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- ʻO ka pilikia "ʻano hoaaloha hewa"
- Ka pilikia o ka manaʻoʻiʻo hakakā
- Ke loaʻa nei nā hoaaloha hou
- ʻAʻole lohi loa
Palekana ia e ʻōlelo ʻo ka male paha kekahi o nā pilina koʻikoʻi o ka hapanui o mākou i ko mākou ola. ʻO ia kahi o nā ʻike nui loa a paʻakikī hoʻi i alo i ke ola, ma waena o nā kāne a ma waena o ʻoe a me kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana. Akā inā ʻike ʻoe e pili ana kāu male i kāu mau pilina ma ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole, mai hoʻopili koke i nā loio hemo! Ma kahi o, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pehea e hana ai me ia e like me nā pilikia ʻē aʻe.
E hele i waena o kekahi o nā hopohopo maʻamau a me nā paio i hiki ke hana ʻia ke hoʻopaʻa mākou i ka pona. Mai hopohopo, ʻaʻole kēia kahi slog kaumaha! Lana ka manaʻo, e puka mākaukau ʻoe me ka ʻole o ka ʻike hou aku, akā hilinaʻi i kou pilina a me kona kūpaʻa.
ʻO ka pilikia "ʻano hoaaloha hewa"
Ma hope o ka male ʻana, ua ʻike paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e launa pū me kāu mau hoa aloha e like me ka maʻa ma mua. Maikaʻi kēlā a maopopo loa! ʻAʻole pololei ia e ʻōlelo ai he lili lākou, akā kahi mea āu i like ai me lākou - noho male - ʻaʻohe mea hou. Hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea paʻakikī e pili i kekahi i kekahi; ʻoiai he nui nā ʻano like ʻole o kā lākou mau moʻolelo o nā lā ʻaina maikaʻi ʻole, pili paha kāu mau moʻolelo i ke kanaka āu i male ai.
Hiki paha iā ia ke hopohopo no kāu mau hoaaloha hoʻokahi e kau pū me ʻoe a me kāu hapalua ʻē aʻe koʻikoʻi, ke manaʻo nei e like me ke kolu o nā huila a ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi ʻole, ke manaʻo nei ua kūleʻa ʻoe i kahi mea a lākou e hoʻokō ai i ke aloha. He pilikia paha kāu wahine me ʻoe e kau pū ana me kāu mau hoa aloha a i ʻole mau ipo wahine ʻole me ka ʻole iā lākou no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hoʻāʻo e pakele mai kou ola hou.
No laila pehea ʻoe e hana ai i kēia? ʻAe ʻoe e hoʻoliʻiliʻi wale i kēlā mau hoaaloha? ʻOiai kū maoli kēlā, ʻaʻole pono ia. I mea e pale aku ai i ka pilikia o ka huila ʻekolu a i ʻole ka pilikia hoa pilikino palekana, pono ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ala e hoʻomau ai i ka hoʻohui pū ʻana me lākou me ka ʻole o ka male o ka iwi o ka hakakā.
I loko o kaʻu male ponoʻī, ua hoʻāʻo wau e hoʻokipa hou aku i nā hoaaloha. I nā makahiki i hala aku, ua hoʻokipa wau i nā pāʻina pāʻina, nā pō pāʻani, ka hele ʻana i ka hui i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. Ma ke ʻano he ʻohana o ka manaʻoʻiʻo, ua hoʻonui māua me kaʻu kāne i kā mākou hui pū ʻana me kā mākou hale pule kūloko - kahi mea a mākou i kūʻē ai i ko mākou wā ʻōpio akā ʻike mākou he kōkua kupanaha loa ia i ke kūkulu ʻana i kā mākou pūnaewele o nā hoaaloha a me ka mālama ʻana iā mākou i ko mākou kaiāulu i nā ala leʻaleʻa a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia.
Ka pilikia o ka manaʻoʻiʻo hakakā
I kēia mau lā, ua male kaʻu hoaaloha. Ua hānai ʻia ʻo ia i kahi Katolika a ua hānai ʻia kāna wahine kāne i ka Protestant. E like me ka wā kahiko o kēlā hakakā, hiki iā ia ke hāpai i ka hakakā ma waena o nā ʻohana ʻelua. Pehea lākou e hoʻolauleʻa ai i ke Kalikimaka? A i ʻole Easter? A i ʻole nā lawelawe no kēlā mea? ʻAʻohe ʻawaʻawa, akā ua loaʻa i kaʻu hoaaloha a me kāna kāne kahi pilikia pilikia.
Ma o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana ʻaʻole i lilo kēia i pilikia. Noho lākou i lalo me ko lākou ʻohana a kūkākūkā i ka mea a lākou e hana ai. Ua ʻoliʻoli nā mākua o kaʻu hoaaloha i kā lākou lawelawe Kalikimaka ma mua o kā lākou lawelawe Easter akā ʻo ka hope hoʻi heʻoiaʻiʻo ia no nā mākua o kāna kāne pū kekahi. Ua ʻae lākou e hele lākou i ka hale pule o kaʻu hoaaloha ma ka Kalikimaka a me ka hale pule a kāna kāne ma Easter.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa i loko o kēlā makahiki mua, ua hiki i kaʻu hoaaloha a me kāna kāne ke hoʻohuli i ko lākou mau mākua e hele i nā manawa lawelawe i nā hale pule o kēlā me kēia ʻē aʻe. Hōʻike kēia i ka kamaʻilio ʻana i ka mea nui e paʻa ai i ka wā e noʻonoʻo ai i ka hopena o ka male hou i nā pilina e kū nei me kou mau ʻohana.
Ke loaʻa nei nā hoaaloha hou
E like me ka haʻi ʻana o kekahi o ka pili lōʻihi iā ʻoe, ua lilo ia i paʻakikī no ʻolua i hoa aloha. ʻOiai hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i kāu mau aloha ma mua (e like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna), i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki. Akā pono kākou āpau i kahi ola kaiaulu; kanaka he nohona nohona. ʻO ka nīnau pehea ʻoe e hoʻokele ai e ʻike i nā hoaaloha hou ke paʻakikī ka hana ʻana i kēlā me kou mau makahiki?
Hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i ke kumu o ka maʻalahi o ka hana hoaaloha ʻana ma ke koleke a i ʻole ke kula kiʻekiʻe? ʻAʻole wale ia no kou hālāwai ʻana me nā poʻe āu e like pū ai. ʻO ia no ka mea ua koi pū ʻia ʻoe, no ka mea he papa like kāu. ʻO ia ke kumu e noʻonoʻo ai ʻoe me kāu wahine i ka lawe ʻana i kahi papa, ʻoi aku ka mea hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi mākau hou.
Ua male kekahi hoa aloha oʻu i kēia manawa a ua holo ʻo ia a me kāna wahine i ka pilikia like. Me ka manawa, kā lākou mau hoaaloha hoʻokahi, ʻoiai ke kākoʻo kūpono, ʻaʻohe mea like loa me lākou. Ua hiki iā lākou ke hoʻolilo manawa me nā kāne ʻē aʻe, akā ua loaʻa i kēlā mau kāne a me kā lākou mau hana ponoʻī e hele ai. I ka hopena, ua hoʻomaka kaʻu hoaaloha a me kāna wahine e ʻike i nā kaomi o ke kaʻawale akā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e hoa ai.
I ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kēia, ua ʻōlelo aku wau iā lākou e hele pū lākou i kahi papa. ʻAʻole ia he mea nui ke ʻano o ka papa, akā inā he mea hiki iā lākou ke aʻo pū me kekahi hui o ka poʻe ma ka pae mākaukau like, hiki ke hana i kahi ʻano o ka launa ʻana e maʻalahi ai ke aloha ʻana. Ua keʻehi lākou a puni i ka manaʻo o ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana, ka hulahula ʻana i ka lumi kinipōpō, a me ka pena ʻana, akā hoʻoholo hope loa lākou i ka ipu lepo. ʻAʻohe o lākou he mākala pottery a manaʻo lākou he leʻaleʻa ia.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka papa heʻeono pule, ua hana hoa aloha lākou me kekahi o ko lākou mau hoa papa. I kēia manawa ua hoʻopaʻa lākou i kā lākou hui pū ʻana me kēia mau hoaaloha hou kahi e pāʻina ai lākou a pau, a laila inu i ka waina, a moʻa palolo no kekahi mau hola.
ʻAʻole lohi loa
ʻO kēia kekahi mau pilikia maʻamau i ke alo o nā kāne hou. Akā ʻo kēia mau pilikia pau i ka hoʻoponopono ʻia, e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe ʻē aʻe i hiki i kahi ʻohana hou ke alo. Hoʻopili ka male i kāu mau pilina me nā hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana, akā ʻaʻole ia he kumu nalowale, keu hoʻi inā ʻike ʻoe pehea e hana ai i nā loli.
ʻO Leticia Kauwela
ʻO Leticia Summers kahi mea kākau manuahi nāna e blog nei e pili ana i nā pilikia ʻohana a me nā pilina ma kahi o 10 mau makahiki. Ua lawelawe ʻo ia ma ke ʻano he kūkākūkā pilina i nā ʻoihana liʻiliʻi, me nā hui kānāwai ʻohana.