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- He aha ka mea hana haʻihaʻi i ka launa
- 1. Hana hoʻomāinoino anei lākou iā ʻoe?
- 2. Loaʻa iā lākou kahi pilikia i ka wai ʻona a lāʻau paha
- 3. Kākoʻo kāu hoa
- 4. ʻO ʻoe ka makahiapo a kāu wahine
- 5. wahaheʻe anei kāu wahine iā ʻoe?
- 6. Hoʻāʻo lākou e kāohi iā ʻoe
- 7. Aia paha kāu wahine ma kahi pilina ʻē aʻe
- 8. Pehea ke ʻano o kāu kāne?
- 9. Pehea ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana o kāu kāne me ʻoe
- 10. Kaua pinepine paha ʻoe
- 11. He aha kāu manaʻo e haʻi aku nei iā ʻoe
- 12. He pilikia olakino kāu wahine
- 13. Nānā ʻole a mālama ʻole paha kāu kāne
- 14. Ua mālama lākou iā ʻoe mai kahi mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha
- 15. Loaʻa ʻole iā lākou ke makemake ʻoe iā lākou
- 16. Ke mōhai nei ʻoe i kāu pahuhopu ʻoihana
- 17. Mālama paha lākou i ko lākou pilikino pilikino
- 18. He mālama kiʻekiʻe loa paha lākou
- 19. Ua maikaʻi lākou me ka pili mamao loa
- 20. Loaʻa ʻole ʻoe i ka launa kolohe
- 21. Hewa anei lākou me ke kālā?
- ʻO kahi huaʻōlelo hope loa e pili ana i nā mea haʻihaʻi i ka pilina
E like me ka ʻike maʻamau; ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale o ka noʻonoʻo, ka ʻuhane, ke kino, a me ka ʻuhane he paʻakikī i nā kānaka āpau.
Pono mākou i ka launa a me nā pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e manaʻo ʻia ua ʻae ʻia a ʻae ʻia.
I loko o kahi pilina aloha, ke pua ke aloha, nā mea haʻihaʻi i ka pilina ka mea hope loa e kau i kou manaʻo.
Hiki ke maʻalahi ka pilina aloha ma ke ʻano maʻalahi akā ʻo ia kekahi o nā ʻano paʻakikī loa e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke lilo
He aha ka mea hana haʻihaʻi i ka launa
Ma mua o ke komo ʻana i kahi pilina aloha ka hapanui o ka poʻe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke kanaka a lākou e makemake ai e lā, helu pinepine lākou i nā ʻano a mākou e makemake nui ai i kahi hoa — kā lākou mea hana.
Akā ʻoi aku ka pinepine ma mua o ka ʻole, makemake ka poʻe e poina i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā mea haʻihaʻi i ka pilina.
ʻO nā mea haʻihaʻi kūʻai ma ka male kanā ʻano e hōʻole ʻole i kekahi ma ke ʻano he prospect aloha a i ʻole he kāne male paha, me ka nānā ʻole i ka nui o nā ʻano ʻano ʻē aʻe o lākou.
Ma lalo iho nei kahi papa inoa o kekahi o nā mea haʻihaʻi kiʻekiʻe i kahi pilina.
Inā 'ʻae' kāu pane i hoʻokahi a ʻoi paha o nā nīnau aʻe, e ʻoluʻolu e hahi pono i ka pilina a i ʻole hele wāwae.
21 o nā mea haʻihaʻi nui loa i ka pilina
1. Hana hoʻomāinoino anei lākou iā ʻoe?
Aia kekahi ʻano hoʻomāinoino i ka pilina?
He nīnau paha kāu e nīnau ai iā ʻoe iho.
- Hana hoʻomāinoino paha kāu hoa iā ʻoe ma ke kino, ka naʻau, ka pilikanaka, ma ka waha?
- Kau lākou i ka hewa ma luna ou a i ʻole nā mea ʻē aʻe no nā mea a lākou i hana ai?
Inā ʻae, aloha ʻoe i kahi kanaka ʻona a weliweli ia i kou kino, manaʻo, ʻuhane, a me kou ʻuhane.
2. Loaʻa iā lākou kahi pilikia i ka wai ʻona a lāʻau paha
- Hoʻopilikia paha kāu kāne i ka wai ʻona a i ʻole nā lāʻau paʻakikī?
- Hoʻohana lākou i ka waiʻona a i ʻole nā lāʻau e komo i nā hana?
- Hoʻohana lākou i nā lāʻau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ko lākou noʻonoʻo ke pilikia lākou?
He mau nīnau kūpono kēia āu e nīnau ai iā ʻoe iho ma mua o ke komo ʻana i ka pilina.
3. Kākoʻo kāu hoa
ʻAʻole e holomua kahi pilina inā ʻaʻole kākoʻo kāu kāne a kāne paha.
Inā kākoʻo a kūlike kāu hoa me ʻoe, maikaʻi kēlā akā inā lākou e hōʻino iā ʻoe?
Inā hōʻino kāu hoa a / a i ʻole hilahila iā ʻoe no kou helehelena, ke kaupaona, ka hana, nā hoaaloha, a i ʻole nā koho nohona, ke hoʻomāinoino a me ka manipulative lākou.
4. ʻO ʻoe ka makahiapo a kāu wahine
Kau aku kāu hoa iā ʻoe ma luna o nā mea āpau?
Kau lākou i kahi waiwai nui ma luna ou?
Hāʻawi pinepine kāu wahine i kāu hoʻolālā e ʻike i kā lākou mau hoaaloha a ʻaʻole lākou e kono iā ʻoe. ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki i nā manawa āpau, pono i kāu wahine e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i kā lākou helu 1 makakoho ke pono nui ʻoe iā lākou.
5. wahaheʻe anei kāu wahine iā ʻoe?
ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona ʻoi aku ka nui o ka pilina ka hilinaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole i ka pilina, ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi ka pilina. Wahaheʻe ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e uhi i ko lākou kua.ʻO ia kekahi o nā mea hana haʻihaʻi maʻamau no ka poʻe.
6. Hoʻāʻo lākou e kāohi iā ʻoe
Hiki i kekahi poʻe ke lilo i mea nui a kaohi i ka pilina.
Ke hoʻāʻo nei kāu hoa e hoʻohana i kā lākou mana mana iā ʻoe? Inā ʻae, hoʻi i waho!
7. Aia paha kāu wahine ma kahi pilina ʻē aʻe
E hoʻāʻo i nā manawa āpau e nīnau inā pili kāu prospect aloha i kekahi pilina me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
Mai lilo i kaikamahine a kāne paha e hoʻopunipuni ʻia, ke ʻae ʻole ʻolua i ka mea nui ʻole iā ʻoe.
8. Pehea ke ʻano o kāu kāne?
Pono ʻoe e ʻike inā wikiwiki paha kāu wahine e huhū a pehea lākou e pahū ai i ka wā a lākou huhū.
9. Pehea ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana o kāu kāne me ʻoe
Kamaʻilio lākou iā ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole a maikaʻi ʻole o ka pilina.
ʻO kekahi o nā mea haʻihaʻi pili pilina maʻamau ka mea makemake ʻole e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i nā pilikia.
Pono ʻoe me kekahi e makemake e kamaʻilio kūpono me ʻoe.
10. Kaua pinepine paha ʻoe
No ke kākoʻo ʻana i kahi pilina, pono e loaʻa nā paio olakino a me nā ʻae ʻole i ka pilina.
Akā ʻaʻole pono e nui loa, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka maikaʻi o ka lawelawe ʻana o kāu wahine i nā ʻae ʻole, hōʻino lākou iā ʻoe i nā manawa āpau āu e hoʻopaʻapaʻa ana.
Kuʻi lākou iā ʻoe?
Hoʻohaʻahaʻa anei lākou iā ʻoe i kahi paio?
Loiloi i kēlā mau nīnau e ʻike inā ʻoe i ka pilina kūpono.
He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i kekahi o nā mea haʻihaʻi male nui, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hōʻino i ka pilina a i ʻole ka male ʻana.
11. He aha kāu manaʻo e haʻi aku nei iā ʻoe
Ke haʻi aku nei kou lunamanaʻo iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e holo ka pilina.
Pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe i kāu instincts.
Hana pinepine ia manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole kūpono kekahi mea akā ʻaʻohe kumu kūpono e wehewehe ai i ia mea, a ʻo ka hopena e kū maoli kekahi mea maikaʻi ʻole. ʻOiai paha he wānana hoʻokō ponoʻī ia, pono ʻoe e nānā i nā ʻōuli a kou intuition e hoʻouna nei iā ʻoe.
12. He pilikia olakino kāu wahine
ʻO kahi nīnau koʻikoʻi āu e nīnau ai iā ʻoe iho ma mua o ka hana ʻana i kou noʻonoʻo a me kou kino i kahi pilina ʻoiai he pilikia olakino kāu kāne e like me STDs. E nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ke ʻano o nā pilikia olakino hiki iā ʻoe ke noho a he aha ka mea nui iā ʻoe. E hoʻopono me lākou a me ʻoe iho.
13. Nānā ʻole a mālama ʻole paha kāu kāne
- Hana paha kāu wahine ʻaʻole e nānā iki i kāu olakino?
- Hana paha kāu wahine mai manaʻo nui i kāu hana?
- Hana paha kāu wahine hōʻoia i ka hana nui e hana i ka manawa kaʻawale e hoʻolohe ai iā ʻoe a hana i nā mea āu e hana ai?
Loiloi koʻikoʻi i kēlā mau nīnau e ʻike ai inā he mea hana haʻihaʻi kēia na ʻoe a he aha ke ʻano o ka pilina āu i loko.
14. Ua mālama lākou iā ʻoe mai kahi mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha
ʻAʻohe mea he mokupuni, a ʻo kā mākou mau hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana he mea nui i ko mākou ola.
Inā nānā kāu hoa iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he mea nui ʻē aʻe, e ʻoluʻolu lākou i ka manaʻo e hālāwai me nā mākua a me kahi pōʻai pili o nā hoaaloha.
ʻO kahi ʻokoʻa wale nō i ka mea i hiki ke lilo i hōʻeuʻeu ʻohana paʻakikī, kahi ʻaʻole e lawe koke kāu hoa iā ʻoe e hui pū me lākou.
I ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kēlā, e wehe lākou i ka lawe ʻana iā ʻoe i waho e hoʻolauna iā lākou a i ʻole makemake e kamaʻilio i nā kumu no ke aha.
15. Loaʻa ʻole iā lākou ke makemake ʻoe iā lākou
Inā ʻoe e hakakā nei i kahi pilikia a makemake i kā lākou kōkua, a ua ʻike pinepine ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou i laila no ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo anei ʻoe he mea haʻihaʻi haʻihaʻi? Hōʻike ia i ko lākou kūpaʻa ʻole a me ka makemake ʻole e noho ma laila inā ʻoe inā e hele wale ana ʻoe i nā pilikia āpau.
Pono ʻoe i kahi mea hilinaʻi hou aʻe hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ke kōkua a me ka hōʻoluʻolu.
16. Ke mōhai nei ʻoe i kāu pahuhopu ʻoihana
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka mōhai ʻana i kāu moemoeā a me ka hoʻohoka mau ʻana i kahi pilina, ʻoiai e huakaʻi ana kāu kāne i ke ala i kahi ʻoihana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi?
Ke ʻike nei ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e waiho ana i kahi makana uku nui e hoʻokipa ai i ke ala ʻoihana a kāu wahine a me kāu makemake pilikino?
Inā kūleʻa kekahi hoa, akā ʻo ka hoa ʻē aʻe e wili nei i ko lākou manamana nui, e kulou ana i ko lākou kua i mea e pono ai no kā lākou wahine, me ka nānā ʻole i kā lākou ala ʻoihana ponoʻī, e ulu ana ka huhū.
Pono kahi pilina kaulike e kākoʻo i nā ʻohana i nā ala ʻoihana ʻē aʻe a hoʻihoʻi i ka lokomaikaʻi ke hana kekahi hoa i kahi hoʻoponopono kūpono a mōhai paha i kā lākou mau pahuhopu ʻoihana.
ʻO ia hoʻi ke aʻo nei nā hoa ʻelua i ka pale kaulike ma waena o ke aloha a me ka ʻoihana.
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17. Mālama paha lākou i ko lākou pilikino pilikino
He kūpono ʻole ke koi ʻana i kāu hoapili e mālama i ke kino 'hemolele' a me he mea lā ua hele lākou i waho o kahi hōʻike kiʻiʻoniʻoni.
Akā, ka mālama ʻana i nā pae maʻamau o ka maʻemaʻe a me ka nānā aku i kahi manawa kūpono kahi manaʻo kūpono.
Inā maikaʻi ʻole kāu hoa a ʻaʻole loa e hoʻāʻo e pae i ka helehelena, nele lākou i ka mahalo iā lākou iho a hōʻike i nā hōʻailona o ka hoʻowahāwahā iā ʻoe iho.
18. He mālama kiʻekiʻe loa paha lākou
Inā hoʻopaʻa mau ʻia kāu hoa i ko lākou helehelena, he hōʻailona paha ia no ka narcissism.
Aia kekahi mea hou aku i ke ola ma mua o nā welu wahaheʻe, ke kino kālai ʻia, biceps ʻōhū, hoʻolōʻihi lauoho, a me nā papa o ka make-up.
Inā ke paio nei kāu wahine me ka pīhoihoi o ka helehelena a me ka pīpī ʻana i kahi nui nui i kā lākou mālama ʻana, pau ka hana ʻole a me ka manawa ʻole o kāu pili.
ʻO kahi hae ʻulaʻula ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e nānā inā e pili ana i ka papa inoa o nā mea haʻihaʻi i ka pilina.
19. Ua maikaʻi lākou me ka pili mamao loa
I kekahi manawa, hiki i nā hanana i waho o ka kaohi ke koi i nā kāne e noho i nā kūlanakauhale ʻokoʻa.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hoʻolālā ka hapa nui o nā kāne i ka waiho ʻana i kahi hoʻonohonoho lōʻihi lōʻihi mau loa.
Inā maikaʻi maikaʻi kāu wahine me kahi hoʻonohonoho pili lōʻihi no kahi wā pau ʻole, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe, he hōʻailona ia o nā pahuhopu pili ʻokoʻa.
Hiki i kēia disparity no kekahi mau kāne kekahi o nā mea hana haʻihaʻi i ka launa.
20. Loaʻa ʻole ʻoe i ka launa kolohe
ʻO ka moekolohe kahi ʻāpana nui o ka pilina a paʻa pū kekahi i kekahi, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e pili i kahi pae kino, hiki iā ia ke hoʻokele i kahi kāʻei i waena o nā kāne.
f ʻaʻohe o ʻoukou e hoʻāʻo e noho aliʻi i ka hunaahi, ʻo ia nō kekahi o nā mea haʻihaʻi kī nui i ka pilina.
21. Hewa anei lākou me ke kālā?
Inā weliweli kāu hoa me ka mālama kālā ʻana a ʻaʻole ia e hoʻololi i kā lākou ʻano a aʻo paha i ka noʻonoʻo kālā, hiki iā ia ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia nui ʻole.
Inā pili kou pili i nā hakakā kālā mau me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole, a laila pono ʻoe e recalibrate i kāu mau mea nui a noʻonoʻo hou i kāu hoʻoholo e noho me kāu hoa o kēia manawa.
Inā hōʻino kahi hana expriftift i kahi pilina, hiki i kahi noʻonoʻo stingy nui ke hoʻopau pū i nā bele pū waikaua pū kekahi.
ʻO kahi huaʻōlelo hope loa e pili ana i nā mea haʻihaʻi i ka pilina
E hoʻohana i kēia papa inoa o nā mea haʻihaʻi maʻamau i kahi pilina e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke noho pū.
No ka nui o kou aloha iā ʻoe, hiki i nā mea haʻihaʻi ke hōʻino i kahi pilina ma mua o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana no ka mea pili paʻa lākou i ko mākou mau manaʻo nui.
E kūkākūkā i kēia papa inoa o nā mea hana kuʻi 20 ma ka pilina e hoʻoholo inā he lā e hiki mai ana kāu pili.