Anter
- 1. Trauma
- 2. Ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia
- 3. Ke hoʻomaopopo nei i kā lākou moekolohe
- 4. Hoʻopili i ka pilina i hala
- 5. He mau pilikia pili kālā kā lākou
- 6. Kūʻokoʻa e hana e like me kā lākou makemake
- 7. Nā mea ʻē aʻe i mua
- 8. Hiki ʻole ke aloha i ke aloha
- 9. Nā laʻana maikaʻi ʻole ma nā wahi āpau
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i kahi honua kahi makemake ʻole ka poʻe e hāʻule i ke aloha? Paʻa i ke kiʻi ʻana, ʻeā? ʻĀ, aia kekahi mahele o ka heluna kanaka e koho hoʻokahi.
ʻAʻole wale "ka hoʻomaha ʻana mai nā pilina" akā hoʻokahi wahine koʻikoʻi. He aha ke ʻano o ka poʻe i ʻōlelo iā lākou iho, 'ʻAʻole au makemake e aloha?' E nānā i kēia hanana.
Nui nā kumu e koho ai ke kāne a wahine paha e noho male ʻole.
1. Trauma
ʻAʻole paha makemake kekahi kanaka e aloha aku no ka mea ua ʻike lākou i ka trauma a i ʻole ʻike maka i ka ʻeha ma ka home. Ua hoʻopili ʻia nā traumas kamaliʻi i nā kūlana olakino noʻonoʻo a me ke olakino.
ʻO kahi keiki e ulu aʻe i kahi home hōʻino e haʻi aku iā ia iho ʻaʻole lākou makemake e aloha aloha ma hope o ka ʻike maka ʻana i ke kūlana o ka pilina o ko lākou mau mākua: ʻuā, ʻuwā ʻana, uē ʻana, hahau ʻana, hoʻopaʻi ʻole ʻole ʻana, a me ka hauʻoli nui.
Ke ulu nei me kahi hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi ʻole o kahi pilina i manaʻo ʻia he aloha e lawa ai e hōʻoia i kahi keiki ʻaʻole lākou e makemake e aloha.
2. Ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia
ʻ telllelo paha kekahi kanaka iā lākou iho e aloha ʻole no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i kūkulu i kahi ʻano pilikino paʻa. Malia paha ua aloha lākou i hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha manawa i ko lākou ola, akā ua pau nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, a ua ʻike lākou i ka hōʻole ʻia.
No ka hapanui o ka poʻe, ʻo kēia ka ʻāpana āpau o ka pāʻani o ke aloha, a ua kūpaʻa lākou ma o kēia mau ʻike. ʻIke lākou e hoʻōla ka manawa i ka ʻeha.
Akā no kekahi poʻe, ʻo ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻia kekahi o nā kumu e aloha ʻole ai. ʻOi aku ka ʻeha o ka hōʻole iā lākou, no laila ua haʻalele lākou iā lākou iho ma ke koho ʻana e noho hoʻokahi a mau loa a ʻaʻole e lawe i kahi makaʻu.
ʻOiai inā he ʻano manaʻo ko loko o lākou, hiki iā lākou ke ʻōlelo “ʻaʻole au makemake e aloha aku iā ʻoe” ʻoiai inā hōʻike kekahi i kahi hoihoi iā lākou.
3. Ke hoʻomaopopo nei i kā lākou moekolohe
Inā ke nīnau nei kekahi kanaka i ko lākou moe kolohe, hopohopo paha lākou e hāʻule i ke aloha. Hāʻule ke aloha me hoʻokahi kanaka i kā lākou mau koho, a makemake paha lākou e loaʻa kekahi manawa e hoʻokolohua ai me nā ʻano moekolohe ʻokoʻa.
4. Hoʻopili i ka pilina i hala
"ʻAʻole au makemake e aloha hou" - he manaʻo kēia na ke kanaka ke paʻa mau lākou i ka wā ma mua.
He aloha hohonu ko kēlā kanaka i kona wā i hala, a ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke neʻe i mua. Paʻa mau lākou, aloha nō me kahi ex, ʻoiai ua hala ka pili i kekahi manawa.
ʻAʻole lākou e ʻae iā lākou iho e aloha hou no ka mea ʻo ia ka manaʻo ʻaʻohe manawa kūpono o ka hoʻi hou ʻana me ke kanaka a lākou e manaʻo nei ʻo kā lākou aloha maoli hoʻokahi.
Hiki i kēia kūlana ke lilo i mea obsessive, a ʻo ke kanaka i paʻa i ka wā i hala e pono ai i kahi ʻoihana loea e aʻo pehea e hoʻokuʻu ai a ʻae iā lākou iho e aloha hou.
E nānā pū kekahi: Pehea e hala ai i ka hopena o kahi pilina.
5. He mau pilikia pili kālā kā lākou
Inā ʻaʻohe ou kumu waiwai, koho paha ʻoe ʻaʻole e aloha. No ʻoe hiki ke lilo i mea o “ʻAʻole au makemake e aloha aku no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻopukapuka i ka pilina.”
Hopohopo ʻoe e pili ana i kahi pili i kahi hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke lawe i kāu hoa i ka ʻaina awakea a hōʻino paha iā lākou me nā makana mai kēlā me kēia manawa.
Hopohopo ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻia ʻana he mea ʻemi a nele paha. Koho ʻoe ʻaʻole e aloha aku, ma ka liʻiliʻi a hoʻi i kou wāwae i ke kālā.
6. Kūʻokoʻa e hana e like me kā lākou makemake
"ʻAʻole au makemake e aloha aku no ka mea ʻaʻole wau makemake e nakinaki ʻia i lalo." Maopopo iā mākou a pau kekahi e like me kēlā, ʻeā? ʻO ka dater serial.
Hauʻoli lākou i nā pilina māmā akā ʻaʻole makemake i nā mea e koʻikoʻi, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hana i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai ke makemake lākou.
Koho kekahi poʻe e noho male ʻole no ka mea nui ko lākou kūʻokoʻa iā lākou a manaʻo lākou hiki i kahi pilina paʻa ke lawe aku i kēlā. ʻAʻole lākou makemake e hana i nā kuʻikahi hiki ʻole i ka pilina aloha e koi ai.
ʻAʻole lākou makemake i ke kuleana o ka hānai a mālama ʻana i kahi pilina hohonu. No kēlā mau mea e pono ai ke aloha e like me ka oxygen, ke koho nei i hoʻokahi mau manawa no kēia kumu he ʻano ʻē paha. Akā inā lōʻihi kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ke kanaka me kāna mau hoa hiki, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke hōʻino i kā lākou koho nohona.
7. Nā mea ʻē aʻe i mua
Noho paʻa kekahi poʻe no ka mea ua piha ko lākou ola i nā mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ke aloha. ʻAʻole loa ka aloha aloha ʻana kahi mea nui na lākou.
Ua kūpaʻa nā haumāna i kā lākou aʻo ʻana, nā loea ʻōpio e pono e hōʻoia iā lākou iho ma kahi hana e hiki ai iā lākou ke piʻi i ke alapiʻi ʻoihana, nā poʻe e mālama nei i nā mākua maʻi, nā huakaʻi huakaʻi holoʻokoʻa e makemake e ʻike i nā ʻāina a me nā moʻomeheu i hiki iā lākou ma mua o ka noho ʻana.
ʻO kēia nā kumu kūpono āpau ʻaʻole e aloha i kēia poʻe no ka mea makemake lākou e nānā i ka mea a lākou e hana nei a ʻaʻole pono e hāʻawi i ka manawa a me ka ikaika i kahi pilina aloha, ma ka liʻiliʻi no kēia manawa.
8. Hiki ʻole ke aloha i ke aloha
ʻAʻole neʻe kekahi poʻe i kekahi o nā pae hoʻomohala, a ʻo ka hopena ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke aloha i ke aloha hohonu.
Nanea lākou i ka moekolohe, a makemake lākou i ka hui o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, akā ʻaʻole aloha lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki. ʻAʻole ia he nīnau no ka hālāwai ʻole me ke kanaka kūpono. ʻAʻole hiki i kēia poʻe ke hana i ka pilina aloha me kekahi kanaka. Hōʻike paha lākou "ʻaʻole wau makemake e aloha" ʻoiai e pili aloha ana a i ʻole kekahi manawa he mea a lākou e ʻike ai i loko o lākou a ʻaʻa paha e hoʻomaopopo.
9. Nā laʻana maikaʻi ʻole ma nā wahi āpau
“Mai aloha ʻoe!” 'ōlelo mai kāu hoa aloha iāʻoe. "Pau mau ka maikaʻi ʻole." ʻIke ʻoe i nā kāne ʻaʻole hauʻoli loa āu e hoʻoholo ai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka aloha ʻole ma mua o ka noho ʻana i loko o pilina ʻawahia.
No laila aia kekahi o nā kumu e aloha ʻole ai. Akā i ka hopena, noi ʻia ka nīnau: pehea ke ola me ka ʻole o nā manaʻo kupaianaha a kahi aloha hohonu i hana ai?