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- He hemahema maoli nā kānaka no ka pilina a me ka pili
- ʻO ka pilina, ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka moekolohe, ʻo kā mākou makemake nui i ka naʻau
- Makemake ʻoe e hoʻoikaika i kou pilina aloha me kāu hoa?
- 1. E hoʻolilo i nā lā hōʻoia i kēlā me kēia lā ʻo wai ʻoe
- 2. E lilo i leʻaleʻa hauʻoli o kēlā me kēia
- 3. E lilo i puʻuhonua palekana no kekahi
- 4. He papa inoa o nā pono e pono ai ka naʻau
Makemake nā kāne male hauʻoli e ʻōlelo ʻo nā mea nui ʻelua e pili ana i ka noho ʻana ma ka male maikaʻi ʻo ia ka moekolohe nui a me ka pili aloha pili aloha me kā lākou wahine. E hōʻoia nā loea o ka male ʻana: hele ʻelua mau mea like i ka lima a me ka lima; paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi me ka ʻole o kekahi.
He hemahema maoli nā kānaka no ka pilina a me ka pili
He poʻe nohona mākou a ʻaʻole ulu ulu i kahi kaʻawale. Makemake mākou e pili pū, mahalo, ʻike ʻia a hoʻolohe ʻia. Makemake mākou e manaʻo he mea nui mākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. No laila he mea maʻamau no mākou e hoʻoikaika no ka pilina me kā mākou hoa; ua paʻa paʻakikī ia i loko o kā mākou lolo.
ʻO ka pilina, ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka moekolohe, ʻo kā mākou makemake nui i ka naʻau
ʻAʻole pili ka pilina o ka pilina i ka pilina. E hele a kahe, pili i nā kūlana o ke ola. ʻO ka maʻamau, kiʻekiʻe loa ka pilina o ke ʻano ke hoʻoholo nā kāne a male; ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻo wai ka mea e male i kahi mea a lākou i ʻike ʻole ai i ka pilina hohonu? ʻO nā makahiki ma mua o ka hānau ʻana o nā keiki, ke hoʻomau ka ʻike o ka wahine hou i kekahi i kekahi, ʻo ia nō kekahi mau makahiki i piha i ka pili aloha naʻau. Me ka hōʻea ʻana mai o nā keiki, hāʻule iki kahi ʻano pilikino, no nā kumu a nā mākua āpau e kuhi ai: kau ka nānā i nā keiki, a luhi hoʻi nā mākua i ka hoʻopukapuka nui ʻana i kā lākou waihona ukali pilikino ponoʻī. ʻO kēia nā makahiki kahi mea nui e mālama i ka pili pili i ka naʻau e hoʻopili i ka wahine, ʻoiai me ka ikehu e koi ai nā keiki, a me nā hakakā i ʻike ʻole ʻia e nā kāne āpau, e ʻike pono ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻopoina i nā pono o kēlā me kēia, ka moekolohe ʻelua. a me ka naʻau. ʻO ka hana ʻole ʻana pēlā e hoʻoweliweli i ka pilina.
Makemake ʻoe e hoʻoikaika i kou pilina aloha me kāu hoa?
I ka wā e pili mua ana, ua hoʻohana maʻa mau ʻoe i nā ʻenehana e kūkulu i ka pilina ʻuhane me kāu hoa. Hoʻomaopopo i ka manawa mua āu i ʻike ai iā lākou? A ʻakaʻaka ʻoe, me ka manaʻolana e hoʻihoʻi ʻia kēlā ʻakaʻaka? ʻO ia kahi brick mua i ke kahua o ka pilina pilina. Mai laila mai, ua kūʻai paha ʻoe i kekahi mau nīnau, nā nīnau nona ka pahuhopu e aʻo hou e pili ana i kēia kanaka nāna ʻoe i ʻumeʻume. ʻO ia kekahi brick i ke kau ʻana i ke kahua o ka pili aloha naʻau. I ka wehe ʻana o kou pilina, ua hoʻokau ʻia nā pōhaku lepo hou i kahi: ka pā mua, ka honi mua ʻana, ka mua "aloha wau iā ʻoe". ʻO kēia mau hiʻohiʻona āpau o ka makemake e hoʻohui.
I ke kakahiaka nui, nā lā heady o ke aloha, e hoʻokō ana i kēia pono no ka pilina o ke ʻano e maʻalahi a maʻalahi hoʻi. Akā hoʻololi ke kai i kou mau makahiki i ka pilina, a he nui nā kāne a pau i ka nalowale ʻana i ko lākou ʻano pilina. He hilahila kēia no ka mea inā pili ʻoe me kēia pono e hoʻopili kino a me ka noʻonoʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hānai ʻana i nā ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o kou pilina.
Eia kekahi mau ala e hana ai, hoʻohou a mālama i ka pili aloha naʻau iā ʻoe-
1. E hoʻolilo i nā lā hōʻoia i kēlā me kēia lā ʻo wai ʻoe
ʻOiai inā ʻaʻohe ou manawa no kahi kūkaʻi lōʻihi lōʻihi me kāu hoa, e lawe i kahi manawa e nānā iā lākou i ka maka a nīnau iā lākou pehea kā lākou lā. E hoʻokau i kahi nīnau kikoʻī e pili ana i kekahi mea e hana nei i ko lākou ola: hōʻike iā lākou ua hana ʻoe i ko lākou ola ma mua o ka maʻalahi maʻalahi "Pehea nā mea i ka hana?" He mea nui ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i ka manawa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manawa, akā inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kūpono i kēlā, i kēia mau lā liʻiliʻi o ka pilina e hoʻomanaʻo i kāu hoa he mea nui ia iā ʻoe.
2. E lilo i leʻaleʻa hauʻoli o kēlā me kēia
ʻO kekahi o nā pono e pili ana i ka pili pili i ka naʻau ke hiki i kahi o ʻoe e haʻahaʻa nei, hiki iā ʻoe (maʻamau) ke hilinaʻi i kāu hoa e lilo i kāu papa kani a hoʻihoʻi iā ʻoe i ka manaʻo maikaʻi. A i ke kuapo o nā hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no lākou. E hoʻāla hou i kou pili naʻau, e lilo i ka mea leʻaleʻa o kāu hoa i ka manawa aʻe āu e ʻike nei ke kaumaha nei lākou. E hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kou ahiahi e noho pū me lākou a hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e ʻōniu. E hoʻolohe, mai hāʻawi i nā hāʻina ke ʻole lākou e noi iā ʻoe no lākou. Ke kūpono, e nīnau i kāu hoa i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e kōkua ai i ke kūlana. A hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou i ka hiki a me ke kālena o lākou, ma ka lawe ʻana mai i nā laʻana kikoʻī o ka mea āu i ʻike ai iā lākou e hana ana i nā hanana i hala. ʻO kēia mālama mālama kahi ʻāpana o ka hālāwai ʻana me ka pono o ka naʻau o haʻi.
3. E lilo i puʻuhonua palekana no kekahi
No ka mālama ʻana i kou ʻano pili i ka naʻau, e hoʻomanaʻo e hāʻawi i kāu hoa i kahi ʻano palekana, o ka manaʻo e like me ʻoe he "home" no lākou. Me ka ʻole o kēia, pono ʻole ka pili aloha aloha. ʻO ka palekana ʻana mai nā mana waho o ke ola kahi ʻāpana o ka meaʻai no ka male hauʻoli. ʻIke ʻoe i kēlā manaʻo ke loaʻa ʻoe ke hōʻike ʻoe i kāu wahine i kahi ʻāpana o kāu e makemake malū ʻole ai ʻoe. A haʻi aku kāu wahine iā ʻoe ua maikaʻi. ʻO ia kahi pōmaikaʻi ʻē aʻe o ka pili aloha naʻau: kahi e hōʻike ai i kou nāwaliwali āpau me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻia.
4. He papa inoa o nā pono e pono ai ka naʻau
Makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea ʻoe a me kāu kāne e hana nei i ka hālāwai ʻana i ko ʻolua manaʻo pono? Eia kahi papa inoa āu e makemake ai e hoʻohana e hoʻāla i ke kamaʻilio ʻana:
- Pehea kou maka maka? Mālama paha ʻoe i hoʻokahi maka i ke kīwī / kāu kelepona paʻalima / kāʻei kamepiula ʻoiai ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū ana me kāu wahine?
- Pehea ʻoe e hōʻike ai i kāu wahine ua lohe ʻoe i kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei?
- Pehea ʻoe e hōʻike ai i kāu wahine iā ʻoe? hoʻomaopopo he aha kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei?
- Pehea ʻoe e hōʻike ai i kāu wahine e ʻae iā lākou 100%?
- He aha kekahi mau ala āu e hōʻike ai i kāu wahine me ka palekana mau me ʻoe?
- He aha nā huaʻōlelo āu e hoʻohana ai e paipai i kāu kāne ke haʻahaʻa lākou?
- He aha kekahi mau ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i kāu wahine āu e mahalo ai / aloha / makemake iā lākou?
- He aha kekahi ala moe kolohe ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i kāu wahine ʻike iā ʻoe he wahine?
Ke hana nei i ka hālāwai ʻana i ka pono no ka pili aloha naʻau kahi hana e hoʻomau nei i kahi pilina. Akā ʻaʻole ia he "hana" maoli. No ka poʻe i kūpaʻa i ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina o ke ʻano kiʻekiʻe, he mea leʻaleʻa a hoʻonui hoʻi ia huakaʻi. Ke hāʻawi aku mākou, loaʻa iā mākou, a hoʻonui ʻia ka hauʻoli o ka wahine ma ka nui.