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- Hoʻohui ʻia o nā mea e hana i kahi pilina narcissist / kahu mālama
- 1. empathy kiʻekiʻe vs. haʻahaʻa empathy
- 2. Kaohi vs. kūpaʻa
- 3. Ke hāʻawi nei vs.
- 4. Ikaika vs. passivity
- 5. Hoʻokaʻaʻike vs. kuleana
Ke manipulative nui kāu wahine, narcissistic, aloha pilikino, kaohi ʻana, a me ke koi ʻana, a laila pono ʻoe e ʻae a ʻae paha i kēlā mau ʻano i mea e makemake ai e noho i ka pilina. ʻOiai inā e hakakā ʻoe me kāu wahine e pili ana i kā lākou ʻano, inā ʻaʻole loli nā mea a laila ke hoʻomanawanui nei ʻoe i ka hana a ka mea ʻē aʻe. Inā hilahila ʻoe i kāna hana akā ke uhi nei ʻoe iā ia, me he mea lā ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa ia, a ke haʻi aku nei hoʻi i kāu poʻe keiki e ʻae iā ia, a laila ua lilo ʻoe i kahu mālama. Pehea ʻoe i hoʻopau ai i ka hiki a me ka mālama pono ʻana i kahi kanaka manipulative, pilikino iā ia iho, a noho aliʻi?
Hoʻohui ʻia o nā mea e hana i kahi pilina narcissist / kahu mālama
Pono e hoʻohui ʻia kekahi mau mea e hana i kahi pilina narcissist / kahu mālama. E like me kēlā me kēia pili pili loa, pono ke kāwili ʻia o nā like a me nā ʻokoʻa. Pono pū kekahi mea hoʻokalakupua ma waena o nā pono o kēlā me kēia kanaka a me ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēlā mau pono e kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe.
ʻO kahi laʻana, he mau kāne ʻē aʻe ʻelua a Alicia āna i kau ai ma ke koleke, a ʻo lāua ʻelua kāna i hōʻike ai he kāne maikaʻi, mālama, akā nāu iki hoʻi. Ua pau ʻo ia me Matt, ke kāne e "hele ana i nā wahi" a he moemoeā kona e hoʻomaka ana i kāna ʻoihana ponoʻī. Ua kahili maoli ʻo ia iā ia mai kona mau wāwae. Ua makemake nui ʻo ia i kāna ʻano lawe, akā he ʻumi mau makahiki ma hope mai, ʻike ʻo ia iā ia iho me he mea lā he aloha lā, ke kaohi a koi mau nei i kāna nānā.
Ua aloha aloha nui ʻo David iā Serena ma kahi huakaʻi i Brazil ma hope pono o ke koleke. He nani loa ʻo Serena, ua aʻo maikaʻi ʻia, mai kahi ʻohana papa kiʻekiʻe, a ua hauʻoli loa i ka male ʻana iā David a neʻe i ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa. Ua male lāua he iwakāluakūmālima mau makahiki, akā huhū ʻo David a huhū ʻo ia no ka hoʻomoʻa ʻana i nā pāʻina āpau, uku i nā bila āpau, a mālama i nā mea āpau ke hele ʻo Serena i ka hui puke, kūʻai aku i nā lole hou aku, a kamaʻilio no nā hola. ma ke kelepona me kona makuahine ma Brazil.
Pehea i lilo ai ʻo Alicia a me Dāvida i hui pū i ka hana mālama me ka narcissist i ko lākou ola?
Nā ʻokoʻa Narcissist / kahu mālama
ʻLelo lākou i nā mea kūʻē. Aia nō kekahi mau ʻokoʻa loa ma waena o nā narcissists a me nā kahu e huki like iā lākou. He mea maʻalahi inā nele kekahi i kekahi mau hiki ke nānā lākou no kekahi mea iā ia kēlā mau hiki, i pānaʻi no ka hāʻawi ʻana i kekahi mea mai ko lākou ikaika.
1. empathy kiʻekiʻe vs. haʻahaʻa empathy
Maʻalahi loa e ʻike i ke kumu e ʻumeʻume ai i kahi mea me ke aloha haʻahaʻa i kekahi me ke aloha nui. ʻIke ka narcissist iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka e maopopo maoli, noʻonoʻo, hoʻolohe, nānā pono iā lākou a hāʻawi a aloha i nā manawa a lākou huhū, ʻeha a nele. Akā no ke aha ʻoe i ʻike ai i ke ʻano haʻahaʻa o ka narcissist haʻahaʻa?
Ma ke ʻano he prone i ka mālama ʻana, kiʻekiʻe loa paha kou mau manaʻo aloha. ʻIke paha ʻoe e hana maʻalahi i ka makemake o kāu kāne ma mua o kāu ponoʻī a manaʻo paha i ka ikaika o kona mau manaʻo ma mua o kāu ponoʻī.
2. Kaohi vs. kūpaʻa
Makemake nā Narcissist i ka kaohi, hoʻoholo, a ʻike ʻia ʻo ia ka luna. Pēlā ke kāne a Alicia ʻo Matt. Mālama ʻo ia i kāna ʻoihana ponoʻī. Hilinaʻi ʻo ia iā Alicia e hana i nā puke, e mālama i ka hale, e hānai i kā lāua mau kaikamahine ʻekolu, a lawelawe i kā lākou mau waiwai hoʻolimalima ʻewalu. ʻO Alicia ka mea ʻike maoli i ka waiwai, akā ʻaʻole hoʻolohe ʻo Matt i kāna mea e ʻōlelo ai.
Kūpono loa ʻo Alicia ʻoiai ua ʻike ʻo ia ua hewa ʻo Matt. He inaina ʻo ia i kekahi ʻano huhū a i ʻole kūlike ʻole, no laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ʻōlelo pinepine. ʻLelo ʻo ia, “ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ia ala, a ʻaʻole au makemake e hakakā me ia. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻopiʻi ʻia ma kēia ala. ” Mahalo ʻo ia i kona hiki ke hoʻoholo paʻakikī, akā makemake ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo ʻo ia i kāna mau pono a me nā manaʻo hou aku.
3. Ke hāʻawi nei vs.
Nānā nā mea mālama i nā manawa kūpono e hāʻawi ai, kaʻana like ai, kōkua pū a kōkua ai. Loaʻa iā lākou kahi hoʻoikaika maoli o ka manaʻo maikaʻi ke kōkua nei lākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻOiai manaʻo mau nā poʻe narcissist e pono hou ana lākou - nui ka noʻonoʻo, kōkua hou, aloha hou, ʻike hou, a me ka ʻaelike hou aku. Hana kēia a hiki i ka lilo ʻana o nā mea i ke kaulike ʻole a huhū ʻoe. Kupanaha, lawe wale ʻia ka hoʻohiki a ka narcissist e noʻonoʻo nui ai, e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manaʻolana a me ka makemake e hoʻomau i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea hou aʻe.
4. Ikaika vs. passivity
Makemake nā Narcissist i ka mālama. ʻOi aku paha kou makemake e hāʻawi, e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea, a hoʻāʻo e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu wahine. He mau maikaʻi maikaʻi kēia, akā e alakaʻi lākou iā ʻoe e hoʻomalu ʻia a hoʻomalu ʻia e kahi wahine manipulative. Inā ʻoe i loko o ka ʻaelike maoli, a laila hiki ke hana maikaʻi, akā inā makemake ʻoe i nā mea like ʻole a i ʻole ʻokoʻa nā manaʻo e alakaʻi pinepine i kahi hakakā a i ʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi pio, ʻae a hui pū.
5. Hoʻokaʻaʻike vs. kuleana
Manaʻo nā Narcissists e loaʻa ka mea a lākou e makemake ai a makemake lākou e noʻonoʻo ʻia ma mua o haʻi. Ua komo paha ʻoe i kahi ʻano o ka hāʻawi ʻana a lawe i ka lua. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana e like me ka mea aloha a mālama hoʻi e hana ai. Nānā nui nā mea mālama i nā manaʻo maikaʻi o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke aloha, ʻoiai nā narcissists e kau i ka loaʻa ʻana o kēlā aloha.
Hoʻopili ʻana
Hoʻopili ka poʻe kūʻē a hiki ke hoʻohui i kahi ikehu hoihoi i kahi pilina. Aia a lilo i kaulike ʻole nā mea i kupu aʻe nā pilikia. ʻO ka nui o nā koi a ka narcissist, ʻo ka nui o nā mea a ke kahu e hāʻawi ai, a ʻo ka hope. He aha paha ka mea i hoʻomaka ma ke kaulike keu, deteriorates ma luna o nā makahiki i loko o kahi kaulike loa, a me ke olakino pilina.
Mālama nā ʻokoʻa nui i ka narcissist a me ka mea mālama i hoʻopaʻa ʻia, i ka manawa pinepine i ka pilina pākī / huki. Aia ʻoe ma ka hāmeʻa ʻōpio e hele mau i luna a i lalo. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻalele a ʻaʻole loli ka narcissist.