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- 1. ʻAʻole hoʻopau kāu kāne iā ʻoe
- 2. Mai manaʻo nui i kāu pakanā
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ke aloha i nā manawa āpau
- 4. ʻO ke kī o ka ʻohana o kāu wahine
- 5. E mālama i ka waiwai o kāu hoa
- 6. ʻAʻole hiki ke pale
Aloha ʻoe a pili pū akā pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike ua mākaukau ʻoe no ke ola male? ʻAʻole maopopo loa ka hapa nui o nā kāne a hiki i ka hopena e noho. ʻAʻole maopopo iā lākou ka mea e kali ai a me nā mea e nānā ai i mua, a ke paʻakikī nā mea, hoʻolei lākou i ke kāwele.
Wahi a Kristen Bell lāua ʻo Dax Shepard; ka mea kaulana "It" i aloha ʻia e nā mea āpau, ke kī o ka mālama ʻana i kahi lōʻihi a olakino hoʻi, ka pilina hauʻoli he mau kāne male ma mua o ka male ʻana. Hiki i ke Therapy ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka holo lōʻihi a kōkua i ka hoʻopakele ʻana i kāu male ke kū mai nā pilikia. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pono ʻoe e makaʻala ai ma mua o ka hele ʻana no ka hoʻōla kāne a me ka noho ʻana i lalo.
1. ʻAʻole hoʻopau kāu kāne iā ʻoe
ʻOiai ʻo Jerry Maguire kahi lālani kaulana e pili ana i ka hoʻopiha ʻana o kekahi i kekahi i kekahi e like me ke aloha nui akā ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i kāu wahine e hoʻopau i kou ola. I loko o kahi pilina, he mea nui ia nāu e nānā iā ʻoe iho akā mai lilo i ka pīhoihoi. E kālele iā ʻoe iho i kahi ala e nānā ʻole ai i kāu hoa a hōʻeha paha i ka pilina.
Ma kahi o, e kālele iā ʻoe iho i kahi ala e mālama pono ai iā ʻoe iho i hiki ke hoʻopuka i kāu ʻaoʻao maikaʻi loa.
Pono nā pānaʻi hauʻoli e loaʻa ke kaulike ma waena o ka hoʻokaʻawale a me ka hui pū ʻana.
2. Mai manaʻo nui i kāu pakanā
ʻO kēia ke kānāwai cardinal no ka male a me nā ʻano aloha like ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka nui āu e manaʻo ai, ʻo ka nui o ka puʻuwai a me ka huhū e ukali nei. Kūkala mau ʻia ʻoe ʻaʻole e piʻi i ka lani kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai a pono ʻoe e mālama iā lākou.
Makemake paha ʻoe i nā mea he nui mai kāu wahine e like me ka makua maikaʻi, ke kāne kūpaʻa, ka ipo aloha, kahi hoa a pēlā e ala aʻe ai nā pilikia ma muli o kahi papa inoa i lana ʻia.
Ke kiʻekiʻe ʻole kou mau mea i manaʻo ai, e maʻalahi ka aloha i kekahi i kekahi. E emi ka huhū a e hauʻoli ʻolua. No laila e noʻonoʻo pono i nā manaʻo āu e lawe ai i kāu pilina.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ke aloha i nā manawa āpau
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noho me ka wahine pono ʻole i ka honua, hiki iā lākou ke hana i nā mea āpau me ka pololei, akā e mau ana nā lā e manaʻo ai ʻoe me he mea lā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaulike me lākou. E ʻike ʻoe me he mea lā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ke aloha.
I nā manawa e like me kēia, he mea nui e noho paʻa ʻoe me kāu mau waiwai.
E hoʻomaopopo kēia mau manawa pehea ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kāne ʻelua; no laila ma kahi o ka ukali ʻana i nā manaʻo āu e manaʻo ai e loaʻa, noho wale a hoʻomaha.
ʻAʻole kēia mea e hopohopo ai.
4. ʻO ke kī o ka ʻohana o kāu wahine
E mālama pehea kāu wahine me ko lākou ʻohana. Pili maikaʻi paha lākou? Ua kokoke paha lākou a mamao paha lākou? Aia he hakakā ma waena o kekahi?
He koʻikoʻi loa kēia ʻike e like me ka hapanui o kēia mea ʻohana e hana hou a kū hou i kāu male.
Ke hiki i nā kāne ke kamaʻilio me kā lāua hoa me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo ua hana lākou i kahi pae ikaika o ka hilinaʻi a me ka mahalo pū kekahi.
5. E mālama i ka waiwai o kāu hoa
He mea nui e hōʻike nā kāne āpau i kā lākou kūlana kālā āpau me kekahi a laila hoʻoholo i ke ala ʻoi loa e mālama ai.
Nui nā kāne e loaʻa kahi moʻokāki hui pū me kā lākou waihona waihona kaʻawale.
E hōʻoia e hana i nā mea āpau iā ʻoe, e kūkākūkā i ke kūlana kālā i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka hopohopo ʻole a kaohi ʻia paha.
Hiki i kēia wahi i ka pilina ke hānau i ka hilinaʻi ʻole a me nā pilikia; ʻo ia kekahi o nā kumu e koho ai ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i ka hemo male.
6. ʻAʻole hiki ke pale
I ka manawa o ka manawa meli o ka pilina paʻakikī e noʻonoʻo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e paʻa ana nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa a me nā kūlike ʻole.
Akā he ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa e hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea hōʻeha e pili ana i kāu wahine, kā lākou ʻano maikaʻi ʻole a lilo ia i pahuhopu nā hakakā ma waena o ʻolua.
He maʻamau maʻamau kēia; ke kū aʻe nā manawa e like me kēia e hoʻāʻo i ka pilikia ma kahi o ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana e pili ana i ka manawa i hala.
ʻO ka mea nui e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike ma mua o ka noho ʻana i lalo kahi mea nui nui ka positivity. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maikaʻi, e hoʻopili ʻia kou pilina. He mea nui e hauʻoli ʻoe a hoʻomālamalama i ka ikehu maikaʻi a ʻo kēia ka mea e kōkua i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ke aloha a me ke aloha ma waena o kāu mau hoa.
E nānā i mua i ka wā e hiki mai ana me nā manaʻolana hauʻoli a hilinaʻi kekahi i kekahi. E kōkua kēia i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka pili āu e paʻa ai a hoʻoikaika i kou male ʻana. Mai hoʻohālikelike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a mālama i ke olakino o kou pilina.