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- 1. E ʻike ʻoe i kou pilina mai “waho i loko”
- 2. Hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo ai ma mua o kou mau naʻau
- 3. Kūkā ʻia nā kumu no ka male ʻana
- 4. Uhi ʻia nā kumuhana maikaʻi ʻole
- 5. Hāʻawi ke kākāʻōlelo i ka manaʻo kaulike
- Nā papa ma mua a me nā puke aʻoaʻo ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka male
Inā ua pili mua ʻoe, mahalo.
Me ka nīnau ʻole, ʻo kēia nō kekahi o nā manawa pīhoihoi (a me ke ola e hoʻololi ai) o kou ola holoʻokoʻa. A ʻoiai ua maopopo loa iā ʻoe ke hana nui nei ʻoe i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi lā, hoʻopaʻa inoa ʻana i kahi wahi a ʻike i nā mea āu e komo ai i kou lā kūikawā, ʻoiai ʻoe e iho ana i ka papa inoa o nā mea āu e hana maoli ai. e ʻoluʻolu mai poina i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ma ka piko loa o ka papa inoa.
Nā pono o ke aʻo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana
ʻO ka nui o nā kāne e ʻike wale nei ma ke ʻano he ʻano maʻamau (a ʻaʻole pono nui) ʻaʻole ʻike i nā pōmaikaʻi kamahaʻo o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana.
Eia nō naʻe, nui maoli nā hōʻike e kākoʻo ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia kekahi o nā kaʻina hana e hiki ai ke lawe i mea e palekana ai i kāu hui. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me ka hōʻike i paʻi ʻia, "ʻO nā kāne i hele i ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o kā lāua male male ʻana he 30% ka nui o ke kūlana kūleʻa ma mua o ka poʻe i ʻole."
Inā kānalua ʻoe i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi manawa me ke kākāʻōlelo, mea hoʻoponopono a kahu hānai paha no ka mea ʻaʻole maopopo ʻole ʻoe he mea pono ka manawa a me ke kālā, eia nā pono he 5 o ka ʻōlelo aʻo ma mua o ka wā male no nā kāne e lana ka manaʻo.
1. E ʻike ʻoe i kou pilina mai “waho i loko”
ʻOiai ua lohe mākou āpau i ka ʻōlelo "Perception is reality", ʻoi aku ka kaulana o kēlā hopena ma mua o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka ʻike ke ala kēlā ʻike ʻoe pilikino i nā mea, ʻoiai e hoʻokumu ʻia ka mea maoli ma ʻoiaʻiʻo.
No laila, e ʻōlelo e laʻa ʻaʻohe lawa o ke kālā i kekahi o ʻoukou e noho ai iā ʻoe iho. ʻ saylelo paha ka manaʻo "e alakaʻi mākou i kā mākou aloha" ʻoiai ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e ʻōlelo nei "malia e hoʻihoʻi mākou i ka lā a hiki i ka paʻa pono ʻana o kā mākou kālā".
I ka wā o ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana, e lawe ana kahi kākāʻōlelo ma mua o ka male ma mua i ka mea āu e ʻike ai "mai loko mai" (ʻike) ʻoiai e paipai nei iā ʻoe e nānā i nā mea o waho i (nā mea me ka ʻole o kou mau manaʻo i mea e hoʻoholo ai ʻoe. ʻaʻole kapua).
ʻO ia kekahi o nā keu pono nui o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana e kōkua ai i nā kāne e hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lākou mākaukau no ka male ʻana.
2. Hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo ai ma mua o kou mau naʻau
ʻO kahi mea i makemake ʻia e nā kāne pākahi e nānā wale i kēia manawa. ʻO nā keu pono o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ma loko o ka ʻike holistic ma nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka male.
I kēia manawa, e kiʻi ana ke kākāʻōlelo male iā ʻoe e nānā i ka wā e hiki mai ana ma kahi o ka hōʻoia ʻana i nā pono ʻē aʻe o ka ʻōlelo aʻo male.
Makemake ʻolua i nā keiki, a inā pēlā, ahea? Maikaʻi ʻolua me ke kālā? ʻO wai ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka wahine? He aha kāu mau ʻōlelo aloha? He pilina olakino kou me nā mākua o kekahi? ʻO wai e hana i nā hana a puni ka hale? He aha kāu e manaʻo ai mai kekahi i kekahi?
E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole pili ka male i ke aloha i kekahi kanaka. E pili ana i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi ola me kahi kanaka.
Ma nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a nā kāne ma mua o ka male ʻana, loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono e mākaʻikaʻi ai i nā ʻano pilikia āpau, ma mua, e ʻike pono e male ana ʻoe i ka mea kūpono nāu.
Ke noʻonoʻo nei paha e pili ana i nā pono o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male?
Paipai ʻia - Papa Mālama Mua
3. Kūkā ʻia nā kumu no ka male ʻana
ʻOiai ma ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana, ʻo kekahi mea a ka mea aʻoaʻo e nīnau aku ai iā ʻoe, "No laila, no ke aha i hoʻoholo ai ʻolua e male?"
Inā he nīnau ʻano ʻē paha ia a ʻo kāu pane wale nō "No ke aloha o mākou", he mea maikaʻi kāu i kau inoa ai no kekahi mau kau. Maikaʻi loa ke aloha, akā makemake ʻoe i kahi mea ʻoi aku ma mua o ke aloha i mea e hana pū ai i loko o kahi ola holoʻokoʻa.
Pono ʻoe i ke aloha. Pono ʻoe i ka mahalo pū. Pono ʻoe i ka launa pū. Pono ʻoe i nā pahuhopu a me nā hoʻolālā no kāu pilina. ʻO kekahi o nā pono o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana me ke alakaʻi loea e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomohala a paʻa i kou pilina i ka wā o kou paʻa.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻia kahi kanaka naʻauao inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e pau ai kahi pilina, e nānā pehea i hoʻomaka ai. ʻO ka maopopo e pili ana i kāu mau kumu mua a me nā kumu no ka hui pū ʻana e hāʻawi i ka nui o ka mōakāka i ka mea e koi ʻia ai e hana i kāu pilina ma hope o kāu lā male.
4. Uhi ʻia nā kumuhana maikaʻi ʻole
E kaʻana like ana ʻoe i kāu wahi e noho ai, kou manawa a ʻaneʻane nā mea āpau āpau e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male ma mua e kūkākūkā ai i kekahi mau kumuhana ʻoluʻolu ʻole. ʻO nā pōmaikaʻi o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka wehe ʻana a me ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā pilikia o ka male ʻana e hiki ai ke hōʻino i ka male ma hope.
He aha ka mea e manaʻo ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male? ʻO ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono a me kahi wahi palekana e ʻike ai i nā pane i kāu mau nīnau āpau e koʻikoʻi i ka launa i ka pilina.
I ka wā o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa nā ʻike ma nā nīnau e like me he aha kāu helu ʻaiʻē? He aha kāu mau ʻano maikaʻi ʻole? ʻOi aku kēlā, he aha kekahi o kāu nā ʻike traumatic a me nā makaʻu nui loa? Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana i nā mea ma ke ākea i kēia manawa, i kekahi ala ai ʻole ʻē aʻe e puka ana lākou ma hope.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole ʻole nā maka o ʻolua a me kāu pakanā. Hiki i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka wā ma mua ke pale aku i kēlā hanana.
5. Hāʻawi ke kākāʻōlelo i ka manaʻo kaulike
I ka manawa i pau ai kāu mau kau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male, ʻo ia ka manawa no ka mea aʻoaʻo e hāʻawi ai i ko lākou manaʻo a hopena paha.
E ʻōlelo paha lākou "He pāʻani maikaʻi loa ʻolua" a i ʻole e koi paha iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo hou i ka hui pū ʻana. ʻOiai ʻo ia nō iā ʻoe e koho i ka mea hope loa, ma ka liʻiliʻi he kanaka kaulike ʻole kāu i kaʻana like i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ma mua o ka male ʻana e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻike hohonu o ka mea āu e kau inoa nei inā koho ʻoe e neʻe i mua, kahi mea maikaʻi. A i kā lākou ʻōlelo ʻana “He auneke pale e kū pono ai i kahi paona o ka hoʻōla.” Akau? Akau.
Nā papa ma mua a me nā puke aʻoaʻo ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka male
ʻO ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke ma ke aʻo ʻana ma mua ma ka pūnaewele a i ʻole ma ka pepa hiki ke hoʻopōmaikaʻi i ka male ma nā ʻano ʻoi aku ma mua o hoʻokahi. Eia nā kumu koʻikoʻi ʻekolu e heluhelu i nā puke aʻoaʻo e pili ana i ka male.
Nui a hewahewa nā puke aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka manawa no nā kāne e kōkua iā lākou e aʻo e pili ana i ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana o ka male, ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka hakakā, ka waiwai o ka male a me ka pilina ma ka male.
Ma kahi o a ma kahi o ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana, hiki i nā kāne ke lawe i kekahi o nā papa ma mua o ka male a i ʻole nā papa male ma ka pūnaewele e aʻo e pili ana i nā ala e hoʻopaʻa ai i ka pilina aloha ikaika, e lanakila i nā pilikia a me ka hauʻoli i ka launa o ka male.
ʻOiai ʻo ka kuʻuna kuʻuna he alo a he alo e koi nui ʻia ai, hiki i nā kāne ke koho i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua ma ka pūnaewele. Hiki i nā kāne ke ʻai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ma ke ʻano he ala leʻaleʻa a maʻalahi hoʻi e hoʻomaka i kā lāua male male ma ka wāwae ʻākau.