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- No ke aha he mea nui ka pilina o ka naʻau?
- Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ka pili aloha i kāu male?
- He aha inā ʻaʻole e nūnū kāu hoa?
- E hoʻolilo i kāu wahine i ipo naʻau
Ua ʻike mākou āpau ma mua - ka mau o ka wahine e like me ke kuʻi ʻole o ka aloha me ka ʻole o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, ʻo ka mea nona ka pilina me ka manamana, ka wahine e ulu nei ka male a ke ulu nei lāua, ma mua o ka ulu ulu ʻana.
Pehea lākou e hana ai? Pehea lākou e hoʻomau ai i ka hōʻahewa i nā pilikia o ka pilina kanaka a noho i ke aloha?
Hana lākou ia mea ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka pilina o ka naʻau.
ʻO ko lākou hiki ke noho kokoke a pili aku ʻaʻole ia he laki maikaʻi; ma o ka hana ikaika a me ka noʻonoʻo ulu e noho paʻa lākou i ka wā e hāʻule ai nā kāne a puni lākou.
Ke pili pili kino ʻelua, hoʻohana lāua i ka mana o ka hoʻopā e noho kokoke, ʻo ke aloha a i ʻole ke ʻūlū ʻana i luna o ka moe. Ke pili pili naʻau kekahi, hoʻohana lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo e noho kokoke kekahi i kekahi.
Hōʻike lākou i ko lākou aloha nui i kā lākou hoa. Noho hāmama lākou a maʻalahi hoʻi i kā lākou hoʻomana. Hilinaʻi lākou a mahalo i ke kanaka ma ʻō a ma muli o kā lākou ala ākea a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka launa ʻana.
ʻO ka pili kino ke pili o ke kino. A, he aha ka pilina o ka naʻau i ka male?
Ka pilina pili loa ʻo ka pili o ka ʻuhane.
Inā ʻoe me kou hoahānau, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili i ka naʻau me lākou ma ke kūlike ʻole. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole hiki ke kaʻawale ka pilina a me ka male.
No ke aha he mea nui ka pilina o ka naʻau?
"ʻAʻole wau pili e pili hou iā ʻoe."
“Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu iā ʻoe.”
"ʻAʻole ʻoe ka mea hoʻokahi aʻu i male ai."
Pili kēia mau ʻōlelo āpau i ka pili ʻole o ka pilina o ka naʻau.
ʻO ka pilina aloha me kāu hoa e pili ana i ka kaʻana like ʻana i kahi pilina pili iā lākou. He hana kuka ia no ka wehe, hoʻopono, aloha, a me ke aloha i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu ipo, ipo wahine, kāne, a wahine paha.
Me ka pili ʻole o ka naʻau, ʻike ʻoe i ka hoʻokaʻawale a kēia mau ʻōlelo maʻamau i wehewehe ai.
Ke manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kāu pakanā ma hope o ka male ʻana iā lākou no nā makahiki, no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i lawe i ka manawa e hoʻomau i ka ʻike iā lākou.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ke ola e loli nā kānaka e like me nā ʻano a puni lākou. ʻAʻole ʻokoʻa kāu kāne a wahine paha; ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke noho e like me ka wā e loli ana ka honua a puni lākou.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e launa me lākou, ke nānā nei i ko lākou mau pono ʻona, ʻike ʻoe i kahi mamao loa mai iā lākou. A, kēia kumu o ka pili ʻole o ka naʻau i ka male ʻana e hopena ʻia e kāu hana.
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ka pili aloha i kāu male?
ʻO ka kūleʻa o ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana i ka pilina ma ka mare e hilinaʻi nui i hoʻokahi mea nui, akā paʻakikī e hana.
A, nāwaliwali kēlā!
ʻO ka palupalu a me ka hāmama i kāu hoa ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e kaʻana like ai a pili pū me nā manaʻo o kekahi. Inā he kiaʻi kāu i kēlā me kēia ala, ke pani nei ʻoe i kāu hoa mai kēlā ʻāpana o kou ola.
Pono ka pilina Emotional i ka palupalu, a mai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e hana ai i kahi o ka nāwaliwali ka mea e alakaʻi ai i kahi laʻana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi i kāu kāne e wehe iā ʻoe inā aia kekahi mau ʻāpana o kou ola āu e hōʻole nei e kamaʻilio.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi i kāu wahine e ʻae iā ʻoe i loko o kāna ao inā he mau iwi ʻoe i loko o kou lumi moe e makaʻu ʻoe e kamaʻilio. I ka manawa e ʻike ai kāu hoa iā ʻoe i ka hana mua a kau i kou mau manaʻo ma ka laina, ʻoi aku ka like o ka hana ʻana o lākou.
ʻAʻole wale ia, akā aia kekahi manawa kūpono e hālāwai lākou me kou palupalu me ke aloha, e hoʻonui ana i kāu pilina me kekahi.
He aha inā ʻaʻole e nūnū kāu hoa?
I ka hopena o ka lā, ʻaʻohe male, a ʻaʻohe kanaka kūpono. Loaʻa iā mākou āpau nā kīnā e pono ai e hoʻoponopono, no laila mai kāhea i kahi loio hemo no ka mea ua paʻa ʻoe i ka male ʻole a i ʻole nā pilikia pili i ka naʻau.
He mea nui ka pilina o ka naʻau. Akā, ʻaʻole hiki i ka pilina pilikino i ka male ke kumu e makaʻu i ke kumu o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
No laila, ʻo ka hana mua e hoʻomau i ka hoʻokō ʻana i ka paʻakikī o kāu hoa me ke aloha. Maliʻa paha, wehe mālie ʻoe i nā puka paʻa o kāu male me ka pili ʻole o ka naʻau.
Inā loaʻa kahi pilikia kikoʻī āu e manaʻo ai he mea nui e hoʻopili aku me kāu hoa, ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi e kiʻi i nā lawelawe a kahi kākāʻōlelo male e hoʻoponopono i kēia kūlana.
He mea ʻole ke aloha a me ke aloha i loko o kou puʻuwai, aia kekahi mau mea i koe i ka poʻe ʻoihana. E hāʻawi kēia i kahi mea kōkua hana e kōkua i ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana i kahi mālamalama i nā pilikia ma ka lima. E maʻalahi ka lohe ʻana o kāu hoa mai kā lākou waha ma kahi o kāu.
Eia kekahi, e nānā i ke wikiō i hāʻawi ʻia ma lalo e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā kumu ʻeono kiʻekiʻe i hiki ai i kahi male ke hāʻule. Hiki i kēia wikiō ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā glitches i loko o kāu male a hana i ka hana kūpono.
E hoʻolilo i kāu wahine i ipo naʻau
E loli ka pae o ka mamao o ka naʻau i ka male ʻana, a i kēlā me kēia hihia kikoʻī, aia kahi ebb a kahe i kēlā mau pae.
ʻO ka pilina Emotional ka ʻālohilohi o ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka ulu ʻana me ka hoa aloha a me ka ʻelemakule me kahi ʻuhane. ʻO kēlā pilina pili hohonu i ka male ka mea e paʻa ai nā kāne makua i ka pūhaka ma hope o ka huluhulu ʻana o ko lākou lauoho.
ʻO ka mea pono ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia, ʻo ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka naʻau ʻaʻole ia kahi tālena a i ʻole makana maoli; He mea hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā ke hana pū me ka.
Ma ka noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kou wehe i kēlā me kēia, kouʻoiaʻiʻo me kekahi, a me kou aloha i kekahi i kekahi, e lilo ʻoe i mea pili loa i ka lā. E like me nā mea ʻē aʻe, akā, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻohana ia mea, ua lilo ʻoe.
Mai like a like me ka nui o nā kāne male i koe e ʻōlelo ana, "He aha ka mea i hana ʻia iā mākou!" E hoʻokau i ka hana i kēia manawa e hoʻokūpaʻa i kou pilina pili i ka naʻau a kiaʻi i kāu male e ulu ana i ka ikaika he ʻumi.