Anter
- 1. E hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi manawa e kaumaha ai
- 2. E mākaukau e kala aku
- 3. E ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo male
- 4. Mai pani
- 5. E mālama i nā hoʻoweliweli mai ka papaʻaina
Ke kū kekahi kāne a wahine i mua o ko lākou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha e haʻi i ko lākou aloha kekahi i kekahi, i loko o kā lākou hoʻohiki ʻana o ka male, he mea maʻamau ka lohe ʻana iā lākou e ʻōlelo ana "E haʻalele wau i nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau a kūpaʻa wale wau iā ʻoe i nā lā a pau o koʻu ola ʻana. . ”
Eia naʻe, ʻoiai ua kamaʻilio ʻia kēlā mau huaʻōlelo me nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa, hiki i nā mea ke kū. Ma muli paha o nā pilikia kamaʻilio ʻana, nā pilikia pili a i ʻole ʻelua a ʻelua paha mau kānaka e like me ko lākou manaʻo pono ʻole e hoʻokō ʻole ʻia e kā lākou wahine.
Eia nō naʻe, he aha ka hihia, inā aia kekahi mea a ka hapanui o nā kākāʻōlelo male e ʻaelike ai, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ka pili ʻole o ka hihia e pili ana i ke kāne a kāne a wahine paha i pili ai. ʻAneʻane mau, pili ia i ka haʻihaʻi i loko o ka male ponoʻī.
ʻO ka mea e hiki mai ana ma hope o ka male male kahi e waiho ai ka hoa ʻelua e noʻonoʻo nei pehea e mālama ai i ka male ma hope o ka hihia. Loaʻa hou mai ka infidelity a i ʻole shui pū ʻana ma hope o ka moekolohe pono ke ahonui loa, hoʻonā, a me ka hoʻokō.
ʻOiai he nui nā ala e mālama ai i kāu male ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole, ʻaʻole loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kāne ke loaʻa kahi male kūleʻa ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole.
No laila inā ʻo ʻoe kekahi mea i ʻike hou i kahi hihia i loko o kāu hui male, e like me ke kaumaha o ka puʻuwai e like me ka ʻike, lana ka manaʻolana. ʻOiai paʻakikī e manaʻoʻiʻo i kēia manawa, aia nō ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻopakele ʻana i ka male ma hope o ka moekolohe hana ʻia. Eia ʻelima o lākou:
1. E hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi manawa e kaumaha ai
Pili kēia i ke kanaka i loaʻa ka hihia a me ka wahine a ka wahine i hōʻino ʻia. Inā aia kekahi mea a kekahi mea i ʻike i ka hihia ma mua e haʻi iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ia e like ka like o kāu male. ʻOi loa i ka hihia o ka moekolohe pinepine ʻole i ka male.
I kekahi manawa, maikaʻi paha ka hopena (no ka mea ʻo ka hana ʻana ma waena o kahi hihia e hana i kahi ʻano paʻa like ʻole), akā ʻaʻole like.
No laila, pono ʻolua i ka manawa e hoʻoponopono ai i ka mea i hana ʻia, e huhū ʻole e pili ana i ka mea i hana ʻia a ʻae, kaumaha i ka mea i hala, no ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana no ka mea e lilo ana kāu "maʻamau hou".
E ʻike nei pehea e loaʻa ai ka hilinaʻi ʻole hoʻomaka me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea i hana ʻia a me nā kumu kūpono paha no ia. ʻO ka maʻamau, he mau manawa kēia i nā kāne e hoʻomaopopo piha i ka nui o ka ʻeha i hana ʻia e nā hana a kā lāua hoa.
2. E mākaukau e kala aku
He kanaka naʻauao loa kēlā i ʻōlelo mua he ʻelua mau kala kala nui loa ka male ʻana. ʻOiai ʻo ka hoʻohiki ʻana i ka male i hoʻohiki ai kekahi i kekahi no ka ʻoi aku a ʻoi paha o ka maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻOiai hāʻule maoli ka pili ʻole i ka mahele "no ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi" o ka hoʻohiki male, he mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo he fallible kēlā me kēia kanaka a aloha ʻole kekahi mau mea ʻelua i kekahi i kekahi ʻaʻole e hoʻokō ʻia kahi hihia (inā ʻaʻole kahi kino, ma mua paha o kahi ʻona ʻekahi).
ʻO ka kala ʻana i kekahi ʻaʻole ia he nānā ʻole iā ʻoe i ka mea e hiki mai ana.
He aha ka manaʻo e ʻae ʻoe e hana i ka mea no ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka male o kāu male ma mua o ka pili. No ka moʻolelo, mea nui ia no ka mea i pili i ka hihia e noi i kā lākou wahine no ke kala a kala pū iā lākou iho.
ʻO kekahi o nā mea nui loa ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e haʻalele ai i ka moekolohe a noho pū e ʻike i ke kumu o ke kala ʻana i kāu male.
3. E ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo male
Hana paha ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ma hope o ka moekolohe? ʻĀ, aia kekahi mau kāne i hiki ke ola i kahi hihia me ka ʻole o ke kōkua o kahi kākāʻōlelo male, akā ʻo kēlā mau mea ʻokoʻa ʻaʻole ka rula.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke hiki mai i ka hoʻopakele ʻana i kāu male ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole, ʻo ka hihia he mea hōʻeha loa ia o ka hilinaʻi, pono ʻoe i kahi loea e kōkua iā ʻoe i ka pehea e hoʻolohe ai i kekahi i kekahi, kala aku i kekahi i kekahi a mahi i kahi hoʻolālā no ka pehea neʻe i mua.
Hāʻawi ke kākāʻōlelo male i kahi o nā pono hana i hiki ai i nā kāne ke komo i loko noho male ma hope o ka moekolohe akā e noi ia no ka hoʻokō loa a me ke ahonui mai nā hoa ʻelua.
4. Mai pani
Inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea i hana i kēia hihia, a laila ua ʻike paha ʻoe i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole mai ka hilahila a me ka makaʻu i ka huikau a me ka hopohopo. I kekahi ʻaoʻao, inā ʻo ʻoe ka wahine e hoʻolohe nei e pili ana i ka hihia, ua manaʻo paha ʻoe i nā mea āpau mai ka huhū a me ke kaumaha e hopohopo a me ka palekana ʻole.
ʻO kēia mau manaʻo āpau e makemake i kahi kāne e pani i lalo, kūkulu i kahi paia a laila huki mai kekahi i kekahi ʻoiai ʻo ia ka hope loa. mea pono e hoʻololi i ka ʻōlelo no ka hoʻopakele ʻana i ka male ma hope o ka hihia.
Inā aia kekahi "ʻili kala" i hiki mai kahi hihia, aia i kahi manawa ʻelua mau kānaka i ke kūlana he 100 pākēneka maʻalahi, kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke aʻo mai a pili kekahi i kekahi i kekahi ʻano ʻano ʻokoʻa. .
A ʻo kēia, i ka manawa, hiki ke hānai i kahi pae pilina hou loa. Skani pū ana ma hope o ka hoʻopunipuni hoʻomaka me ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu nāwaliwali me kāu hoa a ʻaʻole hoʻi e wili i ke kaumaha, ka hewa, a me ka hilahila.
5. E mālama i nā hoʻoweliweli mai ka papaʻaina
Ke hana nei ʻoe i ke kaʻina o ka hoʻopakele ʻana i kāu male mai ka moekolohe ʻole, pono ʻole e ʻōlelo ʻia nā ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli.
Hoʻopili kēia i ka hoʻoweliweli e haʻalele, hoʻoweliweli e faila no ka hemo a, inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea i hana i ka hihia, hoʻoweliweli e hele i ke kanaka āu i hoʻopunipuni ai i kāu wahine.
Ke hoʻi mai nei mai kahi hihia e koi ana i ka makemake o nā kāne a pau e kau i kā lākou mea nui a me ka hana i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka male i hope, ʻaʻole e wāwahi hou i lalo me nā manaʻo o ka haʻalele i ka pili.
Hoʻopakele i ka male ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole ʻaʻole maʻalahi, akā me kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pū me kekahi manawa, hiki nō ia. Noho hāmama. Noho mākaukau. A noho i ka makemake e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kāu male ʻana.