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- Nā keiki a me ka hemo
- Nā hopena o ka hemo me nā keiki
- Nā pēpē
- Nā kamaliʻi
- Nā keiki
- Nā ʻōpio
- Ke haʻalele ka makua i ka mea e hana ʻia i nā keiki?
- 1. E kamaʻilio me kāu keiki inā ua lawa ko lākou manaʻo e hoʻomaopopo
- 2. E hōʻoia iā lākou e noho mau ʻoe
- 3. Mai hoʻowahāwahā i kāu mau keiki
- 4. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka noho makua ʻana inā hiki
- 5. E hōʻoia iā lākou ʻaʻole na lākou ka hewa
"Mama, he ʻohana anei mākou?" ʻo kēia wale nō kekahi o nā nīnau āu e nīnau ai, ma ke ʻano he makua e hiki ai i kāu poʻe keiki ke hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hana nei. ʻO ia ka manawa ʻeha loa o ka hemo male no ka mea paʻakikī e wehewehe i kahi keiki no ke aha ka ʻohana āna i ʻike ai e wāwahi nei.
No lākou, ʻaʻohe mea kūpono iki.No laila, inā aloha mākou i kā mākou keiki e koho paha nā kāne i ka male male ma luna o ka ʻohana?
He aha ka hana o nā keiki ke haʻalele ka makua?
Nā keiki a me ka hemo
ʻAʻohe mea e makemake i kahi ʻohana haʻihaʻi - ʻike mākou āpau i kēia lā akā i kēia lā, nui nā kāne male i koho i ka male male ma mua o ka ʻohana.
ʻ saylelo paha kekahi he aloha lākou no ke koho ʻana i kēia ma kahi o ka hakakā ʻana no ko lākou ʻohana a i ʻole ke koho ʻana i nā keiki ma muli o nā kumu ponoʻī akā ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou ka moʻolelo holoʻokoʻa.
He aha inā pili ka hana ʻino? He aha inā inā aia kahi pili i waho o ka wahine? He aha inā ʻaʻole hauʻoli hou lākou? E ʻike paha ʻoe i kāu poʻe keiki e ʻike maka i ka hōʻino a i ka walaʻau pinepine ʻana? ʻOiai inā paʻakikī, i kekahi manawa, ʻo ka hemo ke koho maikaʻi loa.
He mea weliweli loa ka helu o nā kāne e koho i ka hemo male i kēia lā a ʻoiai he nui nā kumu kūpono, aia kekahi o nā keiki e pono ai e noʻonoʻo pū kekahi.
He paʻakikī loa e wehewehe i kahi keiki no ke aha e hiki ʻole ai i ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne ke noho pū hou. He mea paʻakikī ke ʻike i kahi keiki e huikau e pili ana i ka mālama a me ka noho makua ʻana. E like me ka nui o ko mākou ʻeha, pono mākou e kū i kā mākou hoʻoholo a hana i ka mea maikaʻi e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i nā hopena o ka male male i kā mākou keiki.
Nā hopena o ka hemo me nā keiki
ʻO nā hopena o ka male male ma muli o kā lākou mau makahiki he ʻokoʻa kekahi i kekahi akā hiki ke hōʻuluʻulu ʻia e like me ka makahiki. ʻO kēia ala, hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻomaopopo pono i nā hopena a lākou e manaʻo ai a pehea e hōʻemi ai iā ia.
Nā pēpē
Manaʻo paha ʻoe ma muli o ka ʻōpio o ka wā ʻōpio ʻaʻole ʻoe e paʻakikī me kāu hana hemo akā ʻaʻole maopopo iki iā mākou he ʻano kupaianaha ko nā pēpē a he maʻalahi hoʻi e like me ka loli o kā lākou hana maʻamau hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki a uē.
Hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i ka hoʻonāukiuki, ke koʻikoʻi, a me ka hopohopo o ko lākou mau mākua a ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kamaʻilio, ʻo kā lākou ala kamaʻilio e uē wale ana.
Nā kamaliʻi
ʻAʻole maopopo i kēia mau keiki pāʻani liʻiliʻi i ke kaumaha o ka pilikia o ka hemo a ʻaʻole paha lākou e noʻonoʻo e nīnau no ke aha ʻoe e hemo nei akā no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke nīnau ma ka ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli i nā nīnau e like me "ma hea ka makuakāne", a i ʻole "Mama aloha ʻoe i ko mākou ʻohana?"
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maʻalahi i nā wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo liʻiliʻi e hūnā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo akā i kekahi manawa, manaʻo lākou he ʻoi aku ka mea a lākou e hōʻoluʻolu ai i kāu kamaliʻi e nalo nei i kāna makuahine a me kāna makuakāne ʻehaʻeha.
Nā keiki
I kēia manawa, ua lilo kēia i mea paʻakikī loa no ka mea ua noʻonoʻo nā keiki a ua maopopo mua iā lākou nā hakakā pinepine a hiki i ke kaua mālama iā lākou ke maopopo iā lākou i kekahi manawa.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi ma aneʻi he ʻōpio lākou, hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe i nā mea āpau a hoʻomaʻamaʻa lohi i ke kumu o ia hanana. Ka hōʻoia, ka kamaʻilio ʻana, a me ka noho ʻana ma laila no kāu keiki ʻoiai ke haʻalele nei ʻoe i ka hemo ʻana e lilo ia i mea nui i kona ʻano.
Nā ʻōpio
He kaumaha nui i ka lawelawe ʻana i kahi ʻōpio i kēia mau lā, he aha hou aʻe ke ʻike lākou e moe ʻokoʻa ana ʻoe me kāu kāne?
E hōʻoluʻolu kekahi mau ʻōpio i ko lākou mau mākua a hoʻāʻo e hana i nā mea i waho akā makemake kekahi poʻe ʻōpio e kipi a hana i nā ʻano mea maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻopaʻi me nā mākua a lākou i manaʻo ai ua hōʻino i ka ʻohana a lākou. ʻO ka mea hope loa a mākou e makemake ai e hana ma aneʻi e loaʻa kahi keiki pilikia.
Ke haʻalele ka makua i ka mea e hana ʻia i nā keiki?
ʻO ke kaʻawale ka hana lōʻihi a hoʻokahe i nā mea āpau mai kāu kālā, kou noʻonoʻo pono, a ʻo kāu poʻe keiki hoʻi. ʻO nā hopena ke hoʻokaumaha nā mākua no kekahi mau noʻonoʻo ʻōpio hiki ke hana i ko lākou luku, inaina, lili, a hiki iā lākou ke aloha a makemake ʻole ʻia.
ʻAʻole loa mākou makemake e ʻike i kā mākou poʻe keiki e hana i nā hana kipi ma muli wale nō o ko lākou manaʻo ʻaʻole aloha ʻia lākou a ʻaʻohe o lākou ʻohana.
ʻO ka mea liʻiliʻi loa e hiki iā mākou ke hana ma ke ʻano he makua, e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i nā hopena o ka hemo me nā mea aʻe:
1. E kamaʻilio me kāu keiki inā ua lawa ko lākou manaʻo e hoʻomaopopo
E kamaʻilio pū me lākou me kāu wahine. ʻAe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻi pū ana akā hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i mau mākua a haʻi i kāu poʻe keiki i nā mea e hana nei - pono lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
2. E hōʻoia iā lākou e noho mau ʻoe
E hōʻoia iā lākou inā ʻaʻole e holo ka male ʻo ʻoe nō kona mau mākua a ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻalele i kāu mau keiki. Hiki i nā loli nui akā ma ke ʻano he makua, e noho like ʻoe.
3. Mai hoʻowahāwahā i kāu mau keiki
He paʻakikī a paʻakikī paha ka male male akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hōʻike i ka manawa a me ka nānā i kāu poʻe keiki, e hoʻopau lākou i nā naʻau maikaʻi ʻole. He mau keiki nō kēia; ʻo nā ʻōpio e pono ai ke aloha a me ka nānā.
4. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka noho makua ʻana inā hiki
Inā loaʻa kekahi mau manawa i koho ʻia he co-parenting ke koho. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana o nā mākua i ke ola o kahi keiki.
5. E hōʻoia iā lākou ʻaʻole na lākou ka hewa
ʻO ka hapanui, manaʻo nā keiki he hewa ka hemo a he kaumaha wale kēia a hiki ke hōʻino loa iā lākou. ʻAʻole mākou makemake i kā mākou poʻe keiki e manaʻoʻiʻo i kēia.
He koho ke kaʻawale a no nā mea a haʻi e ʻōlelo ai, ʻike ʻoe ke hana nei ʻoe i nā koho kūpono inā paʻakikī ia i ka wā mua. Ke hemo nā mākua, ʻo nā keiki ka mea e manaʻo i ka hapa nui o nā hopena a hiki ke loaʻa i kēlā ʻili lōʻihi lōʻihi i ko lākou pilikino.
No laila ma mua o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka hemo ʻana, e hōʻoia ua hoʻāʻo ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, ua hāʻawi i kāu mea maikaʻi loa a ua hana i nā mea āpau e hiki ai ke mālama pū i kou ʻohana. Inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hana hou, ma ka liʻiliʻi e hana i kāu mea e pono ai no ka liʻiliʻi o nā hopena o ka hemo ʻana i kāu mau keiki.