He wahine ʻoe i ka launa e hoʻāʻo nei e ʻike pehea e mālama ai iā ia i ke aloha me ʻoe a mau loa aku? A i ʻole ke nānā nei ʻoe no nā ala pono e kiʻi ai i kahi kāne e aloha mau loa iā ʻoe. I kēia au i kēia manawa he paʻakikī no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ana i ke kanaka i nā manawa āpau a he nui nā manawa a lākou e ʻokoʻa loa ai ma mua o ka mea i ka hoʻomaka o kāu pili.
Akā he aha ka manaʻo? ʻAʻole anei mākou e hoʻāʻo e loaʻa hou i kēlā aloha? a i ʻole ʻo kēia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo? ʻAʻole ia ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻāʻo hiki iā mākou ke aloha i kā mākou pilina e like me ka wā ma mua.
Akā pehea e hoʻomau ai iā ia e hoihoi iā ʻoe no ka wā pau ʻole a i ʻole e aloha iā ʻoe hou? He maʻalahi! Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e piliwi iaʻu a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kahi laʻana o kou pilina makuahine / keikikāne mai ka lā hoʻokahi a i ka hanu hope loa. ʻO kēia ka pilina i mae ʻole. ʻO nā mea a mākou e pono ai e nānā ka pehea e holo pono ai kēia pilina.
No laila eia wau ke kuhikuhi aku nei iā ʻoe i kekahi ʻanuʻu e mālama i ke kāne i ke aloha a mau loa iā ʻoe:
1. Mālama i kāna mau mea - I kekahi manawa ke pili mākou, hoʻāʻo mākou e mālama i kēlā kanaka wale nō a mālama ʻole i kēlā mau mea a i ʻole nā mea āna i pili ai he hewa.
Hoʻāʻo mākou e mālama i kāna mau hoaaloha. e like inā inā loaʻa i kekahi o kāna mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa ka bday a laila pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo i kāu hoapili i kēlā makana nāna e hāʻawi iā ia i kāna mau hoaaloha a i ʻole pono mākou e hāʻawi i nā mea makana iā ia iho.
2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i nā mea e pili ana iā ia e like me kāna kaʻa punahele, ka pālule, a i ʻole ia mea. Inā mākou e hoʻāʻo e hana i kēia, a laila ʻo kāu kēia mea-x ma ka pilina.
E hoʻomanaʻo mau ʻo ia iā ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia me ʻoe a i ʻole me ʻoe. No ka mea he maikaʻi ke ʻano o ke kanaka. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka pilina makuahine-keikikāne. Mālama pū kekahi makuahine i nā mea āpau a kāna keiki.
3. Mai walaʻau ma kēlā me kēia other - He poʻe kānaka mākou a hana hewa mākou i ka hapanui. I kekahi manawa ma ke kuhi hewa a me kekahi manawa ma muli o kā mākou kuhihewa akā ʻaʻole ia he kumu e hoʻomaka ai mākou e walaʻau kekahi i kekahi no ka mea ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi nūhou weliweli, ʻo kāu hoa ola kāu mea e pono ai e haʻi mua - ʻaʻole ka mea āu e makaʻu nei e haʻi e pili ana i kēlā nūhou.
No laila ʻaʻole kēia mai ka haʻi wale ʻana aku. Hele wale ia akā no kēia mea e hōʻoluʻolu ʻoe iā ia ʻaʻole manaʻo ʻo ia i ka makaʻu e haʻi aku iā ʻoe e pili ana i kēlā nūhou.
4. Pili makapo kekahi i kekahi - Pili ʻia kēia mea no nā kāne male wale nō. E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e hele ana ʻoe ma ke alanui a i kēlā manawa ua hala kāu wahine iā ʻoe ma ke keke kaʻa a kekahi a ʻapo ʻo ia iā ia.
I kēlā manawa hoʻomaka mākou e noʻonoʻo ke hoʻopunipuni nei ʻo ia iā ʻoe akā ʻaʻole e hana i kēia no ka mea paha ua ʻapo ʻo ia i kona kaikaina a ʻaʻole paha ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia no laila ke ʻapo nei iā ia.
ʻO ia ke kumu o ka mea mua loa, pono wale ʻoe e nīnau iā ia e pili ana kēlā hanana i kēlā manawa hewa ʻoe akā manaʻo inā pololei ʻoe a ke hoʻopunipuni nei ʻo ia iā ʻoe a laila mai hopohopo.
E hilinaʻi kēia hilinaʻi makapō e aloha iā ʻoe no ka mea i kēia mau lā ʻaʻohe mea e hilinaʻi makapō iā ʻoe no laila ke kumu kēia e hoʻololi ʻoe a hoʻomanaʻo mau ʻo ia iā ʻoe no kēia hilinaʻi.
5. Hāʻawi i kahi i kekahi - Kū kēia pilikia me nā ipo maoli wale no ka mea makemake mau lākou me kā lākou mea aloha no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou makemake e lilo ʻo ia akā i kekahi manawa lilo kēia mea i kumu nui e haʻalele i kāu hoa no ka mea pono i kēlā me kēia kanaka i kahi ākea.
No laila, inā makemake kāu pakanā i kahi manawa e hoʻokō ai i kāna pahuhopu a i ʻole makemake lākou e hāʻawi i ko lākou manawa i ko lākou ʻohana a i ʻole nā hoaaloha a laila e hoʻoikaika ʻoe iā ia me ka puʻuwai hāmama.
No ka mea he mea maikaʻi inā ʻoe ke noho kaʻawale nei mai kāu hoa no kekahi manawa. Kōkua pinepine kēia manawa i kekahi i kekahi e aloha hou aku i nā hoa. E like me ka ʻike o ka poʻe āpau inā ʻoe e haʻalele nei me kekahi kanaka i nā manawa āpau ma hope o kekahi manawa kikoʻī, hoʻomaka kekahi mau pilikia ma waena o ka mea ʻelua.
No laila, no laila, maikaʻi ke haʻalele aku i kāu hoa no kekahi mau manawa. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia ma ka ʻoluʻolu ʻana me kou mau hoaaloha a i ʻole noho ʻana me kou ʻohana. I kēia ala, maopopo iaʻu hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonui i kou aloha me kāu hoa.
6. E hoʻouna iā ia i nā mele a i ʻole nā kaha puanaʻī - Inā makemake ʻoe e pīhoihoi ia iā ʻoe a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻouna iā ia i nā ʻōlelo aloha a i ʻole nā mele aloha me ka manaʻo ʻole i kahi pane mai iā ia wale nō no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe ma o kāu ʻano.
7. No ka mea ʻoi loa nā poems pilialoha hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo i kēia mau mele ʻo kaʻu punahele punahele wau.
- "Pehea wau e aloha ai iā ʻoe?", Na Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
- "Ke ʻelemakule nei ʻoe," na William Butler Yeats
- "Sonnet 116," na William Shakespeare.
- "Valentine," na Carol Ann Duffy.
A no nā ʻōlelo aloha aloha hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu i ke aloha iā ʻoe i nā manawa āpau a i ʻole nā ʻōlelo ʻē aʻe ʻē aʻe i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouna i kāu hoa.
Panina hopena
Manaʻoʻiʻo mākou I kēia ao inā aia aloha pau ʻole Aia ia, a laila aia ma loko o nā makuahine. ʻO kēia wale nō ka pilina ma kēia ao a mākou e aloha nui ai no ka mea nui lākou iā mākou, mālama lākou i kā mākou mea āpau (nā mea a mākou e makemake ai a mākou ʻole nā mea a mākou e makemake ʻole ai).
Hōʻike lākou iā mākou i ke ala kūpono i ke ola. Makemake lākou e ulu mākou i nā manawa āpau a nui nā mea a mākou e ʻike ai no ke kumu waiwai loa o kēia pilina makuahine a me kāna keiki.
No laila inā ʻoe makemake i kāu hoa e aloha mau iā ʻoe a mau loa aku a laila pono ʻoe e mālama i kāu hoa e like me ka hana a ko lākou mau mākua. Ma kēia ala e aloha mau ai kāu hoa iā ʻoe.