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- No ke aha e paʻakikī iki ai ka launa ʻana me ka haole
- 1. ʻAʻole ʻōlelo i ka ʻōlelo like
- 2. ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻike pinepine kekahi i kekahi
- 3. Ke kamaʻilio nei me kona ʻohana
- 1. E launa me ka manawa hiki
- 2. E aʻo i kā haʻi ʻōlelo
- 3. E mahalo i nā moʻomeheu o kekahi
- 4. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu hoʻolālā
- 5. E hoʻomanawanui
- 6. E hōʻike iā ia i kou aloha i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e loaʻa ai
ʻO nā pilina lōʻihi e lilo i mea maʻamau i kēia mau lā. Hiki i ka launa ʻana me kekahi mai kahi ʻāina ʻē ke hōʻike iā ʻoe i kekahi mau pilikia akā aia nō kekahi ala e hana i nā mea inā manaʻo ʻoe he kūpono kou manawa.
ʻO kahi kaikamahine ʻē he ʻano ʻē a ʻano ʻē paha i kou ʻāina akā pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e loaʻa kekahi mau pale ma waena o ʻolua i hiki ke pale i kou pilina.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i kēia kahua o ka pili aloha, pono paha ʻoe i kahi kōkua i mea e hoʻomau ai i kēia kūlana. Eia kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi loa e kōkua iā ʻoe e hana ma o ka mamao a me ke kali lōʻihi.
No ke aha e paʻakikī iki ai ka launa ʻana me ka haole
ʻOiai e leʻaleʻa a pīhoihoi ka hui ʻana me kekahi mai ka ʻāina ʻē, aia kekahi mau mea i hiki ke hele hewa. I nā wā mua o ka pilina, hiki i nā mea ke hoihoi a piha i nā mea hou e ʻimi ai, akā no ka hapa nui o nā kāne, hiki i kekahi mau mahina ke uku i ka pilina.
Eia kekahi o nā pilikia maʻamau āu e ʻike ai i ka wā e pili ana me kahi kaikamahine ʻē.
1. ʻAʻole ʻōlelo i ka ʻōlelo like
ʻO ka helu nui o lākou āpau ka pale ʻōlelo. ʻOiai ʻolua ʻelua e ʻōlelo Pelekania, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo he paʻakikī loa iā ʻolua ke haʻi aku i ko ʻolua ʻano e like me kā ʻolua ʻōlelo makuahine. ʻAe, nani a nani paha kāna leo, akā ʻaʻole hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea kaomi hou i ka holo lōʻihi.
No ka maikaʻi o kāu mākau Pelekania, loaʻa i kēlā me kēia ʻōlelo a puni ka honua i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa a me nā huaʻōlelo i hiki ʻole ke unuhi maʻalahi a hiki i ke alakaʻi hewa ʻana.
Hoʻopili ia, ʻoiai ma mua he maʻalahi nā mea āpau, ʻike paha ʻoe i nā pilikia ke hoʻomaka nā mea nui aʻe. He kumuhana kēia i mea nui i kēlā me kēia wahine a pono ʻoe e ʻike ʻo ia kahi ʻanuʻu e hiki ke hoʻokau i ka nui o nā kāne mai nā ʻāina like ʻole.
2. ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻike pinepine kekahi i kekahi
ʻO ka hakakā nui o ka pilina me kahi kaikamahine ʻē ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻike iā ia lawa.
Aia kekahi mau manawa ke makemake ʻoe e moe kekahi ma kahi aʻe a i ʻole noho manawa wale me.
E ʻike pinepine ʻia kekahi i kekahi ma nā lā nui a e hoʻopuni ʻia paha ʻoe e ka ʻohana mai kēlā ʻaoʻao a kēia ʻaoʻao a he pilikia paha ia no ka mea pono ʻolua i kahi manawa wale nō.
Inā he haumāna kula nui ʻoe a i ʻole ua hana ʻelua ʻoe, e ʻike ʻoe i ka hana ʻana i ka manawa e huakaʻi ai e ʻike kekahi i kekahi e paʻakikī, ʻaʻole wale ka manawa akeakamai akā naʻauao pū kekahi. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ʻoe e noho ana i ka US a me kou mau ola ʻē aʻe i ʻEulopa, pipiʻi nā likiki a lōʻihi nā holo ʻana, a he mau mahina kāu e hoʻolālā ai no ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ʻelua mau pule.
3. Ke kamaʻilio nei me kona ʻohana
ʻOiai ka hapanui o ka poʻe ʻōpio a puni ka honua e ʻōlelo Pelekania i kēia mau lā, ʻaʻole pili ka mea like i nā hanauna kahiko. ʻO kekahi o nā mea mua a kaʻu pilina pilina i aʻo mai ai iaʻu ʻoiai ʻaʻole e pilikia ka kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu kaikamahine, ʻaʻole hiki i kāna mau mākua ke kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio i kekahi ʻōlelo maʻamau.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo pono i kāu wahine, akā ʻo ka pili ʻana me kona mau mākua kahi moʻolelo ʻokoʻa loa.
ʻAʻole hiki ke kamaʻilio kūpono iā lākou e lilo nō ia i pilikia inā ʻaʻole hoʻāʻo kāu mea ʻē aʻe i ka unuhi ʻana i nā mea āpau iā ʻoe ke kipa nei ʻoe. E makemake maoli nā mākua o kekahi kaikamahine e ʻike ʻo wai ʻoe, no hea mai ʻoe a no ke aha ʻoe e aloha nei me kā lākou kaikamahine; hele wale mai kēlā me ka pili wahine.
He manawa hoihoi loa kāu e kamaʻilio pū ana iā lākou e pili ana iā ʻoe iho inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo i ka ʻōlelo like.
Ke hana nei i nā mea nui ʻole
ʻOiai inā noho ʻolua ʻolua mai kekahi, ma ka hopena o ka lā e like ia me nā pilina ʻē aʻe e like me ka mea e pono ai ka pae o ka hoʻokō a me ke kamaʻilio. Ke pili aloha ʻoe me kekahi, aia mau kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i mea e maʻalahi ai kāu pilina.
1. E launa me ka manawa hiki
ʻO kekahi o nā mea nui i ka hana ʻana i kahi pilina lōʻihi e hana nei i ka manawa no kekahi. ʻO ke kākau leka ʻana i kēlā me kēia ʻano kāu ʻano kamaʻilio maʻamau i ka lā a ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hui pū kekahi me kekahi, e lilo ia i mea nui i kou pilina ʻoiai e kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi i kekahi.
Ma loko o ka lā, he manaʻo maikaʻi ke hoʻouna i nā kaha ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia ola o kēlā me kēia lā.
Hiki i nā wikiō a me nā kiʻi ke hāʻawi i kahi manaʻo maikaʻi i kāu ipo wahine i kou ola i kēlā me kēia lā a manaʻo ʻo ia e hoʻopili ʻia i nā mea āu e hana nei.
E hoʻohauʻoli ana iā ia.
Ma luna o kēlā, pono ʻoe e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu kaikamahine ma ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā lā Skype pinepine i kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio, ʻai pū i ka ʻaina awakea a ʻike maʻalahi kekahi i kekahi. Pono kēia inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻolilo i kou pilina ma hope a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana inā ʻoe e kaʻawale ana mai kekahi me kekahi, ʻoi aku kou ʻoluʻolu a hauʻoli hoʻi i kou hui pū ʻana.
2. E aʻo i kā haʻi ʻōlelo
ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e kāpae ai i ka pale ʻōlelo ma waena o ʻolua a me nā ʻohana o kekahi me ke aʻo ʻana i kā haʻi ʻōlelo. ʻO ka ʻōlelo Pelekania ka ʻōlelo e hoʻohana ai ʻoe i ka mea nui i ka pilina akā ʻo ke aʻo ʻana i nā ʻōlelo ʻē aʻe e kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻike he koʻikoʻi ʻoe i ka hui pū ʻana. I kēia manawa e paʻakikī paha kēia e hoʻonohonoho a pono ia i kahi kālā a me ka manawa mai kou ʻaoʻao akā he kumukūʻaiʻuʻuku kāu e uku ai.
ʻAʻole kēia e hauʻoli wale iā ia, akā e ʻike ana kāu kaikamahine he koʻikoʻi ʻoe no ka noho pū ʻana me ia a e mahalo pū hoʻi kona ʻohana i ka hiki ke kamaʻilio hou me ʻoe. ʻOiai e hoʻolōʻihi kēia i kahi manawa e haku ai, mai makaʻu ʻoe mai ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i nā manawa āpau āu e hele ai e kipa iā ia. E noi iā ia e aʻo iā ʻoe i kekahi mau huaʻōlelo maʻamau a kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana a hiki iā ʻoe ke hana like iā ia.
3. E mahalo i nā moʻomeheu o kekahi
ʻO kekahi o nā mea e kōkua pū i ka pili o ka pilina ke ʻano o ka mahalo o kekahi i kekahi a me kāu moʻomeheu a me nā kuʻuna. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i ka launa pū ʻana ke leʻaleʻa a me ka noho pū ʻana me kahi haole hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo hou e pili ana i ko lākou ʻāina a me nā kuʻuna a he mea hou a leʻaleʻa kēlā.
Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo akā, keu nō inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana me kēia kaikamahine, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kipa hou i kona ʻāina.
Ke hele ʻoe ma laila e kipa iā ia, e akahele ʻoe e pili ana i kāu hana a puni kona ʻohana a me ka poʻe āna e manaʻo nui ai.
ʻOiai ʻo kahi mea maʻalahi e like me ka paʻa ʻana o nā lima e ʻae ʻia i kou wahi i hele mai ai, hiki ke hele mai me he mea hōʻeha loa ma kahi e noho ai ʻo ia. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe makemake e hoʻāʻo i kahi kīʻaha kūloko i mea nui i ka moʻomeheu a ko lākou ʻohana.
Hiki i nā kānaka mai nā moʻomeheu ʻokoʻa ke loaʻa i nā kuʻuna ʻokoʻa he mea hou a hōʻoluʻolu ʻole paha iā ʻoe no laila e mākaukau ʻoe inā e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi hanana hou e like me ka mea e mahalo ai ʻoe.
4. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu hoʻolālā
Ma hope o ka noho pū ʻana no kekahi manawa, makemake ʻoe e hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka ʻike o ʻolua holomua i ka wā e hiki mai ana ma ke ʻano he kāne. ʻAʻole pono i nā hoʻolālā e hoʻopili i ka male a neʻe pū; inā ʻoe e aloha aloha wale ana no kekahi manawa, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka me ka hoʻolālā ʻana i kahi huakaʻi i nā ʻāina ʻē a i ʻole ke kipa ʻana i nā ʻohana o kekahi.
Ke hele ʻoe i loko o nā mea maʻamau a ʻike e hana pū ʻoe me kahi kime, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio pū e pili ana i kou ola e hiki mai ana.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēlā me kēia moeʻuhane e hele i kahi pilina lōʻihi, e loaʻa nō iā ʻoe kahi mea e kakali ai. E hauʻoli maoli nō kāu kaikamahine i ka ʻike ʻana e lawe pū ʻoe i kou manawa pū.
ʻOiai inā paʻakikī ka lōʻihi ma o ʻolua, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi mau pahuhopu like a me nā hoʻolālā e hiki mai ana e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka hele ʻana a e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe no ke aha e hui pū ai ʻolua ke hele a paʻakikī nā manawa. E hoʻomanaʻo wale nō i ka wikiwiki ʻole i loko o ia mea a i kēlā me kēia manawa i kēlā me kēia manawa.
5. E hoʻomanawanui
ʻO ke aloha ʻana i kekahi mai kahi ʻāina ʻē aʻe e koi aku i ke ahonui no nā kumu he nui. Ma waho o ke kali ʻana i kahi manawa a hiki i kou ʻike hou ʻana iā lākou, e hoʻomanawanui ʻoe me ka hana ʻana i nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kāu mau kuʻuna, kāu moʻomeheu, kāu ʻōlelo a me kou mau ʻohana.
ʻOiai ke kākoʻo piha ʻana o kou ʻohana i kou pili pili, kānalua paha kona ʻohana a ʻaʻole ʻae maoli mai ka hoʻomaka.
ʻO ka mea wale nō e hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ma aneʻi ke hāʻawi nei i kēlā me kēia manawa i ka manawa e hoʻomaʻa i ke kūlana hou a hoʻomaopopo i kāu mau kumu a me ka mea nui o kou pilina.
Ma ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, e ʻae nā mea āpau i ʻolua i ka hui pū ʻana a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka ʻokoʻa o kāu ʻokoʻa a me nā mea āu i like ai. ʻO ke ahonui ke kī o ka hana ʻana i kahi ʻano pilina a e loaʻa nui iā ʻoe inā pili ʻoe i ka noho pū ʻana me kēia wahine.
ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i 50 mau makahiki i hala, 17% o nā kāne male waena lāhui. Ua lilo ka huakaʻi i mea maʻalahi no nā mea āpau, a me ka hui ʻana i ka poʻe mai nā ʻano like ʻole e hāʻawi i kēia mau pilina i ka manawa kūpono e ulu pono ai. E kōkua ke ahonui iā ʻoe e hele i nā hakakā a ʻike e hiki mai ka lā ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kāu kaikamahine ma kou ʻaoʻao no ka maikaʻi.
6. E hōʻike iā ia i kou aloha i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e loaʻa ai
Hiki paha i ka poʻe he nui e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i ka pili o ka pili loa i ka ʻaoʻao aloha i pili i nā pilina maʻamau a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i kekahi manawa kūikawā a kūwaho hoʻi me kāu mea aloha. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i kēia mau ʻano pilina ke lilo i mea leʻaleʻa a hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa pū kekahi mau manawa hoʻomanaʻo maoli ʻole.
ʻO ka mea āu e noʻonoʻo mau ai no kēia mau pilina e koi i ka hoʻoikaika i ka hana. Hōʻike mau ʻoe i kāu kaikamahine i kāu aloha ma nā ʻano like ʻole a ʻo ka mea leʻaleʻa e pili ana i ka mamao e aʻo ʻoe pehea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai.
ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ʻike ʻoe i kāna wahi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i nā makana liʻiliʻi nona nona ke hiki mai kou makahiki hoʻomanaʻo. Hiki i kahi hulina maʻalahi ʻo Google no nā manaʻo makana ke lilo i kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio pū me kekahi o kona ʻohana pili a nāna a hoʻonohonoho i kahi mea pūʻiwa nona ma ke kipa ʻana iā ia ma mua o ka mea āna i manaʻo ai ua hoʻolālā ʻoe.
Ke hōʻike nei iā ʻoe e mālama iā ia e hoʻopaʻa iā ʻolua a kokoke.
ʻO ka mea nui ka mea e mālama pū i ʻolua i nā manawa āpau i kou wā e makemake ai e hui pū paha ʻoe no kekahi manawa.
Ke hoʻolilo nei i kou pilina i ka hoʻāʻo
ʻOiai ʻoi aku ke koi o kēia ʻano pilina ma mua o ka pilina maʻamau, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e waiho i kekahi mea e kū ma waena ou a me ka wahine āu e aloha ai. ʻO ʻoe wale nō nā manaʻo no kekahi i kekahi ʻo ia wale nō ke mea alakaʻi iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e waiho i kekahi e noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe i kahi ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka hana ʻana e pono ai ka hoʻoikaika ʻana mai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua akā ma ka hopena o ka lā, he uku nui loa ia a me ka hoʻomālielie ʻana i ka ʻike ʻoiai ʻo nā pilikia, ua hana ʻoe ia mea. E hoʻomanaʻo wale ʻoe e ʻapo i kāu mau ʻokoʻa a e hoʻāʻo i ka lawa i ka ʻae ʻana i kou ʻohana i kāu koho a e holo pono nā mea āpau.