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- 1. Ka nele o ka nānā
- 2. E lilo ana nā hanana i kā lākou mea nui
- 3. Loaʻa ʻole o ka pili aloha naʻau
- 4. Ka pale ʻana i ka moekolohe
- 5. Hana huna
- 6. "E hāʻawi mai i kahi manawa"
- 7. Hoʻololi i ka hana kālā
- 8. E hōʻoluʻolu kāu hoa iā ʻoe i waena o kā lākou mau hoaaloha
- 9. Hoʻonohonoho hou a hoʻopau ʻana
- 10. pale loa
He kūlohelohe ia no ke kanaka e manaʻoʻiʻo he mau loa nā mea a mākou. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole kēlā ka manawa mau.
Aia kekahi mau manawa ke nānā ʻia nā kiʻi āpau loa, hāʻule wale nā mea āpau me ka ʻole o kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. Hiki i nā kumu he nui ke kumu i ka wāwahi o ka pilina - wahaheʻe, ʻike ʻole, ʻike huna, etc.
Eia nō naʻe, he aha nā mea ʻawahia maoli ka pilina e hoʻopunipuni nei.
ʻO ke kumu no ka make ʻana o ka hoʻopunipuni i ka pilina ʻo ia ke pāʻani i ka hilinaʻi o kekahi. ʻO ka maʻamau, ʻo nā pou e kākoʻo i ka pilina ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, a me ka mahalo. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i ka hana o ka hoʻopunipuni ke hoʻopau i nā mea ʻekolu i hoʻokahi swoop i hāʻule. Ke hala loa ka hilinaʻi mai kahi pilina, lawe ia i nā manaʻo o ke aloha a me ka mahalo pū me ia.
I kēia manawa, pehea e hiki ai i kekahi ke maopopo e pili ana i kā lākou hoa ʻaʻole hoʻopunipuni iā lākou me ka paranoid ʻole ʻole? He aha nā hōʻailona a kāu hoa e hele nei, a i ʻole, ke hoʻopunipuni nei iā ʻoe?
E nānā i kekahi o nā ʻōuli i hiki ke kōkua i ke alakaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe.
1. Ka nele o ka nānā
ʻO ka hae ʻulaʻula mua loa ka hoʻololi i ka nānā. E neʻe ka maka nui o ka manaʻo o kāu hoa mai ʻoe a i ʻole nā mea e pili ana iā ʻoe iā lākou iho. ʻO nā mea a lākou i hoʻomaopopo ai a i ʻole e makaʻala ʻole ai, ʻaʻole ia he mea nui iā lākou.
I kekahi mau hihia, hoʻohana paha lākou i kahi ea o ka palaka. Ma kahi o, e nānā nui lākou i kā lākou iho iho. ʻO ko lākou ʻano kino.
E hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e ʻike i nā lawena āu i ʻike ʻole ai ma mua, e laʻa me kahi loli nui i ke koho ʻano. Ke kau nei i nā kala a me nā kaila a lākou i makemake ʻole ai a e ʻike mau ana i ko lākou ʻano. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoe e nīnau i nā nīnau like, ʻaʻole lākou e mālama.
2. E lilo ana nā hanana i kā lākou mea nui
ʻO nā hanana e like me nā lā hānau, nā makahiki hoʻomanaʻo, nā Valentine, a pēlā aku, e lilo ana ko lākou mea nui. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he kuhi hewa paha kēia.
Eia nō naʻe, e ʻike ʻia ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o kahi kuhi hewa maoli a me ka hoihoi ʻole. Inā ua hana hewa kāu hoa, e mihi maoli lākou a hoʻāʻo e hōʻoia iā ʻoe.
Inā ʻaʻole kēlā ka hihia, a laila ʻoe e ʻike ai i kahi ʻano mālama ʻole a me ka maopopo ʻole o ka hopohopo. A ʻo kēia ʻano mālama ʻole o kā lākou maopopo leʻa kekahi o nā hōʻailona he ʻumi a kāu hoa e hele nei, a i ʻole, ke hoʻopunipuni nei iā ʻoe.
3. Loaʻa ʻole o ka pili aloha naʻau
ʻO kekahi kumu wehewehe ʻē aʻe o ka mea hoʻopunipuni ka nele o ka pili aloha i kā lākou mau hoa.
Hoʻokomo paha lākou i nā hana moekolohe; Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kēlā manaʻo “aloha” a me “aloha” i kou pili.
4. Ka pale ʻana i ka moekolohe
I kekahi manawa, pale ka poʻe hoʻopunipuni i ka moekolohe pū kekahi. ʻO kēia kahi ala ʻē aʻe e hōʻike ai i ka hoihoi ʻole a mālama ʻole paha. E hoʻāʻo lākou e hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou iho mai ka pilina. No ke aha lākou e hana ai i kēia? ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke lawe iā lākou iho e haki.
No laila, ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā lākou iho ke koho ʻoi aʻe a me kahi hōʻailona paʻa e hele ana kāu hoa a i ʻole ke hoʻopunipuni nei iā ʻoe.
5. Hana huna
ʻO kēia kahi hae ʻulaʻula ʻōlinolino, inā hoʻi inā i wehe mua kāu hoa iā ʻoe; e lilo nā mea āpau mai kā lākou kamepiula i kā lākou kelepona paʻa lima ʻole.
E huhū paha lākou inā e hoʻāʻo ʻoe e nīnau i nā nīnau maʻalahi e like me "Pehea kou lā?" aiʻole "ʻO wai ʻoe e hele pū ana?
6. "E hāʻawi mai i kahi manawa"
ʻAe, ʻo kēia kekahi mea āu e lohe ai.
Hiki koke i kāu hoa ke manaʻo i ka makemake e loaʻa i kahi pilikino. ʻAʻole ke ʻano o ka wahi pilikino e pono ai kēlā me kēia akā ka ʻano e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe mai ko lākou ola.
7. Hoʻololi i ka hana kālā
E ʻike paha ʻoe ua hoʻomaka kāu hoa e hoʻolilo kālā hou ʻaʻole no ka mea ua loaʻa kā lākou uku hoʻonui. ʻAʻole, e hoʻonui hou kēia i nā lilo. He lole hou a i ʻole nā mea mālama pilikino, a i ʻole nā lilo e wehewehe ʻole ʻia.
Hoʻokahi mea e like ai kēia mau hoʻolilo - e kau wale ʻia ma kāu hoa wale nō.
8. E hōʻoluʻolu kāu hoa iā ʻoe i waena o kā lākou mau hoaaloha
ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, e ʻike nā hoa i nā mea he nui aku ma mua ou. No laila, e hōʻoluʻolu ʻole iā ʻoe i kā lākou hui no kāu hoa. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke lohe i kahi mea a kāu hoa e hoʻāʻo nei e hūnā.
No laila, e hoʻāʻo lākou e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe mai kā lākou pōʻai kaiaulu.
9. Hoʻonohonoho hou a hoʻopau ʻana
E hoʻoponopono hou a hoʻopau paha kāu hoa iā ʻoe.
E pili ana kēia i nā hanana kūikawā. ʻO ka hopena, e lilo lākou i kahi manawa liʻiliʻi loa me ʻoe, a paʻa kekahi mea i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hoʻoholo ʻoe e hui pū.
10. pale loa
ʻO kahi hōʻailona ʻē aʻe a ka poʻe cheater e hōʻike ai ʻo ia ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e kamaʻilio me lākou e pili ana i kekahi o nā mea i ʻōlelo ʻia aʻe ma luna, e lilo lākou i mea pale a me ka ʻenemi loa.
Aia kekahi hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohuli iā ʻoe i ka hewa. Hōʻike maʻamau ka hana e like me kēia e ka poʻe i loaʻa kahi mea e hūnā ai.
I kēia manawa he manaʻo maikaʻi kāu no nā hōʻailona, e nānā i kēia wikiō kahi e kūkākūkā ai ka mea hoʻokele pilina ʻo Brad Browning i kekahi mau ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kūʻē i kāu wahine e ʻike hou a hana i kāu pili.