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- Nā pilikia kālā
- ʻO nā lawehala a kāu hoa (a i ʻole)
- Nā mea āu i mālama ʻole ai e kaʻana like me kāu hoa
- Nā selfies nude a me nā mea like
- ʻO ka wā i hala o kāu hoa
- ʻO kou ola moekolohe
- Kekahi mea a lākou i kaʻana aku ai iā ʻoe i ka hūnā ʻana
- Nā kikoʻī o ke kaua hou loa
- ʻO kēlā makana weliweli kā lākou iā ʻoe
- ʻO ka palekana ʻole o kāu hoa
- Pehea ko lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kāu mau hoaaloha
- Nā pilikia me nā hūnōna kāne
“ʻAʻole makamaka nā mea huna!”
ʻO kēia leka kahi a mākou i lohe ai i kēlā me kēia manawa. He makua paha, he kumu, a i ʻole kekahi hoa aloha maoli i manaʻo i waho o ka loop; ke hoʻāʻo nei ka mea nāna e hōʻike i ka leka iā mākou e mālama iā mākou iho iā mākou iho. Akā i loko o kā mākou hui pili hoaaloha, aia kahi lula kākau ʻole ʻia o ka hūnā ʻana.
He aha ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma aneʻi, e noho ma aneʻi.
Me kēia manaʻo hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i nā kikoʻī hope loa o kou ola me nā poʻe āu i hilinaʻi nui ai. Ma hea ʻoe e kaha ai i ka laina? Aia kekahi mau ʻāpana o kou ola e waiho ma hope o nā puka paʻa, ʻeā? ʻOiaʻiʻo nō!
ʻO kou pilina me kāu wahine, ipo kāne, a ipo wahine paha kahi e kaha ai ʻoe i ka laina i ke one. Aia kekahi mau mea a kou mau hoaaloha pono ʻole ai e ʻike. No ka maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha, ʻo nā kikoʻī kikoʻī o kou pili nui e pono ai e noho i ka hale. Ma lalo ʻoe e ʻike ai i nā kumuhana he 12 i kaupalena ʻia no kēlā mau hola ʻoliʻoli a me ke awakea o ka Lāpule, ua hoʻokomo ʻia ka pia “mic open” i ka wā o ka pīpeku.
Nā pilikia kālā
ʻO ke kālā kahi kumuhana maʻalahi no nā mea wale nō ʻaʻohe ona miliona kālā i ka panakō. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā nā pilikia e mālama a uku paha i ka hōʻaiʻē, ʻaʻole ia ʻoihana hoʻokahi akā ʻo kāu. Pono ʻolua e hana pū e ʻike i kahi hoʻolālā e holo pono ai. Inā ʻoe e kōkua i kahi kōkua, e ʻimi i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai kahi pāʻina manaʻo. Ma ka ninini ʻana i ka ʻike i kāu mau hoaaloha, ke kumakaia nei ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi o ke kanaka me ʻoe. Līlia paʻa i kēia.
ʻO nā lawehala a kāu hoa (a i ʻole)
Inā hoʻopunipuni kekahi o ʻoe a ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hana, e haʻi ana i kāu poʻe hoaaloha e pili ana i ia mea e hoʻohoka loa i ka hana. ʻO ka hemo ʻana i kahi āu e aloha ai he hopena maikaʻi ʻole ia ma ka honua a mākou e noho nei, no laila ke kono nei ʻoe i ka hoʻokolokolo i kāu pilina. No ka mea pehea ʻoe e hoʻāʻo ai e noʻonoʻo pono me kāu mau hoaaloha, ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻomaopopo i kāu kuanaʻike. Hana me ia me kāu hoa wale.
Nā mea āu i mālama ʻole ai e kaʻana like me kāu hoa
ʻAʻole maikaʻi ʻo ia i ka moena. He pushover ʻo ia. Inā loaʻa kekahi manaʻo e pili ana i ke kanaka me ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole i kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe lākou e pili ana, a laila ua palena ʻia no nā kamaʻilio waho. Mai hoʻohana i nā hemahema o kāu hoapili e like me nā mea hoʻomākeʻaka kū aʻe na ʻoe a me kāu mau hoa. Inā he mea e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe e pili ana i kāu wahine a kāne paha, e hoʻopono me lākou e pili ana i ia.
Nā selfies nude a me nā mea like
Inā loaʻa kekahi mau kikoʻī pili o kāu pilina e like me nā kiʻi nude a i ʻole nā leka uila i hoʻouna ʻia, ʻaʻole pono e hōʻike i kekahi o kāu mau hoaaloha. ʻAʻole pono kāu ipo, ipo, kāne, a wahine paha e ʻōlelo "no kou mau maka wale nō" me kēlā me kēia leka momona a lākou e hoʻouna ai. Hōʻike ʻia. Maopopo ke hoʻāʻo nei lākou e hoʻohuli iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole lilo i kumuhana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i loko o kāu pōʻai kaiapili.
ʻO ka wā i hala o kāu hoa
Malia paha hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia. Maliʻa paha ua hemo kāna wahine me kāna ex. He mea ʻole ka pilikia, ʻaʻohe pono e hoʻolaha ʻia. Ma muli wale nō o kou ʻae ʻana i ko lākou wā i hala, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hana like kāu mau hoaaloha. Maopopo leʻa ua waiho lākou ia ma hope o lākou, no laila e ʻae iā ia e noho ma laila. Ma ka hoʻohana ʻana iā ia ma ke ʻano he kamaʻilio kūkā ma waho o kou pili, ke kumakaia nei ʻoe i ko lākou hilinaʻi i kahi ala nui.
ʻO kou ola moekolohe
ʻO ka mea āu e hana ai ma hope o nā pani pani me ka mea āu e aloha ai e noho ma hope o nā puka paʻa. ʻO ka moekolohe a me ka pilina me kekahi kekahi o nā hana nāwaliwali loa i hiki i ke kanaka ke hōʻike iā lākou iho. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻaʻike ʻana i nā kikoʻī e hōʻemi ana i ka waiwai o kēlā mau manawa pili me kāu hoa. ʻAʻole pono kekahi e ʻike i nā manawa āu i hana ai ia i ka mahina i hala iho nei, a i ke ʻano o ka liuliu a hihiu paha. Inā hauʻoli ʻolua i ka pehea e iho ai, ʻo ia wale nā mea āpau.
Kekahi mea a lākou i kaʻana aku ai iā ʻoe i ka hūnā ʻana
E hoʻomaopopo ʻia ʻo ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hūnā pilikino ʻana me kāu kāne, kāne kāne, a mea ipo paha e like me ke kiʻekiʻe. He wahi palekana ia e hiki ai iā lākou ke kaʻanalike aku e pili ana i kā lākou mau hoaaloha, ʻohana, a i ʻole nā hoapaahana me ka hopohopo ʻole e lohe ʻia nā mea a lākou e ʻōlelo ai. Inā lākou e ʻike i kekahi mea a lākou i ʻōlelo ai ua loaʻa i loko o ka pepeiao o kekahi ʻaʻole ʻoe, e haki ka hilinaʻi i kāu pilina. Inā haki ʻoe i kēlā hilinaʻi, ke paipai nei ʻoe iā lākou e mālama i ko lākou mau manaʻo iā lākou iho. E alakaʻi kēia i nā mea huna hou aʻe, nā wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo, a me kahi kahua kaua o ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole. E mālama i kahi palekana.
Nā kikoʻī o ke kaua hou loa
ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi. ʻAʻole ʻoe, ʻaʻole kāu hoapili, a ʻaʻole nō kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana. ʻOiai maopopo iā mākou āpau i kēia, hoʻokolokolo mākou āpau i ka poʻe hana hewa. Inā ua hakakā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā, ʻo ia kāu ʻoihana. Ma ka haʻi ʻana i kāu pōʻai a i ʻole kou ʻohana, ke wehe nei ʻoe i ka puka no ka hoʻokolokolo. He mea ʻole ka hewa o ka hakakā. E ʻimi i kahi ala e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pilikia ma waena o kāu pilina, no ka mea ma ke kaʻana like ʻana i nā kikoʻī, ke hōʻoia nei ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi hakakā hou. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana aku i ka poʻe makemake e hoʻolohe ʻaʻole e hoʻoholo i ka pilikia. e hana ana me ia me ke kanaka āu e makemake ai.
ʻO kēlā makana weliweli kā lākou iā ʻoe
He mea hoʻokahi makemake ʻole i ka makana i loaʻa iā lākou, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ke haʻi ʻoe i kāu mau pals āpau e pili ana. ʻElua mau mea i hiki ke hiki ke loaʻa iā lākou kēlā makana iā ʻoe:
- Ua hoʻāʻo nui lākou e ʻike i kahi mea āu e makemake ai a ua haʻo lākou i ka māka.
- ʻAʻole lākou i noʻonoʻo nui i loko o ia mea a hōʻike ʻia ka hopena.
Inā koho 1 ia, hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi hoʻomaha. Ua hoʻāʻo lākou. E weliweli lākou i ka maikaʻi ʻole o kā lākou hana ʻana, a ke haʻi ʻana i kāu mau hoaaloha e hōʻino wale ia.
Inā he koho 2 ia, e kamaʻilio pū me kāu pakanā, ʻaʻole kāu poʻe luina. E haʻi iā lākou ʻaʻole ʻoe mahalo i ka manaʻo nui ʻole o lākou i ka mea i loaʻa iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka pōʻino o kahi makana maikaʻi ʻole ma ke ʻano he kamaʻilio ʻōpio ʻoiai e inu me nā hoaaloha.
ʻO ka palekana ʻole o kāu hoa
E like paha wau me kahi moʻolelo haʻihaʻi ma aneʻi, akā ʻo kāu male a i ʻole ka pilina he wahi palekana ia. Maliʻa paha he kaumaha nui kāu kāne. Malia paha he wahine hoʻokomo kāu wahine a ʻaʻole ia he pā nui i nā hanana kaiaulu. Mai hōʻino i ka hilinaʻi o kāu pilina ma ka hoʻolaha ʻana i kēia mau ʻāpana pilikino o lākou.He paʻakikī ia na lākou e kaʻana like i kēlā insecurity me ʻoe, ke nānā nei iā ʻoe e kaʻana like me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe kānalua e haki ka puʻuwai o lākou.
Pehea ko lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kāu mau hoaaloha
Pono kēia ʻike i kahi kumu e ʻike ai, a ʻaʻole pono e ʻike kāu mau hoaaloha. Inā ʻaʻole pā kāu hoa i kāu mau hoaaloha, ʻaʻole ia ka hopena o ka honua. ʻO lākou kāu hoa aloha, ʻaʻole na lākou. ʻOiai he civila nā kānaka āpau, ʻo ia wale nā mea āpau. Makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hoʻohuli ai i nā mea mai kūloko i luku? E haʻi i kāu mau hoaaloha āpau ʻaʻole makemake kāu kāne a kaikamahine paha i kā lākou hui.
Nā pilikia me nā hūnōna kāne
Ke male ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻohui wale i ke ola o nā kānaka ʻelua; ke hui nei ʻoe i nā ola o ʻohana ʻelua. He aha ka mea e hana ai i loko o nā pilina o kēlā mau ʻohana ʻelua ʻaʻole pono e hoʻolaha ʻia i kāu pōʻai o loko. He pilina kupaianaha ko kekahi poʻe me ko lākou makuahūnōwai, he pilikia ko kekahi poʻe i kēlā me kēia manawa. Mai ʻae i kou mau hoaaloha i kahi hoʻomoana āu e noho ai.
Nick Matiash
ʻO Nick Matiash kahi mea nohona blog, ka loea pili, a me kahi kāne male hauʻoli. He kumu ʻo ia i ke ao a me ka mea kākau i ka pō; ke kākau ʻana e pili ana i nā kumuhana e like me ka hoʻomohala pilikino, ka noʻonoʻo maikaʻi, a me ka ʻōlelo aʻo pili. E nānā hou aʻe i kāna hana ma ma movepastmediocre.com!