Hoʻomaka ka 40% o ka male ma ke ʻano he aloha aloha. Ua hui paha lāua ma ke kula, ma ka hana, a i ʻole kekahi mahele o ka pōʻai like o nā hoa aloha. ʻAʻohe o lāua mau kukuna aloha ma waena o lāua i ka hoʻomaka, akā i ko lāua noho pū ʻana, i hoʻokahi manawa o ka pilina a hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha i ʻike ai aia paha kekahi mea hou aʻe, kahi mea e like me ke aloha aloha, i kēia aloha.
ʻO kekahi mau kāne a kaulana i hoʻomaka i ke ʻano he hoa aloha
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e nānā i kahi mamao loa e ʻike he nui nā kāne male kaulana i "hoaaloha wale" ma mua o ka paʻi ʻana o Cupid iā lākou me kāna pua.
- ʻO Sheryl Sandberg, ke COO o Facebook, he mau hoaaloha me kāna kāne ʻo Dave i hala no ʻeono mau makahiki ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o nā mea i aloha.
- ʻO Mila Kunis lāua ʻo Ashton Kutcher he mau hoaaloha ma ka sitcom "That 70s Show" ʻumikūmāhā mau makahiki ma mua o ko lāua hui pū ʻana a nakinaki nā kaula.
- ʻO Blake Lively lāua ʻo Ryan Reynolds i hoʻomaka mua i ka pilina aloha ma ke set o ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni ʻo "The Green Lantern". Ma kahi o hoʻokahi makahiki ma hope mai aia lākou i kahi lā pālua, ʻo kēlā me kēia me kahi hoa ʻē aʻe, a maopopo iā lākou e pili pū kekahi me kekahi.
- He pilina aloha ʻo Beyonce lāua ʻo Jay Z no hoʻokahi makahiki ma mua o ko lāua ʻike ʻana i ka huna aloha i mākaukau e hoʻā ʻia ma waena o lāua.
- ʻO Kate Middleton lāua ʻo Prince William i loko o ka hui like o nā hoaaloha, hele pū i ke kulanui, a kau wale pū kekahi me kekahi i kekahi mau makahiki ma mua o ko lāua aloha a male.
Ke ʻike ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo aloha e waiho i kahi mea hou aʻe
Ua lōʻihi ʻoe me kou hoa-o-ka-ʻaoʻao ʻeono no ka manawa lōʻihi. Maliʻa ua ʻike ʻoe iā ia mai ke kula kiʻekiʻe. Malia paha he mea āu i hana ai i ka ʻaoʻao ma waena o kāu hana mua a pili mau me nā hoa, mau makahiki ma hope. Ua hele ʻolua i loko o nā pilina a hoʻohana kekahi i kekahi ma ke ʻano he papa kani ke loaʻa nā pilikia pili. I kēia manawa ua male ʻolua. A ʻike ʻoe ke nānā koke nei ʻoe i kāu hoa me kahi maka hou.
- Me he mea lā ua ʻoi aku kona oʻo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma mua o nā keiki āu e aloha nei
- ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike i kona nani a hiki i kēia manawa
- Aloha ʻoe pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio wale me kekahi e pili ana i nā mea āpau
- Aloha ʻoe pehea ʻoe e kūlohelohe ai a puni iā ia. ʻAʻole pono e hoʻonani i nā mea āpau; hiki iā 'oe ke hele mai i kona wahi i loko o nā sweatpants a me kāu T-shirt koleke a hōʻoleʻo ia e hōʻohewa i kouʻaʻahu
- Nānā ʻoe iā ia a pili iā ʻoe ʻo ia wale nō ke kāne maikaʻi āu i ʻike ai
- ʻAno lili ʻoe ke ʻike aku ʻoe iā ia e pili ana i kekahi kaikamahine; e hōʻino paha ʻoe i nā kaikamahine e hōʻike i kona hoihoi
- Manaʻo nui ʻoe iā ia, a haʻo iā ia ke ʻoe ʻaʻole pū
- Hauʻoli ʻoe ke ʻike ʻoe e ʻike ana iā ia
- Ke manaʻo ʻoe iā ia ua loaʻa nā butterflies i kou ʻōpū
Ke kamaʻilio nei - like paha kāna manaʻo me ʻoe?
Ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi komo maʻalahi: ʻo ʻoe a kamaʻilio maʻalahi ʻo ia. ʻOiai paha e makaʻu iā ʻoe e hoʻopuka i kēia kumuhana, e haʻi iā ʻoe iho i nā hopena — inā e like ke ʻano o kona manaʻo me ia - e waiwai ia. E hoʻolālā e wehe i ke kamaʻilio ke ʻoluʻolu ʻolua. E noho ma kahi a ʻolua e leʻaleʻa ai, e like me kāu hale kūʻai kope punahele a i ʻole kahi pā āu e aloha ai ʻelua e jogging.
Ua hoʻokūpaʻa ʻia! Like nō kona manaʻo me ʻoe!
Hele aku ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi. ʻO nā loea e hoʻopaʻa nei i ka lōʻihi a me ka hauʻoli i nā kāne a haʻi mai iā mākou ʻo ia ke ʻano maʻemaʻe a maoli o ka pilina e hāʻawi ana i ke kahua paʻa no kēlā mau kāne i hoʻomaka ma ke ʻano he hoa aloha a hoʻopau hoʻi ma ke ʻano he ipo.
Ka launa ʻana i ka pilina aloha — he aha ka mea e panakō ai kēia mau kāne?
Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha, hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa e ʻike ai i ke ʻano maoli o kāu pakanā, me ka ʻole o ka uhi moe kolohe e makapō pinepine ai iā ʻoe i kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona ʻoluʻolu ʻole o kēia kanaka. Hāʻawi ke hoʻomaka ʻana me nā hoaaloha iā ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e "hoʻomeamea" ʻo ʻoe paha kekahi mea ʻaʻole, e hoʻāla wale i ka hoihoi o ka mea ʻē aʻe iā ʻoe. ʻIke mākou āpau i kēlā hoa aloha i hoʻopīhoihoi i ka makemake o ka ipo aloha no ka pīpeka e leʻaleʻa wale iā ia, ʻeā? ʻAʻole hiki kēlā i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā kāne ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha no ka mea ʻaʻole pono ia. ʻAʻole hoʻāʻo kekahi e "hopu" i kekahi. ʻO nā manaʻo ma waena o lākou he meaola a maoli.
No ke aha e hoʻomanawanui ai nā pilina hoaaloha?
ʻO ka mau hoa aloha ma mua o ka pili kolohe ʻana ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi a pili ka hohonu ma mua o nā kāne i hoʻomaka i ka moekolohe. ʻIke ʻia ke kumu o kēia: i mea e hele lōʻihi ai kahi pilina, pono ia e hoʻopili i kahi kumu maikaʻi o ka launa a me ka launa ʻana, ʻaʻole wale e kau ʻia ma ka moekolohe. ʻO kēia ke kumu e lele lele ai i ka moena ma ka hui ʻana ma hope o ka hui hope ʻole ʻana - ke pau ke kuko i ka hana inā ʻaʻohe kumu o ka launa like ma laila, komo ka paupauā.
Inā ʻoe e neʻe nei i kou aloha ma waho o ka zona hoaaloha a i loko o ka zona aloha, laki maikaʻi! Pōkole ke ola, a pono ke aloha olakino olakino ke lawe i kahi makaʻu.