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Ke ʻae nā mākua hemo e kaʻana like i kā lākou mau keiki, e ʻae ka luna kānāwai i ka wā e lawelawe ia i ka pono o nā keiki. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke ʻae i ke ʻano o ka kaʻana like ʻana o kā lākou mau keiki, pono i kahi luna kānāwai e hoʻoholo a hāʻawi pinepine i ka mālama kino mua i kekahi makua a i kekahi ʻē aʻe paha.
Aia kekahi kaʻao i hāʻawi ʻole nā luna kānāwai i ka mālama kino mua i nā makuakāne. Hoʻokumu ʻia kēia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo maʻamau, ʻo nā makuwahine nā kahu mālama mua o nā keiki a ʻo nā makuakāne ka mea ʻai.
No laila, ua kūpono i ka wā i hala e hāʻawi i ka mālama i ka makuahine, ʻoiai ʻo ia ka mea nāna e kiaʻi mua i nā keiki. I kēia lā naʻe, komo pū nā makuahine a me nā makuakāne i ka mālama a me ka loaʻa kālā no ka ʻohana. A ʻo kahi hopena, ʻoi aku ka makemake o nā ʻaha e kauoha i ka mālama ʻana ma ke kumu he 50/50.
Inā makemake kekahi makua i ka mālama kino ʻana o kā lāua keiki, pono lākou e hōʻoia ʻoi aku ka pono o nā keiki. ʻO kahi hoʻopaʻapaʻa ikaika i kēia hopena e hoʻopili ʻia i ke kuhikuhi ʻana ʻo ia ka mea maʻa mau i ka mālama mua ʻana o nā keiki a ʻo ia ke hoʻomau i ka mea nāna e mālama a pono nā keiki.
No laila ʻo wai ke kahu mua o ke keiki?
E hoʻoholo ai i ka mea e manaʻo ʻia he kahu mua o kahi keiki, aia kekahi mau nīnau e hiki i kekahi ke nīnau:
- Na wai e hāpai i ke keiki i ke kakahiaka?
- Na wai e lawe i ke keiki i ke kula?
- Na wai e ʻohi iā lākou mai ke kula?
- ʻO wai e hōʻoia e hana lākou i kā lākou haʻawina home?
- ʻO wai ka mea e hōʻoia i ka lole a me ka hānai?
- ʻO wai e hōʻoia i ka ʻauʻau o ke keiki?
- ʻO wai ka mea hoʻomākaukau iā lākou e moe?
- ʻO wai ka mea e lawe i ke keiki i ke kauka?
- ʻO wai kā ke keiki e uē ai no ka makaʻu a i ʻole ka ʻeha?
ʻO ke kanaka nāna ka hana a ka liona o kēia mau kuleana i manaʻo ʻia ma ke ʻano he kanaka mālama mua o ke keiki.
Ke hiki ʻole i nā mākua ke ʻae i ka pili like ʻana o ka makua, e hāʻawi mau ka luna kānāwai i ka mālama kino mua i ka makua nāna i hoʻolilo ka manawa nui i ka mālama ʻana i ke keiki i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻo ia hoʻi, ke kahu mua o ke keiki. E hāʻawi ʻia ka makua ʻē aʻe i ka mālama kino kino lua.
ʻO kahi papa makua maʻamau e hoʻopili i nā hopena pule a me nā lā hoʻomaha ma waena o ka makua me ka mālama kino mua a me ka makua me ka mālama kino lua. Eia nō naʻe, i loko o ka pule, hiki i ka makua me ka mālama kino lua ke loaʻa i hoʻokahi pō me ke keiki.
Hoʻonohonoho e lawelawe i ka pono o nā keiki
I ka hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo ʻana, inā hiki i nā mākua hemo ke hoʻoholo i ka ʻaelike e pili ana i kahi hoʻonohonoho mālama e pono ai ka maikaʻi o kā lākou keiki, e ʻae ka ʻaha. Akā, ke hiki ʻole iā lākou ke ʻaelike, e hoʻoholo ka luna kānāwai i ka hoʻonohonoho mālama no lākou. Hāʻawi pinepine nā luna kānāwai i ka mālama kino mua i nā kahu mua o nā keiki, i hiki ke wehewehe ʻia ma ke ʻano he makua nāna e mālama i nā pono o nā keiki i kēlā me kēia lā a ʻo ka mea i lilo ka manawa nui me nā keiki i ko lākou ola āpau.