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- 1. ʻAʻole ʻoe e nānā i kekahi i kekahi no ke kākoʻo
- 2. Kuhi paha ʻoe e noho ana ʻoe me kahi malihini
- 3. Hiki i kēia ke ʻaihue i kāu pili i ka manawa
- Pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kamaʻilio i ka pilina
ʻO ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male ʻana e hoʻonāwaliwali ai i kou hauʻoli male?
Ke lōʻihi kou male ʻana, manaʻo paha ʻoe he mea maʻamau ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male.
Komo ʻoe i kahi rut a i ʻole kahi maʻamau a hele ʻoe i kahi ʻano hana e hoʻopau ai i nā mea āpau.
ʻOiai ua male ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi, maʻalahi e lawe i nā mea āpau no ka mea ʻole a no laila ke hala nei ke kamaʻilio e hele. He aha nā kamaʻilio leʻaleʻa me kekahi e lilo i mau kamaʻilio kūkā kamaʻilio i ke alaloa.
Hele paha ʻoe i kahi lā holoʻokoʻa me ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana kekahi i kekahi, a manaʻo paha ʻoe he maʻamau kēia.
ʻOiai e neʻe paha ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio maoli i kekahi i kekahi hiki ke hoʻopilikia i nā pilikia i kāu male. ʻO ka male ʻole me ke kamaʻilio ʻole, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā manaʻo, unsustainable ka manaʻo a me nā manaʻo.
ʻIke paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono i ka hana ʻana i kekahi i kekahi ma ke ʻano nui, a no laila ke hoʻomaka ke kamaʻilio ʻana e paheʻe hiki i ka male ke hele i kahi wahi weliweli.
ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono iā ia, akā makemake ʻoe e hōʻoia ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e lawe i kahi kamaʻilio maikaʻi maikaʻi ʻole.
Aia kekahi mau pilikia koʻikoʻi e hiki ke hiki mai ke hoʻomaka ka kamaʻilio ʻana e ʻeha, a inā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia mau mea a hōʻoia e mālama i nā mea i ke ala pololei a laila e lanakila ke aloha i nā mea āpau.
Hōʻike nā noiʻi ua "ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kāne a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole, a me ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana."
Eia nā kumu i pilikia ʻole ai ke kamaʻilio ʻole i ka male ʻana.
1. ʻAʻole ʻoe e nānā i kekahi i kekahi no ke kākoʻo
ʻAʻole like paha kēia me kahi pilikia nui, akā ʻo ia nō. Ke male ʻoe ʻo ia ke kanaka mua i huli ai kēlā me kēia o ʻoe no ke kākoʻo, kōkua, a me ka mahalo.
Ke nele nei kēlā a laila huli ʻoe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe no ka pono, a ʻaʻole hopena maikaʻi kēia. Ke kamaʻilio maoli ʻole ʻoe a inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi, a laila hele aku ke kākoʻo a lilo ʻoe e like me nā hoa noho.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kākoʻo i kāu hoa?
- Hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i kā lākou hopohopo
- ʻAʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi i ke kōkua i ka wā e hoʻoholo ana lākou
- Hoʻoweliweli pinepine ʻoe iā lākou, pono ʻole
- ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻonāukiuki iā lākou e hoʻokō i kā lākou mau moemoeā a me nā makemake
E lawe i ka hulina: He mau hoa kāne a i ʻole mau hoa noho wale?
Ke loaʻa ʻole kahi kamaʻilio ma ka male ma waena o nā hoa, koe wale no nā mea e pili ana i kāu hana maʻamau, e hoʻomaopopo he lawa ʻole ke kākoʻo i kāu pilina.
E hoʻomanaʻo pono ʻoe e hāpai mau i luna a kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi, a no laila pili loa nā mea ʻelua. Ke kau ʻoe i ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi a laila ʻo ke kākoʻo no kekahi i kekahi e hele kū maʻamau.
No laila ke hana ʻoe i kēia mau mea ʻelua i ka mea nui a laila hoʻopau ʻoe me ka male hauʻoli loa i kēia manawa a me ka wā lōʻihi pū kekahi.
2. Kuhi paha ʻoe e noho ana ʻoe me kahi malihini
Inā he mau lā a he mau pule paha kāu i kamaʻilio ʻole ai, hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ke noho nei ʻoe me kahi malihini. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo e hiki mai ia, ʻo ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male ʻana hiki ke hoʻolilo iā ʻoe e like me ka nalowale o kekahi i kekahi.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e mālama i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a laila manaʻo ʻoe ua eo kekahi i kekahi.
Inā hoʻomau kēia i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa a laila pilikia ka pili aloha, hoʻonāwaliwali ka pilina, a paʻakikī ʻoe e ʻike i ka manaʻo maʻamau. ʻO ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male ʻana e alakaʻi i ka hemo male i kekahi manawa ke koe ʻole kahi mea e kaʻana a e kamaʻilio ai paha ma waena o nā mea ʻelua.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻole o ke kamaʻilio male e alakaʻi ai i ka hemo, e akahele i kēia mau hōʻailona e hōʻike ana ua lilo ʻolua a me kāu pakanā i malihini.
- ʻAʻole hiki i kāu hoa ke heluhelu ma waena o nā laina, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke wehewehe i kou mau naʻau
- E emi iho kou ola moekolohe. Ma luna o kēlā ʻano ʻano pili pili kino e like me ka ʻapo ʻana, lilo i ka honi ʻana.
- ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻaʻahu a hele aku no nā lā no ka manawa lōʻihi
- Kaupalena ʻia kāu kamaʻilio ʻana i ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā hana a me nā kālā.
ʻIke paha ʻoe e hoʻopaʻapaʻa hou aku ana a hoʻolilo i ka liʻiliʻi a me ka liʻiliʻi o ka manawa me kekahi. ʻOiai ka nele o ke kamaʻilio a kamaʻilio ʻole paha i kekahi mau lā ʻaʻole pilikia ia, inā hoʻomau kēia i ka manawa a laila loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi kūlana maikaʻi ʻole a ʻiʻini loa i kēlā pilina.
E makaʻala i kēia a mai hoʻokuʻu i nā kamaʻilio lōʻihi ʻana inā makemake ʻoe e pili a pili aloha.
3. Hiki i kēia ke ʻaihue i kāu pili i ka manawa
Ke hāpai ʻole kahi kamaʻilio ma ka male i kona poʻo ʻino ma waena o nā kāne, e noʻonoʻo paha kekahi o ka pilina inā he maʻamau a inā he pilikia ʻole ka kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana i ka male.
E noʻonoʻo e pāʻani ana i kēia hanana i kēlā me kēia lā no kahi manawa lōʻihi. Ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻoe hiki paha iā ʻoe ke huli i kekahi ʻē aʻe.
Ma muli o ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i nā pilina, lilo paha ʻoe i ka pili, ke aloha, ke kuko, a i ʻole ka huna ahi āu i kaʻana like ai.
ʻO ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole i ka male hiki ke hoʻowalewale iā ʻoe e hoʻopunipuni. Hiki iā ia ke manaʻo iā ʻoe e like me ka male ʻole ʻana ma mua o ka mea ma mua.
Hele nā kānaka āpau i nā manawa paʻakikī, akā inā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia a hana ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi i mea nui i kāu male ʻana a laila e pili paʻa ʻoe a hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele i ke ala kūpono ʻole e ka nalowale ʻana o kekahi i kekahi.
ʻO nā hopena o ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ma ka male ʻana hiki ke hōʻeha i kāu pilina. He mea nui ia e ʻike a hoʻoponopono i kāu mau pilikia kamaʻilio ma ka male ma mua o ka kaʻawale ʻana o nā mea ma waena o ʻolua a me kāu hoa.
Pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kamaʻilio i ka pilina
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi kamaʻilio i loko o kahi pilina ke kākau i kahi knell no ka hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hauʻoli i ka male ʻana.
Ke ʻimi nei i nā pane kikoʻī i nā nīnau, "pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ka nele o ke kamaʻilio i ka pilina", a i ʻole "pehea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i ke kamaʻilio me ka wahine"?
E heluhelu ma kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kōkua e pale ai i ka nele o ke kamaʻilio a hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia kamaʻilio a pau i ka male.
- Lawe i 15 mau min i kēlā me kēia lā e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou lā me kāu hoa. Hoʻopili ʻia ka male a me ke kamaʻilio no ka hōʻoluʻolu o ka pilina.
- ʻO ke kamaʻilio ma waena o nā kāne e hoʻoulu ai i ka pili aloha, ʻoiai ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole i nā ʻoliʻoli o ka male a me ka mamao ma waena o nā kāne.
- ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi loa no nā kāne e nānā pono i ka ʻōlelo kino o kāu hoa. E kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka naʻau o kāu hoa a hoʻomaikaʻi i ka kamaʻilio male.
- Hāʻawi ʻia ka male ʻole me ke kamaʻilio ʻole a palupalu i kahi lehulehu o nā pilikia pili. E hoʻolohe pono i kāu hoa ke kamaʻilio lākou.
- E paipai kēia iā lākou e kamaʻilio hou me ʻoe a pale i ka haki kamaʻilio piha ʻana i ka male.
- E kiʻi i kahi loea i hōʻoia ʻia, ʻo wai ka mea hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ma ka male.
Inā holo hohonu nā pilikia o ka kamaʻilio ʻana ma loko o ka male, kahi hana kaulike a me ke kumu ʻole mai ke kākāʻōlelo male, me nā mea hana kūpono i kahi e pili ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male, hiki ke hoʻopakele i kāu male.
Ma hope o kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e lanakila i nā pilikia kamaʻilio i ka male.
ʻO ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i loko o ka pilina kekahi o nā pilikia a nā kāne e hālāwai ai. Ma ka mālama ʻana i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua ai iā ʻoe e haʻalele i nā ʻano kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole i ka male ʻana a ʻapo i ke kamaʻilio olakino, a ukali ʻia e nā kamaʻilio kūpono a me ka pilina hohonu ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu hoa.