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- 1. Ke keʻakeʻa nei a nānā ʻole iā ia
- 2. Hoʻowahāwahā i nā mea āpau āna e hana ai
- 3. Ke hōʻole nei i kāu wahine
- 4. Huli i ka wā i hala a i ʻole ka lili maikaʻi ʻole
- 5. Pīhoihoi i ka ʻike mua
I kekahi manawa hui ka kāne i ka wahine aloha aloha iā ia. He kaumaha no ka mālama ʻole o kēia kāne i kona mau manaʻo a hōʻike i kahi ʻano, weliweli loa e pepehi i ko lāua pilina.
ʻO ka poʻe ʻike ʻole i ka mea nui e mahalo i kāu hoa, kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hōʻike i ko lākou aloha i ka wā hiki loa. Mai hoʻokuʻu i kāu wahine e ka hana hewa ʻana i ka pilina naʻaupō.
Hōʻike iā ia i kou mau manaʻo a mai hana hewa i kēia mau pilina e kamaʻilio wau e pili ana i ka ʻōlelo.
1. Ke keʻakeʻa nei a nānā ʻole iā ia
Nā kauoha e like me 'Shut up!' aiʻole 'Pani i kou waha' ke hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e ʻōlelo i kahi mea, kūpono ʻole loa a hoʻohana pinepine ʻia. ʻO ia ka ʻo nā hewa nui loa a nā kāne e hana ai i ka launa.
He mea hoʻohaʻahaʻa nui aʻe ia no kāu lede inā ʻoe e hōʻike i kēia ʻano i mua o ka poʻe. Ke hoʻomāʻewaʻewa iā ia me kahi leo hoʻohenehene a hāpai i kou lima i hōʻailona no kāu kaikamahine e kāpae i kāna kamaʻilio ʻana ʻo ia ka hoʻomaka o ka hopena.
ʻAʻohe kāne a wahine paha e maikaʻi me kēlā ʻano. Hōʻike maopopo kēlā ʻano hana i kāu ipo he mea ʻole ia iā ʻoe a ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho ma ke ʻano he mea ʻoi aku iā ia.
E luku ʻia kou pili inā hoʻomau ʻoe e like me kēia. Aia kekahi ala ʻē aʻe o ka papa. E hoʻāʻo e ʻoluʻolu a hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i nā manawa maikaʻi āu i loaʻa ai.
E hoʻolohe iā ia a hoʻāʻo e akahai. I kekahi manawa, pono e kamaʻilio wale kā mākou mau kaikamahine me mākou. Makemake lākou e manaʻo aia kekahi e mahalo iā lākou.
2. Hoʻowahāwahā i nā mea āpau āna e hana ai
ʻO kekahi o nā hana hewa nui nā kāne i ka pilina, ke hoʻowahāwahā nei i nā wahine no ka mea āna e hoʻāʻo ai.
Inā makemake kēia wahine e huki, ma kahi o ke kākoʻo, e hoʻohenehene ʻo ia a e haʻi aku kāna hoa iā ia ʻaʻole lawa ʻo ia a ʻaʻohe ona talena.
I kekahi manawa hiki i ka wahine ke lohe i kona akamai ʻole a ma lalo o ka pae o kāna kāne. Inā mālama ʻoia i kēia mau ʻōlelo hōʻino, e lilo ia i mea ʻole iā ia.
ʻO ka manaʻo ʻole kekahi o nā moeʻuhane maikaʻi ʻole no nā kāne a me nā wahine. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻonui inā ʻōlelo wau ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia a make paha. Mālama i kāu hoapili mai kēia manaʻo weliweli.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke akahai. Ke kuke a kāu lede i kahi mea naʻu me ke aloha a me ka makemake, pololei mai hoʻohalahala iā ia. Ke moeʻuhane ʻo ia e pili ana i kekahi mea, moeʻuhane me ia.
Kākoʻo iā ia. Pono nā kānaka āpau e hāhai i kāna moe. Hui pū ka poʻe i kākoʻo kekahi i kekahi.
3. Ke hōʻole nei i kāu wahine
Ke nānā nei ʻoe i ke kīwī ma ka moe e like me Al Bundy a i ʻole ka ʻolokaʻa ʻana i kāu kelepona e like me ka ʻōpio, ke ʻimi nei i nā nūhou Facebook hou loa. Hele mai ke kaikamahine a paʻa iā ʻoe. Ke minoʻaka aloha nei ʻo ia a makemake i kou nānā.
Ke hoʻokuʻu nei i kā lākou mau wahine ka hana hewa hewa hewa kāne a pehea lākou e hana ai.
- ʻAʻohe hopena. Ke noho nei ʻoe me kahi ʻano palaka e like me ka mea ʻaʻole ʻo ia ma laila.
- ʻO kāu pane ʻo 'Ke nānā nei wau i ke kīwī' a i ʻole 'ua hana wau'. Lawa kēia cue e pepehi i kona makemake e kokoke iā ʻoe.
- 'Ke hoʻomaha nei au.' 'Mai hoʻopā iaʻu.' 'Hele i waho.' ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia nō iā mākou ka ʻōlelo ʻoluʻolu ʻole.
ʻO kēlā me kēia mau hopena he mea pepehi kanaka ʻike ʻike ʻoihana. ʻO ia ka manaʻo he wahine kāu no kekahi mea i hāʻawi ʻia.
Manaʻo paha ʻo ia e hoʻopunipuni ʻoe iā ia. ʻO ka hana maikaʻi ʻole ia e hōʻike ai. Ma hope a ma hope e luhi ʻo ia a lilo ʻoe i kāne mehameha maoli.
4. Huli i ka wā i hala a i ʻole ka lili maikaʻi ʻole
ʻO ka lili maikaʻi ʻole kahi mea pepehi kanaka paʻa. ʻO ka hapanui o mākou he mau ipo wahine a he ipo kāne, ex-wahine a me kāne mua. Inā lili ʻoe iā lākou, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia no kou hilinaʻi ponoʻī.
ʻIke pinepine kēlā lili i ka wā o ke kāne mua ma ke ʻano he kāne kūleʻa. No ke aha ʻo ia me aʻu ke hiki iā ia ke noho me ia. ʻO ka pane, ke noho ʻo ia me ʻoe, ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi.
Inā ua haki ʻo ia me ia, he pilikia kāna. Pono ʻoe e hilinaʻi. ʻO ʻoe ka mea lanakila. Mai noho i ka makaʻu. I kēia ala, hana ʻoe i kāu kaikamahine e hele i waho.
ʻAʻohe kāne a wahine paha e hauʻoli inā manaʻo ʻo ia he hoʻopunipuni i nā manawa āpau. Ke hana pinepine a kāu pakanā i kēia, kēia hiki i ka kānalua ke hoʻohoka iā ʻoe.
ʻAʻole ia ke ala kūpono e hōʻike ai i kou aloha akā he ala kūpono ia e nalo ai kāu kaikamahine. E hoʻāʻo e hilinaʻi iā ia. Ke hui pū ka poʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pili o ka manaʻoʻiʻo. Inā ʻole, ʻaʻohe kiko.
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5. Pīhoihoi i ka ʻike mua
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā ʻenemi ʻino loa o ka pilina. Aia ʻaʻohe wahi no ka pīhoihoi inā aloha kekahi i kekahi. He maʻi ia a make ia i kou pilina me ka wikiwiki a lohi paha.
- Kamaʻilio ʻoe me kāu kaikamahine i kahi e hele ai no ka lā. ʻAʻole kokoke kēia wahi i kou home. Hoaʻo ʻoe e hoʻohuli iā ia e ʻike kekahi i kekahi ma kahi ʻē aʻe no ka mea mamao loa ia iā ʻoe.
- Ma hope o kāna hana ʻana i kahi kūʻai kālepa ua noi aku kāu wahine iā ʻoe e hele mai e kōkua iā ia. ʻO kāu pane no kāu hana.
- Nīnau ʻo ia iā ʻoe no ke aniani o ka wai a i ʻole e hele aku e kūʻai iā ia i kahi kope. Hōʻole ʻoe e hana iā ia a haʻi iā ia ua luhi a ʻōlelo pololei paha ʻoe 'Hana ʻoe iā ʻoe iho'.
Ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hewa ʻoi loa o ka pili pili, kahi o ʻolua a ʻelua paha he kuhihewa.
ʻAʻole mahalo nā kāne i kāu mau wahine ma hope o kou nalowale ʻana iā lākou. Mai lilo i ʻāpana o kēia cliché naʻaupō. Aloha iā lākou ke pili pū lākou me ʻoe. ʻO kekahi poʻe āu e hui pū ai i hoʻokahi manawa i ke ola holoʻokoʻa.
Hana i kou wahine manaʻo kūikawā no ka mea ʻo lākou nō. E hōʻike iā lākou i ka mea ʻoi loa o kou. Aloha wale iā lākou a hoʻāʻo i kāu mea paʻakikī e hana hewa hewa ʻole i ka pilina.