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- Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike inā kūpono ka male ʻana iā ʻoe?
- ʻO ka mea mua, e nānā kākou no ke aha e paʻakikī ai kēia hoʻoholo
- Ke hana nei i kahi papa inoa o nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o kēlā me kēia hopena
- Pili pū paha kekahi o kāu mau pros
- Pili pū paha kekahi o kāu cons
- ʻAʻole ʻoe inaina i kāu wahine
- Ke moe kolohe nei ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo he male nui kāu
- Hoʻoweliweli ka hoʻololi a he loli ka haʻalele ʻana
- ʻO ka hope, e noʻonoʻo i kēia mau nīnau
ʻO ka male hoʻokaʻawale kahi o nā hanana hopena ola nui i hiki iā ʻoe ke hele ma waena, kahi e hoʻopili ai ʻaʻole wale iā ʻoe akā kāu hoa a me kāu mau keiki. He mea kūpono ia e hehi mālie ke kaupaona ʻoe i ka hoʻoholo e noho a hele paha.
E aho ʻoe e lawe i kou manawa i ka hoʻoholo ʻana inā kūpono a ʻaʻole ʻole ka hemo ʻana inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina kolohe a ʻehaʻeha paha.
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike inā kūpono ka male ʻana iā ʻoe?
ʻAʻohe mea i kinipōpō aniani, akā naʻe, ke ʻike nei i ke ʻano o kou wā e hiki mai ana ke hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hemo.
Ke kau nei ʻoe i kahi pā pili i kou manaʻo i ka wā e hiki mai ana e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kāu kūlana maoli maoli.
E nānā i kekahi mau pono hana hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana e kōkua iā ʻoe i kēia hoʻoholo paʻakikī. Hoʻohana kēia mau mea hana i nā mea hoʻoholo kiʻekiʻe e kōkua iā lākou e hōʻea i kahi koho kūpono, inā no kekahi mea pilikino a mea ʻona paha.
ʻO ka mea mua, e nānā kākou no ke aha e paʻakikī ai kēia hoʻoholo
ʻO ke koho ʻana inā kūpono ka male ʻana iā ʻoe he hana paʻakikī ia no ka mea ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i kekahi ala ʻae, pono mākou e hemo, a i ʻole, e noho male, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi mea lanakila.
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻoholo ʻana ma waena o nā koho ʻelua ke maopopo leʻa ka maikaʻi o kekahi koho ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe, e like me “E hele au i waho a pāʻina i ka pō āpau, a i ʻole noho i ka home a hoʻopaʻa haʻawina no kaʻu hōʻike hope loa?” Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoluʻolu kekahi mau ʻāpana o kāu male, ke hoʻoholo nei inā kūpono ka male male ʻana iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ia he koho ākea.
ʻO ka mea āu e nānā ai inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā ʻāpana maikaʻi ʻole o ka pilina ma mua o nā mea leʻaleʻa.
Ke hana nei i kahi papa inoa o nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o kēlā me kēia hopena
E lālau i kahi peni a me ka pepa a kaha i kahi laina ma lalo o ka pepa, e hana ana i ʻelua kolamu. ʻO ke kolamu ma ka ʻaoʻao hema kahi āu e nānā ai i nā pōmaikaʻi a pau i ka hemo ʻana. ʻO ke kolamu ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻākau kahi āu e helu ai i nā cons.
Pili pū paha kekahi o kāu mau pros
ʻO ka hopena o ka hakakā me ke kāne, ʻaʻole noho hou me kahi mea e hoʻohoka mau nei, a i ʻole hōʻino, a i ʻole hele, a i ʻole ka mea hoʻomāinoino iā ʻoe.
Ke ola a hānai ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki i ke ala āu e manaʻo ai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no lākou, ʻaʻohe pono e ʻohi ʻae i kēlā me kēia hoʻoholo like.
ʻO ke kūʻokoʻa i ka lā a loaʻa i kahi hoa hou i ʻoi aku ka nui me ka mea āu e makemake ai a makemake i kahi pilina aloha. ʻO ke kūʻokoʻa e lilo iā ʻoe iho, a ʻaʻole pono e hūnā i kāu kukui no ka mea ʻaʻole paipai kāu kāne iā ʻoe iho, a hoʻomāʻewaʻewa paha iā ʻoe no ia mea.
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Pili pū paha kekahi o kāu cons
ʻO ka hopena kālā o ka noho ʻana iā ʻoe iho. Ka hopena psychological i kāu mau keiki. ʻO kou ʻohana, ka hui kaiaulu hoʻomana i ka hemo male. Loaʻa iā ʻoe wale nō ke kuleana no ka mālama keiki, mālama hale, hoʻoponopono kaʻa, kūʻai hale kūʻai, he aha ka hana inā maʻi ʻoe, a ua lilo paha kāu hana.
ʻAʻole ʻoe inaina i kāu wahine
I kekahi manawa maʻalahi ka hoʻoholo i ka hemo. Hana hoʻomāinoino kāu wahine a huhū ʻoe iā ia a me nā manawa like pū me ia. Akā inā ʻaʻole ia ʻeleʻele a keʻokeʻo, a ke aloha nei ʻoe i kāu wahine, nīnau ʻoe inā ʻoe e neʻe i ka haʻalele male.
I kēia hihia, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho: he wahi hauʻoli a maluhia kāu male ʻana. Ke nānā nei ʻoe i mua i ka hoʻi ʻana i ka home a loaʻa ka manawa me kāu hoa? Ua hauʻoli paha ʻoe no ka hiki ʻana o ka hopena pule i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hui pū, e hana ana i nā mea ʻelua? A i ʻole ʻimi ʻoe i nā hana ma waho, mai kāu wahine aku, i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka launa pū ʻana me ia?
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e inaina nui i kāu wahine e hōʻoia i ka male male. Mālama paha ʻoe iā ia, akā e ʻike he make make kāu ipo male ʻole kahi kūlana waiwai no kekahi.
Ke moe kolohe nei ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo he male nui kāu
Nui nā kāne male hemo nāna e haʻi iā ʻoe he ola kolohe kā lākou, akā ʻaʻole lawa ka mālama pū ʻana iā lākou. Maʻalahi ke aloha pilikino. ʻO ka pili aloha naʻau e hana i kahi male maikaʻi. Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi hanana e hiamoe nei ʻoe me kāu kāne akā ʻo ia wale nō ka pili āu e kaʻana like ai, ʻaʻole e kahaha kekahi mea inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e haʻalele.
ʻAʻole pili ka male ma ka noi koi. Pono e hoʻopili i kahi pilina naʻauao a me ka naʻau pū kekahi.
Hoʻoweliweli ka hoʻololi a he loli ka haʻalele ʻana
Ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe i ka hemo ʻana, e aʻo ʻoe inā ʻoe he mea lawe pōpilikia a pale paha i kahi mea palekana. ʻOi aku ka poʻe pale aku i nā makaʻala e noho i ka male make ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa kūpono i nā hoʻololi hoʻonāukiuki e hoʻohuli ai i kahi ola hauʻoli.
He aha ka hopena o kēia poʻe pale aku i ka makaʻu, paʻa lākou i kā lākou pilina, akā haʻalele lākou i ka manawa kūpono e kūkulu i kahi mea maikaʻi me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻohanohano iā lākou iho a me nā mea i kūpono i ka male.
E koho ka mea lawe pilikia i ka loli, me ka ʻike he makaʻu ia akā hiki iā ia ke alakaʻi iā lākou i kahi pilina e kūlike me nā mea e pono ai lākou e hoʻohanohano iā lākou iho. lilo i ʻāpana o ko lākou ola.
ʻO ka hope, e noʻonoʻo i kēia mau nīnau
E kōkua kāu mau pane ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe e wehewehe i ke ala hea ʻoe e hele ai: e haʻalele i ka wahine a i ʻole ʻaʻole e haʻalele.
- Ua lilo anei kēlā me kēia kūkākūkā i hakakā?
- I kēia mau hakakā, ke hāpai mau nei ʻoe i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole mai kou wā i hala?
- Ua hala anei ʻoe i ka mahalo a me ka mahalo o kekahi i kekahi?
- Hoʻowahāwahā paha kāu hoa i kāu hana pilikino ulu, hoʻowalewale iā ʻoe mai ka lālā ʻana a hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā mea hou?
- Hoʻololi ka poʻe i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, akā ua loli nui paha kāu pakanā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻopili hou ʻia me ka ʻike pono, loina, pilikino a me nā ʻoihana?
- He hua ʻole paha kāu mau hakakā, ʻaʻole hopena i kahi kuikahi ʻoluʻolu. Hāʻawi wale paha kekahi o ʻoe a hele i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa?
Inā ʻoe e pane ʻae i nā mea āpau a i ʻole ka hapanui o kēlā mau nīnau, he hoʻoholo kūpono paha kāu.