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Hāʻawi ʻia i ke ʻano o ka moʻomeheu e hōʻike nei i nā kāne, e haʻohaʻo paha kekahi i ke kumu ma ka honua e makemake ʻole ai kekahi mau kāne i ka moekolohe. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia mea maʻamau, ʻaʻole loa. Nui nā kumu no kēia emi ʻana o ka makemake moekolohe i nā kāne male a paʻakikī a pili pū kekahi. Pili kekahi i ka pilina, a ʻaʻole pili kekahi. A loaʻa iā lākou āpau nā pane ʻokoʻa iki, kahi mea nui e maopopo ai iā lākou. E hele mākou ma luna o nā kumu nui ʻehā i hiki ai i kēia ke ʻano ma kāu male ʻana.
1. Lilo o ka ʻumeume
E hoʻokaʻawale i ka mea nui mai ke ala mua. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine, ke makemake ʻole kā lākou kāne e moekolohe me lākou, lele i ka hopena ʻaʻole lākou ʻoluʻolu hou. ʻOiai, e like me kā mākou e kūkākūkā ai i kahi liʻiliʻi, hiki i kēia a loaʻa pinepine i nā kumu ʻē aʻe, he hopohopo kūpono hoʻi kēia. Eia naʻe, mai hāʻule koke i loko o ke kaumaha, no ka mea, aia kekahi mau hopena i kēia pilikia.
ʻOiai ʻo kekahi mau kāne, e like me kekahi mau wahine, he moekolohe a ma ke ʻano he ʻano koʻikoʻi a i ʻole hoihoi ʻole i ka moekolohe, ʻaʻole hiki i kāu kāne. Inā moe kolohe ʻo ia ma mua iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole paha ia ka hihia i kēia manawa. No laila, he aha ka mea i loli?
Minamina, paʻakikī ʻia nā kāne e hoʻololi i nā hoa i hoʻonui lākou i ka manawa o ka hele ʻana i kā lākou mau ʻāpana. ʻO ia ke kumu i lilo ai kona makemake iā ʻoe.
Eia nō naʻe, ke ala like i hōʻole ʻia ai kona makemake, hiki ke noho aliʻi hou ʻia. I ka male ʻana, he mea paʻakikī ka makemake moekolohe. He hui o ka maikaʻi o ka hana a ka wahine ma kēlā me kēia pae, o ka hoʻokalakupua kino maoli, o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e mālama i ka eroticism i ka pilina. E mākaʻikaʻi i kahi o kēia mau mea e hoʻoweliweli paha i kona makemake iā ʻoe a laila e ʻike i nā ala e hana ai.
2. ʻO kahi hihia
ʻO kekahi kumu nui e makemake ʻole ai nā kāne i ka moekolohe ka makaʻu loa o kēlā wahine kēia wahine, ʻo ia ka makemake ʻole o kāna kāne e moekolohe me ia no ka mea ua māʻona ʻo ia - me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
ʻOiai ʻo ka infidelity kahi puʻupuʻu nui a me kahi trauma no kēlā me kēia pili a no ka mea i hoʻopunipuni ʻia, ʻaʻole nalo nā mea āpau.
ʻAe, i kekahi manawa hoʻomaka nā kāne e hoʻololi i kā lākou moekolohe i kā lākou wahine no ke kumu ʻole. A ʻae, i kekahi manawa no ka mea he hihia kāna.
ʻO ka hoʻi hou ʻana mai kahi hihia kekahi o nā hanana paʻakikī āu e hele ai. Eia nō naʻe, hiki nō. Pono ʻoe e hana ma ke kala ʻana, ma ke kūkulu hou ʻana i ka hilinaʻi, ma ke kuʻi ʻana i nā kumu i alakaʻi ai iā ia e ʻimi i ka hui o kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe (a i ʻole nā wahine). A, ʻo ka mea nui, pono ʻoe e ʻike i kou ala i kekahi i ka moekolohe.
Ua hōʻike ʻia ka noiʻi i nā wahine, hāʻawi ʻia i nā ʻokoʻa evolution, maʻalahi ka maʻalahi o ke kala ʻana i ka moekolohe. Hoʻoholo pinepine lākou ʻaʻole e haki i ka pilina. No laila, inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻomau me kāu male, he mea maikaʻi ia e ʻike i kahi mea lapaʻau nāna e ʻike pehea e kōkua ai iā ʻoe e lanakila i nā pilikia āpau, nā hopohopo ʻole, nā manaʻo obsessive, a me nā mea āpau āpau i kou manaʻo a pale iā ʻolua mai ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana i kāu. ola moekolohe.
3. Ka palekana
ʻO nā wahine he nui nā kāne e kū mālie e hōʻike ana i ka hoihoi i ka moekolohe me lākou e hōʻike nei aia he mau hōʻailona ma ke ala. ʻAʻole paha lākou ka moekolohe mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana. A i ʻole, ua hilinaʻi nui ʻole paha lākou i ka hōʻailona liʻiliʻi o ka hōʻole ʻana mai kā lākou ipo aloha. Minamina, hoʻonui ʻia kēia ʻano hana hopohopo me ka manawa inā ʻaʻole i hoʻokokoke kūpono.
ʻEha nā kāne i ka manaʻo paʻa (kākoʻo pinepine ʻia e ka hana a nā wahine) ke aniani ʻia ko lākou ʻike a me ka waiwai i kā lākou hana moekolohe.
Hoʻomaopopo kēia, hiki ke kumu pinepine i nā pilikia he nui i loko o ka lumi moe. Ma ke ʻano o ke kāpae ʻana me ia, ua koho wale kekahi mau kāne e hōʻalo loa i ke kūlana pīhoihoi. ʻO ka lawa ʻole o ka ʻike i ke kūlana a me nā hopena a ka wahine e hoʻopili wale ai i nā mea hou aʻe, no laila ke ʻimi nei i ke kōkua ʻoihana ke ala kūpono e hana ai i kēia kumu o ka male ʻole.
4. ʻO ke kuko maʻemaʻe e kū ʻole i ka pane
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o nā mea ke kūlana ke ʻike nā kāne i ka makemake moekolohe, akā ʻaʻole pili lākou me kā lākou hoa. I ka hoʻomaka o kā lāua pili aia paha lāua i ka pae kuko. I kahi kikoʻī, makemake nui nā kāne i kekahi manawa e lele lele i loko o ka moekolohe haki iwi mai ka kuko hewa ʻole.
Ke pale ʻole ka wahine i ka pono o ka moekolohe, ʻo kēia paha kekahi o nā kumu i makemake ʻole ai lākou i ka moekolohe.
A nui wale nā wahine ʻaʻole i hoʻokau ʻia i loko o kēlā, keu hoʻi ma hope o nā makahiki o ka male a nui a nui nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā. I mea e hoʻoponopono ai i kēia pilikia, a e hōʻalo ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e kū mai ana i kāna huhū moekolohe (e like me ka hōʻalo ʻana i ka moekolohe, e hoʻomaka me), e hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau pono. Kūkākūkā i nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pū ma ke ʻano he kāne, a ma ke ʻano he kanaka pākahi i ka pilina, i mea e ʻoluʻolu ai nā mea ʻelua no ʻolua.