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- Nānā hihia 1
- No ka ʻōpio kēia akamai.
- Nānā hihia 2
- He moʻolelo pilikino pehea e hiki ai i ka inu ʻana ke hoʻopili i nā ʻohana
- Lawe Hope
ʻO ka helu o nā ʻohana i luku ʻia e ka wai ʻona ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa wale nō i kēlā me kēia makahiki ke noʻonoʻo nui.
No nā makahiki he 30 i hala aku nei, ke kōkua nei ka mea kākau, ke kākāʻōlelo, ke kahu aʻo kumu nui loa, a me ke kuhina ʻo David Essel e hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono hou i nā pilina ʻohana i hōʻino loa ʻia ma muli o ka wai ʻona.
Ma lalo, ua kamaʻilio ʻo David e pili ana i ka pono maoli e pili ana i ka waiʻona a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka waiʻona ma waena o nā ʻohana, inā makemake ʻoe e kiʻi i kahi pū ʻoi loa i ka male ʻana a me nā keiki olakino maikaʻi ʻaʻole wale i kēia manawa akā i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Hōʻike kēia ʻatikala i ka nā hopena o ka waiʻona i nā ʻohana, nā kāne, a me nā keiki.
“Lohi i ka ʻalekole i nā ʻohana. Hoʻopau ia i ke aloha. Hoʻopau ia i ka hilinaʻi. Hoʻopau ia i ka manaʻo pilikino.
Hoʻokumu ia i ka hopohopo nui ʻole no nā keiki e noho nei i kahi home kahi i hōʻino ʻia ka ʻalekohola.
A ʻo ka hōʻino ʻana i ka waiʻona he mea maʻalahi loa ia e hiki mai ana. ʻO nā wahine i ʻoi aku ma mua o ʻelua mau mea inu i ka lā i manaʻo ʻia he kaukaʻi, a ʻo ka neʻe ʻana i ka wai ʻona, a ʻo nā kāne e ʻai ana ma mua o ʻekolu mau mea inu i kēlā lā i kēia lā, ua manaʻo ʻia he ʻalekohola e pili ana i ka ʻona.
Eia nō naʻe, me kēia ʻike, a me ka ʻike ʻana nō hoʻi pehea i luku ai ka ʻona i nā ʻohana he nui a puni ka honua, i kā mākou keʻena e hoʻomau mākou i kēlā me kēia mahina e kiʻi i nā kāhea mai nā ʻohana e hāʻule ana ma muli o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka wai ʻona.
He aha nā pilikia a me nā hopena o ka hana ʻona ma nā ʻohana
Nānā hihia 1
I hoʻokahi makahiki i hala aku nei, ua hele mai kekahi mau kāne no nā kau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka mea ua hakakā lākou no 20 mau makahiki me ka hana ʻino a ke kāne a me ke ʻano codependent o ka wahine, ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e lūlū i ka moku a kūʻē iā ia i nā manawa maʻamau e pili ana i ka pehea. ʻO ka waiʻona e luku ana i kā lāua male.
Ma hope o ka hānau ʻana he ʻelua mau keiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kūlana.
E hala ke kāne i ke ao holoʻokoʻa i ka Pōʻaono, a i ʻole ka Lāpule holoʻokoʻa i ke kolepa ʻana a me ka inu ʻana me kāna mau hoa aloha no ka hoʻi ʻana i ka home ʻona, hoʻomāinoino wale, a hōʻike ʻole i ka hoihoi i ka hoʻokipa ʻana, ke aʻo ʻana a me ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me nā keiki ke ʻole ʻo ia e inu i kona lima.
I koʻu nīnau ʻana iā ia i ke ʻano o ka hana a ka waiʻona i ka hana maikaʻi ʻole o ka male a me ke koʻikoʻi e pili ana iā ia ma waena o kāna mau keiki ʻelua, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "David, ʻaʻohe kuleana o ka Alcohol i ka maikaʻi ʻole o ka male, ʻo kaʻu wahine neʻopaola. ʻAʻole paʻa ʻo ia. Akā ʻaʻohe pili o kaʻu inu me kēlā, ʻo ia kāna pilikia. "
Ua ʻae kāna wahine he codependent ʻo ia, makaʻu ʻo ia i ka lawe ʻana i kāna inu no ka mea i kēlā me kēia manawa āna i hana ai, hakakā nui lākou.
Ua haʻiʻo ia iaʻu i ka wā o ke kau hiki iā ia ke kū i kēlā me kēia manawa aʻu i ʻōlelo ai "maikaʻi loa! E hoʻomaka kākou i kēia lā. E waiho i ka waiʻona i lalo no kou koena o kou ola, e hoʻihoʻi i kāu male, e hoʻihoʻi i kāu pilina me kāu mau keiki ʻelua, a e ʻike kāua i ka hopena o nā mea āpau.
ʻOiai ʻo ia ma ke keʻena, ua haʻi ʻo ia iaʻu i mua o kāna wahine e hana ʻo ia i kēlā.
Akā ma ke kalaiwa home, ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia ua pupule au, ua pupule ʻo ia, a ʻaʻole loa ʻo ia e haʻalele i ka wai ʻona.
Mai ia manawa mai, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike hou iā ia, ʻaʻole hoʻi wau e hana hou me ia no kāna ʻano haʻaheo.
Ua hoʻomau ʻia kāna wahine e komo i loko, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻoholo inā noho ʻo ia, a haʻalele iā ia, a ua pau kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka hana a kāna mau keiki.
ʻAʻole nani iki ke kiʻi.
ʻO ke keiki hiapo ma kahi o 13 mau makahiki, ua hoʻopiha ʻia me ka hopohopo a hoʻonohonoho lākou i kā lākou uaki alarm i 4 AM i kēlā me kēia lā e ala aʻe a holoholo i nā alaloa a me nā ʻanuʻu o ko lākou hale e hoʻāʻo ai iā ia iho i ka hopohopo.
A he aha ke kumu o kona hopohopo?
I ka nīnau ʻana a kona makuahine iā ia, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia: "Ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau nei ʻoe me kou makuakāne, e ʻōlelo mau ana nā makuakāne i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, a pule wale nō wau i kēlā me kēia lā i hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo pū pū kekahi."
No ka ʻōpio kēia akamai.
Ke hoʻi mai ke keiki ʻōpio mai ke kula, hakakā pinepine ʻo ia me kona makuakāne, hōʻole e hana i nā hana, hōʻole i ka hana home, hōʻole e hana i nā mea a ka makuakāne i noi ai.
ʻEwalu wale nō makahiki o kēia keiki, a ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i kona huhū huhū a ʻeha ʻo ia ke kumu o kona makuakāne iā ia, kona kaikaina a me kona makuahine, ʻo ke ala wale nō e hōʻike ai iā ia iho e hele kūʻē i kona makuakāne. makemake makemake
I loko o 30 mau makahiki ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo ʻo Master Life Coach, ua ʻike wau i kēia pāʻani i pāʻani pinepine ʻia. Minamina ia; pupule, ludicrous.
Inā ʻoe e heluhelu ana i kēia i kēia manawa a makemake ʻoe i kāu "cocktail a ʻelua paha i ke ahiahi," makemake wau e noʻonoʻo hou i kēia.
I ka wā e inu mau ana ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne paha, ʻoiai hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau inu i ka lā, ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa ka naʻau no kekahi i kekahi a ma laila no ka loaʻa ʻole o ka naʻau no kā lāua mau keiki.
ʻO kēlā me kēia mea inu ʻona i ʻike i ka hāʻule ʻana o ko lākou ʻohana e kū i ka inu ʻana i hoʻokahi minuke.
Akā ʻo ka poʻe inu ʻona, a i ʻole ka hilinaʻi waiʻona, e hoʻohana i ka deflection, diversion, e hoʻololi i ke kumuhana a e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻohe pili o kēia me kaʻu wai ʻona, ʻo ia wale nō he mau keiki bratty kā mākou ... A i ʻole he kāne lapuwale kaʻu kāne. A i ʻole ʻano maʻalahi paha kaʻu wahine. “
I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻae ke kanaka e hakakā nei me ka waiʻona e hakakā ana lākou, makemake wale lākou e hoʻopiʻi iā haʻi.
Nānā hihia 2
ʻO kekahi mea kūʻai aku aʻu i hana pū ai me kahi wahine i male ʻia me ʻelua mau keiki, i kēlā me kēia Lāpule e haʻi aku ʻo ia i kāna mau keiki e kōkua ʻo ia iā lākou me kā lākou haʻawina home, akā ʻo ka Lāpule kāna "lā inu inu kaiāulu," kahi āna i makemake ai e hui pū me nā wahine ʻē aʻe i ka kaiāulu a inu i ka waina i ka ʻauinalā.
Ke hoʻi ʻo ia i ka home, ʻaʻohe ona ʻano a ʻaʻohe ona ʻano e kōkua ai i kāna mau keiki me kā lākou haʻawina home.
Ke kūʻē a ʻōlelo lākou, "makuahine ua hoʻohiki ʻoe e kōkua ʻoe iā mākou," huhū ʻo ia, e haʻi iā lākou e ulu aʻe, a e aʻo nui lākou i loko o ka pule a haʻalele ʻole i kā lākou hana home e hana ai i nā Lāpule. .
I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, kuhi ʻoe ia, a ke hoʻohana nei ʻo ia i ka loli. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i makemake e ʻae i kāna kuleana i ke koʻikoʻi me kāna mau keiki, no laila e hoʻopiʻi ʻo ia iā lākou i ka wā, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ka lawehala a me ka mea nāna i hana i ko lākou koʻikoʻi.
Ke keiki ʻōpio ʻoe, a noi aku ʻoe i kou makuahine e kōkua iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia Lāpule me ka hana ʻana i kekahi mea, a koho ʻo makuahine i ka wai ʻona ma luna ou, ʻeha kēlā ma ke ala ʻino loa loa.
E ulu a piha kēia mau keiki me ka hopohopo, kaumaha, haʻahaʻa i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, haʻahaʻa iā lākou iho, a lilo paha lākou i poʻe ʻona ʻona iā lākou iho a i ʻole ke komo lākou i ka honua o ka launa pū ʻana, e nānā lākou i nā lā e like loa me ko lākou makuahine. a me ka makuakāne: nā poʻe i loaʻa ʻole ka naʻau.
He moʻolelo pilikino pehea e hiki ai i ka inu ʻana ke hoʻopili i nā ʻohana
Ma ke ʻano he ʻona lama, he mea maoli nā mea āpau aʻu e kākau nei, a he ʻoiaʻiʻo nō ia i koʻu ola pū kekahi.
I ka wā i hoʻomaka mua ai wau e kōkua e hānai i kahi keiki i 1980, inu lama wau i kēlā me kēia pō, a ʻaʻohe ahonui koʻu ahonui a me ka naʻau i kēia keiki.
A ʻaʻole wau haʻaheo o kēlā mau manawa i koʻu ola, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo wau e pili ana iā lākou.
Ma muli o koʻu ola ʻana i kēia nohona pupule o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hānai keiki i ka mālama ʻana i kaʻu ʻalekō kokoke iaʻu, ua eo wau i ke kumu holoʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole wau i hoʻopono me lākou a me aʻu iho.
Akā ua loli nā mea āpau i ka wā aʻu i noʻonoʻo ai, a he kuleana hou wau e kōkua i ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki.
Loaʻa wau i ka naʻau. Aia wau ma laila. Ke ʻeha lākou, ua hiki iaʻu ke noho a kamaʻilio pū me ka ʻeha a lākou e hele nei.
Ke lele nei lākou me ka hauʻoli, lele pū wau me lākou. ʻAʻole hoʻomaka e lele a laila e kiʻi i kahi kīʻaha waina hou e like me kaʻu i hana ai i ka 1980.
Inā he makua ʻoe e heluhelu ana i kēia, a manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole maikaʻi kāu inu ʻona a ʻaʻole ia e hoʻopā i kāu mau keiki, makemake wau e noʻonoʻo hou ʻoe.
ʻO ka neʻe mua e hele i loko a hana me kahi ʻoihana, e hāmama a kūpaʻa hoʻi e pili ana i ka helu kikoʻī o kāu mau inu i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole kēlā me kēia pule.
A pehea ke ʻano o ka inu? 4 mau auneke waina e like me hoʻokahi inu. Hoʻokahi pia e like me hoʻokahi inu. 1 ka ʻaunaki pana o ka rama e like me ka inu.
Lawe Hope
Ke hoʻi nei wau i ka wahine mua aʻu i hana pū ai, i ka wā aʻu i noi aku ai iā ia e kākau i ka nui o kāna mau inu i hoʻokahi lā, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mea e pono ai ʻoe e kiʻi i kahi kīʻaha kī a helu i ka nui o nā pana i kēlā me kēia Tumblr āna e hoʻopiha nei. ua haʻi mua ʻo ia iaʻu he ʻelua wale nō ona inu i ka lā.
Akā i ka helu ʻana o kāna wahine i ka nui o nā pana i hoʻokomo ʻia i hoʻokahi o kāna mau kīʻaha, ʻehā mau kī a ʻoi aku paha no kēlā me kēia inu.
No laila no kēlā me kēia inu, ua haʻiʻo ia iaʻu he ʻehā kāna mau inu, ʻaʻole hoʻokahi.
ʻO ka hōʻole he mea mana nui ia i ka lolo o ke kanaka.
Mai makaʻu e hōʻino i kāu mau keiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Mai hōʻino i ka hōʻino ʻana i kou pilina me kāu kāne, wahine, pokii, a ipo wahine paha.
ʻO ka waiʻona kekahi o nā mea luku nui loa o ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, a me ka waiwai ponoʻī.
He kumu hoʻohālike ʻoe, a i ʻole manaʻo ʻia ʻo ʻoe kekahi. Inā ʻaʻohe ou ikaika e haʻalele i ka inu no ka pono o kāu keiki a no ka pono o kāu hoa, ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi inā ʻaʻohe ou ʻohana e launa pū.
E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā me kēia mea inā haʻalele ʻoe i ka ʻohana i hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i ka ʻoluʻolu o ka wai ʻona ma kou ʻaoʻao.
E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēlā.