʻekiʻe me nā hoa ʻelua e walaʻau ana i nā ʻōlelo ʻeha.
E hele ana ʻelua a ʻekolu a ʻoi paha
ʻAe, no laila he ʻāpana kēia a me kahi ʻāpana o ke ola me kahi hoa ke aia ʻelua wale nō o ʻoukou, akā ke loaʻa nā keiki, e like me ka ʻike o nā mākua, loli ke kaulike o ke ola holoʻokoʻa.
ʻO nā mea nui, kānalua ʻole, ua loli, a me hoʻokahi miliona mau ʻano o kou pili, akā e mau ana nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Lawe kēia i kahi nīnau e pono e kamaʻilio ʻia: he aha ka hopena o kāu poʻe keiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe me kāu hoa?
E ʻimi a ʻike i ka ʻōlelo a ka poʻe loea e pili ana i kēia.
ʻO kēia wale nō ka hoʻomaka
E like me kāu e ʻike ʻole ai, ke kaua ʻana ma kahi o nā keiki i nā hopena he nui nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻIke pinepine ʻia nā mākua i loaʻa nā hakakā he nui i mua o kā lākou mau keiki e loli paha i ke ʻano o kā lākou keiki hana i ka ʻike, i nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, pehea ka manaʻo o nā keiki.
Ua ʻike ʻo Alice Schermerhorn, ke Kumu Kōkua ma UVM o ka Psychology Science, "nā keiki mai nā home hakakā kiʻekiʻe, ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ko lākou lolo e makaʻala, hana i nā hōʻailona o ka manaʻo interpersonal, ʻo ka huhū a me ka hauʻoli paha, ʻokoʻa ma mua o nā keiki mai nā home hakakā haʻahaʻa. ” E hoʻomanaʻo i kēlā i ka manawa aʻe e hoʻowalewale ʻia ʻoe e ʻuā e pili ana i kekahi mea.
ʻO kēia kahi kumuhana kahi i nui ka noiʻi
ʻOiai he wahi nui kēia, ua paʻi nā mea noiʻi a puni ka honua i mau miliona e pili ana iā ia. ʻO kahi laʻana, ua kālailai nā kānaka noiʻi ʻo Mark Flinn lāua ʻo Barry England i nā laʻana o ka hormone stress, cortisol, i lawe ʻia mai nā keiki āpau i kahi kauhale ma ka mokupuni ʻo Dominica i ka Caribbean ma kahi noiʻi he 20 mau makahiki.
Ua ʻike lākou i nā keiki i noho pū me nā mākua e hakakā mau ana he kiʻekiʻe ka nui o nā pae cortisol e hōʻike ana i ke koʻikoʻi ma mua o nā keiki i noho i nā ʻohana maluhia.
A he aha ka hopena i hana ai kēia pae kiʻekiʻe o ka cortisol?
Ua luhi pinepine nā keiki me nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe o ka cortisol a maʻi hoʻi, ua pāʻani liʻiliʻi lākou, a ua hiamoe ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o kā lākou mau hoa i ulu aʻe i nā hale maluhia.
E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka lalo o ka ramifying ākea o kēia. Inā maʻi kahi keiki, ua haʻalele ʻo ia i ke kula a hoʻomaka paha ʻo ia i ka ʻehaʻeha ʻana i ka hana. Inā ʻaʻole komo nā keiki i ka pāʻani ʻana me kekahi, ʻaʻole paha lākou e hoʻomōhala i ka mākau pilikanaka e pono ai e launa maikaʻi i ka honua.
Nā kumu makahiki ke hiki mai i nā hopena o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a nā mākua
Hiki i nā kamaliʻi i ʻeono o lākou mau makahiki ke hoʻomaopopo i ka hakakā a puni lākou iho.
Hiki i ka hapanui o nā mākua ke hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a ko lākou mau mākua. Ehia mau makahiki e hoʻoholo ai ke keiki i kahi ʻāpana i ka hopena a i ʻole ka hopena o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a nā mākua. ʻAʻole hiki i kahi keiki hānau ke ʻike i ka haunaele i ka pilina male, akā hiki i ka makahiki ʻelima mau makahiki ke ʻike.
Hoʻohālike nā keiki i kā lākou hana ma nā mea a lākou e nānā ai i ko lākou kaiapuni
I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, aʻo nā keiki ma ke kope ʻana i nā mea a lākou e ʻike a lohe ai a puni lākou iho. Ma ke ʻano he makua, ʻo ʻoe ka honua i kāu poʻe keiki.
Inā ʻoe e komo i loko o ka uwa ʻana i nā pāʻani, e ʻike ana kāu keiki i kēia mau mea a e ulu aʻe a manaʻo ʻo ia ka maʻamau.
No ka pono o kāu poʻe keiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka leo ke kūlike ʻole ʻoe me kāu hoa, i loaʻa ʻole ai kēlā ʻano lawena e kāu poʻe pua. ʻAʻole wale kāu keiki e pōmaikaʻi ai, a pēlā pū me kou mau hoanoho.
Eia ka papa inoa o kekahi o nā hopena a hiki i laila a nui
- Hiki i nā keiki ke lilo i ka maluhia a huki ʻia
- E ulu ana paha nā pilikia o ka lawena
- Hoʻolālā paha nā keiki i nā pilikia olakino, maoli a kuhi ʻia paha
- ʻAʻole hiki i nā keiki ke nānā i ka papa i hiki ke hopena i ke aʻo ʻana i nā pilikia a me nā māka maikaʻi ʻole
- Kū aʻe paha ka manaʻo hewa. Manaʻo pinepine nā keiki ua hoʻokumu lākou i ka hakakā makua
- E kaumaha paha nā keiki
- Hiki i nā pilina me nā keiki ʻē aʻe ke lilo i pilikia a hakakā paha
- Hiki paha i nā keiki ke lilo i ke kino ikaika; Pā paha lākou, pākuʻi, pahu a ʻaʻai paha i nā keiki ʻē aʻe
- Hiki paha i kekahi mau keiki ke lilo i mea hakakā ma ka waha; hoʻohenehene paha lākou, hōʻino, hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo kūpono ʻole, a kāhea aku i nā keiki ʻē aʻe i nā inoa
- Hiki i nā keiki ke hoʻomohala i nā ʻano hiamoe maikaʻi ʻole a me nā moeʻuhane hiamoe
- Hoʻokumu ʻia paha nā ʻano ʻai maikaʻi ʻole. ʻAi paha nā keiki a ʻai nui paha.
- Hiki i nā keiki ke lilo i mau mea ʻai a hoʻomaka e nalo i nā mea ulu ulu pono
No laila he aha e hana ai?
ʻIke a aʻo ʻia paha nā mākua he pili ʻole ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana i mua o kā lākou keiki i kahi mea maikaʻi.
E hoʻāʻo wale paha kekahi mau mākua e hōʻalo i nā hakakā āpau, akā hana nō ia i kāna mau pilikia ponoʻī. Hāʻawi a hāʻawi aku paha nā mākua ʻē aʻe i kā lākou hoa, i mea e hoʻopau ai i kahi paio, akā ʻaʻole hou kēia i hopena maikaʻi.
Ua kākau nui ʻo Mark Cummings, he psychologist ma ke Kulanui ʻo Notre Dame, e pili ana i nā mea e hana ʻia i nā keiki e ulu ana i nā hanana kahi e nui ai nā hakakā male, a ʻōlelo ʻo ia ma o ka ʻike ʻana o nā keiki i ka hoʻonā ʻana o kahi paio ʻole, e ʻike nā keiki. paʻa manaʻo.
Hele ʻo ia i ka mokuʻāina, “Ke ʻike ka poʻe keiki i ka hakakā a ʻike i nā mākua e hoʻoponopono ana, ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o lākou ma mua o ko lākou ʻike mua ʻana. Hōʻoia ia i nā keiki hiki i nā mākua ke hana i nā mea ma waena. ʻIke mākou i kēia ma nā manaʻo a lākou e hōʻike ai, nā mea a lākou e ʻōlelo ai, a me kā lākou ʻano - holo lākou a pāʻani. Pili nā hakakā kūpili me nā hopena maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o ka manawa. "
ʻO ke ala waena ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e lawe ai no ka pono o ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa. ʻO nā hakakā, nā paio, nā ʻaelike, nā hakakā, kāhea iā lākou i nā mea āu e makemake ai – nā ʻāpana o ka mea e lilo ai i kānaka. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana pehea e hoʻopili ai i ka hopena maikaʻi loa ke kī o ka ulu ʻana a no ke ola olakino loa no nā mākua a me nā keiki.