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- He aha ke ʻano o ka "manaʻo loaʻa" a no ke aha he mea nui i nā pilina?
- ʻO ka wahi mehameha i ka honua kahi i kahi mare mehameha
- ʻO ka Loneliness i ka male ʻana kekahi mea wānana no ka moekolohe ʻole
- 1. E hoʻomaka me ka ʻike hou ʻana iā ʻoe iho
- 3. E hana i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hoʻomaka ai i ke kamaʻilio kūpono
I waena o kona kaʻawale ʻana mai kāna wahine ʻo Katie, Ben, e like me ka hoʻokani ʻia ʻana e Bruce Willis ma ka kiʻi ʻoniʻoni ʻo The Story of Us i ka makahiki 1999, hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻike o ka "manaʻo loaʻa" iā ia i ko lākou noho aloha mua ʻana.
ʻO ka haki ʻana i ka "pā hā, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i ka poʻe hoʻolohe inā pili i nā pilina, ʻaʻohe manaʻo maikaʻi aʻe ma ka honua ma mua o ka" manaʻo loaʻa. "
He aha ke ʻano o ka "manaʻo loaʻa" a no ke aha he mea nui i nā pilina?
ʻO ka manaʻo i loaʻa kahi ʻano nui o ka hoʻopaʻa paʻa ʻana.
Ke manaʻo ʻoe "loaʻa" e kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe, ʻike ʻoe i ʻike ʻia, waiwai, mea nui a ola.
Ke aloha a nā kāne, hoʻolilo lākou i ka nui o ka ikehu e hoʻokau i ko lākou wāwae maikaʻi i mua e kamaʻilio i ko lākou mau makemake, moʻolelo a me lākou iho i kā lākou hoa hou. Hoʻokumu kēia i kahi paʻa paʻa i ka wā i hou ʻia ai. ʻO "Feeling loaʻa" ke alakaʻi i kahi ʻano ikaika o ka pilina.
Minamina, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa ua nalowale pinepine nā kāne paʻa i kēia ʻano pilina paʻa. Ma mua o ka "manaʻo loaʻa", ʻike lākou i kēia manawa "poina." Lohe pinepine wau i nā hoʻopiʻi i loko o nā ʻano pālua e like me: "Pīpī kuʻu wahine me ka hana a i ʻole nā keiki e noho manawa me aʻu." "Ua pīhoihoi kaʻu hoa a ʻaʻole ʻo ia." "Hoʻolilo kaʻu mea koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe i kā lākou manawa āpau ma Facebook a i ʻole E-leka a mālama ʻole iaʻu."
I kēlā me kēia hihia, manaʻo ka hoa ʻole he mea nui, "liʻiliʻi ma mua o" a "poina."
E like me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka manaʻo maikaʻi aʻe ma ka honua ma mua o ka "manaʻo loaʻa", ʻaʻohe manaʻo maikaʻi ʻē aʻe i ka honua ma mua o ka "manaʻo hoʻopoina."
ʻO ka wahi mehameha i ka honua kahi i kahi mare mehameha
E like me ka ʻōlelo a koʻu makuahine iaʻu, ʻo ka wahi mehameha o ka honua kahi i kahi mare mehameha. Kākoʻo ka ʻepekema pilikanaka i kēia ʻike. He nui nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole o ke kino a me ka naʻau i ka Loneliness. He pololei ia e ʻōlelo, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, "make wale ka mehameha."
ʻO ka Loneliness i ka male ʻana kekahi mea wānana no ka moekolohe ʻole
Nui loa ka makemake no ka pilina e ʻimi nā kānaka i ka pilina mai kahi mea aloha hou inā ʻaʻole lākou e pili i ka home.
No laila, he aha nā mea a nā kāne e hana ai e ʻike hou i ka "loaʻa" a me ka "hoʻopoina" i kā lākou mau male? Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo paipai.
1. E hoʻomaka me ka ʻike hou ʻana iā ʻoe iho
E mālama i kahi puke pai manaʻo.
E hoʻopaʻa i kāu mau moeʻuhane. E hāhai i kou mau kuko. E hoʻonui i kāu pūnaewele kaiaulu. Ma mua o ka hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoliʻiliʻi mehameha i kāu hui ʻana, makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻomaka me ʻoe e hoʻonui i kāu pae ponoʻī.
2. E koho i kahi manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio ai me kāu hoa a kamaʻilio i kou mau manaʻo o ka mehameha a me ka hoʻolilo ʻana.
ʻO ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā ʻōlelo "I" ma mua o nā ʻōlelo ʻo "Oe" e hele lōʻihi i kahi kamaʻilio kūpono. Hoʻopili me nā manaʻo ma mua o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana. "Ke hele ʻoe ma kāu kelepona i ka pō, manaʻo nui ʻole wau a mehameha" e ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka hana ma mua o "Aia mau ʻoe ma kāu kelepona a manaʻo wau ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake iaʻu."
E noi no ka mea āu e makemake ai ma mua o ka namunamu e pili ana i ka mea āu e makemake ʻole ai. "Makemake wau e hoʻolilo i kahi manawa maikaʻi e kamaʻilio ai" e ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka hana ma mua o "makemake au iā ʻoe e haʻalele i ka nānā ʻole ʻana iaʻu."
3. E hana i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hoʻomaka ai i ke kamaʻilio kūpono
Hoʻopili pinepine ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā nīnau kūpono e kōkua ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Kūlike kēia hana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kī pololei e wehe i kahi laka.
ʻO nā nīnau maikaʻi loa e kōkua i ke kamaʻilio kūkākūkā ʻana e like me "Pehea kou lā ma ka hana" a i ʻole "He lā maikaʻi kāu ma ke kula."
He ākea loa kēia mau nīnau a hoʻāla i kahi pane terse ("maikaʻi") ma mua o nā mea i ʻoi aku ka manaʻo. Ma kahi o ka manawa, ke hāpai nei wau e hoʻāʻo me nā nīnau e like me: "He aha ke ʻano o nā manaʻo āu i ʻike ai i kēia lā?", "He aha kāu hopohopo nui loa?", "Ua kōkua anei kekahi iā ʻoe i kēia lā?" aiʻole "He aha kāu mea e mihi nui ai?".
ʻOiai ʻo “feeling get” he mea nui paha i ke kaʻina moena, he maʻalahi ke nalowale i kēlā manaʻo i ka manawa i hāʻawi ʻia i nā kaomi he nui a nā kāne e kū nei i kēia ao paʻahana. Lana ka manaʻo, nā ʻāpono aʻu i hāʻawi aku ai e ʻae iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hōʻemi i ka "hoʻopoina" a me ka "loaʻa" i kāu hui me kēia mau pilikia o ke ola hou.