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ʻO mākou mākou a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i kēlā. ʻAʻole maikaʻi kēia ʻano noʻonoʻo a ʻaʻole kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina. ʻO kā mākou maʻamau maʻamau kahi mea e kūkulu iā mākou, wehewehe ia iā mākou, wehewehe ia i ka pōʻai o kā mākou hoaaloha, a wehewehe ia pehea mākou i hānai ʻia ai.
ʻOiai i ka manawa o ko mākou ʻelemakule e komo i nā pilina paʻa, lōʻihi lākou i ka pōhaku a he hiki ʻole ke hoʻololi iā lākou.
ʻO ia nō paha ka hihia akā, e mālama pū mākou i kā mākou mea aloha i loko o ko mākou noʻonoʻo. He ʻāpana ia o ko mākou ola, kahi ʻāpana nui loa, a he kuleana na mākou e hoʻolako i kahi nohona hauʻoli a olakino hoʻi no mākou ʻelua. ʻO ka mea a mākou e mālama nui ʻole ai a noʻonoʻo ʻole paha pehea ka hopena o kā mākou ʻano maikaʻi ʻole iā lākou.
Pehea ka luhi e loaʻa ai mai kā mākou tantrums a i ʻole nā ʻano ola e ʻae ʻole ʻia iā lākou?
A no ka mea aloha lākou iā mākou ua hoʻāʻo lākou e haʻi ʻole iā lākou i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole i ka manawa āpau. Ka mea hoʻi, ʻaʻohe olakino. ʻO ka hopena i nā kāne e paʻa nei i kā lākou mau ukiuki a hiki i ka wā e puka ai nā mea āpau e like me ka pele a ʻaʻohe hoʻi e hoʻi.
Eia ka papa inoa o nā maʻamau kūpono ʻole e kōkua iā ʻoe e ulu i kou pilina
1. Hoʻolohe
ʻAe, ʻaʻohe-brainer kēia. Pono ʻoe e akahele. I kekahi manawa ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi lā paʻakikī ma ka hana a hele ʻoe i kou home a makemake ʻole ʻoe i kahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka ʻōhū wale ʻana. I kēlā manawa i ka manawa, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻimi nei i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a i ʻole ka poʻe e haʻi ana iā ʻoe i kā lākou ʻike pilikino.
Makemake wale ʻoe i ka pepeiao e hoʻolohe a me ka poʻohiwi e kau i kou poʻo ma hope o ka ʻōlelo ʻana.
Inā ʻike ʻoe i kāu hoa me ka nānā ʻole a i ʻole inā hoʻokau lākou iā ʻoe no kekahi hana 'koʻikoʻi' ʻē aʻe, pehea kou manaʻo?
ʻO mākou, ma ke ʻano he kanaka, he waiwai maoli kā mākou e waiwai ai a aloha ʻia ai. Inā ʻaʻole hoʻokō ʻia kekahi o kēlā mau pono, lash.
2. ʻO ka hana ka mua
ʻOiai he ʻoiaʻiʻo ia i kekahi mea e pono ai nā hana āpau e uku i nā bila a hoʻomau i ka lele ʻana o ka uila, ʻeā? E like me, aloha ʻole ka romance ke ʻaʻohe uila. Loaʻa iaʻu koʻu ʻauheʻe?
Eia nō naʻe, hana nā hana āpau a ʻaʻohe pāʻani pāʻani i keikikāne dull.
He mea nui ka ʻoihana akā, e hoʻonohonoho pū i kekahi manawa maikaʻi. Hana i kahi mea leʻaleʻa a kū hoʻokahi hoʻi. E noho ma laila no kekahi me kekahi a hana i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo. E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, no ka ʻano o ka ʻaoʻao o ka hana a ka wahine, ʻo ka ʻiʻina kūlohelohe e aloha ʻia aia nō ma laila.
3. Ka hōʻole a me ka deflect
ʻO nā kāne, a puni ka honua, e hele i luna a i lalo.
Loaʻa iā mākou nā pā maloʻo a me kekahi mau mea ʻoʻoleʻa. Akā, inā ʻo lākou ka mea nui a koʻikoʻi ka pilina iā mākou, hana mākou i ia e holo pono.
Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau manawa ke hoʻomaka mākou e ʻike ʻaʻole paha kahi ala maikaʻi a kā mākou pilina i hele ai, a ua hiki mai ka manawa e kūlou ai.
Akā, ʻaʻole pololei paha ka manawa o ka makahiki. Malia kokoke paha nā lā nui, a me ka lā o valentine, a i ka lā hānau o kekahi. He aha ke kumu. A ʻo ʻoe, ma kahi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i nā mea āpau, e hoʻomaka e haʻalele. Hoʻokomo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka hana a hoʻohana ia ma ke ʻano he kumu e hōʻalo ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā mea nui, kou pilina pili.
E hoʻolōʻihi paha kēia i kou kūlana paʻa no ka mea ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi akā ʻaʻole ia he olakino maikaʻi. Ua like ia me kahi Band-Aid, e wāwahi wale ia a e kamaʻilio me ka hāmama a me ka hāmama, pono ʻoe i kāu hoa ma ka liʻiliʻi.
4. Hūnā kālā
He pakanā ʻoe. Māhele ʻoe i ka home, ʻohana, nā mea pono, ke ola, akā ke kānalua nei e kaʻana kālā? ʻAʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi. Hiki iā ia ke hāpai i ka nui, kau pono, nā hae ʻulaʻula i ka manaʻo o kāu hoa.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e kaʻana i ka ʻaoʻao kālā o kou ola me kekahi mea hiki i kekahi lā ke lilo i makua o kāu keiki a laila hiki i ka manawa kiʻekiʻe e hoʻololi i kēlā ʻano a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻoe i ka pilina pololei.
5. ʻAʻohe ou kua
ʻO ka hope akā ʻaʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi loa. He mea nui loa kēia. ʻO ka manaʻo o ka huaʻōlelo hoa kekahi mea like mākou. He pilina ia o ka hāʻawi a me ka lawe ʻana - ʻo nā mea a kā mākou poʻe hoa e pono ai. ʻO kā mākou kuleana ia e hoʻokō i kēlā mau pono. E kākoʻo, kōkua, aloha, hōʻoluʻolu, hakakā, huhū.
Inā ʻoe makemake ʻole a menemene ʻole paha i kāu mea i aloha ʻia i ko lākou manawa pono, pono ʻoe e nānā paʻakikī iā ʻoe iho i ke aniani. ʻO lākou kā mākou ʻāpana ʻoi aku. Nā hapalua i piha ai iā mākou. ʻO lākou kā mākou kākoʻo a hana like i nā mea no mākou.
Hana iā ʻoe iho. He hana lohi akā pono ia.