Anter
- Ka makaʻu i nā hōʻailona hōʻole
- Nā hopena psychological o ka hōʻole ʻana
- Pehea e lanakila ai i ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia
- 1. Hana
- 2. Hoalohaloha
- 3. Pili aloha
- Ke pale nei i ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia
- 1. E hōʻole i ka kumumanaʻo hoʻokō ponoʻī
- 2. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka makaʻala i nā ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi
- 3. Uoki i ka lilo ʻana i mea ʻino
ʻO ka hōʻole ʻana he pilau ʻawaʻawa loa ia e ale ai, akā minamina, ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou i lawe i ka lāʻau.
Inā paha no kahi hana a mākou i noi aku ai a ʻaʻole i loaʻa a i ʻole ke koleke ua waiho mākou i kā mākou noi a ʻaʻole i ʻae ʻia; ʻaneʻane pau loa mākou i ka hōʻole i ka lima mua.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi iki ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo a hoihoi ʻole.
ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia ka mea maʻamau i nā mea āpau; haki ia i nā puʻuwai he nui, ke kumu e uē ai a hana i ka makaʻu i loko ou i loko o ke kino a lilo koke i stain paʻakikī.
ʻO ka makaʻu o ka rejho phobia ke kuhikuhi pinepine ʻia nei e like me ka hōʻole ʻana i ka moʻokalaleo psychology.
Ke hōʻole ʻia, lilo ia i mea keʻakeʻa i kou hauʻoli a me kou kūleʻa. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hana ma luna o ka hōʻole ʻana.
No laila, pehea e pau ai i ka hōʻole ʻia?
ʻĀ, me kekahi mau maʻalea maʻalahi, ʻo ka lanakila ʻana i ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia hiki ke lilo i maʻalahi loa nāu e hana. No laila, e heluhelu ma lalo e ʻike i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia a pehea e hana ai i ka hoʻokahuli ʻana i ka hōʻole.
Ka makaʻu i nā hōʻailona hōʻole
ʻO kekahi mau ʻōuli a me nā hōʻailona e nānā pono ai:
- Ke kānalua nei ʻoe i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou manaʻo ʻoiai ʻoe makaʻu i ka hoʻokolokolo ʻia a hōʻole ʻia
- Hoʻāʻo ʻoe e kāwili e like me kou makemake e komo a me kahi ʻāpana o ka ʻohana.
- Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka paʻakikī e hōʻoia iā ʻoe iho a ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole.
- Loaʻa ʻoe i kahi ʻano maikaʻi o ka waiwai pilikino e ka makemake ʻia i ka pilikanaka, a ʻo ia ke kumu pau ʻoe i ka leʻaleʻa poʻe
- Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole lawa
- Kau ʻoe i kahi hoʻokamani o kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻopūʻiwa ai i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe
- ʻAʻole ʻoe e hōʻike maʻalahi i kou kūlike ʻole me haʻi
- ʻIke ʻoe i kahi kaʻawale a huikau hoʻi
- Hele pinepine kou manaʻo i ka hoʻowahāwahā iā ʻoe iho a ʻano ʻino, manaʻo ʻino e pili ana iā ʻoe iho
Nā hopena psychological o ka hōʻole ʻana
ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Hoʻokomo ka hōʻole i ka nui o ka ʻeha a me ka hōʻino i ko mākou noho maikaʻi ʻana a haʻalele iā mākou me ka nui o ka ʻeha kaiaulu.
- 'Speakinglelo Neurologically, ke ʻike mākou i ka hōʻole ʻia, hoʻā ʻia ka ʻāpana like o ka lolo e like me ka wā e loaʻa ai iā mākou kahi ʻeha a ʻeha kino paha. ʻAʻole ʻemi iki ka hōʻole ʻana ma mua o ka hōʻeha kino.
- Hiki i ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ke hoʻoikaika i ka pono e hoʻoponopono i kā mākou mau hewa a i ʻole nā hana kūpono ʻole, i ke kaʻina kōkua iā mākou e hoʻomaikaʻi e ola a holomua.
- Hoʻopiʻi ka hōʻole i ka huhū i ka poʻe a hoʻopau lākou i ka hahau ʻana.
- ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia i kahi pilina e kānalua nā poʻe i ko lākou hiki a me ko lākou pono iho, lke alakaʻi nei iā lākou i kahi ala o ka luku iā ia iho.
- ʻO ia hoʻopilikia i kā mākou hana hoʻoholo a hoʻohaʻahaʻa manawa iki i kā mākou pae ʻike.
E nānā pū kekahi:
Pehea e lanakila ai i ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, he ʻano ʻokoʻa nā wī me ka ʻeha o ka naʻau me ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia ʻana, a ma mua o kou aʻo ʻana pehea e lanakila ai i ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia, pono ʻoe e ʻike i nā kūlana hōʻole maʻamau ʻekolu.
1. Hana
Ma mua o ke komo ʻana i ka pehea e hana ai me ka hōʻole ʻana i ke aloha a i ʻole nā pilina, e komo i kahi ʻano koʻikoʻi o ke ola.
E hoʻomaopopo i ka ikaika o ka hana a me ka hōʻole e pili ana i ka wahi hana.
Ke hiki mai i ka hana, aia ʻelua ʻano hōʻole, ka hōʻole kaiāulu, a me ka hōʻole ʻoihana.
Hele mai kēia i ka mālamalama ke manaʻo ʻoe me he mea lā ua hala ʻoe i kahi hoʻolauleʻa āu e pono ai a i ʻole hāʻawi ʻia i nā kuleana kūpono.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ke hana pū nei me kahi phobia o ka hōʻole ʻia, hiki iā ʻoe ke paio e komo pū me kāu mea kūʻai aku a me nā hoapili a manaʻo me he mea lā ʻaʻole lākou e launa pū me ʻoe a ke kono nei iā ʻoe me lākou ke hoʻolilo lākou i ka manawa.
2. Hoalohaloha
Ke komo ʻana i nā hoaaloha hou, hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo me he mea lā e hōʻole ʻia ʻoe, keu hoʻi ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻohui ʻoi aku ma mua o ka mea ʻē aʻe.
ʻOkoʻa, me ka launa aloha lōʻihi, hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e hoʻohana wale ana kāu mau hoaaloha iā ʻoe no ke aloha a me ka hoʻohana ʻana iā ʻoe me ka ʻole o ka hoʻi hou ʻana iā lākou.
A i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e hoʻokuke ʻia ʻoe i waho o ka hui a nānā ʻole ʻia ke hui pū kāu mau hoaaloha. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia i kēlā mau kūlana he paʻakikī a he nui ka ikaika i loko.
3. Pili aloha
I ka wā e makaʻu ai i ka hōʻole ʻia, ke hana ʻana me ka hōʻole ʻia i ka wā o kahi pilina aloha hiki ke paʻakikī.
Eia naʻe, ʻo ka makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia i nā pilina ka mea maʻamau.
Inā ʻoe e hakakā me ka hana ʻana me ka hōʻole ʻia ma ke ʻano he kaikamahine a kāne paha, like ka manaʻo hilahila a me ka ʻeha.
ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, hoʻopau ka poʻe i nā pilina hauʻoli a mau loa i nā nīnau e like me pehea e hoʻomaka ai i ka moekolohe me ka makaʻu ʻole i ka hōʻole ʻia.
I loko o kēia makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻia, ʻike paha ʻoe i ka pessimistic e pili ana i kou ola aloha a me nā mea makemake ʻole ʻia. ʻO kēia makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia hiki ke hana ʻia ma muli o ka nele o ke kamaʻilio.
Eia naʻe, mai hopohopo, no ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo iho nei kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e lanakila maʻalahi i kēia makaʻu o ka hōʻole ʻana.
Ke pale nei i ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia
1. E hōʻole i ka kumumanaʻo hoʻokō ponoʻī
Ke paʻa ʻoe i ka manaʻo wahaheʻe e hōʻole wale nā mea āpau iā ʻoe, hana ʻoe i nā hanana kahi e paʻa ai ka hōʻole.
Me ka ʻike ʻole, e hoʻouna ana ʻoe i nā hōʻailona e hoʻokuke i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a hoʻololi i kāu mau makaʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
No laila ma kahi o ka hana ʻana i kēia, ʻo ia mea nui e kaua aku ʻoe i ka wanana hoʻokō ponoʻī ma ka ʻimi ʻana i nā hōʻailona o ka ʻae a kākau iā lākou i lalo.
2. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka makaʻala i nā ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi
ʻO ka mea maʻamau me ka hōʻole ʻia he palupalu ia. Hōʻalo ka poʻe i ka ʻole me ka pololei me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe no ka mea he mea maʻalahi a palupalu paha ia.
Ke hana nei me ka hōʻole ʻia, he mea nui ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomau i ka hele wāwae ʻana i nā egghells a hoʻolei aku paha i kou mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
Ma kahi o, e hoʻāʻo e hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo e like me ka maopopo e like me ka hiki ma ke ʻano mahalo a me ke akāka. E kōkua kēia i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ka huhū e ukali i ka hōʻole ʻana.
3. Uoki i ka lilo ʻana i mea ʻino
Inā hoʻomau ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe iho ma ke ʻano he mea hōʻeha, e hōʻike mau kāu mau hana i kahi mana maikaʻi ʻole o ʻoe iho.
Eia nō naʻe, ke hoʻokuʻu wale ʻoe i kahi mea i hōʻino ʻia, e hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana iā ʻoe.
Ma kahi o ke aloha iā ʻoe iho a me kou ola, e kia i nā ikaika i loaʻa iā ʻoe; e nānā i nā ʻano i loaʻa iā ʻoe e ʻae i ke ola.
Hōʻalo i ka pulakaumaka i nā koho i hala a me nā hanana āu i hele ai a hoʻāʻo e aʻo mai iā lākou ma ke ʻano he koho.
E like me ka makaʻu kaulana o ka hōʻole ʻōlelo, e Robert Foster Bennett "ʻAʻole ia e hōʻole iā ia iho makaʻu ka poʻe, ʻo ia ka hopena o ka hōʻole ʻana."
I ka manawa e lanakila ai i kāu hōʻole a hoʻomākaukau e ʻae i nā hopena e hele pū me ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke ola me ke kūʻokoʻa.