Anter
- 1. Perfectionism
- 2. Ka nele o nā palena
- 3. ʻO ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe a haʻahaʻa hoʻi
- 4. Hilahila huna
- 5. Ka makaʻu i ka noho hoʻokahi / haʻalele ʻana
ʻO nā mea like ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu manipulative, narcissistic spouses mālama iā ʻoe me ka ʻumeʻume ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. Pāʻani kēia mau mea like i kahi ʻāpana nui i ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe i ka enemi. E heluhelu e ʻike a hana i nā kaʻina hana inā ʻoe he kahu mālama hui me ka wahine manipulative. Hoʻomaopopo inā hoʻomau ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina ʻona mai kahi ʻano makaʻu, kuleana, haʻahaʻa iā ʻoe iho a hilahila paha.
ʻO Narcissist / kahu mālama like
1. Perfectionism
Hana ʻokoʻa ka Perfectionism i nā narcissists a me nā kahu. Manaʻo nā Narcissists he hemolele lākou a ʻo kēlā me kēia mea e puni ana iā lākou e hemolele, ʻoiai ʻo ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kahu mālama pono ʻoe e hemolele a ʻo kāu hana ia e hauʻoli loa ai kāu wahine. ʻOiai ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kāu kuleana e mālama i ka manaʻo o kāu wahine manipulative, nā pono a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia, e hoʻomau ʻia ʻoe e ka narcissist.
2. Ka nele o nā palena
Loaʻa paha nā palena maʻamau i kāu mau pilina ʻē aʻe. Eia nō naʻe, hāʻule paha ʻoe i ka hopu ʻia ʻana me kāu wahine manipulative. Ke ʻike ʻoe i ke aloha nui a mālama i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, nalowale kāu mau palena. ʻAʻole ʻoe i manaʻo he mea ʻokoʻa ke komo ʻana i loko o kāu mea aloha. Manaʻoʻiʻo paha ʻoe he hewa ia e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole" a i ʻole he "manaʻo pilikino", a i ʻole e hoʻohoka iā ia i kekahi ʻano. ʻOiai makemake ʻoe e kau i nā palena a i ʻole kūlike ʻole paha ʻoe e hewa ʻoe no ka hana ʻana pēlā.
3. ʻO ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe a haʻahaʻa hoʻi
E ʻike paha ʻolua me kāu wahine i kou manaʻo ponoʻī ma ke ʻano he kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe. Hoʻopilikia ka poʻe Narcissists i ko lākou manaʻo haʻahaʻa i loko loa a ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike he ola ia. Ma lalo o ke koʻikoʻi, lilo ka poʻe narcissist i mea hoʻonāukiuki e ko lākou maikaʻi ʻole, ʻenemi, a me nā manaʻo i loko o ka inaina, a hoʻohana lākou i ka huhū a me ka manipulate e hōʻoluʻolu i ko lākou nalo ʻana o ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ka haʻaheo, a me ka manaʻo pilikino.
Hana ikaika nā kahu e hāʻawi a aloha ana a maʻa mau iā lākou ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. Eia nō naʻe, ke komo ʻoe i kahi pilina me kahi narcissist, hoʻopau koke kou ʻano maikaʻi iā ʻoe iho i kou hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka hana hiki ʻole ke hoʻāʻo e hōʻoluʻolu i kahi wahine narcissistic. Ma ke ʻano he kahu, manaʻo ʻoe e pono ʻoe e noho a "hōʻoia" i ka narcissist i manaʻo maikaʻi maoli ʻia ʻoe, naʻau maikaʻi, a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kāu pono.
4. Hilahila huna
Nui ka hilahila hūnā o nā poʻe Narcissist a me nā kahu. Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hemolele ke maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe ke hana i ke koʻikoʻi nui no lāua ʻelua. Hoʻolālā nā Narcissists i ko lākou hilahila i waho i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka hoʻopiʻi, ka hōʻino, ka waiho ʻana i lalo, a me nā ʻōlelo hoʻohaʻahaʻa hoʻohaʻahaʻa. Hoʻomaka ka poʻe mālama mālama e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻoponopono pilikino maikaʻi ʻole inā hauʻoli a huhū ʻole paha kā lākou kāne. Inā hānai ʻia ʻoe e kahi makua narcissistic a manipulative paha e ʻike ʻoe i kēia hilahila me ka ikaika. A ʻo ka lōʻihi o kāu me kahi narcissist, ʻo ka nui o ka hilahila āu e kūkulu ai.
Ua hānai ʻia ʻo Alicia e kahi makuahine narcissistic nāna i hōʻino mau iā ia a waiho iā ia i lalo. ʻAʻole maikaʻi ʻo ia, no ka nui o nā hana āna i hana ai a i ka maikaʻi o kāna hana ʻana iā lākou. No laila, ke walaʻau a huhū kāna kāne ʻaʻohe kālā e hana i kāna makemake, maʻalahi ka hewa. Hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e hoʻolohe a mālie, akā hāʻule ʻo ia i ka wā a Matt i hoʻopiʻi ai a hōʻino iā ia.
5. Ka makaʻu i ka noho hoʻokahi / haʻalele ʻana
Makau ka poʻe narcissist a me nā kahu i ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina ʻenemi a hakakā hoʻi. ʻO ka noho hoʻokahi, ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole lawa ʻoe a lawa ʻole. E waiho a ʻae paha i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e haʻalele e hōʻike ana i kahi hohonu hohonu, hoʻohaʻahaʻa i nā narcissists a me nā kahu.
Ua huhū paha ʻo David a huhū paha e pili ana i ka mea e pono ai ʻo Serena e hoʻohana iā ia, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo e hoʻopau i ka pilina. Ma kahi hakahaka, hana ʻoi ʻole ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo snide e pili ana i kāna mālama hale, namunamu e pili ana i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kālā hou aku, a hāʻawi mau iā ia i nā mea hoʻāʻo - nā mea āpau āna e nānā ʻole ai. Akā ua hoʻoholo paʻa ʻo ia e hōʻoia iā ia e hana i kāna kuleana kaulike. Nānā ʻole ʻo ia i kēia mau mea no ka mea ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka wā ma mua ʻaʻole loa ia e haʻalele iā ia. Akā e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia e hana i mea e pale ai iā ia mai ka hele ʻana ma ke kaʻe no ka mea ʻaʻohe ala e makemake ai e hoʻi i kona ʻohana i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa.
Lawe hope loa
ʻO ka poʻe Narcissist a me nā kahu mālama i ka puʻe / huki, aloha / inaina, ʻoi aku / haʻahaʻa, lanakila / nalo i ke ʻano o ka symbiosis ʻume mākenēki. Hoʻoikaika kāu mau ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i kekahi i kekahi, a ʻo kāu mau like e hoʻomau i ka hoʻopili ʻia ʻana. Ua hui pū ʻoe i loko o kahi colluding, ʻoiai mau ka inaina, pili ka nānā i ka narcissist. Hiki iā ʻoe ke namunamu no ia mea, akā hāʻawi ʻoe no ka mea he manaʻo ʻoe he kuleana, kuleana, a makaʻu hoʻi i ka hele pinepine ʻole.