Anter
- 1. E hoʻomanawanui
- 2. Hana i kahi papa inoa pros a me cons
- 3. E hana i kāu noiʻi
- 4. Nānā i nā kumukūʻai
- 5. E ʻike i nā moʻolelo kūleʻa
- 6. ʻAe i ka holo hoʻokolokolo
- 7. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka makaʻu
- 8. Hele ma ia wale nō
Kuʻi kēlā me kēia pilina i kahi ʻāpala paʻakikī i kekahi manawa a i ʻole kekahi; ʻoiai me nā kāne i aloha nui ʻia a aloha loa i kekahi i kekahi, hiki mai nā mea.
Paʻiki ke kālā a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i ka lawelawe ʻana iā ia. A i ʻole makemake kekahi o ʻoukou i ka moekolohe ma mua o kekahi. Aia nō paha kekahi mau pilikia ma waena o ʻolua e pili ana i ka makua maikaʻi loa o kāu mau keiki.
Kūleʻa kēlā ʻano pilikia i ka male. Kapa ʻia kēlā ola. Hele mai ka pilikia me kāu hana ʻelua ma o lāua. I kekahi manawa hiki iā ʻolua ke lawelawe iā ia a neʻe i mua, akā i nā manawa ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawelawe a paʻa ʻoe.
Ke pilikia nei ʻoe, he aha kāu hana? ʻO ia ka manawa ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne hiki ke lilo i kumuwaiwai waiwai nui. Hiki ke kōkua nui i kahi kuanaʻike ʻaoʻao ʻekolu. ʻO kekahi mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa a ʻike i ka kōkua ʻana i nā kāne a kamaʻilio maikaʻi a hana ma o nā pilikia a lākou.
Ma o kēia ʻatikala, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻōlelo aʻo ʻana o ka male ma ka pūnaewele a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pūnaewele e hiki ai ke kōkua i nā ala e hoʻonā ai i ka hakakā, kūkā kamaʻilio maikaʻi ai, a kūkulu i kahi male ikaika.
Ke lilo a me ka makemake nui ʻia ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male male pūnaewele. ʻOiai he mea hou loa ia, ua pōmaikaʻi ka hapa nui o nā lawelawe ma ka pūnaewele.
Nui nā pros i ka manaʻo, e like me ka maʻalahi o ka wahi a me ka manawa, ke kumukūʻai, a me ka inoa ʻole. Me kahi noiʻi iki, ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo mare ʻana ma ka pūnaewele ka mea e pono ai ʻolua.
Hiki iā ia ke lilo i hoʻokahi pahu nui, akā naʻe. He aha inā ʻoe e hele aku i kāu wahine a kūʻē nui ʻo ia i ka manaʻo holoʻokoʻa e kamaʻilio me ke kākāʻōlelo male ma ka pūnaewele?
Pehea ʻoe e hōʻoia ai i kāu wahine i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hoʻolauna male i ka pūnaewele kahi manaʻo maikaʻi no ʻolua? Eia kekahi mau manaʻo e kōkua i kāu pakanā e ʻike i kāu kuanaʻike ma mua iki e pili ana i ke kiʻi ʻana i aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ma ka pūnaewele. E hoʻokokoke aku i kēlā me kēia kikoʻī me ke akahele a me ke aloha.
1. E hoʻomanawanui
Mai manaʻo i kāu wahine e hoʻololi i kona manaʻo i ka pō. E hāʻawi i ka manawa nui i kāu wahine e noʻonoʻo ai e pili ana i ka hiki ke hoʻāʻo i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male ma ka pūnaewele. I kekahi manawa wale nō kahi manawa keu e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pono o kāu wahine i ka manaʻo a maikaʻi me ia.
E nānā hou i ka manaʻo i kēlā me kēia pule ma ka nīnau ʻana, "Hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male, a i ʻole he manawa hou kāu e noʻonoʻo ai?" Lawe kēia i ke kaomi ke nānā aku i ka manaʻo.
Eia nō hoʻi, e wehe i ka maopopo ʻana i ke kumu o ka makemake ʻole o kāu wahine e koho no nā ʻōlelo aʻo no ka male ʻana ma ka pūnaewele, e hoʻomanaʻo e pili ana lākou i kēia hana i kā lākou makemake ponoʻi e like me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pono ai ka hoʻokō nui.
2. Hana i kahi papa inoa pros a me cons
Noho pū a kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi ʻole o aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo male ma ka pūnaewele. He aha ka maikaʻi e hiki mai ana? He aha nā pilikia e hiki ke pili? He manaʻo maikaʻi e kau i nā mea āpau ma ka pepa i hiki iā ʻolua ke ʻike iā ʻolua iho.
Maliʻa paha e like ka nui o nā pros me nā cons; ʻoiai, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike pākahi i nā cons āu e makemake ai e noho pū.
3. E hana i kāu noiʻi
E huki i nā pūnaewele kaulana kahi e hāʻawi ʻia ai ka ʻōlelo aʻo male pūnaewele a hōʻike i kāu wahine. E hōʻoia i nā ʻike o ka poʻe loea ma ka pūnaewele e ʻike inā loaʻa iā lākou kahi kula kūpono a me ka ʻike e pono ai e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine.
Heluhelu i nā loiloi e nā kāne maoli i loaʻa ka pōmaikaʻi mai kā lākou lawelawe.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā no nā manaʻo mai nā papa inoa kaulana no ke loaʻa nei ke kākāʻōlelo maikaʻi loa me nā hōʻike kūpono.
4. Nānā i nā kumukūʻai
I kekahi manawa hang ke kumu kūʻai no kekahi poʻe; kahaha paha kāu wahine i ka loiloi ʻole ʻana o ka ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne ma ka pūnaewele. E nānā paha i nā kumukūʻai ma nā pūnaewele a hana i kahi papa inoa no kāu wahine. Hoʻopaʻa ʻia ʻoe i kahi koho ʻemi. A ʻo ke ʻinikua kekahi kumu pū kekahi.
5. E ʻike i nā moʻolelo kūleʻa
Maliʻa paha ʻike ʻoe i kekahi i hele ma waena o ka ʻōlelo aʻo ʻana - keu hoʻi inā he hilinaʻi ia a kāu wahine, ʻoi aku paha lākou i ka manaʻo. E kamaʻilio i kēlā kanaka i kāu wahine e pili ana i ka mea i loaʻa iā lākou mai ka ʻike.
6. ʻAe i ka holo hoʻokolokolo
ʻAʻole ʻeha ke hoʻāʻo, ʻeā? Inā makemake kāu wahine e hoʻāʻo wale i hoʻokahi kau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a ma hope e hiki iā ʻolua ke loiloi inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻomau, ʻike paha ʻo ia ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻole e like me ka mea i manaʻo mua ʻia.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi e hana ai ma aneʻi e kākau inoa i kahi papa male pūnaewele, hiki i kēia ke lawelawe ma ke ʻano he preview liʻiliʻi o ka mea a ʻolua me kāu wahine e manaʻo ai mai ka ʻōlelo aʻo aʻoaʻo pūnaewele.
7. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka makaʻu
I kekahi manawa kūpaʻa ka wahine i ka male male ma muli o ka makaʻu i ke kaʻina. Manaʻo paha lākou he ʻanuʻu wale nō ka poʻe hele i ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo mai ka hemo ʻana, a ʻaʻole makemake lākou e hele i kēlā ala.
I kekahi manawa moe kēia mau ʻano makaʻu i loko o mākou a ʻaʻole maopopo. no laila hiki ke kamaʻilio i kekahi ma mua o ka ʻike ʻia o ka makaʻu maoli. Eia hou ma kahi manawa like, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui me lākou a hoʻāʻo i kekahi o nā papa male i haʻi ʻia ma mua.
8. Hele ma ia wale nō
Inā ʻaʻole makemake kāu kāne e komo i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne, a laila kau inoa wale no no ka ʻōlelo aʻo male ʻana ma ka pūnaewele wale nō. ʻOiai inā ʻoe e hana nei me ia me kahi therapist, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi kuanaʻike hou e hiki ke kōkua i nā pilikia āu e kū nei i kāu male.
Aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo male ma ka pūnaewele nui paha nā stigmas e pili ana i ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi o ia, akā ʻo ke ala ʻoi loa e wehe ai i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hana mua i ka noiʻi iā ʻoe iho, a hāhai i kou ʻōpū ke ʻole he mea ʻē aʻe. Ma mua o ka hopena ʻaʻole ʻoe e kūleʻa.