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Oiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole paʻakikī e ʻae no ka mea ʻo ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli.
80% o nā kāne ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa o ʻAmelika i loko o nā pilina hana ʻole, olakino, a ʻaʻole paha e loli.
He aha ke kumu helu ʻekahi no kēia?
No nā makahiki he 30 i hala aku nei, ke kōkua nei ka mea kākau, mea aʻoaʻo, a me ke kuhina ʻoi loa, ʻo David Essel i kēlā me kēia kanaka a me nā kāne e wehe ai ke kumu o ka weliweli loa o nā pilina, a no ke aha e hoʻomau ai ke ʻano i kēia lā.
Ma lalo iho, kaʻana like ʻo David i kona mau manaʻo no ka mea e pono ai mākou e hana e hoʻohuli i nā helu helu weliweli o kā mākou pili pono ʻole.
Ke kumu
"Ua lohe paha ʻoe i ka wā e ʻōlelo ai ka poʻe, ma hope o kekahi pilina i kūleʻa ʻole," pono wau i kahi mea ʻohiʻohi maikaʻi ʻole "?
He cop-out ia. Aia kekahi ʻoiaʻiʻo i ia, akā ʻo ka mea nui he cop-out.
No laila he aha ke kumu helu ʻekahi mākou e hoʻomau i ka hele i nā pilina hana ʻole?
Eia ka pane, inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻolohe a ʻaʻole paha.
ʻAʻole pili ia i kāu "mea koho pilina."
ʻAʻohe mea e pili ana i ka mea a ka poʻe e ʻōlelo nei he makemake wale nā wahine e kākoʻo kālā ʻia, a makemake wale nā kāne i ka moekolohe.
Akā pili ia i nā mea āpau me kēia: hōʻole mākou e lohi, nānā i ke aniani, a nānā i nā hiʻohiʻona a mākou e hana nei paha mai kā mākou lā mua, ʻaʻole i lawelawe iā mākou.
Maopopo paha kēlā?
ʻO ke kumu helu ʻekahi mākou e pau ai i ka a launa pono ʻole. ʻO mākou paha!
ʻAʻole ia ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa i nā kāne a i ʻole nā wahine maikaʻi, a i ʻole hiki iā mākou ke koho i nā kāne a i ʻole nā wahine maikaʻi, a i ʻole ka hopena o ke aloha ma ko mākou ʻaoʻao.
Ma muli wale o kā mākou palaualelo e hoʻolilo i ka manawa, ka hana, a me ke kālā e nānā i ke aniani a ʻike i ka mea a mākou e hana hewa nei i nā manawa he nui.
Aloha au i kēlā ʻōlelo, "ʻo ʻoe wale nō ka denominator maʻamau āpau i kāu mau pilina kūleʻa ʻole"
He ʻoiaʻiʻo, a ʻaʻohe mea makemake e ʻae iā ia.
E nānā i ke wikiō pōkole na David Essel e pili ana i ka mea e hana ai inā aia ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina aloha aloha ʻole.
Nā kumu pilina pilina maikaʻi ʻole
I loko o kā mākou puke kūʻai nui, "Nā mea huna e pili ana i ke aloha a me ka pilina e pono ai i kēlā me kēia mea e ʻike." Hele mākou i ka kikoʻī kikoʻī e wehewehe ana i ka hana a me nā hiʻohiʻona i hana ʻole ʻia e lawe ai i mua i ke ola, e wānana 100% iā mākou i nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Hoʻonohonoho ʻia nā lauana i ka manaʻo subconscious, hoʻopunipuni iā mākou mai ka ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hoʻokuʻu iā mākou mai ka nānā ʻana i ke aniani, a hoʻokuʻu iā mākou mai ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i ka poʻe loea e like me aʻu iho, e kōkua iā mākou e kiʻi i nā kumu kumu e aloha ai nā pilina aloha.
Hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia nā hiʻohiʻona iā ʻoe mai ka wā kamaliʻi mai, me ka ʻike ʻole i hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o kāu subconscious ʻoiai ʻoe e nānā nei i ka hakakā ʻana o kou makuahine a me kou makuakāne, hoʻopaʻapaʻa, e passive-agrigative with each other, be codependent, a hoʻohaʻahaʻa kekahi i kekahi.
A i ʻole he mau mākua kāu i hōʻike ʻole i ka hoʻopā kino, ʻaʻohe aloha kino, a ʻaʻohe huaʻōlelo hōʻoia.
ʻĀ, e puka ana ʻoe i waho o kēlā manawa a hana hou i hoʻokahi a i ʻole ʻelua aʻo a kou makua, a ua paʻa kēia mau mea āpau i ka noʻonoʻo subconscious.
Hoʻomanaʻo, hānai mākou i ka subconscious ma ka noho ʻana i nā wahi kūpono ʻole.
No laila inā ʻoe i loko o hoʻokahi, ʻelua, a i ʻole ʻumi mau pilina maikaʻi ʻole olakino a ʻaʻole ʻoe i hele i kahi kākāʻōlelo a hana ma o lākou e ʻike i kāu hana, he aha kāu mau hewa, paʻa mau kēlā mau hiʻohiʻona i ka subconscious, a e hana hou ʻoe iā lākou.
Akā ma o ka hana me ke kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole therapist a i ʻole kumu aʻo pilina, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e ʻike pehea nā hiʻohiʻona āu e lawe nei i mua mai ka wā kamaliʻi a hiki i kāu mau makahiki ʻōpio a i ʻole ʻo kou mau lā kula nui ke sabota ʻana i nā pilina maikaʻi.
Ke hoʻololi nei i ke kumu
ʻAʻohe mea e makemake e hoʻolohi a hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa ma hope o ka pili pono ʻole o ka pilina e ʻike i ke ʻano o kā mākou kuleana a pehea wau e hele ai mai kahi pilina pili pono ʻole.
Kuhi mākou i ka manamana lima a hana iā ia e like me ka hewa o ka mea ʻē aʻe, a laila hele mākou a ʻōlelo hou i nā mea hōʻino a pau loa.
Hiki i kekahi ke e hoʻololi i nā lauana o ka noʻonoʻo subconscious ma o ke kōkua o kahi ʻoihana e makemake maoli.
No laila inā mākaukau ʻoe no ke aloha hohonu, hoʻomākaukau e lawe ma kahi o ʻeono mau mahina, ʻaʻohe pili aloha, a hana pū me kahi ʻoihana e kiʻi i ke kumu o kāu pilikia.
"Ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻoe i kāu pilikia, wehe ʻoe i ka puka no ka pua e pua."
Ua kākoʻo nui ʻia ka hana a David Essel e nā poʻe e like me ka hala ʻo Wayne Dyer a me ka mea kaulana a Jenny Mccarthy i ʻōlelo ai, "ʻO David Essel ke alakaʻi hou o ka neʻe noʻonoʻo maikaʻi."
ʻO kāna hana ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo a kuhina hoʻi i hōʻoia ʻia e Psychology I kēia lā a ua hōʻoia ʻo Marriage.com iā David ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo kiʻekiʻe a me nā loea pili i ka honua.
E hana pū me David mai nā wahi āpau ma o ke kelepona a Skype paha e hoʻihoʻi i kou ola aloha, e kipa iā ia ma www.davidessel.com.