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Nui nā wahine e ʻike iā lākou iho i ka moʻolelo ʻo Jess. -Faith Sullivan, ka mea kākau lanakila o Good Night, Mr. Wodehouse
He hale hana pena pena no hoʻokahi pule ma Sante Fe. Mid-Malaki. ʻO ka mea wale nō kaʻu e pono ai e pakele i nā hopena o ka manawa hau loa o Minnesota Pepeluali. Ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma kahi o kahi makemake, i ka manawa aʻu i hoʻonohonoho ai i ka huakaʻi lewa, paʻi wau iaʻu iho ma hope no ka lawe ʻana i kahi makaʻu ma ka hoʻonui ʻana i kaʻu kāleka AMEX i mea e hele ai. Ke kakali ʻole nei i ka mahanahana, ʻo ka hele wale ʻana mai ka hau a lawa ka waenakonu o ka hoʻoilo.
I ka hōʻea ʻana, he ʻokoʻa ka wao nahele i ka hau a me ka hau i aneane hiki ʻole iaʻu ke komo i loko.
Ma hope o ka hola ʻalalā a me ka ʻaina awakea me ka pīhoihoi o nā hālāwai mua me, ua huki ka mea hōʻuluʻulu i ka hui i kahi pōʻai a puni ka wahi ahi adobe i mea e haʻi pōkole ai iā mākou i ka pule e hiki mai ana. ʻO nā hoʻolauna ma mua, ʻoia hoʻi-inoa, kahi āu e noho ai a me kekahi mea e pili ana iā ʻoe ma mua o kou ola pena ʻana. Ua hāʻawi ʻo ia i kahi pā kuki i ke kanaka mua, e hoʻomaka.
"ʻO wau ʻo Sophie, mai Des Moines Iowa, ua haʻalele wau, he ʻelua mau moʻopuna aloha aʻu e kipa ai ma mua o koʻu hoʻi ʻana i Iowa," ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia. "Ke hoʻāʻo nei au e hōʻalo i ka wai o ka wai puna."
“ʻO Meggie ma aneʻi. He wahine kāne make mai Kikako mai. ʻO kēia kaʻu huakaʻi mua loa i ke komohana hema — hauʻoli loa e pili ana i ka ʻāina — ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa ma mua o ka mea aʻu i maʻa mau ai. ”
ʻO ka wahine kāne make a haʻalele paha?
"Palapala — a he wahine kāne make wau i hoʻokahi manawa a ua haʻalele wau i hoʻokahi manawa - a hiki iaʻu ke haʻi iā ʻoe i ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi!" Ua ʻakaʻaka nā mea āpau i kēlā. Ua huli ʻo Dot i kona hoanoho e hāʻawi i ka pā o nā kuki, ke ʻōlelo ʻo Fiona, kekahi mau noho i lalo. "Auē, e haʻi — he ʻano like paha ia me kahi haʻawina e aʻo ai kākou āpau."
Kekahi mau giggles hopohopo, a laila hoʻohui ʻo Fiona. “He koʻikoʻi wau. E ʻoluʻolu ʻoe e kaʻana?
ʻO Dot, kahi wahine lauoho lauoho launa, ua nānā aku i ka mea nāna i hōʻuluʻulu me he mea lā no ka ʻae, a laila i kēlā me kēia wahine ʻewalu a puni ka pōʻai. “ʻĀ, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu kekahi o ʻoukou, akā ʻaʻole wau hilahila a kaʻana inā ʻo ia ka mea āu e makemake ai ....”
Me he mea lā ua huli ʻia kahi kuapo kukui, ua nalowale ke ʻano oʻoleʻa o ka hui, me nā helehelena hoihoi. ʻAʻole i hoʻokau ʻia kēia mea haʻihaʻi hau akā hana maikaʻi.
“ʻAe, hele aku nei. He kanalima koʻu mau makahiki. Ua male wau i kaʻu kāne mua ʻo Tom i ko mākou wā ʻōpio, ma waho o ke koleke wale nō. Ua hānai mākou i kā mākou keiki, ʻo Joe a me Joclyn ma Denver. Ua hakakā mākou me ke kālā i ka hoʻomaka, akā ua neʻe ka ʻoihana a Tom; he mea hana ʻaelike a ua kōkua wau i ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻoihana — he mea helu kālā. Ua male mākou 15 mau makahiki i kona wā i make ai, maʻi ʻaʻai pancreatic, hiki koke mai ia a lawe koke iā ia. " ʻAlohilohi nā maka o Dot no kahi manawa, a hoʻohaʻahaʻa iki i kona leo. "He weliweli ia, no mākou āpau."
Aia kahi ʻōhumu haʻahaʻa mai ka hui, akā ua hele wikiwiki ʻo Dot. "Akā, ua hoʻopuni koke ʻia wau e nā hoa aloha - ʻO Tom a he hui nui ko kāua mau hoa aloha i kōkua iaʻu ma o ke kaʻina kanikau, lawe i nā keiki no nā pō inā makemake wau i kahi hoʻomaha.
ʻO kā lākou kōkua i ʻae iaʻu e noʻonoʻo i ka ʻoihana, no laila hiki iaʻu ke kūʻai aku. Ua mālama wau i kaʻu hana no ka mea hou. ʻAno aloha nā hoa aloha iaʻu a me nā keiki i loko o ko lākou ʻohana ponoʻī. Ua kākoʻo mākou a mālama ʻia. ʻAʻole maikaʻi loa kā mākou kūlana kālā, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā ʻano pilikanaka i koʻu manaʻo, akā ʻaʻole loa no ka mea he hoaaloha mau koʻu naʻu - mau hoaaloha ʻohana e hilinaʻi ai.
Pēlā nō nā kamaliʻi, hana i nā ʻokoʻa āpau iā Joe, ka mea i hala ʻole i kona makuakāne ma ke ʻano ʻōpio. Akā, he mau mākua pani kona nāna i mālama iā ia i ka haʻuki a lawe pōkole iā ia inā pono ia. Kākoʻo mau iaʻu. "
Nānā ʻo Dot a puni ka lumi a hanu i mua o ka hoʻomau ʻana. "Ma hope o ka hele ʻana o nā keiki i ke kula, ua mākaukau wau e hoʻomaka i ka pili aloha. Ua makemake kaʻu mau hoa aloha e hoʻonohonoho iaʻu, a ua hana mākou i kēlā i kekahi mau manawa, akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia. ʻAno iki e like me ka launa ʻana me koʻu mau hoahānau. ” ʻAkaʻaka ka hui a wehewehe ʻo Dot. “Maopopo iā ʻoe, e like me ka mea kamaʻāina loa. Ua manaʻo wau e pono wau e ʻimi iki i kahi hui kaiaulu hou. Ma ka hopena, ua hālāwai wau me kahi kāne i ka papa hoʻolōʻihi kula aʻu e lawe nei — ʻo Jeff, ke kumu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, a ua hoʻomaka māua e pili aloha. "
“Aloha au i ka pili aloha. Kekahi mea e pili ana i ke kūʻokoʻa hou ʻana; me ka ʻole o nā kuleana o ka ʻoihana e holo a i ʻole nā keiki e kiaʻi pono. Manaʻo wau ua aloha wau i kēlā manaʻo o ke kūʻokoʻa ma mua o Jeff.
Ma hope o kekahi mau makahiki o ka hele ma waena o nā hale ʻelua, ua male lāua a ua neʻe wau i loko o kāna. Ua haʻalele wau i kaʻu hana a ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻohana pono i kaʻu mau makahiki o ka ʻike i kahi kūlana like, akā lawe wau i kahi hana kokoke i kona hale, hoʻokahi hola ka lōʻihi mai kaʻu mau haunt kahiko. "
"Auē." Me he mea lā ʻaʻole i hele manawaleʻa ʻia nā ʻōlelo mai iā Sophie, kahi wepa o ka wahine me kona lauoho i kahi hana hoʻowahāwahā ʻole ʻia. Ua kau koke ʻo ia i kona lima ma luna o kona waha, me he mea lā e hoʻihoʻi i nā huaʻōlelo, akā nānā ka poʻe āpau iā ia a hiki i kāna kamaʻilio ʻana.
“ʻĀ, ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka mea i loaʻa iaʻu i koʻu wā i hoʻomaha ai. I ka manawa a māua me kaʻu kāne i hana ai i ka helu ʻana i nā koina mālama pēpē vs. me kaʻu uku, ma ke ʻano he loea ʻoihana - ua ʻae mākou e noho wau me lākou no kekahi mau makahiki.
ʻOiai ua hoʻāʻo wau e hoʻomau i kaʻu ʻoihana ma ka lawe ʻana i nā hana hana ʻāpana a mālama i kaʻu kahua ke mākaukau wau e hoʻi i ka hana, ua ʻike ʻia wau ma ke ʻano he limahana "mommy track" a ua hoʻi kaʻu uku i ka pae haʻahaʻa loa. . ”
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Ua hele ʻo ia, i kēia manawa me ka ʻawaʻawa. "A laila i koʻu hemo ʻana i ka makahiki e hiki mai ana, ʻo kā mākou koho pū kekahi e noho iaʻu i ka home no kekahi mau makahiki, ʻaʻole ia i helu ʻia ma ke ʻano he loaʻa kālā i ka ʻohana no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana."
Me he mea lā e wehe ʻia nā puka wai i ke kūkā. Me he mea lā he moʻolelo pilikino kā kēlā me kēia e pili ana i nā manaʻo like ʻole o nā wahine kāne make a me nā hemo male. Kākoʻo nā wahine kāne make i ke kākoʻo o nā hoaaloha e ʻākoakoa ana ma muli o ka make ʻana o ke kāne, ua hoʻolei ʻia nā kāne hemo ma ke ʻano he kāne male ʻole, e hōʻalo ʻia inā he hopu.
Ua manaʻo ʻia ka wahine hemo i wahine kāne make? A i ʻole kānalua ka poʻe e hāʻawi i ke kōkua a kākoʻo i ka wahine hemo? Kōkua ʻia nā wahine kāne make i ke komo hou ʻana i ka nohona, a ʻike ʻia nā wā hemo he ʻano ʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole kēia e hōʻole i nā pilikia e kū nei i nā wahine kāne make ke hoʻoweliweli a palupalu hoʻi. Eia nō naʻe, wahine kāne make a haʻalele paha, piha ke ola i nā haunaele no lāua ʻelua.
Ma hope o ka kaʻana manuahi ʻana o ka kaʻana like ʻana, ua hoʻopili kēia mau wahine. ʻOiai ʻo ka wahine kāne make ʻē aʻe i loko o ka lumi e hoʻomaopopo i ka mālama ʻana o nā wahine kāne make ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana.
ʻO ka hope loa, i ka wā o kahi āpau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ua hōʻuluʻulu ʻo Dot i ka ʻike ʻana i nā nānā a puni ka lumi.
"E nānā, ua haʻi wau iā ʻoe ua ʻoi aku kekahi!" A laila, hopu mua ʻo Sophie i ka gaffe a ʻōlelo akula: “ʻEā, Dot — ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i kekahi e hoʻāʻo i kēia kumumanaʻo o ka wahine kāne make a haʻalele paha, ʻeā?”