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- 1. ʻAʻole ʻoe he wahine
- 2. ʻAʻole ia e haʻalele i kāna hihia
- 3. Ua haʻiʻo ia iā ʻoe ua hala ka hihia ... akā pili mau naʻe me ia
- 4. Hoʻopiʻiʻo ia iā ʻoe no ka hihia
No laila ua hoʻopunipuni ʻia ʻoe i ka wā ma mua a hoʻoholo e hoʻokuʻu. Akā kēlā manaʻo ʻino e hiki iā ia ke hana hou ʻaʻole haʻalele iā ʻoe. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke pili i kēia, a laila eia kekahi mau hōʻailona hōʻailona e noʻonoʻo pono ʻoe e pili ana i ...
1. ʻAʻole ʻoe he wahine
ʻIno wau e ʻōlelo aku i kēia iā ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia i loko ou. ʻAʻole male ka noho pū ʻana. Ua male ʻia.
ʻAʻohe manawa o ka mōakāka i kona ʻike ʻana ʻo ʻoe ka "hoʻokahi" a kū aʻe i mua o ka honua a haʻi aku ua aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. A i kēia manawa ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
E noho ke kāne me ia, e launa me ka moekolohe me ka wahine ʻaʻole ʻo “kēlā”. ʻO ka neʻe pinepine ʻana o ke kāne me kahi kaikamahine no ka mea ʻo ia ka ʻanuʻu aʻe a makemake ʻole ʻo ia e lūlū i ka moku. Kuhi ʻo ia he ʻoluʻolu, e loaʻa ʻo ia i ka wahine hou aʻe. ʻAʻole ia inaina iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole ʻo ia. ʻAʻole ʻoe wale nō "hoʻokahi".
ʻO kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo iā ʻoe e neʻe i mua. Ua kuʻi ʻoe i kahi pā ʻaʻano o ka pilina a ua launa ʻo ia me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Paʻa ka male a me ke ola. E ʻike paha ʻoe i ka nalo ʻana o ka hana, hāpai keiki, kahi keiki pono kūikawā, ka make ʻana o kahi makua ... I kēia mau manawa, ʻo ʻoe nō, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e lilo i hoa pili pono. Pono ʻoe i kahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi e hilinaʻi iā ʻoe a me ka pilina, a ʻaʻole ʻo ia ia. Hoʻopakele iā ʻoe iho mai ka ʻeha o ka puʻuwai a ʻike i kekahi e manaʻo nei ʻo ʻoe ʻo "hoʻokahi".
2. ʻAʻole ia e haʻalele i kāna hihia
ʻO kēia ka hōʻailona hōʻailona nui loa o nā mea āpau. ʻO ke kāne i hiki ʻole (a i ʻole ʻaʻole) hāʻawi i kāna hoa pili ʻaʻole i hoʻokau ʻia iā ʻoe a ʻo ʻoe wale nō. E hālāwai paha ʻoe me kēia pilikia ma kekahi o nā ala aʻe:
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia hiki iā ia ke mālama i ka launa pū ʻana me ia ma ke ʻano he “hoa aloha” wale nō.
Inā 'ōleloʻo ia makemakeʻo ia e "noho hoaaloha wale nō" me ia, e haʻi iā ia e hele i waho. ʻAwaʻawa kāna hoa pili i kāu male, a he mea hiki ʻole loa ia i ke kāne a me ka wahine i loaʻa ka hihia e hoʻihoʻi koke i ka mea hoihoi i kahi pae ʻae ʻia. Mālama maoli paha ʻo ia iā ia, a manaʻo paha ʻo ia he mea nui kāna aloha iā ia, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo KA WAHI kēia wahine. Inā ʻaʻole ia e ʻike i kēia (a i ʻole e ʻae i kona nāwaliwali), he naʻaupō ia e pāʻani nei i ke ahi. Loaʻa ʻo ia i ka hoʻowalewale ʻia i kekahi manawa i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
3. Ua haʻiʻo ia iā ʻoe ua hala ka hihia ... akā pili mau naʻe me ia
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole wau e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi wahine pupule e ʻūlū nei iā ia, a he keonimana maikaʻi loa ʻo ia e haʻi aku iā ia e hele a ua hoʻohiki ʻo ia iā ʻoe. Ke kuhikuhi nei wau i:
- Nā leka aloha / nā leka uila / nā leka uila / nā leka uila e pili ana i ka nui o kona nalo ʻana iā ia a i ʻole makemake e hiki pū lāua.
- Ke kamaʻilio nei e haʻi iā ia e haki no ka mea ua ʻike ʻoe
- Ma lalo o ke ʻano o ka hui ʻana o “Closure” me ia, ʻoiai inā i ka lehulehu wale no ke kofe (akā ʻoi loa inā ua hui lāua hoʻokahi a moe hou).
He mea nui iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo he nui nā kāne e pili i ka naʻau me kā lākou mau hoa pili, a he mea paʻakikī ia i nā kāne e haʻalele i kēlā pilina. Inā ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻo ia e hāʻawi iā ia, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻo ia e hoʻokō iā ʻoe a ʻo ʻoe wale nō.
4. Hoʻopiʻiʻo ia iā ʻoe no ka hihia
Inā ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kekahi mea i ka hopena o: “Na kou hewa kēlā. Ua hoʻokau ʻoe iaʻu e hana, ”a laila pilikia ʻoe. Inā ʻaʻole ia e lawe i ke kuleana a waiho i ka hewa iā ʻoe, pono ʻoe e lawe i kēia ma ke ʻano he hoʻopunipuni hou paha ia i ka wā e hiki mai ana a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻoponopono maoli i ka pilina. ʻO nā kāne i hōʻino i kā lākou mau hoa no kā lākou hoʻoholo pono ʻole hiki ʻole ke lawe i ke kuleana no kēlā mau koho maikaʻi ʻole. I kona manaʻo, i ka wā e hiki mai ana inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻokō pono i kāna mau pono he mea maikaʻi ia e hoʻopunipuni hou iā ʻoe.
He ʻokoʻa kēia mai ka wā āu e nīnau aku ai iā ia no ke aha ʻo ia i hoʻopunipuni ai a pane ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kahi ala mālie, e wehewehe ana ua nele ʻo ia no ka mea ʻaʻole iki ʻoe i ka moekolohe a i ʻole pōloli ʻo ia no ka nānā no ka mea ua hoʻohewa nui ʻoe iā ia. ʻAʻole wau e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ia e hoʻāʻo nei e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kumu e maopopo ai iā ʻoe ke kumu o kona nāwaliwali (a he aha kāu e hana ai e kōkua iā ia e ikaika a kūpaʻa hoʻi). Eia nō naʻe, ʻokoʻa loa ia mai kahi kāne e hoʻopiʻi nei iā ʻoe no ka "hana" ʻana iā ia e hoʻopunipuni, a i ʻole e hoʻopiʻi ana i kāna hihia iā ʻoe.