Anter
- 1. Nā hōʻino hou
- 2. Manipulative
- 3. ʻAno Moody -
- 4. Ke kūpono ʻole nei i nā manaʻo o nā keiki
- Nā hopena lōʻihi o ka hoʻomāinoino i ka naʻau mai nā mākua
- 1. Nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole
- 2. Ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa
- 3. Ke kāohi nei i nā manaʻo
- 4. Ke ʻimi nei i ka noʻonoʻo
Ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi, ʻo ko mākou mau mākua ko mākou kumu hoʻohālike. Nānā mākou iā lākou a makemake e like me lākou. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole hānai ʻia nā kānaka āpau i kahi home kūpono.
Hānai ʻia kekahi e nā mākua hoʻokahi, hānai ʻia kekahi e nā mākua palekana ʻole, a hānai ʻia kekahi e nā mākua hoʻomāinoino i ka naʻau.
ʻOiai e ulu ana, paʻakikī e hoʻomaopopo inā he hānai maʻamau a hōʻino paha kāu. Aia wale nō a ulu kahi keiki a hiki i ko lākou mau makahiki ʻōpio, hoʻomaka nā hōʻailona o ka hānai hōʻino ʻana e hōʻike. Eia nō naʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻike inā pilikia kou wā kamaliʻi. E hoʻomaopopo kākou i nā ʻōuli o nā mākua hōʻino i ka naʻau.
Nā hōʻailona o ka hōʻino naʻau mai nā mākua
1. Nā hōʻino hou
ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi. Ma ke ʻano he kāne, aia kekahi mau lā a hauʻoli mākou āpau a me nā lā ke hele ʻole mākou i kahi ʻano maikaʻi. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka lilo ʻana i makua. Pono ka makua e noho mālie a hōʻoia ʻole i ke ʻano kolohe a paʻakikī hoʻi i kā lāua keiki.
Eia nō naʻe, ke hana ʻino nā mākua i kā lākou keiki, hōʻino lākou a waiho iā lākou i lalo i kēlā me kēia manawa. Nui paha nā kumu e hana ai i kēia, no ka laʻana, e paʻakikī ai lākou.
Eia nō naʻe, ma ke kāhea ʻana i kā lākou keiki hū a i ʻole naʻaupō a i ʻole hoʻokau iā lākou i lalo i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hōʻino lākou i ko lākou manaʻo pilikino a i ʻole e manaʻoʻiʻo iā lākou he maikaʻi ʻole lākou no ka mea ʻole.
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2. Manipulative
ʻO ka lawelawe ʻana i ka poʻe kekahi ʻano o ka poʻe narcissist. Ua ʻike ʻia e hana nā mākua i kēlā me kā lākou keiki e ke pāʻani ʻana i ka 'No ke aha ʻoe e aloha ʻole ai iaʻu?' kāleka. ʻAʻole ia e aʻoaʻo ʻia e hoʻomau i ka hoʻopili ʻana i nā keiki i ka naʻau. Hoʻopilikia loa ia iā lākou a lilo lākou i mea maʻalahi i ka naʻau.
I ko lākou ulu ʻana a lilo i makua, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomalu maʻalahi ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka naʻau a lilo i mea ʻole e lilo i ko lākou manaʻo pilikino a me ka mahalo iā lākou iho.
No laila, ma ke ʻano he ʻōpio makua, inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pāʻani pinepine ana kou mau mākua i ke kāleka naʻau, e hoʻomaopopo he makua ʻino lākou i ka naʻau.
A ma ke ʻano he makua, ʻaʻole kūpono ke pāʻani i kēia kāleka, i nā manawa āpau.
3. ʻAno Moody -
ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke mālama i hoʻokahi ʻano hauʻoli i loko o ka lā a i ʻole ka pule. Aia kekahi manawa e haʻahaʻa paha a ikaika paha kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi poʻe e hele i waena o nā ʻano mau o ke ʻano. Hele nā keiki o ia ʻano kanaka i kahi pilikia ʻokoʻa.
Makaʻu loa nā keiki o nā mākua huhū i ko lākou mau mākua a manaʻo pinepine lākou me he mea lā ke hele nei lākou ma nā ʻāpana hua.
Weliweli lākou a makaʻu i ka mea e hiki mai ana ma hope. Hele a hopohopo nā keiki e pili ana i ka hana hewa. Ma hope i ke ola, ulu pinepine lākou i nā pilikia olakino.
4. Ke kūpono ʻole nei i nā manaʻo o nā keiki
ʻAʻole hōʻoia nā mākua hoʻomāinoino i ka manaʻo o kā lākou keiki. I ko lākou pilina, hoʻololi hoʻokahi ke ʻano o ka naʻau. I nā maka o nā mākua hōʻino i ka naʻau, ʻaʻole hiki i nā keiki ke ʻona i ka naʻau. Inā makaʻu lākou a huhū a huhū paha, kuhi hewa ʻia lākou a nānā ʻole ʻia paha.
Ke ulu nei nā keiki o ia mau mākua me ka hakakā me ko lākou naʻau.
Ua ulu lākou me kahi manaʻo ʻaʻole mea nui ko lākou mau naʻau a ma hope ʻaʻole e hoʻomōhala i ka ʻike e hana me ko lākou ola ponoʻī.
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Nā hopena lōʻihi o ka hoʻomāinoino i ka naʻau mai nā mākua
1. Nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole
Hōʻike ka pilina hauʻoli ʻole a ʻoluʻolu ʻole me kou mau mākua i nā pilina ʻē aʻe āu e pili ai me nā poʻe a puni ʻoe. ʻO ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole i pili iā ʻoe me kou makuahine a makua kāne paha ʻelua a i ʻole ʻelua, he hopena maikaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe ke hele a makua ʻoe.
He paʻakikī ʻoe i ka pili olakino a paʻa me nā poʻe a puni ʻoe. Kūleʻa kēia ke hoʻoluliluli ʻia ka hilinaʻi.
2. Ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā hōʻailona koʻikoʻi o nā keiki i loaʻa i nā mākua hōʻino i ka naʻau. Ma muli o ka nānā ʻole ʻana o nā mākua i ka naʻau o kā lākou keiki a waiho mau iā lākou i lalo, ʻeha nā keiki i ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa i ka wā e ulu ana. Manaʻo ʻia kēia i mea hoʻoweliweli i ke olakino noʻonoʻo e like me ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa i alakaʻi ʻia i nā pilikia like ʻole i ke ola.
3. Ke kāohi nei i nā manaʻo
ʻO ka ulu ʻana a puni ka naʻau hoʻomāinoino makua keiki pinepine nā keiki e kāohi i ko lākou naʻau. Ua ʻelemakule lākou me ka manaʻo ʻaʻohe mea nui ko lākou naʻau i kekahi kanaka a ʻoki lākou iā ia. ʻAʻole kūpono kēia no kekahi kanaka e kāohi i ko lākou naʻau.
4. Ke ʻimi nei i ka noʻonoʻo
Ke nānā ʻole nā keiki i ka wā e ulu ana, ʻimi lākou i ka wā makua. ʻO ia ke kumu, ʻike paha ʻoe i kekahi poʻe e make ʻimi nei i ka ʻimi paʻakikī a hele i kēlā me kēia nui e loaʻa.
Pono lākou i ka hōʻoia, ke aloha a me ke aloha o ka poʻe a puni lākou. ʻAʻole hoʻokipa ʻia kēia ʻano i loko o ke kaiāulu, akā ʻo ia ka hopena o kahi hānai hānai.
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Ka hoʻōla ʻana mai ka hoʻomāinoino ʻia o ka naʻau mai nā mākua
‘Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopiʻi i kou mau mākua no ka hōʻino i ka naʻau?’
Hele mai paha kēia ma ke ʻano he nīnau maʻamau ma hope o ka hele ʻana i loko o ka ʻatikala; akā naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia ka hopena i nā manawa āpau. He mea nui e hoʻōla ʻoe mai ia mea. Papa inoa ʻia kekahi mau hāʻina.
- ʻAe a neʻe i mua - ʻO kēia ke ala mua i ke ola. ʻAe i ka mea i hana ʻia, kanu i ka wā i hala a neʻe i mua. ʻO ka hoʻopaʻi a hoʻi paha i kāu mau mākua hōʻino i ka naʻau ʻaʻole ia ka hopena.
- ʻAe i kāu kuleana - Kūpono ʻaʻole paha, ʻo ʻoe kekahi ʻāpana. ʻAe ʻoe i ka hōʻino a hana ʻole i kekahi mea e hōʻoki iā ia. No laila, loiloi i ke kūlana, ʻae i ka hana a neʻe i mua.
- Mai hana hou - No ka mea ua hānai ʻia ʻoe i kahi wahi hoʻomāinoino, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hana hou me ka ʻume ʻana i nā kānaka ʻona like i kou ola. He mea nui e nānā kūikawā ʻoe iā ia. E nānā me nā mea āu e launa pū ai a hōʻole i ka launa ʻana me nā poʻe i loaʻa nā ʻano o kou mau mākua.
- E nānā i kāu hana - ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike akā ua lilo ʻoe i mea ʻawaʻawa pū kekahi. No laila, he mea nui e nānā ʻoe i kāu hana a hōʻole i ka lāʻau make i nā poʻe a puni ʻoe. E hōʻino ia i kou pilina me nā poʻe a puni ʻoe. E akahele i kēia.
ʻO ka hoʻōla ʻana mai ka wā ʻōpio hoʻomāinoino nui ʻole hiki ʻole. Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ua hiki mai ia, kala i kou mau mākua a neʻe i mua. Pono ʻoe e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe e hāhai i ke ala o kou mau mākua ke lilo ʻoe i makua.
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