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- He aha ke kamaʻilio?
- 1. E nīnau i nā nīnau hāmama
- 2. Hoʻolohe hoʻolohe
- 3. Lohe
- 4. He mea nui ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
- 5. kamaʻilio waha ʻole
- 6. Alanui ʻaoʻao ʻelua
- 7. Nānā mau
- Panina hopena
ʻO ke aloha he mea kupaianaha, ʻike pinepine i ka hoʻokalakupua. Akā i kekahi manawa, holo mākou i nā hanana kuhi hewa a me nā hakakā, a hiki i ka kamaʻilio ʻana ke lilo i mea paʻakikī. Inā kamaʻāina kēia kani, e ʻike ʻoe i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ke kūkā kamaʻilio maikaʻi.
Ua hoʻomaka ʻoe i kahi kamaʻilio maʻalahi e pili ana i kekahi mea me kāu hoa, akā ua mālama ʻia i kekahi ʻano e hele i waho o ka kaohi a ulu i kahi hoʻopaʻapaʻa nui. Inā kani kēia hiʻohiʻona i ka bele, pono ʻoe e ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe wale.
He nui ka poʻe i ʻike i kēia ʻano pilikia kamaʻilio o nā kāne ma ka liʻiliʻi ma hoʻokahi manawa i ko lākou pilina no ka mea nele lākou i ka mākau kamaʻilio maikaʻi.
He nani nā pilina ke aloha ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi, leʻaleʻa, a pēlā aku, akā ʻaʻohe mea i ʻōlelo he maʻalahi lākou. ʻO ka pilikia nui me nā pilina, ʻo ka pili a pili aloha paha, ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai nā koena o ka honua.
Hoʻokumu ʻia lākou e nā kānaka ʻelua e lawe i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa, nā ʻike i hala, nā moʻolelo, a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia. Hiki ke nani a hoʻonui hoʻi no ka pilina, akā hiki ke alakaʻi ʻia i kahi mau pilikia kamaʻilio ʻelua. ʻO ia ke kumu he mea nui e kaʻana a kūkā i nā mea me kāu hoa me kāu kūpono.
ʻAʻole nui ka poʻe e nānā nui i ka kamaʻilio ʻana no ka mea piliwi lākou e kamaʻilio lawa ana me kā lākou pakanā. Akā he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi mea me kāu hoa - keiki, hana, pilikia o ke kaʻa, nā hoʻolālā no ka ʻaina awakea, ke aniau a pēlā aku.
Eia nō naʻe, ke kamaʻilio nei ʻoe i nā mea maʻamau a papa ʻole i kēlā me kēia lā, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea nui.
Inā makemake ʻoe e ola i kahi pilina kūleʻa a hauʻoli hoʻi, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea nui o Palapala Kahua. ʻO ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ka mea koʻikoʻi ʻaʻole wale no nā kāne wale nō akā nā pilina ma ka laulā - me kāu poʻe hoa hana, hoaaloha, makua āpau i ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
I kēia lā, e kaʻana like mākou i kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pehea e loaʻa ai kahi kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻelua. ʻO ka heluhelu ʻana i nā hōʻike ma nā pūnaewele hoʻolauna hiki ke lilo i ʻano hana maikaʻi, ʻoiai hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kekahi mau moʻolelo a aʻo mai i ka ʻike o kekahi.
He aha ke kamaʻilio?
Ma ka wehewehe ʻana, ke lawe nei ke kamaʻilio i nā leka mai kekahi kanaka a i kekahi. ʻO ke kumu e hōʻike i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe i kāu mau makemake a me kou mau manaʻo. Ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i nā mākau kamaʻilio kamaʻilio kūpono, e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia mau mākau e ʻae iā ʻoe e lohe a hoʻolohe.
Pono kāu hoa e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo e like me ʻoe. No laila, no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka kamaʻilio ʻana ma ka male ʻana, pono e wehe i kahi e hiki ai i nā mea ʻelua ke hana me ka hopohopo ʻole.
He mea nui e ʻike ʻaʻole hānau ʻia mākou me nā mākau kamaʻilio maikaʻi loa. ʻOiaʻiʻo hoʻomohala kekahi poʻe i nā mākau ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma o ke ola ma muli o nā ʻike like ʻole. Nānā ʻole inā heʻuʻuku a ʻaʻohe paha mākau kamaʻilio, pono ʻoe e ʻike he hiki ke hoʻomohala iā lākou.
Hoʻomaopopo mākou he maʻalahi ka maʻalahi ma mua o ka hana. No laila, hoʻomākaukau mākou i ʻehiku mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka male.
1. E nīnau i nā nīnau hāmama
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma mua, pili ka kamaʻilio ʻana o ka hui ma mua o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka mea āu i ʻai ai no ka ʻaina awakea a i ʻole kekahi mea e like me kēlā. ʻOi aku ia e pili ana i ka hiki i kahi e haʻi aku ai kāu hoa iā ʻoe i nā mea nui e pili ana iā lākou iho. Akā ʻaʻole maʻalahi kēlā no ka poʻe he nui.
Eia nō naʻe, inā hoʻomaka ʻoe e hoʻopōpō i kāu ipo wahine a ipo paha me nā tona o nā nīnau ʻaʻole lākou e mākaukau e kūkākūkā, hiki i kahi pilikia. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, aia kekahi ala pololei aʻe pehea ʻoe e hiki ai e ʻike a hoʻomaopopo i ke kanaka me ka hele ʻole i ko lākou mau palena -ma ka nīnau ʻana nā nīnau nīnau hāmama.
ʻO kēia nā nīnau ke koho ʻoe, no ka laʻana, He lā maikaʻi kāu? Nīnau hou ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me He aha kou lā ?; He aha kau hana i kēia lā?
Hana kēia mau nīnau ma ke ʻano he hoʻomaʻamaʻa kamaʻilio a nā kāne a hana i kahi hou aʻe no ke kanaka e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole a lākou i ʻike ai i ka lā.
2. Hoʻolohe hoʻolohe
Inā ʻoe e nānā i kahi ʻatikala kamaʻilio ʻelua, e heluhelu pinepine ʻoe he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e paipai i ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā pilina. Manaʻo ʻoe he manaʻo maʻamau ia, ʻeā?
ʻOiaʻiʻo, me he mea lā ia, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā mākau hoʻolohe i nā pilina e paʻakikī loa e hana pēlā inā ʻoe i kahi kūkā kamaʻilio.
Hoʻohui ʻia, makaʻu pinepine mākou i lohe ʻole ʻia ko mākou leo,ʻaʻohe o mākou manawa e ʻōlelo ai i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai, e wikiwiki mākou e kamaʻilio me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i nā makemake o haʻi. Akā hiki i kēia ʻano hana ke hoʻonui i nā pilikia ma kahi o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana iā lākou.
3. Lohe
ʻAe, no laila hiki paha iā ʻoe ke haʻalele i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, akā ke hoʻolohe nei ʻoe i kāu hoa?
I nā manawa he nui, ke hoʻohana nei ka poʻe i kēia manawa ʻaʻole e hoʻolohe i ka mea i aloha ʻia akā e hele i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai e ʻōlelo no ka wā aʻe o ke kamaʻilio ʻana. ʻO ka manaʻo kahi ʻāpana o ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi Couple e hōʻike nei iā ʻoe iho i ka mea a ka mea ʻē aʻe e kamaʻilio nei.
Hāʻawi kekahi mau mea hoʻoponopono ʻelua i kekahi mau hana mākau kamaʻilio e hoʻonā i kēia pilikia. ʻO kekahi o nā manaʻo ke lohe ʻoe i kāu pakanā e kamaʻilio ana, hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hana hou i nā mea a lākou i ʻōlelo ai ma kahi o ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i kāu pane. Kāhea lākou i kēia ʻano noʻonoʻo, a he mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kou poʻo a i ʻole ka leo nui.
4. He mea nui ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻAʻole mākou i aʻo ʻia e hōʻike akāka i ko mākou mau manaʻo. No kēia kumu, ʻaʻole maʻa ka poʻe he nui i ka hana ʻana a i ʻole hiki ʻole ke ʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo, no laila paʻakikī e haʻi waha iā lākou. Akā ʻaʻole wale kēlā, ʻaʻole hū ka hūnā ʻana i kou mau manaʻo. Hiki iā ia ke hana i kahi pilikia koʻikoʻi.
Ke maikaʻi nei nā mea āpau inā ʻaʻole a hāʻawi ʻole paha i kāu pakanā i ka hana hāmau e pili ana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana. Nānā ʻole i ka paʻakikī e like me ia, pono ʻoe e hana i ka wehe a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO kekahi o nā hoʻolālā kamaʻilio kūpono i ka male ʻana kāu makemake e kaʻana like i nā manaʻo ʻaʻole paha ʻoe i kaʻana like me kekahi, e hōʻike i kou palupalu, a pēlā aku.
I loko o ke wikiō ma lalo, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Stacy Rocklein he mea nui e kaʻana like iā mākou iho i mea e pili ai i kahi pilina pili loa. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia pono mākou e mākaukau e hoʻolohe i nā pane. E hoʻolohe i kāna ʻōlelo aʻo ma lalo:
5. kamaʻilio waha ʻole
He mea nui ia e like me ka waha o ka kamaʻilio kamaʻilio. ʻO ka nānā ʻana i ka kamaʻilio waha ʻole i nā pilina ke lilo i mea koʻikoʻi i ka lanakila ʻana i kahi mamao kamaʻilio ʻelua.
ʻO ka mea ke aʻo ʻoe pehea e heluhelu ai iā lākou, hoʻomohala ʻoe i kekahi o nā mākau kamaʻilio no nā kāne e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi i ka mea a kāu hoa e ʻōlelo nei.
6. Alanui ʻaoʻao ʻelua
Pono e ʻike i ka pili o ka pilina ma waena o nā kānaka ʻelua, a he kuleana like a kuleana hoʻi lākou no ka papa o ka pilina. Hiki i nā kānaka ʻelua ke hōʻike i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo a e lohe ʻia.
Inā aia ʻoe ma lalo o ka manaʻo e hoʻomalu ana kāu hoa i kēlā me kēia kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana, pono ʻoe e kau i ko lākou manaʻo iā ia a kūkākūkā pehea e ʻokoʻa ai kēia kūlana.
7. Nānā mau
Ke kūkākūkā nei me nā hoa, hiki i nā mea i kekahi manawa ke lilo i ka kaohi a lilo i hoʻopaʻapaʻa paʻakikī e pili ana i nā mea āpau. Hana i nā mea āpau e hōʻalo i kēia no ka pono o kāu pilina.
Maopopo leʻa i kekahi manawa maʻalahi ka huki i nā mea āpau mai ka wā i hala, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana ma ke kumuhana. Inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻohe ala e hoʻokō ai i kēia a ke piʻi nei ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka kū ʻana inā ʻoe e hele wāwae mai ia mea mai.
Panina hopena
Nānā ʻole i ka nui o kou aloha a me kāu hoa me kekahi a pehea kou hauʻoli i ka pilina, ʻaʻole maʻalahi kekahi manawa. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻolua e aʻo pehea e hana ai ma ka kamaʻilio pālua a mākaukau e ulu pū, hiki i nā mea ke ʻoi aku ka pololei. Pehea ʻoe e lawelawe ai i nā kūkākūkā a i ʻole nā paio i kahi pilina?