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- Ke ʻimi nei i kahi kumu no ka aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo?
- 1. Nā pilikia kamaʻilio
- 2. Ka nele aloha
- 3. ʻO ka wahine ma ke ʻano he ʻenemi
- 4. Ke ola moekolohe maikaʻi ʻole
- 5. ʻO ka pono ʻole
- 6. Holo kaʻawale
Ua ʻike ʻoe a i ʻole kāu pakanā i nā ʻōuli e pono ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male?
Inā ʻoe i ʻike i nā lepa ʻulaʻula e peahi ana i ka makani e ʻōlelo ana he pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka pilikia o ka male, a laila ua ʻike ʻē ʻoe i ka pilikia i loko o kāu paradaiso.
Ma ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kākāʻōlelo male ʻoi loa e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo aʻoaʻo kūkā maikaʻi, ke hele nei ʻoe i ke ala ma ke ala kūpono.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole ʻike ka hapa nui o nā kāne male i ka pilikia o kā lāua male a ʻike ʻole i nā ʻōuli o ka male pilikia.
Hele nā kāne āpau i kahi papa hōʻole kahi a lākou e manaʻo ai e maikaʻi nā mea, akā i kekahi lā ua ʻike lākou ua ulu a kaʻawale lākou kekahi i kekahi a aia ka pilina ma ka ʻāina pōhaku.
ʻAʻole lākou i noʻonoʻo e ʻimi i ke kōkua ʻoihana ma ke ʻano he koho a i ʻole he nīnau paha, "He manaʻo maikaʻi paha ka ʻōlelo aʻo male?"
Mai kali a kū kēia i kāu a me kāu wahine. He maikaʻi ke ʻae he hewa kekahi i kāu pili a maikaʻi hoʻi ke noi no ke kōkua inā manaʻo ʻoe he pono ia iā ʻoe.
No laila, hiki i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ke hoʻopakele i kahi pilina? Hana ʻia ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ʻaʻole wale no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia i loko o kāu male, akā hana ʻia nō hoʻi ia e kōkua i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kou pilina me kāu wahine. ʻO ka ʻae ʻana i nā pilikia a me nā pilikia i kou pilina e hoʻolōʻihi e hōʻeha paha i kāu male a haehae iā ʻoe ma kahi o kekahi.
E aʻo e heluhelu i nā hōʻailona e pono ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male a ʻimi i ke kōkua mai kahi kākāʻōlelo male ke ʻike koke ʻoe aia kekahi mau mea e pono ai e hoʻoponopono i kāu pili.
Ke ʻimi nei i kahi kumu no ka aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo?
Ma muli o kāu mau pono kikoʻī a me ke kōkua o nā hana aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻelua a me nā ʻenehana a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo no ka male, hiki i kahi loea o ka male ke mālama i nā pilikia pili a hāʻawi i ke kōkua male e hoʻāla hou i ka hauʻoli o ka pilina.
He aha ka mea e manaʻo ai mai ka ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne?
Ma waho o ka nīnau ʻia ʻana i nā nīnau aʻoaʻo ʻelua, kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo mai ka ʻōlelo aʻo male ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā hana e kōkua ai i ka hana ʻana i nā ala hou a maikaʻi hoʻi e hoʻoponopono ai i ka hakakā.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i nā ʻōlelo aʻo aʻoaʻo ʻelua e kōkua iā ʻoe e kākau hou i ka moʻolelo o kāu pili.
ʻO kahi pane kikoʻī i ka nīnau, "he aha ka mea e manaʻo ai mai ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male?" ʻo ia me ke kōkua o ke kolu o ka ʻaoʻao, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻola i kāu pili i haki me kāu wahine a komo i kahi mokuna hou maikaʻi a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi o ka male hauʻoli a olakino hoʻi.
1. Nā pilikia kamaʻilio
ʻO ke kamaʻilio kahi kī nui i ka kūleʻa o kāu pilina. Pono nā kāne e hāmama kekahi i kekahi a pono e manaʻo hiki iā lākou ke kaʻana like i kekahi mea me kā lākou pakanā.
Akā ke ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole kamaʻilio hou ʻoe a me kāu wahine a i ʻole hoʻopau mau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, a laila ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona āu e pono ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male.
Ke makaʻu ʻoe e ʻōlelo a kaʻana like i kāu mau mea me kāu wahine no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hana i kahi ala maikaʻi ʻole a laila ua hiki i ka manawa e ʻae a maikaʻi ʻole ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu pili a ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona e pono ai ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male kahi e hiki ai i kekahi ke uwao. ʻo ʻoe a me kāu hoa.
2. Ka nele aloha
ʻO ke aloha a me ke aloha e noho mau i kahi male olakino.
No laila i ka manawa hea ʻoe e pono ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male?
Inā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e kāohi i ke aloha i kēlā me kēia manawa a hewa ʻole kekahi o ʻoe, a laila he pilikia kāu e pono ai e hoʻonā.
Ma o kekahi ʻaoʻao aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo male a me nā nīnau a nā kākāʻōlelo male e nīnau ai, e aʻo ʻolua i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka wā e hakakā ai nā kāne male, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hōʻike i kāu wahine i ka liʻiliʻi o kā lākou aloha.
ʻAʻole pono kou huhū a me nā mea hōʻeha paha kekahi i kekahi i kou aloha a me kou aloha kekahi i kekahi.
3. ʻO ka wahine ma ke ʻano he ʻenemi
Manaʻo kekahi mau kāne e maikaʻi wale kā lāua pili inā e loli kā lākou wahine ma kekahi ʻano.
Akā ʻo ka hoʻokau ʻana i ka hewa i kāu hoa no nā mea i hewa i loko o kāu pilina ʻaʻole ia ke ala kūpono e hoʻoikaika ai i kāu paʻa.
Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu ʻenemi ma mua o ka ʻenemi ma mua o kahi hoa i ke ola a laila ʻo ia nā hōʻailona alohilohi āu e pono ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male kahi e hiki ai i kekahi ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ke kumu o kēia.
Manaʻo ʻia nā kāne e hana pū e hoʻopau i ko lāua pilina. No laila inā ʻoe e hele kūʻē kekahi i kekahi, a laila pono ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne e lanakila ai i kēia kūlana.
4. Ke ola moekolohe maikaʻi ʻole
ʻIke ka poʻe āpau i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pilina moekolohe olakino ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine kahi mea nui o ka hana ʻana i kahi male.
Akā inā ʻaʻole e hoʻokō ʻia nā pono moekolohe o hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha, a laila hiki i kēia ke kumu i nā pilikia ʻē aʻe i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
He mea nui na ʻolua e ʻike inā ua hoʻokō ʻia ko ʻolua pono kino ʻaʻole paha. ʻO ke ola moekolohe dwindling kekahi o nā hōʻailona pono ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male.
Hiki i ke ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ke kōkua iā ʻoe e leo i kāu pono i kāu hoa a loaʻa hope kahi hopena e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kou ola male.
5. ʻO ka pono ʻole
ʻO ka hilinaʻi kahi mea nui o kēlā me kēia pilina. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kāu wahine a hana paha ʻoe i nā mea ma hope o kā kua o kāu hoa, a laila pilikia nui kāu male.
ʻAʻole pono ka poʻe male e hūnā i kekahi i kekahi. Hiki i ke kolohe ʻole ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia ʻē aʻe e like me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana me ke kālā a i ʻole ka moe kolohe ʻole. Hiki i ke ʻano male male ke alakaʻi iā ʻoe pehea e lanakila ai i ka pono ʻole, a lanakila i ka hoʻowalewale ʻia o ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i kāu pili.
6. Holo kaʻawale
ʻO ka mea hope loa, inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau ana e pili ana i nā mea āpau, a manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole pili i ka ola o kāu wahine, a ʻo ka hope, a laila pono e loli kekahi mea.
Hiki i nā pilikia pinepine hou ke hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe a me ka kaʻawale i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa.
I kēia manawa, e manaʻo ʻoe ua loli kekahi mea i kāu pilina a ke neʻe kaʻawale nei ʻoe me kāu wahine. Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou i ke kanaka āu e male ai i kēia manawa. Ke hiki kēia e ʻimi ʻoe i ke kōkua ma mua o ka lohi.
ʻO ka hele ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ʻaʻole ia he kumu no kāu male male ʻole. ʻO ka nīnau "kōkua a ʻeha paha ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male?" redundant, no ka mea he pōmaikaʻi wale nō ʻolua i ka holo lōʻihi
Eia nō naʻe, no kēlā mau kāne me ka hapa nui o ka manawa, me kā lākou papa kuhikuhi ʻaʻole lawa kūpono e lawa ai i nā kau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, he koho maikaʻi loa ka ʻōlelo aʻo male male pūnaewele.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui me kahi loea, empathy a hoʻomaopopo hoʻi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ma ke kelepona, a i ʻole ma o nā kau wikiō, i kahi manawa kūpono mai ka pilikino o kou home ponoʻī.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻohi i nā pōmaikaʻi like mai ka hoʻolauna pūnaewele e like me kāu e ʻōlelo ai me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a loko.
Ke ʻimi nei i ke kōkua mai ke kākāʻōlelo male ka mea maʻalahi iā ʻoe i kāu male a makemake ʻoe e hana i kahi mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai a hoʻoikaika i kou pilina me kāu wahine.