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- 1. Ka mālama ʻana i ka hana
- 2. He inaina ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me kekahi mau kāne ʻē aʻe
- 3. Pākuʻi ʻo ia i nā pāpili kaiaulu
- 4. Pono i ka hōʻoia mau
- 5. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke lohe e pili ana i nā pili i hala
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hana pilikino ʻole, ʻoiai i kēia manawa i ka makahiki o ka pāpili kaiaulu kahi e hōʻike nei kēlā me kēia i ko lākou kino piha, nā hale nui, a me nā kāne wela. ʻOiai he nui ka poʻe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka hilahila ʻole o ka wahine, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hoʻopili ʻia nā kāne e ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa.
Mai hoʻokuʻu i nā kāne insecure e hehi i kou ola aloha.
Inā pili ʻoe i kahi kāne hou a hōʻike ʻo ia i nā hōʻailona o ka hilahila ʻole e pili ana i kāu mau hoaaloha, ʻohana, kona ʻano, nā pilina i hala a me nā mea hou aku, kaumaha paha ʻoe nona.
Akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, hiki i ka lili weliweli a me ka palekana ʻole ke lilo i mea weliweli, ka kaohi ʻana i ka hana pilina.
ʻO ia ke kumu e nānā nei mākou i nā hōʻailona 5 o ka palekana ʻole i nā kāne a he aha kāu e hana ai e hōʻoluʻolu i kona mau makaʻu.
1. Ka mālama ʻana i ka hana
ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka hilahila ʻole i nā kāne e hoʻopili pinepine i nā mea o ke kaohi ʻana i ka lawena.
Hiki paha i kēia ke hana i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa a hoʻokau paha iā ʻoe i lalo, e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe mai nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana, e hoʻomau mau nei iā ʻoe, kahi hilinaʻi ʻole mau, e hoʻokūpī nei i kā lākou kuleana ma ke ʻano he 'pale' a hoʻomau ka papa inoa.
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau ʻana a me ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana kekahi mau ala maʻamau e ʻimi ai nā kāne insecure e kāohi iā ʻoe. ʻO Gaslighting kahi ʻano hana a me ka holoi lolo kahi e moe ai a hoʻomāhuahua ai ka mea hoʻomāinoino i nā mea e huikau a kāohi paha iā ʻoe. Kuhi pinepine kēia i ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia e nīnau i ko lākou olakino a me kā lākou pono ponoʻī.
He aha e hana ai e pili ana
SHōʻike nā tudies ʻo nā pilina kahi e hōʻike mau ai nā hoa i ka mahalo i kekahi i kekahi ʻoi loa ka hauʻoli - ʻaʻole kahi kahi e wāwahi ai nā hoa i lalo a ʻimi i ka kaohi.
ʻO kahi kāne palekana ʻole e pale iā ʻoe mai ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ola ma waho ona ʻaʻole ia kekahi āu e makemake ai i kou ola.
ʻAʻole wale kēia hana ʻino e hiki ai ke wāwahi i kou olakino noʻonoʻo, akā hōʻike i nā helu helu he 1 i ka 4 mau wahine e ʻike i ka hana hoʻomāinoino kūloko e kahi hoa pili, a hōʻike pinepine nā mea hōʻino i nā hōʻailona o ka kaohi ʻana i ka hana ma mua o ka piʻi ʻana o nā mea i kahi ʻāina ʻoi aku ka weliweli.
2. He inaina ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me kekahi mau kāne ʻē aʻe
ʻAʻole pono ka lili olakino i mea maikaʻi ʻole. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he aha ka lili inā ʻaʻole ka hunaahi o ke aloha a me ka makemake e haʻalele ʻole i kekahi mea nui i kou ola?
Eia naʻe, hiki i ka lili ke lilo i mea hoʻonāukiuki a weliweli hoʻi. Hiki iā ia ke nānā iā ʻoe i kāu pilikanaka, snoop ma kāu kelepona, e ukali iā ʻoe, a i ʻole hoʻomaka i ka hakakā me kāu mau hoa kāne kāne.
He aha e hana ai e pili ana
E kamaʻilio ākea me kāu kāne e pili ana i ke ʻano o kāna hana iā ʻoe. E hōʻoia iā ia hiki iā ia ke hilinaʻi iā ʻoe ma kahi o nā kāne ʻē aʻe. Inā hoʻomau ʻo ia e hoʻomau i kāna lili obsessive makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e wāwahi me ia, ʻoiai ke alakaʻi nei kēia i kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe, kaohi ʻana i kou ola.
3. Pākuʻi ʻo ia i nā pāpili kaiaulu
ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka palekana ʻole i nā kāne me ke kahaha ʻole e hoʻi i ka pāpili kaiaulu.
ʻAe, no laila, hewa mākou āpau i ka pāpāho kaiaulu e ʻoki nei i kā mākou hoa o kēia manawa a i ʻole (a i ʻole e ʻōlelo paha mākou, ʻo ia hoʻi) i kā mākou ex. Akā he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka hoihoi o ka pūnaewele me ka kaohi ʻana i ka lili media.
Inā ʻike kāu kāne i kēlā me kēia mea āu i kau ai, mai ka mea e ʻōlelo nei i kāu mau kiʻi i ka mea āu i hoʻomaka ai e ukali ma Instagram, pilikia paha ʻoe.
He aha e hana ai e pili ana
Hoʻomaopopo iā ia e hiki i ka pīhoihoi kaiapili ke hana i ka maopopo ʻole. Lawe paha ʻo ia i nā mea i waho o ka pōʻaiapili a hana i kahi mea nui ma kahi mea ʻole.
ʻO ka mea āu e kau ai ma ka pāpili kaiaulu he maopopo ka lehulehu no nā mea āpau e ʻike, ʻoiai wale nō i ka poʻe ma kāu papa inoa hoaaloha.
Akā inā mau ka pāpāho kaiapili a kāu wahine, e makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e wāwahi me ia a lawe paha iā ia mai kāu moʻokāki.
4. Pono i ka hōʻoia mau
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui loa o ka palekana ʻole i nā kāne ka pono no ka hōʻoia mau. A maoli, ʻo wai ka mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole i ka hōʻoia ma ka pilina? Hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea hoʻopālaha ke ʻōlelo aku kāu pakanā i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana iā ʻoe.
Eia nō naʻe, ke noi nei inā aloha ʻoe iā ia a ʻume ʻia iā ia i kēlā me kēia lā ke luhi koke a manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ia e hoʻolohe pono iā ʻoe.
He aha e hana ai e pili ana
He mea hōʻeha paha ka makemake o kāu kāne no ka hōʻoia mau ʻana, akā paʻakikī ia e hōʻino ai i kāu pili. Ke iho mai i ona, ʻo ke kanaka wale nō i hiki ke kōkua i kona manaʻo iā ia iho. Pono ʻo ia e aʻo e aloha a ʻae i nā mea e pili ana iā ia iho ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke loli.
Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i hoa kōkua ma o ka hōʻoia ʻana iā ia e aloha ʻoe iā ia, makemake iā ia, a ʻaʻole makemake e noho pū me kekahi akā ʻo ia wale nō.
5. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke lohe e pili ana i nā pili i hala
Makemake kekahi mau kāne i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kā lākou pilina ma mua, ʻoiai makemake kekahi e haʻalele i ke kumuhana o nā aloha i hala ma ka papa. Akā inā ʻaʻole hiki i kāu ipo kāne ke lohe e pili ana i kāu ex me ka noi ʻole ʻana i nā nīnau palekana ʻole a me nā ʻano hana a me nā laina nīnau ʻē aʻe, hiki maoli nō ke lilo i pilikia.
E nānā i kēia mau makapō makapō i kāna hana ke kupu mai ke kumuhana o kāu ex.
- Pouting a me ka namunamu
- Hoʻopau i ka naʻau
- Ke hōʻole nei e hoʻoholo i nā pilikia
- Ke noi nei inā ua aloha ʻoe i kāu ex
- Inā ʻike ʻoe i kou ex ma mua ke nānā aku ma mua ona
- Inā he peni nui aʻe kāu ex ma mua ona
Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu ex 24/7, akā he mea nui ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i nā moʻolelo aloha o kēlā me kēia mea no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kekahi ʻano pili.
He aha e hana ai e pili ana
E alo ia mea, ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu kēlā me kēia i ka hoʻolohe ʻana e pili ana i ka moekolohe nui āpau i loaʻa iā ʻoe i kāu pili i hala. Akā inā ʻoi aku ka nui o kona hilahila ʻole e pili ana i kāu ex pono ʻoe e wehe i kahi kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi. Hoʻomaopopo iā ia ʻaʻole i hele hou kāu ex ma kou ola no ke kumu - ʻaʻole ʻoe i hana ma ke ʻano he kāne.
Aia nā kāne palekana ʻole ma nā wahi āpau.
Mai ka hopohopo e pili ana i ko lākou ʻano kino i ka manaʻo e haʻalele ana kā lākou wahine iā lākou, aia nā kāne palekana ʻole ma nā wahi āpau. Hiki i nā hōʻailona o ka palekana ʻole ke hōʻike iā lākou iho i nā ala olakino, e like me ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi kaohi i kahi hoa a i ʻole ke ʻike i ka lili weliweli.