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No laila i kēia manawa no ka male ka male .... ua hakakā mākou, ua kaua, ua lanakila mākou! A i kēia manawa ua ʻae ʻia ka male male kāne e ka ʻAha Hoʻokolokolo Kiʻi ma kahi o hoʻokahi makahiki i hala aku nei i kēia lā, ua wehe ʻo ia i kahi nīnau hou no nā poʻe LGBT a puni ka ʻāina.
He aha ka manaʻo o ka male?
Maopopo iaʻu makemake wau e male? ʻO ke ʻano o ka male ʻana ke hoʻohālikelike nei wau i kahi kuʻuna heteronormative? Pehea e ʻokoʻa ai ka male male ma ka male pololei?
No ka hapa nui o koʻu ola, ʻaʻole au i manaʻo ʻo ka male ʻana he koho ia naʻu ma ke ʻano he kāne kāne kāne, a ma ke ʻano, ua ʻike maoli wau i kahi hoʻomaha. ʻAʻole wau i koʻikoʻi e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hoa kūpono no ka male ʻana, ka hoʻolālā ʻana i kahi male, ke kākau ʻana i nā hoʻohiki maikaʻi loa, a i ʻole ka lawe ʻana i nā lālā ʻohana like ʻole i nā kūlana kūpilikiʻi.
ʻO ka mea nui, ʻaʻole pono wau e huhū iaʻu iho inā ʻaʻole wau i male iki. Ua hāʻawi ʻia wau i kahi kīnā manuahi e pale aku i nā mea kaumaha nui no ka mea ʻaʻole wau i ʻike ʻia i like i ka maka o ke aupuni.
I kēia manawa ua loli kēlā mau mea āpau.
I kēia manawa ua pili wau i kahi kāne kupaianaha a male mākou i Maui i kēia ʻOkakopa. I kēia manawa aia ka male ma ka papa, ua koi ʻia he miliona mau kānaka, me aʻu iho, e nānā i ke ʻano o ka male ʻana ma ke ʻano he LGBT, a pehea e hoʻokele ai i kēia palena hou.
Ua hoʻoholo wau e male ma muli o koʻu mau manaʻo mua no ka mea makemake wau e hopu i ka manawa kūpono e ʻike ʻia wau he mea like i nā maka o ke kānāwai, a hōʻike i kaʻu kūpaʻa i ka pilina aloha i kaʻu hoa, ʻoiai e kaʻana like i ka hauʻoli me kaʻu mau hoaaloha. a me ka ʻohana. Ua makemake pū wau e hoʻohana i kekahi o nā kuleana o ka male ʻana inā makemake wau, e like me ka hoʻomaha ʻana o ka ʻauhau a me nā kuleana kipa haukapila.
ʻO kekahi o nā hopohopo i loaʻa pinepine i ka poʻe LGBT ke komo i ka naʻau e kaomi ʻia e kūlike i nā kuʻuna heteronormative e hele pū me ka hoʻokumu o ka male.
He mea nui ia e like me ke kāne male e male ana e nānā pinepine me ʻoe iho e hōʻoia i ka pili o kāu male i ka wā ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe. ʻOiai he kuʻuna ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā pepa kono, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e pono ʻoe. Hoʻouna wau a me kaʻu ipo i nā kono leka uila a hele aku i “digital”, no ka mea, ʻoi aku kā mākou. Ua hoʻoholo mākou e hoʻolālā wale i kahi ʻaina awakea nani ma kahakai ma hope o ka hoʻolauna kai liʻiliʻi, me ka ʻole o ka hulahula a me DJ ma hope, no ka mea, ʻoluʻolu loa mākou. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kāu male ma ke ʻano he hiki. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e kau i ke apo ma kou manamana lima hema, mai hoʻokomo i hoʻokahi. Ma ke ʻano he kāne kāne, ua hoʻolauleʻa pinepine mākou i ko mākou kū hoʻokahi a me ke kumu i ka honua. Ke ʻimi nei i kahi ala e mālama ai i kēia ola ma o kāu male a me ka male ʻana he mea nui loa.
ʻO kekahi pilikia a ke alo o nā kāne male e male ai, ʻo ia ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ke kuleana
I nā male heterosexual kuʻuna, ʻo ka maʻamau ka ʻohana o ka wahine mare e uku a hoʻolālā i ka male. I ka male kāne male paha, ʻelua paha wahine wahine, ʻaʻole paha. He mea nui ia e kamaʻilio pū me kāu hoa e like me ka hiki ma o ka hana. Ke nīnau nei i nā nīnau e pili ana i ka ʻoluʻolu loa o ʻolua, a ʻo wai hoʻi e hana i nā hana, hiki ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ke kaumaha. Ke hana nei kaʻu pakanā hou i nā hoʻolālā a puni kā mākou ʻaina awakea, a ke lawe nei wau i nā mea e like me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kā mākou pūnaewele pūnaewele. Pono i kēlā me kēia kanaka e hoʻoholo i ka mea e hana pono ai, a e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hoʻolālā ʻana.
ʻO kahi pahuhopu nui ma mua o ka male ʻana e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa e pili ana i nā pilikia e manaʻo ai ʻoe e piʻi aʻe i lalo i ka laina o kāu male.
Ma ke ʻano he poʻe kāne kāne, ua mālama pinepine ʻia mākou ma mua o kekahi manawa o ko mākou ola. . He ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia no ka hele pū ʻana i ka male, a ʻo ke kamaʻilio ikaika ʻana ke kī no ka wehewehe ʻana i ke ʻano o kēlā. He aha ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou e hoʻopaʻa ana i ka male? ʻO ke kūpaʻa he mea ia e pili wale ai iā ʻoe, pili pū kekahi me ka monogamous kino, a pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka male? ʻO ka mea hope loa, hiki i kēlā me kēia male ke ʻokoʻa, a he aha ke ʻano o ka male ʻana. He mea nui e hana i kēia mau kamaʻilio i mua.
ʻO ka mea hope loa akā ʻaʻole ka mea liʻiliʻi loa, e hele ana i ka male ma ke ʻano he LGBT, he mea nui nō ia e hana ma waena o nā hilahila kūloko e kū aʻe a puni ka male ʻana.
No ka lōʻihi, mālama ʻia nā kāne kāne ma ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o, no laila hoʻokomo pinepine mākou i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole lawa mākou. Mai kūʻai aku iā ʻoe iho pōkole ke hiki mai i kāu male ʻana. Inā loaʻa kekahi mea āu e manaʻo nui ai, e hōʻoia i lohe ʻia e ʻoe a me kāu poʻe i aloha ai. He mea kūikawā kāu lā male. Inā ʻoe e ʻike he manaʻo kou e kāohi iā ʻoe iho, e hoʻāʻo e ʻike i kēlā a e makaʻala iā ia. Hiki ke kōkua nui ke ʻike ʻana i ka mea hoʻoponopono.