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- Pehea e hoʻoholo ai inā he kāne naʻau noʻonoʻo ʻoe?
- ʻO nā kumu e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ka poʻe loea i ka hakahaka ʻike naʻau
- 1. E hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi ma ke ʻano ʻoi aku
- 2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i kekahi ʻano kamaʻilio me kāu hoa
- 3. ʻAkope, he palupalu ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi
- 4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i nā ʻano manaʻo āpau me kāu hoa
- 5. E maʻalahi ka maʻalahi o ke kala ʻana
Inā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilina olakino a maikaʻi, mākou mau e hoʻolohe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, kamaʻilio, a me ka pae o ka hilinaʻi i waena o nā hoa. ʻOiai ʻo kēia mau kumu ke kumu o kekahi pilina, aia kekahi mea i nānā pinepine ʻole ʻia. ʻO kēlā kumu ka hakahaka ʻike i ka male.
ʻO ka nīnau i maopopo ʻole i nā kāne he nui, pehea he mea nui ka ʻike ma ka pilina? He mea ʻoiaʻiʻo e nalowale kēia mea i ka shuffle.
He mea nui ka hakahaka o ka naʻau no ka mea kōkua ia i nā kāne i ka hōʻike maʻalahi ʻana i ko lākou naʻau a i ka manawa like kōkua kekahi i kekahi i ka mālama ʻana i ko lākou naʻau kū ʻole.
Pehea e hoʻoholo ai inā he kāne naʻau noʻonoʻo ʻoe?
He mea nui ka ʻike i ka pilina?
Manaʻo ka poʻe loea i ka hilinaʻi ʻana o kēlā me kēia i kekahi. Aia nō ia i ka mea a mākou e ʻike nei i ka naʻau o kā mākou hoa a pehea mākou e lawelawe ai i nā manawa paʻakikī loa.
Nui loa kekahi poʻe pili i ka ʻike naʻau, akā aia kekahi manawa kūpono e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke aʻo e pili ana i ka hakahaka ʻike ma ka male.
ʻO nā kumu e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ka poʻe loea i ka hakahaka ʻike naʻau
He ʻoiaʻiʻo e nānā ʻole mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo like ke aloha a me ka ʻike i nā pilina kūleʻa.
ʻO kēlā mau kāne ʻaʻole maopopo i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo, alo i nā pilikia a me ko lākou pilina e hāʻule a maikaʻi ʻole paha.
Eia naʻe, manaʻo paʻa ka poʻe loea i ʻike nui ka hakahaka o ka ʻike ma ka male ʻana i ka male.
E ʻike pehea ka nui o ka ʻike kaulike i ka pilina
1. E hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi ma ke ʻano ʻoi aku
ʻO Empathy ka maopopo o kekahi o nā hōʻailona maʻamau o ka ʻike naʻau. He hopena nui ia i kāu pili a hoʻomaikaʻi pū i ka maikaʻi o kāu pilina.
ʻO ka mea e pili ana i ke aloha ka hiki ke hoʻomaopopo a hoʻomaopopo i nā pilikia a me nā pākaʻi paʻakikī āu a kāu hoa e hele nei. ʻO ia hoʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i kēlā mau manaʻo, a mālama maikaʻi iā lākou.
2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i kekahi ʻano kamaʻilio me kāu hoa
ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa e pili ana i ka ʻike kaulike i ka pilina, ʻaʻole ʻoe e makaʻu e pili ana i ka hoʻokolokolo ʻia a hōʻino ʻia paha. ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻo ka loiloi kūkulu i ka male ka mea nui loa a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e hoʻomaikaʻi ai a ulu pū kekahi.
Inā hāmama nā hoa i nā loiloi kūpono, ʻo ia hoʻi ke hoʻomaikaʻi a hoʻomaikaʻi nei lākou. Ma kahi o ka hoʻouka ʻana a me ka hōʻino ʻana i ka mea ʻē aʻe, hāʻawi lākou i kekahi i kekahi nā manaʻo hana a me nā loiloi maikaʻi.
ʻAe kēia iā lākou e hana ma luna o lākou iho a kōkua i kekahi i kekahi e ulu me ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau a me ka noʻonoʻo i kekahi i kekahi.
3. ʻAkope, he palupalu ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi
ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi e nāwaliwali ʻia i kekahi, i mea e hoʻopili maikaʻi ai me kāu hoa, pono ʻoe e kāpae i kāu ego.
ʻO kēia kahi ʻāpana o ka naʻau ʻike. ʻAʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole inā palupalu ʻoe a hilinaʻi hoʻi i kāu hoa, a loaʻa nā manaʻo nui loa i kāu hoa.
4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i nā ʻano manaʻo āpau me kāu hoa
ʻO kahi mea maikaʻi loa e pili ana i ka ʻike kaulike i ka pilina ʻo ia hiki iā ʻoe ke hāmama e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo. He ʻoiaʻiʻo i kekahi manawa he mau makahiki ke kūkākūkā e pili ana i kāu mau manaʻo maoli i kāu hoa. Eia nō naʻe, ma muli o ke kaulike o ka ʻike, ʻaʻole ʻoe e pono hou i nā makahiki he nui i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana a i ʻole ke kamaʻilio ʻana ke kumu e ikaika ai ka pilina.
ʻO kēia no ka mea inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo, a laila kēlā e ʻōmole ʻia nā manaʻo i hōʻike ʻole ʻia. ʻAʻole kōkua kēia mau manaʻo i haʻi ʻole ʻia iā ʻoe e hoʻomohala i kahi pilina maikaʻi me kāu hoa.
5. E maʻalahi ka maʻalahi o ke kala ʻana
He mea paʻakikī paha ke hoʻokuʻu i kou haʻaheo a e kala aku no nā kuhi hewa āu i hana ai. Akā inā ʻoe e hana pēlā, ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona o ka ʻike a me ke oʻo. Hana kekahi hoa naʻau naʻaupō no ka mea ʻike lākou i ke koʻikoʻi o ka pilina a ʻoi aku ka waiwai ma mua o ko lākou haʻaheo.
Nui ka hakahaka o ka ʻike ma ka male ʻana no ka mea he mana ia e wāwahi i kekahi ʻano pale ma waena o ʻolua a me kāu hoa. Kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pono i kekahi i kekahi.
Ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i ka ʻikepili i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna e pili ana i ka hakahaka o ka ʻike ma ka male ʻana, ua ʻike paha ʻoe i ka mea nui o ia.
ʻAʻole maopopo i ka mau kāne i ke kuleana nui a ka ʻike naʻau e mālama i ka pilina a paʻa ʻole paha.
Hiki i nā hoa like naʻauao ke hāpai i kā lākou mau pilina no nā makahiki me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā pilikia lōʻihi e hoʻohiolo lākou. ʻO ka mea wale nō āu e hoʻomanaʻo ai loaʻa ke kamaʻilio kūpono a ʻo ka hiki ke hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo me kāu hoapili.
Ua hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi ua loaʻa i nā kāne a me nā helu haʻahaʻa o ka ʻike naʻau i nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole e kū mau nei. Hoʻopili pū kēia i ka maikaʻi e like me ka kākoʻo o kā lākou pili.