Anter
- 1. Mai lawe wale i kāu hoapili
- 2. E male i kekahi āu e aloha ʻole ai akā makemake maoli ai
- 3. Kaʻana like i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia mai ka pilina
- 4. Kaʻana like ʻana i nā waiwai a me nā ʻiʻini i ke ola
- 5. E ʻike i kekahi mea ʻokoʻa iā ʻoe
- 6. E wehewehe i nā mea āu e makemake ʻole ai i kāu hoa
ʻO wai makemake ʻole e aʻo i kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha nui? ʻIke ʻoe, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pehea e ʻike ai i ke aloha nui a kau paha i ke aloha āu i loaʻa ai. Inā ʻoe he mea hou i ka wā pili aloha a i ʻole male lōʻihi, hiki ke kōkua i ka heluhelu ʻana i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha mai ka poʻe i loko o nā aloha aloha kūleʻa. Ua hōʻuluʻulu mākou i kahi hui o kēia mau kāne male hauʻoli (a hoʻokahi kāne hoʻokahi!) A noi iā lākou e kaʻana pū me mākou i kekahi o kā lākou mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha hoʻāʻo a ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi e hiki ai iā mākou ke lilo i ʻāpana o kēlā hui koho o ka poʻe hauʻoli.
1. Mai lawe wale i kāu hoapili
Noho pū ʻo Jesse lāua ʻo Kaitlin no ʻehā mau makahiki. “Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha? E ʻōlelo wau ʻo kā mākou mea nui loa ʻaʻole loa e lawe wale i kāu hoa, "wahi a Kaitlin. ʻAe ʻo Jesse. "I kēlā me kēia lā haʻi wau iā Kaitlin aloha wau iā ia a mahalo i kona alo i koʻu ola. ʻAʻole wau i hoʻokuʻu i kona poʻo e ku i ka uluna i ka pō me ka ʻole o ka haʻi ʻana aku iā ia i kāna mea koʻikoʻi iaʻu.
Ua male wau ma mua a manaʻo wau ʻo kahi o ke kumu i kūleʻa ʻole ai kā māua male ʻana ua lawe wau i kaʻu wahine me ka uku ʻole. ʻAʻole wau makemake e hana hou ia no laila noʻonoʻo wau i ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā Kaitlin i koʻu mahalo i ko mākou hui pū ʻana. ”
2. E male i kekahi āu e aloha ʻole ai akā makemake maoli ai
Ke hoʻolauleʻa nei ʻo Shirley lāua ʻo Robert i ko lāua lā hoʻomanaʻo makahiki 40 i kēia makahiki. Hāʻawi ʻo Shirley i kāna mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha: “Ua male au i kuʻu hoa aloha. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻomākeʻaka. He mau hoaaloha māua ʻo Robert mai ke kula haʻahaʻa. Ua hoʻomaka mākou e pili i ke kula kiʻekiʻe a ua male mākou ma hope o kona puka ʻana mai ke kula koa.
Ua ʻike kā mākou male i nā loli he nui; i loko o ka Air Force ua neʻe mākou i kēlā me kēia mau makahiki. Akā ma muli o ka heleuma o ko mākou aloha i kahi aloha maoli, ua hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokele i kēia mau hoʻoili a pau. Maopopo iaʻu ʻo Robert koʻu kua a iaʻu kāna. Aia kahi hilinaʻi hiki ʻole i kā mākou male ʻana ke ʻike iā mākou ma o nā manawa paʻakikī. No laila ʻo kaʻu ʻōlelo aloha kēia: e male i kekahi āu e aloha ʻole ai akā makemake maoli ʻoe.”
3. Kaʻana like i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia mai ka pilina
Hoʻokahi makahiki o ko Pilipo lāua ʻo Carolyn pilina ʻana. 'Tellslelo maiʻo Philip iā mākou i kāna'ōlelo aloha: "Manaʻo wau no ka pilina e hana, pono i nā poʻe ʻelua ke manaʻo like i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai mai ka pilina. ʻAno ʻē paha kēia i kekahi poʻe, akā ua makemake māua ʻo Carolyn e loaʻa kahi pilina 'wehe', ka mea a lākou i kapa ai he polyamory i kēia mau lā.
ʻAʻole i holo pono koʻu pili hope loa no ka mea ʻaʻole kaʻu ipo wahine ma ka ʻaoʻao like me aʻu, ua manaʻo ʻo ia i ka piha piha a me ka monogamy. ʻAʻole wau i makemake i kēlā, no laila ua haki wau me ia. A laila ua launa wau me Carolyn e like me aʻu, e makemake ana e loaʻa i mau ʻike he nui akā makemake pū kekahi i kahi hoa hele mua. ʻO kaʻu ʻ tiplelo aloha kēia: e ʻike pono i kāu hoa aloha i nā waiwai like a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e pili ana i nā mea āu e makemake ai mai ka pilina e like me ʻoe, a i ʻole ke hoʻonohonoho nei iā ʻoe iho no ka hakakā a me ka hoka. "
4. Kaʻana like ʻana i nā waiwai a me nā ʻiʻini i ke ola
ʻO Leah lāua ʻo Samuʻela he mau kāne hou, ma hope o ka pili ʻana no ʻelua mau makahiki. ʻ tellslelo mai ʻo Leah iā ia i kāna ʻōlelo aloha: “E aloha nui wau ma mua o koʻu hālāwai ʻana me Samuʻela. Ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia mākou e nā hoaaloha mai ko mākou hale hālāwai. Ua ʻike wau iā Samuʻela ma mua; he kiʻekiʻe ʻo ia a nani a kūleʻa hoʻi i ka luakini.
Akā, ʻaʻole mākou a hoʻonohonoho ʻia a laila loaʻa iaʻu kahi manawa e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me ia. I kēia manawa ʻike koke wau aia kekahi mea ma laila. Ua loaʻa iā mākou nā waiwai like a mai kahi like like. No laila ke kaumaha a pau i hiki ke hana ʻia inā ʻo kāu pakanā mai nā ʻano ʻohana a me ka hoʻokele waiwai ʻē aʻe ma laila wale nō. Ua puka ʻelua mai ka Ivy League a ke hana nei mākou ʻelua no nā ʻoihana kālā kaulana. ʻO kēia mau mea āpau a mākou e hana like ai e hana maʻalahi a maʻalahi hoʻi. Me he mea lā mākou e ʻōlelo i ka ʻōlelo like.
Hoʻolohe: i koʻu wā ʻōpio nui wau e pili ana i ka launa pū ʻana me nā 'kāne maikaʻi ʻole', maopopo iā ʻoe, e nā poʻe mai ka ʻaoʻao hewa o nā ala. Ua manaʻo wau he wahine ia a hoʻolilo iaʻu i mea wiwo ʻole. ʻO kaʻu ʻolelo aloha kēia: no ka pilina e hana maikaʻi me kahi hakakā liʻiliʻi e like me ka hiki, e male i kahi mea e like me ʻoe e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana a me nā ʻiʻini. E maʻalahi ia i nā mea. ”
5. E ʻike i kekahi mea ʻokoʻa iā ʻoe
ʻO Alisha lāua ʻo Randall e haʻi nei i kahi moʻolelo ʻokoʻa loa. “Aloha au i ka ʻokoʻa loa o Randall iaʻu. ʻAʻole wau makemake i kahi hoa hana he kope kope o koʻu ola. Luʻuluʻu wale kēlā. Makemake au i kekahi nāna kāna moʻolelo e aʻo mai iaʻu i kekahi mea, a ʻo Randall ua like ia mai kekahi honua ʻē aʻe.
Ua neʻe ʻo ia mai Haiti i kona wā ʻōpio. Ua ʻilihune kona ʻohana a ʻaʻole i aʻo ʻia akā ʻike lākou hiki ke loaʻa kahi ola maikaʻi aʻe ma ʻAmelika.
ʻO wau?
Hānau ʻia a hānai ʻia ma aneʻi ma New Jersey. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke ʻoi aku ma mua o ka ʻAmelika. Manaʻo wau ua hana ʻia nā pilina maikaʻi ke hiki i nā hoa ʻelua ke aʻo kekahi i kekahi i kekahi mea, no laila he mea maikaʻi ka like ʻole ma waena o ka wahine. Kuʻu ipo aloha? E nānā i kēlā kanaka nāna e wehe i kou ao i kahi mea āu i ʻike ʻole ai e nalo ana. ”
6. E wehewehe i nā mea āu e makemake ʻole ai i kāu hoa
ʻO ka mea hope loa, aia ʻo Mark. ʻAʻole ʻo Mark i loko o kahi pilina, akā ʻeleu ma nā paepae aloha. "ʻO kahi mea aʻu i ʻike ai e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke aloha ma o nā pūnaewele pili aloha kēia: ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i kahi papa inoa paʻakikī o nā mea āu e ʻimi nei i kahi hoa. Akā he mea kōkua ke loaʻa i kahi papa inoa o nā mea āu e ʻimi ʻole nei.
Ke hāmama loa wau i ka maʻalahi e pili ana i ka mea aʻu e ʻimi nei, akā aia kekahi mau mea ʻole kūkākūkā e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻohe pili" iaʻu ke nānā wau ma o nā moʻolelo wahine. A pono ʻoe e pili pono i kēia mau kūkākūkā ʻole, no ka nui o kou makemake e pili i ka pilina. ʻO kēia kuʻu aloha aloha: ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana i kāu mea e makemake ai, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāu hana me ka wehewehe ʻana i nā mea āu mai hana makemake. ”
E kōkua pono kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mākaukau iā ʻoe me kou ola aloha. ʻOiai ʻaʻohe kuhikuhi kikoʻī i kahi pilina kūleʻa, hiki i kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maʻalahi ke alakaʻi iā ʻoe ma waena o ia mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.