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- E nānā no ka maikaʻi
- Kuhi i kahi wāwae wāwae makua
- Ke lili ʻoe i nā keiki a kāu wahine
- E kia i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi
- Hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia manawa i ka manawa — me ʻoe iho nō
ʻO ʻoe paha ka mea ma ka lua o kāu male ʻana, a i ʻole e mare ana i kekahi i ka lua o kā lāua male ʻana - e loli ana nā mea. No ka nui o kou aloha i kāu wahine hou, inā he ʻanuʻu kāu = nā keiki i ka huikau, ʻo ia hoʻi kahi hale piha koke, a me nā mākua ʻē aʻe e hiki ke hana.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hana me kekahi o nā pilikia ʻohana i hui nui ʻia - ka lili.
No ke aha e laha nui ai ka lili i nā ʻohana i hui ʻia? Ma muli o ka loli nui o ko ke ao holoʻokoʻa. He paʻakikī e ʻike i ka mea e manaʻo ai. No laila ma waho pinepine ʻoe o kāu wahi hōʻoluʻolu. Malia paha makaʻu iki ʻoe.
ʻAʻole maopopo iā ʻoe ka mea maʻamau, a pehea e ʻike ai. I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e manaʻo e mālama pono ʻia ʻoe a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka lili makua-makua. ʻOiai maʻamau kēia, paʻakikī e noho pū. ʻO ka male lua me nā keiki hānau he mea paʻakikī paha.
Eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pehea e hana ai i ka lili makua-makua.
E nānā no ka maikaʻi
Inā ʻike ʻoe e ulu ana kāu keiki i kahi pilina maikaʻi me ka wahine hou a kāu wahine, hiki iā ia ke lili. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻo kāu keiki kēlā, ʻaʻole na lākou!
I kēia manawa he kanaka ʻē aʻe i ko lākou ola kahi makua makua, manaʻo paha lākou e ʻaihue nei i kāu keiki. Akā, ʻoiaʻiʻo? ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻāʻo e lawe i kou wahi. E lilo mau ʻoe i makua na lākou.
Ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i kou mau lili, e hoʻāʻo e nānā i nā mea maikaʻi. E hoʻomaopopo he pili nui kēia pilina maikaʻi me kahi mākua i kāu keiki; ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi. E hauʻoli hoʻi i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o kēia stepparent i kāu keiki.
Kuhi i kahi wāwae wāwae makua
Aia kekahi mau manawa e manaʻo ʻoe e like me kahi stepparent ke komo nei i kāu ʻāina a hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i ka lili makua. ʻO ia paha no ka mea e noʻonoʻo nei lākou pehea e lilo ai i makua hānau maikaʻi.
Ke hana nei lākou iā ia nāu! ʻOiai paha, manaʻo paha ʻoe e lili kekahi.
Inā ʻoe e manaʻo e loaʻa nā manawa kahi e lili ai ʻoe, lana ka manaʻo ke hiki mai ka manawa ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo nui loa. E noʻonoʻo i nā hanana i hiki:
kau lākou i nā kiʻi o kāu mau keiki ma ka pāpili kaiaulu e ʻoliʻoli ana i ka nui o lākou; kapa lākou iā lākou he "keiki"; kapa aku kāu mau keiki iā lākou ʻo "mama" a i ʻole "makuakāne," etc.
Ke manaʻo nei e kū kēia ʻano mea, a ʻike wale he maikaʻi ke manaʻo e hehi ʻia nā manamana wāwae o kou, he lili maʻamau ka lili makua ʻole i kēia ʻano.
He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo he mea like ia e lili iki, a ʻo kekahi e hana ma ia mea. E hoʻoholo i kēia manawa no ka hopena o kāu hopena i loko, e hoʻāʻo ʻoe i kāu mea e hiki ʻole ai ke hoʻopili i kāu pilina me kāu poʻe keiki.
He mau mea maikaʻi kēia na kāu keiki, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka waiho ʻana i ka lili o kou makua makua i ka hoihoi o kāu mau keiki.
Ke lili ʻoe i nā keiki a kāu wahine
Inā ʻo ʻoe ka lua o ka wahine, a he keiki kā kāu wahine, a laila e mākaukau no ka lili liʻiliʻi i ka pilina makua a keiki.
Ke male mua ʻoe, e kakali paha ʻoe i ke aloha a me ka nānā mai kāu wahine aku. No laila ke makemake nui kā lākou keiki iā lākou, e hōʻoluʻolu paha ʻoe a komo i loko ka manaʻo lili o ka makua
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, manaʻo paha ʻoe i kahi hoʻopunipuni liʻiliʻi ʻia o nā mea hou aʻe o ka "male hou" i nā kāne he nui i hoʻomaka i ka male me ka ʻole o nā keiki. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka wā i male ai ʻoe i kekahi i hānau keiki, ua ʻike ʻoe i kāu mea e komo nei.
E alo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma aneʻi; pono kā mākou wahine ma laila no kā lākou keiki. Pono lākou i ko lākou mau mākua. ʻOiai ʻoe e ʻike i kēia, ke alo nei i ke ʻano o ia mea ʻaʻole paha kāu e manaʻo ai.
Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo ana pehea e ola ai i ka male ʻana me nā keiki keiki, e kūkā pono e kūkākūkā i kou mau manaʻo me kāu wahine i ʻole ʻoe e like me ʻoe hoʻokahi i kēia.
E kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e pono ai ʻoe e waiho aʻe, a me nā mea āu e pono ai mai kāu wahine, i mea e kōkua ai i kou home i hauʻoli. Mai waiho i ka lili makua-makua i mea ʻoi loa ma mua ou.
E pau a hana me nā pilikia o nā keiki keiki, ʻo ka lili ka manaʻo āu e hemo ai. ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia manawa ke hoʻomohala i kahi pilina me kāu keiki hānau hou.
E hakakā i kāu mau pilikia male ʻelua, ʻo nā keiki hānau he kī; launa me lākou a hoʻoholo ʻia paha ka hapalua o kāu mau pilikia.
E kia i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi
Mai kēlā manawa a kēia manawa, hoʻoluliluli ʻoe i kou poʻo i nā hoʻoholo a kāu poʻe keiki wāwae a mau keiki paha a kāu keiki e hana ai. E hoʻāʻo ʻaʻole e waiho i nā mea a lākou e hoʻopilikia ai iā ʻoe — ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kā lākou hana.
Ma kahi o, e nānā i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi, a mai waiho i ka lili makua-makua i mea nui i kāu hoʻoholo ʻana. E ʻoluʻolu a kōkua, e hoʻonoho i nā palena, a e hana i ka maikaʻi e hiki ma laila inā pono.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke kaohi, a hana i nā mea āpau e hiki ai me ka mea hiki.
Hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia manawa i ka manawa — me ʻoe iho nō
Ke hoʻohui mua ʻia kou ʻohana, mai manaʻo i nā mea kupaianaha i ka pō hoʻokahi. Aia paha kekahi mau kiʻekiʻena kikoʻī a me nā haʻahaʻa ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā mea i ke ʻano maʻamau.
Inā ʻoe e ʻike i ka lili makua-makua, e hoʻāʻo e hana i hala a ʻike e hala ia. E hāʻawi wale i kēlā me kēia i kahi manawa e maʻa ai i kēia hoʻonohonoho hou.
Hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ka manawa e hoʻoponopono ai. Mai kuʻi iā ʻoe iho inā ʻoe e lili i kekahi manawa, aʻo wale mai ia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu i kahi ʻōlelo makua makua ʻehā e manaʻo maikaʻi a hoʻoikaika e hana i kēia hoʻonohonoho ʻohana.