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Hiki paha ke lilo i mau hoaaloha me kāu ex ke ʻole ka hopena o kahi pilina hou?
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe, a ke noʻonoʻo iā ia, ʻaʻohe pono e launa pū me kāu ex. ʻO ke kumu, ʻo kēlā mea kēia mea āu i loaʻa ai e pāʻina i kāu pilina o kēia manawa. ʻO nā memo āu i kaʻana aku ai me kēlā kanaka e hoʻolōʻihi ia a puni ʻoe.
ʻO nā hoʻomanaʻo hoʻomanaʻo ʻole o kāu pili ma mua e hoʻolilo i ke aka ma luna o kāu mea i kēia manawa āu e kau nei. Pono e noʻonoʻo kāu hoa hou e like me lākou wale nō āu e aloha ai.
Akā pehea e hiki ai iā lākou ke ʻike i kēlā mau manaʻo ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻia lākou ua ʻike mua ʻoe i kēlā aloha like me kekahi?
Inā mākaukau maoli ʻoe e hana i kahi pilina hou, a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻopoina e pili ana i nā aloha kahiko. Maikaʻi inā hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i mau huaʻōlelo aloha me kāu ex, akā ʻo ia ka mea pololei; he ex ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe akā 'Mōʻaukala'.
He aha ka poʻe e ʻōlelo ai, he ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli nō ia?
Makemake nā poʻe e ʻaʻohe aloha i koe i ka pili kahiko, he mau hoa aloha wale nō lākou. Akā i kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo akā ua pilina ʻoe me kēia kanaka, ua aloha ʻoe iā lākou; aia kekahi manawa i manaʻo ʻoe e mau loa ana ʻoe.
ʻO nā ʻike āu i loaʻa ai me kēia kanaka e noho mau loa me ʻoe. No laila, ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi ex i ka wā e pili ana i kahi pilina e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea iā ʻoe.
A inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kāu ex ʻoiai ʻoe me kahi mea ʻē aʻe, a laila he aha ka mea e hana inā loaʻa koke ʻoe i kahi kūlana kaumaha? ʻO wai kāu e prioritize ai inā makemake mua kāu ex iā ʻoe? ʻO wai nā manaʻo āu e mōhai ai?
Kona ʻano o ʻoe e noho ma laila no kēlā kanaka a ʻaʻohe ou mau ukiuki akā he lokomaikaʻi loko ʻole kāu e hana nei.
I ka manawa like, ke kūpono ʻole nei ʻoe i kāu hoa hou ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā lākou ʻaʻole he kūikawā. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia hoʻi ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻia kou kūpaʻa. Ua ʻike mua ʻoe i kahi aloha āu i manaʻo ai ʻaʻole e pau, a aia nō ke aloha i hala i kou ola.
Inā mākaukau maoli ʻoe e hoʻopukapuka iā ʻoe iho i kāu pili hou, inā ʻoe e aloha maoli iā lākou, ʻaiʻē ʻoe iā lākou i kahi papa maʻemaʻe - kahi pilina kahi e kū hoʻokahi ai kou aloha a ʻaʻole kahi aloha i hiki mai ma hope o ka mea āu ma mua.
E hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka launa me kāu ex
Pono ʻoe e haʻalele loa i kāu wā i hala aku nei mai ka kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi ex i ka wā o ka pilina ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi. ʻAʻole pono lākou e plaster i kāu kelepona. He maikaʻi ke loaʻa iā lākou ma kāu pāpili kaiaulu, akā mai pili pū me lākou. Mai kikokiko i kekahi i kekahi a makemake ʻole i nā kiʻi ʻē aʻe. Holoi i kā lākou helu ma mua o ka manaʻo o kāu hoa o kēia manawa e noi lākou iā ʻoe e hana.
ʻAʻole pono e kau i kahi pilina kahiko, keu hoʻi inā ʻeha ia i kāu hoa hou.
Inā kū ʻoe i ka paʻakikī i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana, a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻi i hope a ʻike i kou ʻano maoli. Maliʻa paha aia kahi ʻoihana i hoʻopau ʻole, a inā pēlā, a laila mai alakaʻi i kahi ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa i kou puʻuwai a me kou noʻonoʻo i nā wahi ʻelua i hoʻokahi manawa no ka mea a laila ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopukapuka iā ʻoe iho.
Inā hoʻowalewale ʻoe, a laila ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkulu i nā hoʻomanaʻo hou me kāu hoa, a hiki i nā pilikia nui i kāu pili hou. Inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi pilina hauʻoli me kāu hoa o kēia manawa, a laila pono ʻoe e ʻike i nā ʻano koʻikoʻi o ka hauʻoli i ka pilina.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi ke ola o ka wā i hala.
ʻO kou ex kou hala, a ma laila lākou e noho ai. He aha inā inā he manaʻo kou no kou ex? A inā lākou e hana, e ʻae mau lākou i ka hoʻihoʻi a haʻi ʻana i ko lākou hala ʻana me ʻoe. Hiki paha i kēia ke hoʻohuli i kou nānā, a lilo ʻoe i ka nānā ʻana mai kāu pilina o kēia manawa.
Ma nā mea āpau, ka noho pili ʻana me kāu ex ʻaʻole ia he koho maikaʻi nāu, a pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo i kāu mea e neʻe ai.