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ʻO ka noho ʻana a me ke aloha ʻana i ke kanaka me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo he mea hōʻeha ka naʻau, kaumaha, paʻakikī a hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo ʻole he mana ʻole. ʻAʻole wale no ka mea pono ʻoe e nānā i ke kanaka āu e aloha ai deteriorate a lilo i waho o ka kaohi i mua o kou mau maka, a i ʻole no ka mea ʻo ka wahine maʻi noʻonoʻo e weliweli iā ʻoe iho iā lākou iho. Akā aia kekahi ʻehaʻeha naʻau e hiki ke kū mai ka lawehala āu e paʻa ai no ka ʻoka (e like me ka hewa o ka mea i pakele) a i ʻole no ka huhū ʻana iā lākou a i ʻole huhū a huhū paha me lākou no ko lākou ʻano noʻonoʻo āu i ʻike ai ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kaohi.
No laila ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ka male ʻana o ka wahine me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo e alakaʻi pinepine ai i ka hemo ʻana, ma hope o nā mea āpau, pono ʻoe e mālama iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole e maʻi ʻolua.
Akā he aha nā pilikia e kū pono inā ʻoe e hoʻolālā e haʻalele i kāu wahine e noho nei me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo? ʻĀ, ʻaʻole kū hoʻokahi kēia mau manaʻo akā koʻikoʻi ia inā he wahine kāu me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo a hemo ka pepa ma nā kāleka.
ʻO ka ʻike o ka lilo
Paʻa paʻakikī inā pono ʻoe e haʻalele i kahi wahine olakino. ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kū e nānā hou aku iā lākou e loaʻa ana kekahi ʻano nalowale i ka mea i hala a me nā mea i nalowale. Akā inā pono ʻoe e hemo i kekahi no ka maikaʻi ʻole o lākou, e hoʻokau ʻoi loa iā ʻoe ma muli o ka hopena o ka hopena.
- He aha inā inā hiki iā lākou ke ola a haʻalele wau iā lākou a hōʻino iā lākou?
- He aha inā ʻaʻole lākou e kū hoʻokahi?
- He aha inā pepehi lākou iā lākou iho?
- He aha inā e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a haʻo wau iā lākou?
- He aha inā ʻaʻole au e aloha i kekahi i ke ala aʻu i aloha ai i kaʻu wahine i ka wā e ola ana?
Eia ka mea, loaʻa iā mākou nā ala āpau i ke ola, a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ola i ko mākou ola no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe (inā ʻaʻole he keiki ʻōpio e makemake mau ana iā mākou).
'He aha inā' ʻaʻole loa he ʻoiaʻiʻo. 'He aha inā ʻaʻole' hiki ʻole, a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana iā lākou kahi manaʻo hōʻino e hiki ke hoʻohiolo iā ʻoe i lalo.
No laila, inā ʻoe e launa pū ana me kahi wahine me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo a ʻo ka hemo wale kāu koho, e hoʻoholo a kū iā ia. E hōʻoia wale nō e kōkua ʻoe i kāu pakanā e ʻike i ke kōkua a me ke kākoʻo a lākou e hele pono ai. E hāhai i kēia ʻōlelo aʻo, e lawe i ka auwae a nānā ʻole i hope - e hana pēlā e hōʻeha iā ʻoe iho a ʻaʻohe mea i loko o kā lākou noʻonoʻo pono e hana i kēlā.
Ka hewa
No laila he wahine kāu me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo, aia ka male male ma ke kāleka, a ʻoiai ʻike ʻoe ʻo ia ka mea kūpono ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kāpae iā ʻoe iho mai ka noʻonoʻo ʻana me ka lawehala.
- Kuhi hewa ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kāu wahine
- Kuhi hewa ua haʻalele ʻoe i kāu wahine maʻi maʻi noʻonoʻo
- Kuhihewa he makua maʻi noʻonoʻo kāu mau keiki ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua.
- ʻO Guild e pili ana i ka pehea e noho ai kāu wahine me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo ma hope o ka hemo ʻana.
- Kuhi hewa ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pili pū me kāu hoa wahine no ka ʻoi aku, a i ʻole no ka maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻAʻole pau kēia papa inoa, akā hou, pono e kū!
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae iā ʻoe iho e maʻi me ka hopohopo a me ka lawehala ma muli o kēia kūlana ʻaʻole kōkua ia i kekahi. Inā he keiki āu, pono ʻoe e ikaika no lākou a hoʻopiha iā ʻoe iho me ka lawehala ʻaʻole e kōkua i kekahi mea ʻoi aku kāu wahine a mau keiki paha āu.
E hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho a me nā mea āpau ʻē aʻe ma ka hana ʻana e hoʻopau i nā manaʻo hewa. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e hoʻokuʻu i kēlā hewa i kēia manawa a hana i kahi ola hou no ka pono o nā mea āpau e pili ana.
ʻO kahi moʻolelo ola maoli (me nā inoa i loli) pili i kahi wahine i loaʻa iā BiPolar Disorder me nā ʻano psychotic. Ua kū kāna kāne iā ia i mau makahiki akā ua koi ʻo ia e noho ʻo ia ma ka hale o kona kaikunāne a ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻae iā ia e mālama i kāna keiki ʻōpio (hiki ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia).
Akā ua waiho ʻo ia iā ia i loko o ka limbo e noho ana ma ka hale o kona kaikunāne no nā makahiki e noho nei me nā hoʻohiki wahaheʻe hiki iā ia ke hoʻi i ka home i ka mahina e hiki mai ana, a i ʻole i kekahi mau mahina (i huli i mau makahiki) no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke mālama i ke kūlana a ʻaʻole ʻike i ka mea e hana ai.
Ua loaʻa iā ia kahi hihia e pani i kēlā ʻano o ka male āna i nalo ai a i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa e hoʻi i kāna wahine i ka home. ʻAʻole hauʻoli ʻo ia a ʻaʻole hiki ke ola hou, ua ʻike ʻo ia ua hala kāna male akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e haʻalele.
He ʻumi mau makahiki a kona ʻohana e paipai ai iā ia e haʻalele.
ʻElima mau makahiki ma hope mai, hauʻoli ʻo ia, ulu pono, hiki ke noho mehameha a hōʻike ʻole i nā hōʻailona o ka maʻi noʻonoʻo. Hauʻoli kāna kāne ma mua a noho pū me kāna hoa hou, a pili maikaʻi loa lākou āpau me ka ʻole o nā manaʻo paʻakikī. Inā ua hoʻokuʻu aku kāna kāne iā ia ma mua (ke hiki ʻole iā ia ke hana), ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o lākou ma mua, ʻoiai inā he mea paʻakikī ia i kēlā manawa.
Hōʻike kēia hiʻohiʻona i luna ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka hopena o kāu hana, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ola i kou ola no lākou.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau i kou ola a hoʻohālike paha hiki iā ʻoe ke lawelawe i kekahi mea me ka pololei ʻole, i kekahi mau hihia, paʻakikī loa e hana.
Inā he kāne kāu me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo a hemo ka pepa ma nā kāleka, pono ʻoe e ʻike pono e mālama ʻia kā lākou mālama a lawelawe ʻia lākou me ke aloha a me ke aloha i kou hāʻawi ʻana i kā lākou mālama i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke noho hoa me lākou ma hope o ka hemo ʻana.
ʻO nā mea āu e hoʻoholo ai, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana ʻino i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, pono ʻoe e ʻae i nā kūlana no ke ʻano o lākou a e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e ʻike ua hana ʻoe i kāu ʻoi loa i kēlā manawa.
A lana ka manaʻo, ʻo ia wale nō paha ka hoʻoholo e kōkua ai i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Ka hopohopo
Pehea ma ka honua e hiki ai i kāu wahine me ka maʻi noʻonoʻo ke hoʻomanawanui me ʻoe e haʻalele ana iā lākou? He nīnau paha kāu e nīnau nei a noi paha no kahi manawa lōʻihi ma hope o ka hemo ʻana. ʻO ia nō ka pilikia ma ke ʻano i hōʻike ʻia ma luna - ʻaʻole makemake ke kāne e hōʻino i nā mea, akā ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻo ia e hana pū me kāna wahine maʻi noʻonoʻo a lilo i mea maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, pono paha ʻoe e kau i kahi ʻōnaehana kākoʻo no kāu wahine ma ke ʻano he mahele o ka kaʻina hemo, a he nui nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a puni, ka nui o nā lawelawe a me nā manawaleʻa i hiki ke kōkua me ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēia ma ke ʻāpana o kāu male male kaʻina hoʻolālā.
Akā inā ʻoe e hoʻopili i ka manawa i kēia a mai nānā ʻole iā ia, e ʻike ʻoe he ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka haʻalele ʻana, me ka ʻike he mālama kāu kāne e kōkua ai iā lākou e neʻe a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokuʻu i ka hopohopo.