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- No ke aha e hoʻāʻo ʻole ai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua?
- ʻO Rut pili pili
- 1. Hana i ka pilina e like me ke kanaka makemake ʻole i kahi mea!
- 2. Pehea ʻoe?
- 3. ʻuclelo ʻo Confucius
- 4. Singin 'i ka ua
- 5. Nā Vents ʻaʻohe palena
- 6. Aniani, Aniani ma ka paia
- 7. ʻ Simonlelo ʻo Simona
- 8. ʻAʻole i kūkulu ʻia ʻo Roma i hoʻokahi lā
- 9. Kuʻi iā ia mai ka pāka
- 10. Kahaha, kahaha
I loko o nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua ʻike pinepine wau i ka nui a me ka nui o nā kānaka, nā kāne a me nā wahine i hōʻike i ka "luhi" me kā lākou pili a i ʻole maikaʻi ʻole, me kā lākou mau male. I ke kuʻuna o ka noiʻi, ua ʻimi au e ʻike i kekahi o nā kumu o ka luhi a eia kahi hōʻuluʻulu o kekahi mau kumu i hiki ai iaʻu ke loaʻa.
- Nā hoʻonohonoho wikiwiki
- ʻO ka nui o ka maʻamau a me ka wānana
- Hoʻopiʻi hou
- Ka nele o ke kahaha a hauʻoli paha i ka pilina
- Nā hana e hoʻolako i ka ʻohana me ka palekana a me ka palekana
- ʻIke o ka nele o nā leʻaleʻa ma waho o ka male a me ka ʻohana (no nā wahine)
- Nā manaʻo o ka hemahema o ka hana no ka hoʻolālā like a me ka hoʻolālā ikaika ma ke ʻano he ʻelua a ʻohana paha (no nā kāne)
Paʻa ka pilina a ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka male. He papa kēia no ka mea ua ahu ke kiʻekiʻe o nā hoʻopukapuka. No laila, i ka hoʻohui ʻana i ka hoʻoponopono pilikia mau, ka hoʻomanawanui a me ke ʻano o "Aia wau i loko e lanakila ia", ke kī i ka wā paʻakikī / luʻuluʻu. ʻOiai ʻike ʻoe he maikaʻi ka pilina iā ʻoe, a makemake wau e hoʻokākala i ka mea nui o kēlā ʻokoʻa, e mālama i ka launa aloha a me ke kuko.
I loko o kahi ʻatikala 2014 ma ka Huffington Post, ʻōhumu inoa ʻole kahi kāne 24 makahiki e pili ana i ka nui o kona luhi i kāna pilina me kāna wahine, ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻo ia i ka hemo. ʻO kāna hoʻopiʻi nui: "ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia i kekahi mea, akā ʻo mākou". Ua hoʻomau ʻo ia e ʻōlelo ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hana ma waho o ka home, a ʻo ia ka mea nāna e ʻai, akā noʻonoʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻo ia "makemake nui i kahi leʻaleʻa". Ma loko o kēlā wili like, hoihoi, he mea hoʻopuka manaʻo ma ka pae, pane ka wahine he "ʻaʻole ia nāna a ʻo ʻoe paha ia". Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kēia ma hope o kāna ʻōlelo ʻana ua koho kāna kāne e hele i ka pāʻina me kāna mau hoaaloha i ke ʻano irresponsible, a no laila ke manaʻo nei ʻo ia ke kuleana. ʻLelo mākou, he hui paha ia. Lawe ʻia ʻelua iā Tango e like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei.
No ke aha e hoʻāʻo ʻole ai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua?
A ʻaʻole ia e pili wale ana i ka "spicing" iā ia me nā mea pāʻani a me nā hana "extracurricular" ʻē aʻe, no ka mea hiki i kēlā mau mea ke alakaʻi i ka luhi pū kekahi. Pehea e pili ana i kahi, hoʻomaka mākou i ka pale ʻana i ka mea a mākou e pono ai, a hana i nā mea a mākou e manaʻo ai, a laila hoʻomaka i ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina e like me ke kanaka ma mua o kahi mea.
Manaʻo nā kāne he nui he pilina maikaʻi wale nō. Leʻaleʻa, aloha, pīhoihoi, a pēlā aku. Nā mea āpau iā ia iho, no laila ke manaʻo nei lākou inā e pau ko lākou pilina, he pilina maikaʻi ʻole ia. Aʻole 'oiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ia ma ke Kau 6 a me ka Episode 15 o ka moekolohe a me ke kūlanakauhale i ʻike mua ai wau i ka huaʻōlelo "tatau". Ua wehewehe nui ʻia ka ʻāpana e like me nā wahine, maʻalahi mākou i ka hana ʻana i nā mea e pono ai. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻo ka hōʻike i ʻōlelo ʻia, pono e male ma mua o kā mākou 30's, me ka loaʻa kālā paʻa a me kahi hana kiʻekiʻe e ka makahiki 30, a me nā keiki ma mua o 35, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. no laila ua loaʻa ka ʻike leʻaleʻa iā ia i ka maka.Ma hope, i ka nānā ʻana, ua noʻonoʻo ʻo Carrie i kāna kolamu a kākau, "No ke aha mākou e pono ai iā mākou iho?"
ʻO Rut pili pili
Ma ʻaneʻi wau e ʻaʻa nei e hele i ke kumuhana o ka pilina me Rut me kekahi o kēlā mau manaʻo akā e nānā pū ana hoʻi i ka honua no ka mea e alo ia mea, ʻaʻole kahi 50% ka nui o ka male male. Hele mua ke aloha, a laila hiki mai ka male, ua lilo i ka haʻalele mua ʻana a laila bankruptcy. He aha ka mea e hāʻawi ai?
Makemake wau e hoʻomaka mua me ka ʻōlelo mua; ʻaʻole pau kēlā me kēia pilina hauʻoli i ka male.
ʻAʻole pono i kēlā me kēia male leʻaleʻa ke loaʻa nā offprings, (ʻo kekahi o kaʻu ʻāpana punahele o ka kiʻi ʻoniʻoni Liona kahi ʻāpana a ka mea hana keaka ʻo Nicole Kidman e hoʻokani nei i ke ʻano o ka makuahine hānai a Sheru iā ia. ʻaʻole hiki ke hānau keiki. A ʻaʻole ʻo kēlā me kēia male lōʻihi lōʻihi kahi male kūleʻa ma muli wale nō o ka lōʻihi.
ʻO ke kuhi ʻo mākou he ʻano laha i nā ʻaoʻao he nui iā mākou a ʻo kekahi o kēlā mau hiʻohiʻona ko mākou pono e pili a pili. Ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia mākou ʻaʻole e male a laila haʻalele kekahi i kekahi ma ke ʻano he kāne, akā e koho i kahi kāne a ola i ko mākou ola ma ke ʻano he hoa a inā me nā keiki, e hoʻāla pū i kā mākou mau lālā me lākou. Akā ʻo ka pilikia ʻaʻole i hele mai ke kaʻina me kahi manual a kahi mea nona.
ʻO nā moʻomeheu a me nā lāhui like ʻole o ka honua, ua ola, aloha a male paha i kā lākou ala ponoʻī a he mau kaʻao e haʻi. Ua hāʻawi kēlā mau moʻolelo i ke ola i nā waiwai o kēia lā a ma ke ʻano he poʻe kenekulia 21 o ka honua, noho mākou i ka mea maikaʻi e koho a koho i nā waiwai e hana no mākou a "pono" mākou ma mua o ka hāʻule ʻana i loko.
ʻOiai i nā lā i ka wā e hoʻokaumaha ai nā koho e like me ke ao paʻakikī i nā wahine, e like me kahi ʻatikala na PBS Khadija, ka wahine mua a ke Kāula Muhhammad a me ke kanaka mua i hoʻohuli iā Islam, he wahine ʻoihana wiwo ʻole. Ua hoʻolimalima mua ʻo ia i ke Kāula e alakaʻi iā ia i nā kaʻa kalepa, a laila ʻoiai he mau makahiki kona i ʻelemakule, ua noi iā ia e male iā ia. Inā hiki iā ia ke koho i ke ʻano o kona ola ʻana a me kona pilina ma ia manawa, hiki iā mākou a pau pū kekahi.
Eia kaʻu mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kiʻekiʻe he 10 e hōʻalo ai i ka ʻaoʻao pili.
1. Hana i ka pilina e like me ke kanaka makemake ʻole i kahi mea!
E noʻonoʻo, hoʻolālā, hana ka mea a mākou e kapa aku ai iā lākou. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka manaʻo o kāu mea ʻē aʻe a pehea ʻoe e makemake ai e hōʻike iā ia. E hoʻolālā i nā lā, nā huakaʻi, nā helu kamaʻilio, nā huakaʻi nona wale nō a nā ʻolua hoʻi. A ʻo ka hopena, hoʻokani i kāu ʻāpana ma ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēlā mau hoʻolālā. A inā ʻoe e ʻike i nā hemahema a hiki i ka mea hiki ke hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, mai kāohi. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, kahi ʻāpana nui o ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka hakakā ma kekahi pilina e ʻike mua a hoʻolālā no nā hopena maikaʻi ma mua o ka hōʻalo ʻana i nā kamaʻilio hōʻoluʻolu ʻole.
2. Pehea ʻoe?
"Ma ke kelepona a ma ke kino paha, e nīnau aku i kāu pakanā, he aha nā mea hou i ko lākou ola ma ka liʻiliʻi i hoʻokahi manawa i ka lā a hoʻolohe me ka manaʻo."Kaomi iā Tweet
Kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e mālama i kahi pulse ma ka pilina, a ʻo ʻoe kahi mea hoʻolaha ma mua o ka mea i komo ʻole. Ma muli o ke kamaʻilio pinepine ʻana o nā wahine, manaʻoʻiʻo wahaheʻe ka hapa nui o nā kāne he kuleana lākou no ka pilina a kali lākou a kali a hōʻike ka wahine i kā lākou makemake a me kā lākou pono. A ʻaʻole ia ʻo ka luhi wale akā ʻaʻole nō hoʻi ʻoluʻolu loa i ka wahine.
3. ʻuclelo ʻo Confucius
Ma ke ʻano he hui moʻomeheu, ua kapa ʻia kekahi mau ʻAmelika ʻAmelika i kekahi manawa ma ke ʻano he "laʻana liʻiliʻi" Kuhi ʻia kēia i kā lākou kūleʻa pili (i ka ʻoihana a me ke aʻo ʻana), nā pilina ʻohana ikaika (a me ka hapa haʻahaʻa o ka male male), a me ka hilinaʻi haʻahaʻa i ke kōkua lehulehu. Ma ke ʻano he hui, aia ka ʻAmelika ʻAmelika i ka pākēneka kiʻekiʻe o ka male (65% a me 61% no nā keʻokeʻo) a me ka pākēneka haʻahaʻa o ka hemo male (4% me ka 10.5% no nā keʻokeʻo).
ʻAʻohe moʻomeheu i kūpono no ka mea, e like me kā mākou e ʻike nei, ʻaʻohe kanaka i hemolele. Akā, ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻana o ka cognitions i ke ola i nā lawena, pono ia e ʻike i kekahi o nā waiwai moʻomeheu i hiki ke kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka lōʻihi i nā pilina ʻĀsia.
Wahi a www.healthymarriageinfo.org, ʻo ia ʻano ʻokoʻa waiwai ka mea a ka poʻe ʻAsia ʻaʻole manaʻoʻiʻo he aloha ke aloha i ka pilina. i nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, manaʻoʻiʻo lākou ma mua o ka hōʻike extroverted o ke aloha, pili ka pilina maikaʻi ma ka hāmau, akā hoʻomau i nā hana o ka mōhai ponoʻī a me ka hoʻokō lōʻihi a paʻa ʻole.
4. Singin 'i ka ua
ʻIke ʻoe i hoʻokahi mele a i ʻole nā moʻo o nā mele, ke lohe koke ʻoe, lawe mai i kahi ʻano mehana i kou puʻuwai a i ʻole kahi hoʻomanaʻo aloha i nā hanana hauʻoli? He aha inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana hou i kēlā manaʻo a hoʻonui iā 10? E hoʻolōʻihi i kahi manawa e hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mele punahele āu i aloha ai. Hana i kahi papa inoa o nā lohi a me hoʻokahi papa inoa o nā mele wikiwiki a kāhea iā lākou ʻo "Our songs".
5. Nā Vents ʻaʻohe palena
ʻO kekahi o nā hoʻopiʻi nui loa e pili ana i nā pilina e like me kēia:
- "ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻolohe iaʻu"
- "ʻŌhumu mau ʻo ia"
ʻO kēia mau ʻōlelo kekahi o nā kumu e kolo ai ka luhi. A i ka hoʻohui ʻana i ka luhi, ka nui o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻē aʻe e like me ka huhū, a i ʻole ka ukiuki. ʻO Freud ka makuakāne o psychoanalysis i manaʻoʻiʻo i kahi hana i kapa ʻia ʻo Free Association. ʻO kēia ke kumu āu e huki ai a hoʻokuʻu aku ai a hoʻokuʻu aku ai i kou mau manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo e kahe manuahi a hōʻike ʻia me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻia ʻana a me ka wā ʻole. ʻAneʻane kokoke i nā kelepona o kēlā me kēia me ka mea hoʻopaʻa leo i kēia mau lā. Ma mua o ke kāhea ʻana i kāu hoaaloha, kou ʻohana a i ʻole kāu pakanā ma hope o ka ʻike ʻole ʻana iā ia ma hope o ka lōʻihi, e hoʻohana i ka mea hoʻopaʻa leo i ka ʻike o kou puʻuwai e ʻōniu a hoʻokuʻu aku a hoʻolei hou aku. A i ka wā e hemo ai kāu venter, e ʻike ʻoe i kahi ʻano o ke kōkua, kahi e ʻae ai iā ʻoe e hoʻemi i ka neurotic, a hoʻomaha hou.
6. Aniani, Aniani ma ka paia
Kaukaʻi ʻia i ko mākou ʻano ponoʻī o kēia manawa, a me nā ʻike ma mua me kekahi mau hana, hele mau mākou mai nā wahi manaʻo a i ka zona ʻike. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, i kekahi manawa makemake mākou i ko mākou mau hoa e aloha a hoʻolohe wale, a i kekahi manawa makemake mākou i kā mākou mau hoa e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻoponopono pilikia. Ma mua o ka huki wale ʻana me ke kumu ʻole, e hoʻoholo mua i kou manaʻo ponoʻī i kahi āu e noho ai ma mua o kou lawe ʻana mai i kāu hoa ma ka papa, ʻo kēia ala e pale aku ai i ka lua o ka manaʻo lohe ʻole a manaʻo ʻole paha i kāu pakanā e kōkua iā ʻoe.
7. ʻ Simonlelo ʻo Simona
Kaʻana ma hea kou poʻo i. Hoʻokahi wale nō ʻōlelo e pono ai. Ex. "He lā pīhoihoi koʻu a ua ikaika loa wau." , "Ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi lā koi nui a luhi hoʻi!", "Ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi kūlana me kahi hoa hana a huhū loa wau!", "" Ke huhū nei kā mākou kaikamahine no ka hola i hala iho nei a ua pau wau i ka make. " Etc. etc.
ʻO kēia ʻenehana naʻau naʻau e hoʻokō i nā mea ʻelua i ka manawa like:
- ʻAe iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo, a
- Hoʻomaopopo ia i kāu hoa i ka mea hiki iā lākou ke kali a me nā mea āu e manaʻo ai iā lākou.
Pono e hana i kēia anuu ma hope o kāu hana ʻana i # 3. A laila, hoʻomaka ʻoe me ka huaʻōlelo, noi i kahi laina manawa o 5. 10, a i ʻole 15 mau minuke nou iho, a laila hoʻopau ʻoe me hoʻokahi ʻōlelo e hōʻuluʻulu ana i kou manaʻo / noʻonoʻo e like me ia i wehewehe ʻia ma # 4 a hāʻawi i kēlā ʻike i kāu hoa. .
Eg. Pili wau i kahi kūlana i ka hana a makemake i kāu kōkua e hoʻoponopono pilikia. A i ʻole
Nui koʻu huhū i kekahi mea i hana ʻia i kēia lā, a ke kaʻana like nei wau i kēlā me ʻoe no laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana iā ʻoe.
8. ʻAʻole i kūkulu ʻia ʻo Roma i hoʻokahi lā
ʻAʻole wale ke aloha a me nā honi, nā pua a me nā kokoleka. ʻO nā makemake maʻamau. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hibernate i ka pule holoʻokoʻa a i ʻole ka mahina holoʻokoʻa, no ka mea ke kali nei ʻoe no kēlā hoʻomaha, kēlā hanana, a i kēlā kono paha. E ola i kou ola no kēia lā a kūkulu pū i nā manawa o kēlā me kēia lā. E kūkulu i kahi papa bākeke o nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā, nā moemoeā, nā wahi, a i ʻole nā ʻike ʻelua āu e makemake ai e hana pū a pili i kāu papa kuhikuhi, e koho i hoʻokahi lā o ka pule e huli a hana pū.
9. Kuʻi iā ia mai ka pāka
No kēlā mau lā pule kahi āu i hana nui ai, hoʻoluhi a me ka lā hana hoʻonāukiuki paha, e mālama i kahi hana lolo ʻole kahi e hoʻokuʻu ai ʻolua i kahi mahu i ka wā leʻaleʻa a me ka lapuwale. ʻAe, ma mua o ka maʻamau "e ʻai kāua i ka ʻaina awakea a me ka veg i mua o ke kīwī, pehea e pili ana i kekahi o kēia mau hana: ke pāʻani nei i kahi pāʻani wikiō punahele mai kāu waihona" Our Songs "mai # 2 ma luna, e lawe ana i kahi wāwae 15 min e paʻa ana i nā lima, ke nānā nei i nā hiʻona a puni ʻoe a ʻaʻole ʻōlelo i kahi huaʻōlelo hoʻokahi, ke pāʻani nei i kahi mele leʻaleʻa / upbeat punahele (ke kaukaʻi ʻia i kou pae ikehu) i hui pū ʻia me ke kīʻaha waina maikaʻi, ke kīʻaha o ka tī wela hoʻomaha, a i ʻole ka waiū me ka meli a me ka luʻuluʻu a me ka hulahula pū. , etc. etc.
10. Kahaha, kahaha
Nui nā kāne, ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea me nā keiki liʻiliʻi e hāʻule i ka noʻonoʻo e pono ai lākou e hana i kēlā me kēia hana i loko o ko lākou hale ma mua o ka ʻimi ʻana e aloha me kā lākou hoa. Hewa Nui! Laka, mele a me ka hana a mākou e ʻōlelo ai! ʻO ka moekolohe ma mua o nā mea āpau. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻoi loa no ka mea hope ʻaʻole ia ke ala mau e hele ai ka poʻe!
Hoʻomanaʻo i ka hanana ma Pretty Woman, kahi i hoʻi ai ʻo Richard Gere i ka hōkele ma hope o ka hana, a ʻo Julia Roberts a ʻo Vivian paha i kāhea ʻia i ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni me ke kino ʻōlohelohe, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe, akā ʻo kahi kaula āna i kūʻai ai nona ma mua i ka lā a ke pāʻani nei ʻo Kenny G ma hope? Pani i kou mau maka no hoʻokahi minuke a noʻonoʻo i kekahi o ʻoe ma ke kapuahi, a ʻo kekahi e hele ana ma ka puka. Hoʻololi ʻoe i kahi hello wikiwiki a me ka nānā koke ʻana a laila hele aku ʻoe i ka hana maʻamau o ka haʻawina home, ke kiʻi ʻana i ka meaʻai ma ka pākaukau, a laila hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā pā a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe a ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana, 8 pm a me ka manawa e hiamoe ai.
I kēia manawa, ua hoʻololi ʻia kou kuko e nā stains ma kou pālule mai ke kuke ʻana, nā wāwae luhi a me ka hoʻouluulu ʻana mai ka pili ʻana i nā pono o kēlā me kēia kanaka koe wale no kāu a me ka moekolohe me he mea lā he hana ʻē aʻe. E hoʻohuli i ka kuapo a hoʻokau i kēlā hana leʻaleʻa a me nā mea āu i aloha nui ai i ka lumi kuke, ʻoi aku ka maluhia a me ka hoʻomaha ma mua o ka ʻaina awakea a puni nā keiki, a me nā minoʻaka hou aku.
A oh ʻae, mai lawe i ka Tube i loko o ka lumi moe. Ke haʻi hou aku nei au ʻaʻole e lawe i ka Tube i loko o ka lumi moe ʻO kou lumi moe kou wahi hoʻāno a me ke ana hoʻi. ʻO ka mea hoʻonāukiuki a leʻaleʻa wale i loko o ia mea ʻelua.
"Mai mālama i kāu male ma ke ʻano he huahana i hoʻopau ʻia, akā ma ke ʻano he mea e mahiʻai."Kaomi iā Tweet
ʻO ia kahi aupuni o Confucianism i kūʻē i ka manaʻo komohana pū kekahi, ka mea i manaʻo ʻo ka male ka hoʻomaka o kahi aloha ma mua o ka hopena hauʻoli i kahi aloha.