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- No ke aha he paʻakikī loa e haʻalele i kāu pilina hōʻino?
- Ua haʻalele ʻoe. He aha ka hana aʻe?
- He aha ka hana i ka wā o ka ʻaha aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo kolohe kūloko?
- Ke wehe nei i kāu hala
- Ke hoʻomaopopo nei ʻaʻole maʻamau kāu ʻike
- ʻAʻole hoʻomāinoino wale ka hoʻomāinoino
- Ke neʻe nei mai ka mea hōʻeha i kahi mea ola
Inā ʻeha ʻoe i ka hana ʻino kūloko, e ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō. Ma mua o ka hapakolu o nā wahine ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa i ʻike i ka hana hoʻomāinoino kino ma ka lima o kā lākou hoa pili. Inā ʻo kēia kou hihia, he mea nui ia e ʻimi ʻoe i kōkua. ʻO nā wahi palekana, i kapa ʻia he mau hale hoʻomalu, aia no nā mea i hōʻeha ʻia i ka hana kūloko kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke pale a hoʻomaka e hana ma waena o kēia ulia pōpilikia me ke kākāʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻino kūloko. Hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa nā kumuwaiwai e kōkua iā ʻoe e haʻalele a hele i kahi palekana e Googling "nā hale pale wahine i hahau ʻia" no kou wahi. Inā ua piʻi ka hanana i mea e ʻike ai ʻoe i kou ola i ka makaʻu koke, e kāhea iā 911.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina kolohe, akā e mālama ia i ke ola.
No ke aha he paʻakikī loa e haʻalele i kāu pilina hōʻino?
ʻO ka poʻe ola o ka hana hoʻomāinoino home ʻike ka hoʻoholo ʻana e haʻalele i ke kūlana ʻaʻole maʻalahi. Ua manaʻo paha lākou ua paʻa lākou. Ua hilinaʻi paha lākou i kā lākou wahine no ke kākoʻo kālā a ʻaʻole i manaʻo ua lawa kā lākou kālā e hele aku ai. Ua manaʻo kekahi e like me ka hewa o lākou no ka hana hoʻomāinoino, kahi mea a lākou i hana ai i hoʻonāukiuki i ka huhū i kā lākou hoa a inā hiki iā lākou ke hōʻoki wale i ka hana ʻana i "kēlā," e lilo nā mea i hoʻokalakupua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. (ʻO kēia ka manawa pinepine a ka mea hoʻomāino e haʻi aku ai i ka mea i hōʻino ʻia.) Makaʻu paha kekahi i ka noho hoʻokahi. Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kekahi o kēia mau kūlana, e hoʻomanaʻo: ʻo kou palekana, a me ka palekana o kāu keiki āu e loaʻa ai, ʻo ia ka mea nui loa.
Heluhelu Pili: No ke aha e haʻalele ʻole ai nā mea hōʻino kūloko?
Ua haʻalele ʻoe. He aha ka hana aʻe?
- Palekana iā ʻoe iho. Pono ʻoe i kahi e like me kahi puʻuhonua i hiki ʻole i kāu mea hōʻino ke loaʻa iā ʻoe.
- E kāpae i nā mea a kāu mea hōʻino e hoʻohana ai e huki i kāu neʻe: nā kāleka hōʻaiʻē, nā kelepona paʻalima
- Hana me kahi loea loea e kālailai i kāu kamepiula e hōʻoia ʻaʻole i kau kāu mea hana ʻino i kekahi mea i kāu kamepiula e ʻae iā ia e kiu mamao iā ʻoe. (Nā mea kālai kī, nā spyware, a pēlā aku.)
- Hoʻomaka aʻoaʻo
I loko o kāu mau kau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻana, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manawa kūpono e hana ai i nā makaʻu o ka noho ʻana i kahi hanana kolohe kūloko. Loaʻa i kou kākāʻōlelo ka mākaukau e kōkua iā ʻoe e kūʻē i kēia ʻeha hohonu. He mea kōkua paha ke komo i loko o kahi hui kākoʻo o ka poʻe i kū i nā ʻano like a ke alakaʻi nei i kēia manawa i ka maluhia, nā ola maluhia me ka ʻole o ka hoʻoweliweli o ka hana ʻino. Hāʻawi kēia iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e ʻike ai hiki ke ola, a e ʻae pū hoʻi iā ʻoe e hana i mau hoaaloha hou me nā poʻe e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea āu i hele ai. Me ka manawa a me ka mālama ʻana, e loaʻa hou iā ʻoe kou ʻano o ka waiwai pilikino, palekana, a me ke kūʻokoʻa.
He aha ka hana i ka wā o ka ʻaha aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo kolohe kūloko?
ʻO ka pahuhopu o kāu mau kau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻana e hoʻolohe, kamaʻilio, a hele mai me nā hoʻolālā kūpono e loaʻa ai ka ʻike e pili ana i kāu kūlana kikoʻī, a kōkua iā ʻoe e hana ma waena o ia mea. ʻO ka maʻamau, e kākoʻo ke kākāʻōlelo iā ʻoe ke nānā ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, kaumaha, hopohopo, trauma i hala, keiki a me ka mōʻaukala ʻohana, a me nā pilikia pili. Hāʻawi lākou iā ʻoe i kahi papa inoa o nā kumuwaiwai kū kānāwai a me ke kālā.
Heluhelu Pili: No ke aha e hoʻomāinoino ai nā mea hōʻino?
Ke wehe nei i kāu hala
ʻO nā wahine i ʻike iā lākou iho i nā pilina hōʻino e pono e hoʻomaopopo pehea i hana ai ko lākou hala i ko lākou ʻano iho. ʻAʻohe ʻano "ʻano" ʻano e ʻimi a noho pū me kahi hoa kolohe, ʻoiai he kū hoʻokahi a paʻakikī hoʻi kēia mau hanana. Eia nō naʻe, kekahi mau ʻano maʻamau i hiki i nā mea i hōʻeha ʻia ke kaʻana like, e like me ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa o ka waiwai ponoʻī a i ʻole ke ulu ʻana i kahi ʻohana kahi i kū ai ka hana ʻino. I nā kau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me kāu ʻae, e alakaʻi ʻia ʻoe i kāu mau hoʻomanaʻo a me nā ʻike i kahi ʻano mālie a me ka hōʻoluʻolu. E kōkua kāu kākāʻōlelo iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono hou pehea ʻoe e kuhi hewa ai i kāu pilina hōʻino me "kou hewa".
Ke hoʻomaopopo nei ʻaʻole maʻamau kāu ʻike
E kālele ana kahi ʻāpana o kāu mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i ke kōkua ʻana iā ʻoe e ʻike i ka maʻamau ʻole o kāu pilina kolohe. ʻAʻole ʻike ka hapa nui o nā mea i loaʻa he kūlana maʻamau ko lākou kūlana, no ka mea ua ulu lākou i loko o nā home kahi a lākou i ʻike ai i ka hana ʻino i kēlā me kēia lā. ʻO ia wale nō kā lākou ʻike, a no laila ke koho lākou i kahi hoa me nā ʻano kolohe, ua aniani kēia i ko lākou ʻano kamaliʻi a ua ʻike ʻia he kūlana kūlohelohe.
ʻAʻole hoʻomāinoino wale ka hoʻomāinoino
Ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka hana ʻino i loko o ka hale, ʻike pinepine mākou i kekahi hoa e hoʻokau nei i ka ikaika kino i kekahi. Akā aia kekahi ʻano hoʻomāinoino like ʻē aʻe. Hiki i ka hoʻomāinoino Psychological ke ʻano o kekahi hoa e kaohi ana i ka mea ʻē aʻe, ma o nā ʻano like ʻole e like me ka nānā ʻana i kāu neʻe ʻana ma ka hoʻokomo malū ʻana i kahi mea GPS ma kāu kelepona paʻalima, e wāwahi ana i kāu leka uila, Facebook a i ʻole nā papaho pāʻoihana kaiaulu, e hele ana i kāu kelepona paʻalima. ka heluhelu ʻana i kāu leka uila a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana i kāu mōʻaukala kāhea. ʻO kēia hana autorative kahi ʻano hoʻomāinoino. Hiki i kahi kākā'ōlelo ke hana pū me ʻoe e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole kēia kahi ala aloha, mahalo e hana ai i kahi pilina a e alakaʻi paha i ka hana ʻino kino.
ʻO ka hōʻino waha kekahi ʻano hana ʻino. Hiki i kēia ke hana i ke ʻano o ke kāhea ʻana i ka inoa, nā ʻōlelo hōʻino, ka hoʻohilahila kino, ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa mau a me ka hoʻohewa ʻana, a me ka hōʻino ʻana i ka ʻōlelo pelapela ke huhū ʻoe. E kōkua kahi mea aʻoaʻo iā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia ʻaʻole maʻamau ka hana, a kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike he pono ʻoe e pili i ka pilina ma waena o nā hoa ka lula, ʻaʻole ʻokoʻa.
Ke neʻe nei mai ka mea hōʻeha i kahi mea ola
Lōʻihi ke ala hoʻi mai ka hoʻomāinoino home. Akā nā ʻike āu e hana ai e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, a me ka ikaika āu e loaʻa ai mai kāu mau kau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻana, he mea kūpono ia. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou iā ʻoe iho ma ke ʻano he hōʻeha o ka hana hoʻomāinoino home, akā ma ke ʻano he mea pakele i ka hana hoʻomāinoino home. ʻO kēlā manaʻo, no ke koi hou ʻana i kou ola, he waiwai kēlā me kēia manawa āu e lilo ai i ka lāʻau.