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- E hoʻoholo i kāu kuleana i ka hana pono ʻole o kāu male
- E hoʻomaopopo i ka pono e nānā ma mua o kou noho ʻana i kēia ʻano pupule
- 1. Mai kau palena wale, e pili me nā hopena
- 2. Ma loko o 60 mau lā o ka launa pū ʻana, e ʻike ʻoe i nā hōʻailona o ka hana pupule ʻana
- 3. Ua hala ka mahalo ma muli o nā palena me ka hopena ʻole
- 4. E kiʻi i ka kōkua ʻoihana e kau i nā mea i ka manaʻo iā ʻoe
- A he aha kāu e pono ai e hana?
Inā pili aloha ʻoe a male paha i kahi mea hana pupule, manaʻo paha ʻoe no lākou ka hana keaka a me nā haunaele. A ʻo kekahi hapa o ia papa, ʻaʻole ka hapa nui.
No nā makahiki 28 i hala iho nei, ke kōkua nei ka mea kākau helu maikaʻi ʻelua, ke kākāʻōlelo, a me ke kumu aʻo ola ʻo David Essels i ka poʻe e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o kā mākou hana āpau ke hele mākou i kahi pilina aloha maikaʻi ʻole.
Ma lalo, ua wāwahi ʻo David i ka kaʻao ka mea o kāu hoa ka pilikia. ʻO kahi pila paʻakikī e ale no nā mea he nui, akā ʻo ka mea wale nō e pono inā makemake ʻoe e ola i kahi ola o ka maluhia a me ka hauʻoli.
E hoʻoholo i kāu kuleana i ka hana pono ʻole o kāu male
Ua hele mai ʻo ia i loko o ke keʻena, hoʻoluliluli ʻo ia i kona poʻo, e haʻohaʻo ana pehea lā e hiki ai i ka pō ke mare ʻo ia i kahi wahine lawehala ʻole. Noho au a hoʻolohe ma kahi o 45 mau minuke iā ia e hele mau ana, nā pupule āpau āna e lawe ai i kona ola i kēlā me kēia lā.
I ka hopena o kāna monologue, ua nīnau wau iā ia i kahi nīnau maʻalahi, "he aha kāu kuleana i ka hana pono ʻole o kāu male?"
Wikiwiki ʻo ia e pane. “ʻAʻohe mea. Hana wau i nā mea āpau aʻu e ʻōlelo ai e hana ana, a ʻoi aku, ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o kaʻu wahine hemahema.
I ka hopena, ua ʻike ʻo ia i kaʻu mea e hoʻāʻo nei e aʻo iā ia i nā manawa a pau, a iā ia ka hope. A ma ke ʻona ʻana, e kūʻokoʻa ia.
ʻIke ʻoe, i kou wā e pili ana i kahi "mea hana pupule" kahi mea nāna e hoʻolilo i kāu kālā āpau, nāna e ʻōlelo e hana lākou i nā mea nāu a ʻaʻole hoʻi, e hōʻike lohi nei i nā hanana āpau āu e hele ai. makemake mākou e hoʻopiʻi iā lākou no nā pilikia i loko o kā mākou pili aloha.
Akā ka hoʻopuka maoli? ʻO Us. ʻO ʻoe paha. ʻO wau anei, inā makemake mākou e noho me kēlā ʻano pupule.
A, ma hope o 30 mau makahiki ma ke ʻano he aʻoaʻo a he kumu aʻo ola, ua ʻike wau i nā mea āpau, ua lohe wau i nā mea āpau, a eia nō naʻe, i ka nānā ʻana i ka pupule o nā aloha aloha he nui i kēia lā, maopopo iaʻu ʻo mākou ka pilikia.
No ke aha mai? No ka mea ua noho mākou. No ka mea, hoʻomanawanui mākou me ia. No ka mea hana wale mākou i nā ʻano nagging, nā hoʻoweliweli a me nā mea hou aʻe.
ʻAʻohe o mākou kinipōpō e hele wāwae a hele aku paha i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo lōʻihi lōʻihi e ʻike pehea e lawelawe ai i kahi pili pono ʻole.
E hoʻomaopopo i ka pono e nānā ma mua o kou noho ʻana i kēia ʻano pupule
No laila inā pili aloha ʻoe a male paha i kekahi e hoʻohilahila loa iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia lā, no ka mea ua wahaheʻe lākou, kamaʻilio waha, hoʻolilo i ka nui o ke kālā, ʻai nui, inu nui, a haki paha i kā lākou ʻōlelo ma kahi maʻamau, e nānā i ka mea Pono mākou e nānā ma mua o ka noho ʻana i kēia ʻano pupule.
1. Mai kau palena wale, e pili me nā hopena
Inā kau ʻoe i mau palena e like me “inā haki ʻoe i kāu huaʻōlelo i hoʻokahi manawa a pau kā mākou hana. Inā hoʻolilo ʻoe i kālā hou a laila ua ʻaelike mākou ua pau. ” Akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ukali me ia, ʻo ʻoe ka pilikia.
ʻO ʻoe ka mea hiki. ʻO ʻoe ka nagger. Maikaʻi loa ʻoe i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena akā ʻaʻohe ou ikaika e ukali ai me kahi hopena a haʻalele maoli i ka wā e hana hou ai lākou.
ʻIke wau i kēia i nā manawa āpau i ka honua o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i nā pilina, kahi mea ʻona a kanaka ʻona paha kekahi, a ke hoʻoweliweli mau nei ka hoa iā lākou e haʻalele ana lākou akā ʻaʻole loa lākou e hana.
ʻO ʻoe ka pilikia.
2. Ma loko o 60 mau lā o ka launa pū ʻana, e ʻike ʻoe i nā hōʻailona o ka hana pupule ʻana
Eia kekahi mea haʻalulu i ka nui o kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku, ke haʻi aku wau iā lākou i kēia ʻano hana, kēia hana pono ʻole a kā lākou ipo e hana nei mai nā lā 60 mua o ko lākou pili, nānā lākou iaʻu a luliluli ko lākou poʻo i ka hoʻomaloka.
A laila lawe wau iā lākou ma o ke kaʻina o nā hana kākau, a lilo ka haʻalulu i manaʻoʻiʻo. He ʻoiaʻiʻo kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai.
Ma waena o 60 mau lā o ka launa pū ʻana me kekahi, ʻike ʻoe i nā hōʻailona, inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike iā lākou ʻaʻole paha, aia he mau tone o ka haunaele a me nā hana keaka i mua.
Akā no ka mea ʻoi aku ka mana o ka naʻau ma mua o ke aloha i ke aloha, hoʻolei mākou i ke kūpili, paʻa i ka lana o ka naʻau e loli lākou, a ua make mākou i ka wai.
3. Ua hala ka mahalo ma muli o nā palena me ka hopena ʻole
Ma muli o kou hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena me ka ʻole o nā hopena, ʻaʻohe mahalo o kāu hoa iā ʻoe āpau. Heluhelu hou i kēlā.
No ka mea ua ʻōlelo ʻoe a haʻi iā lākou i ka manawa e haʻalele ai ʻoe inā hana hou lākou iā X, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe, mahalo ʻole lākou iā ʻoe. A ʻaʻohe o lākou mahalo iā ʻoe i kekahi mea.
No ke aha mai? No ka mea i kēia manawa ʻo ʻoe ka mea e uhaʻi i kāu mau ʻōlelo.
4. E kiʻi i ka kōkua ʻoihana e kau i nā mea i ka manaʻo iā ʻoe
ʻO ka pane wale nō e komo i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kēia manawa a loaʻa i kahi loea e ʻike i kāu kuleana i ka hana ʻole.
Hiki iaʻu ke mālama liʻiliʻi ke haʻi mai kekahi iaʻu "35 mau makahiki a māua, ua male ʻia 35 mau makahiki a kiʻekiʻe loa ka nui o ka male". Akā ua pili lāua i kahi pilina crappy no 34 mau makahiki. ʻAʻole wau e pīhoihoi.
Mai hele a puni kaena i ka lōʻihi o kou noho pū ʻana me kekahi, ke ʻoluʻolu kāu pilina. E kiʻi maoli. E kōkua i ke kōkua. Nāu nō e hoʻololi, ʻaʻole na lākou.
A he aha kāu e pono ai e hana?
Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka i ka hahai ʻana i kāu ʻōlelo ponoʻī. Pono ʻoe e kau i nā palena a me nā hopena a huki maoli i ka hopena.
A i ʻole, pono ʻoe e hoʻopau i ka pupule, lawe i kāu kuleana no ka ʻike ʻole pehea e hana ai me ka hana ʻole i ke aloha, e ʻae he 50% ʻoe a ʻoi paha o ka pilikia, a neʻe i mua. Hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou. Hoʻopau i ka pilina. Akā haʻalele i ka namunamu, haʻalele i ka mea ʻino.
Aia he aloha holoʻokoʻa o ke aloha ma laila, a inā ʻoe e nalo ana, na kou hewa ia.
Ua kākoʻo nui ʻia ka hana a David Essel e nā poʻe e like me ka hala ʻo Wayne Dyer, a ua ʻōlelo ka mea kaulana ʻo Jenny McCarthy "ʻO David Essel ke alakaʻi hou o ka neʻe noʻonoʻo maikaʻi."
ʻO kāna puke 10, ua kapa ʻia kahi mea kūʻai aku helu ʻē aʻe i kapa ʻia ʻo “focus! Pepehi i kāu mau pahuhopu. ʻO ke alakaʻi i hōʻike ʻia i ka kūleʻa nui, kahi ʻano ikaika a me ke aloha hohonu. "