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- 1. Kōkua ia i ka hoʻolālā ʻana no ka wā e hiki mai ana
- 2. E ʻike i nā mea hou e pili ana i nā kāne iho
- 3. Hāʻawi ia i nā kāne e lawe i ka naʻauao i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo
- 4. Kūkulu ia i nā mākau kamaʻilio kūpono
- 5. ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana e pale ai i ka hemo ʻana o ka wā e hiki mai ana
ʻO ka makemake o ka pili aloha aloha e mare a pili mau loa. ʻ Counlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana i ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male a mea nui ia no nā mea āpau inā pili a ʻaʻole paha. Akā pōʻino loa ia ʻike ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne male i kēia mau lā ʻaʻole lākou e hele no kahi ʻōlelo aʻo mua o ka male ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ka hoʻololi.
Ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo ma mua o ka male, he ʻano therapy ia e kōkua ai i nā kāne e hoʻomākaukau no ka male a me nā pilikia, nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā lula e hiki mai ana. ʻO ke komo ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana e kōkua ai e hōʻoia i ka olakino a olakino a me ka pilina ʻona ʻole a me kāu pakanā e hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe i kahi manawa kūpono no kahi male paʻa a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi. Hiki iā ia ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i kou mau nāwaliwali i hiki ke lilo i mau pilikia i ka wā o ka male ʻana a hoʻāʻo hoʻi e hāʻawi i kahi hopena.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana he lāʻau lapaʻau loea i hāʻawi pinepine ʻia e ka male a me nā mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana. Manaʻo ʻia e hāʻawi i ka lihi i ka poʻe e noʻonoʻo nei i kahi hoʻokō wā lōʻihi e like me ka male.
Ma lalo iho nei kekahi mau pono o ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana
1. Kōkua ia i ka hoʻolālā ʻana no ka wā e hiki mai ana
Hana nā mea aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ma mua o ke kōkua wale ʻana i nā kāne e kamaʻilio ma o kā lākou pilikia o kēia manawa. Kōkua pū lākou i nā kāne e hoʻolālā no ka wā e hiki mai ana. Hiki i kahi kākā'ōlelo ke kōkua i nā kāne e hoʻonohonoho i nā pahuhopu hoʻolālā kālā a ʻohana paha, a hiki ke hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi ala e hoʻokō ai i kēlā mau pahuhopu.
Hoʻokomo ka nui o nā kāne i ka male ma ka hōʻaiʻē no ka mea ua kālā lākou i kahi male i hiki ʻole iā lākou ke uku. Hiki i nā mea aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i kahi kālā
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2. E ʻike i nā mea hou e pili ana i nā kāne iho
Hāʻawi ke kau hoʻomaʻamaʻa ma mua iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono a me ke kūʻokoʻa e kūkākūkā i nā mea i piʻi ʻole i nā kamaʻilio maʻamau ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu hoa, e like me kāna mau ʻōlelo huna ʻeleʻele, nā ʻike i hōʻeha ʻia i ka wā ma mua, ka moekolohe, a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia. Nīnau nā kākāʻōlelo male a me nā mea hoʻoponopono i nā nīnau he nui i ka wā e hana pū ana lākou me nā kāne e noʻonoʻo ana i ka hoʻokō lōʻihi e like me ka male. ʻO ka hoʻolohe pono ʻana i nā pane a kāu hoa he ala maikaʻi loa ia e aʻo hou aʻe ai e pili ana i ka mea āu e hoʻopono ai.
Manaʻo ka nui o nā kāne ʻaʻohe mea i ʻike i kā lākou mau hoa ma mua o kā lākou, akā ʻaʻole paha mākou i ʻike i kekahi hana ʻino i hala a i ʻole pehea ka manaʻo o ke kanaka e pili ka pilina. Hiki i nā mea aʻoaʻo ke kōkua i ka lawe ʻana mai i ka ʻike nui a me nā ʻike i makemake ʻole ʻia e kekahi hoa.
3. Hāʻawi ia i nā kāne e lawe i ka naʻauao i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo
ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā pilikia me kekahi mea i male ʻia no kekahi manawa kekahi pōmaikaʻi nui ʻē aʻe o ka ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana. Ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me kahi kākāʻōlelo male, loaʻa mua iā ʻoe a i ʻole ka leo mua o ka naʻauao ma ke kumuhana o ka male. Hāʻawi kahi kākāʻōlelo male i kā lāua ʻike a me nā mōhai a lāua i hana ai e mālama i ka olakino male.
4. Kūkulu ia i nā mākau kamaʻilio kūpono
ʻAʻohe pilina me ke kamaʻilio ʻole. A e like me ka mea i ʻike ʻia, ʻo kekahi o nā mea nui o kēlā me kēia male ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kamaʻilio kūpono me kāu hoa. Ke pau ka mālama ʻana a me ka haʻalele ʻana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kekahi, a laila e alakaʻi ka male i ka haʻalele male. Hiki i ke ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ke kōkua iā ʻoe e aʻo pehea e lilo ai i mea hoʻolohe maikaʻi a pehea pū e kamaʻilio ai me kāu hoa; no laila ʻike ʻoe pehea e kamaʻilio ai i kāu pakanā a me ka mea a ka mea ʻē aʻe e makemake ai a e pono ai. Ke noho ʻoe me kekahi lā i kēlā me kēia lā, maʻalahi ka lawe ʻana i kekahi i kekahi no ka mea i hāʻawi ʻia, akā ma ka mālama ʻana i kahi laina hāmama o ke kamaʻilio a me ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha i kekahi i kekahi e kūkulu i kahi pilina e hiki ke kū i ka hoʻāʻo o ka manawa a me kekahi ʻino.
No laila, kōkua ke kau hoʻomaʻamaʻa pākahi i ka nui o nā kāne e aʻo pehea e kamaʻilio ai i kekahi i kekahi a hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo i kahi ala e hōʻino ʻole ai ka pilina. E aʻo ʻoe pehea e hoʻopaʻa ai i kou alelo ke kūpono a pehea e ʻōlelo ai me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
5. ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana e pale ai i ka hemo ʻana o ka wā e hiki mai ana
ʻO kekahi o nā kumu nui e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana e pale a haʻalele i ka male ma hope. ʻO ke kumu o ka hapa nui o ka hemo a me ka pilikia kālā inā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke kumu nui o ka male ʻana o ka male ʻole ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole. E kōkua ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana iā ʻoe e kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi i kekahi i kekahi a me nā ʻenehana a me nā hana e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili e kākoʻo i kekahi.
Eia kekahi, he mau nīnau kēia i kamaʻilio ʻia i ka wā o ka ʻōlelo aʻo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana.
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