Anter
- 1. E nānā i nā hōʻailona a ka mea kumakaia e hana nei e pale i ka hana hoʻopunipuni a me ka pili e pili ana
- 2. E hoʻokau i ka hilinaʻi i kahi kūpono
- 3. E ʻimi i ke kōkua
Ua lohe paha mākou āpau i ka huaʻōlelo "hoʻokahi he cheater, cheater a mau loa". Inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia, a laila inā koho kekahi e noho me ka wahine i kolohe ʻole, e manaʻo ʻia kekahi e kūpono i ka manaʻo e hoʻopunipuni hou lākou. Akā me he mea lā ʻo ka hapa nui o nā hoa i kāhea ʻole iā ia e haʻalele ma hope o ka moe kolohe ʻana ʻaʻole e kau inoa ana no ka hoʻomau ʻole o ka monogamy; ke kakali nei naʻe a ke manaʻolana nei lākou e kāpae kāna kāne mai nā hana e hiki mai ana. ʻOiai ʻo ko lākou makemake maikaʻi loa, he mea maʻamau ia no ka kānalua o ka wahine i kumakaia e hoʻomaka hou ka hoʻopunipuni.
ʻO kēia mau makaʻu e hoʻohuli nui ʻia e ka hana a ka mea kumakaia. Inā ʻano like nā ʻano e hōʻike nei ʻaʻole lākou e loli a lawe ʻole i ka hana hewa i ka hilinaʻi, a laila ʻoi aku ka pololei o ka hilahila ʻole. ʻO ke koena o kēia ʻatikala e nānā i nā hanana kahi i manaʻo ʻia he kumu e noʻonoʻo ai hiki ke ola ka male a malia paha e ʻoi aku ka ikaika i ka hopena. I kekahi mau hanana, ʻaʻole pono e ʻōlelo ʻia e noho ka wahine, e like me ka hōʻole ʻana o ka mea kumakaia e hoʻopau i ka hihia / hana i ka monogamy.
Lilo kahi i kahi makaʻu i kēlā me kēia manawa ke komo ʻia kahi pilina pili loa, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke ʻike heʻoiaʻiʻo a hilinaʻi paha kekahi. ʻOi aku ka nui o kēia makaʻi ke wāwahi ʻia ka hilinaʻi i kahi ala weliweli e like me ka hihia. ʻOiai ke loaʻa nei kekahi mau hōʻailona hoʻohiki i ka pau ʻana o ka hoʻopunipuni, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke ʻike ʻoiaʻiʻo, a ʻo ka noho ʻana me ka mea kumakaia hiki ke hana i nā ʻano manaʻo like ʻole. I mea e paʻakikī ai nā mea, ʻaʻole i loaʻa i ka mea kumakaia ke kākoʻo o ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha, ʻoiai ua aʻo paha kēia mau mea i ka mea kumakaia e haʻalele i ka pilina. Hoʻokumu kēia i nā kaomi kūloko a me waho e hana i ka male male a pale i ka hiki ke nānā ʻia o haʻi.
Aia paha kekahi mau mea a ka mea kumakaia e hoʻāʻo ai e hoʻāʻo i nā makaʻu (o ka hoʻopunipuni hou ʻia) a lākou e ʻike ai.
1. E nānā i nā hōʻailona a ka mea kumakaia e hana nei e pale i ka hana hoʻopunipuni a me ka pili e pili ana
ʻO kekahi kumu nui pehea ka makemake maoli o ka mea kumakaia e ʻike i ka ʻeha a me ka luku ʻia e kā lākou hana. Hiki iā ia ke hōʻailona maikaʻi ke hōʻike lākou i ka makemake e lawe i ka manawa e maopopo ai i ka hewa o kā lākou hana a mai hoʻāʻo e pale i ke kumuhana a kahili ia ma lalo o ke kapeta a neʻe maʻalahi. Lawe i ke kuleana no kā lākou koho ʻana ma mua o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i ka mea kumakaia he olakino maʻamau.
2. E hoʻokau i ka hilinaʻi i kahi kūpono
Hele kēia ma mua o ka ʻae ʻana i ka hilinaʻi i ka mea kumakaia e kūkulu hou ʻia a pili pū me ka hiki ke hilinaʻi iā ia iho a hoʻolohe i ka ʻōpū. Loaʻa nā hae ʻulaʻula i ka manawa i koho ʻia e kumakaia e nānā ʻole. Ma kēia wahi ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kala ʻana iā ʻoe iho no ka kuhi hewa ʻana i ke kūlana. He kūlana maikaʻi ka hilinaʻi ʻana; he mea kōkua paha ke hana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kaulike kūpono o ka hilinaʻi ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka ʻole o nā makapō i ka mea e hana maoli nei.
3. E ʻimi i ke kōkua
Hoʻowalewale ʻia kekahi e hele i waho o ka moana i ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole e haʻalele i nā hōʻailona a lilo i mea kānalua loa, e heluhelu nui ana i nā mea. ʻO ke kiʻi ʻana i kahi loea i hiki ke lilo i pahuhopu a kuhikuhi i nā hopena kūpono ʻole paha ka mea maikaʻi loa, keu hoʻi inā pili a ʻohana paha nā ʻohana a mau hoaaloha paha e pili ana i kēia kūlana.
He kuleana ko ka wahine hoʻopunipuni i nā kānalua a me nā makaʻu; he mea nui e hoʻoholo inā lilo ko lākou mau manaʻo i mea pilikia a hopena i nā ʻeha e hōʻalo ʻia. ʻO ka hana ʻana a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kēia mau makaʻu i kēlā me kēia a i ʻole nā kāne a me ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo e paipai ʻia ma mua o ka manaʻolana e hoʻomaikaʻi lākou me ka manawa.