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Ke huhū wale nei anei kāu wahine a pau paha, a ʻo ka ʻohana paha ka hapalua o ka pilikia? Maopopo iā mākou a pau ke hiki i kā mākou wahine ke hana i nā mea a mākou e makemake ʻole ai, e like me ka hoʻolohe ʻole ʻana iā mākou, ke koho maikaʻi ʻole ʻana, ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā mea e pono ai, ʻaʻole kaʻana like ʻana i nā kuleana o ka hale a me nā keiki, e hōʻike ana i ke koʻikoʻi i makemake ʻole ʻia a kau i nā koi makemake ʻole ʻia. Ke kū kēia, ka huhū a hoʻohoka paha ka hopena mua. Ke hana mau kēia i loko o kahi manawa, alakaʻi ia i ka huhū. Alakaʻi ka huhū i ka hemo ʻana.
E like me ka waiho ʻana o hoʻokahi kanaka "Ua uē wau a kaumaha i ke kaumaha a huhū, akā i kekahi lā ua hāʻawi wale wau a ʻōlelo ʻaʻohe hoʻohana o kēia male". Mai ka hoʻomaka he maʻalahi ka hōʻino ʻana i ka wahine e hana nei i kēia mau ʻano hana āpau, akā ʻo ka mea i poina pinepine ʻia he mana ko kēlā me kēia o mākou e hōʻoki i ka hana. ʻAʻole maopopo iā mākou a makaʻu paha mākou e ʻimi i kēia. Ke ʻike nei i kou mana e ʻike ai i ka mea āu e makemake maoli ai.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine ka hana a kā mākou wahine ma kekahi ʻano a hoʻomanawanui mākou iā ia. Maʻalahi e noʻonoʻo ke kamaʻilio nei ʻoe mai ka wā e hakakā ana a hāpai paha i kou leo, akā ke ʻōlelo maoli nei i ka mea āu e makemake ai a i ʻole manaʻo ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka hakakā ʻana.
Nui nā kumu no ke aha mākou e hoʻomanawanui ai i ka hana ʻeha a ka wahine.
- Manaʻo paha mākou he hewa mākou mai ka haʻi ʻana mai o kā mākou wahine iā mākou.
- Ua koi ʻia a aʻo ʻia mākou e hoʻomanawanui i kekahi pae o ka mālama ʻana ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi, a ke hōʻike mai kā mākou wahine i kēia ʻano hana inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻole e like me ko mākou wā kamaliʻi, a hoʻoholo mākou e hoʻokuʻu.
- ʻO kekahi kumu ʻē aʻe paha e liʻiliʻi ka hana a manaʻo paha he mea liʻiliʻi ia e hāpai aʻe.
- Hiki paha i kā mākou wahine ke hōʻike i ka huhū ke hōʻike ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo.
- Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke "noʻonoʻo" ke huhū o kāu wahine inā ʻoe e hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo.
- Malia paha ʻaʻohe ou manaʻo i kāu mea e manaʻo nei no ka mea hoʻolilo ʻoe i ka hapa nui o kou manawa e hopohopo e pili ana i ka manaʻo o kāu wahine.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu mea e pono maoli ai i ka hoʻomanawanui a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana. No ka hana ʻana i kēia pono pono e hoʻomaha iki ma waena o nā manawa ʻeha ʻoe a ʻike hoʻi i ke kumu o kou ʻeha. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā haʻi aku kāu wahine iā ʻoe inā ʻoe i hana i nā pā, hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e hoʻopaʻapaʻa e pili ana i ka mea e pono e hana i nā pā, a i ka wā e pono ai nā pā e hana. ʻO ka pilikia me kēia ʻaʻole paha ia ka mea e huhū maoli ai ʻoe. Inā hoʻomaha ʻoe a noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea ʻeha iā ʻoe, malia paha ʻaʻole i aloha mai kāu wahine iā ʻoe i ko lākou hoʻi ʻana mai i ka hale, a i ʻole he leo hōʻino a hoʻomanawanui ʻole paha nā huaʻōlelo, a i ʻoi aku paha ke kiʻekiʻe o ka leo ma mua o kāu pae hōʻoluʻolu.
Ke nānā ʻole ʻoe i ka ʻāpana i hōʻeha maoli iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻohana nei i kou mana.
ʻO ka mana e ʻike i nā mea ʻeha a hōʻike i kēia i ke ala e maopopo ai i kāu wahine ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha maoli i ka huhū. Aia i loko o kou mana ke ʻike i ka mea āu e makemake ai a noi aku no ia, akā mua e ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻike i kāu mea e manaʻo nei.