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- 1. Ua hala mua ʻoe iā ia
- 2. ʻOi aku kou lokomaikaʻi iā ʻoe iho
- 3. Ua lilo ʻoe i wahine e pono ai
- 4. ʻOi aku ka nui o kāu moekolohe ma mua o kāu ma mua
- 5. ʻAʻole ʻoe e maʻalahi i ka hoʻonele ʻana i kou manawa i ke kāne hewa
- 6. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana i nā mea āpau ma kāu iho
- 7. ʻAe ʻoe i kou kino
- 8. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopono mau
- 9. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e haʻalele koke
Ke hoʻopau ʻia kahi pilina lōʻihi, hiki ke haʻalulu, keu hoʻi i ka alo o ka naʻau. A inā he poʻe keiki kāu, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kēia.
Akā ʻaʻole mau iki nā keiki. Ke ulu nei lākou, ʻo ʻoe ma ke ʻano he makuahine hoʻokahi e hoʻomaka i ka manawa kūpono e noho ai i kāu iho, a hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e ʻiʻini i ka pili aloha i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma mua. ʻO ka noho male ʻana no ka lōʻihi me nā keiki hiki ke paʻakikī, ʻae, akā hiki mai me ka nui o nā mea pāpā ʻia ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hoʻomaka hou i ka pili aloha. "ʻAʻole au i kamaʻilio pū me kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe i 8 mau makahiki!" ʻo ia wale nō kekahi o nā mea maʻamau a kou noʻonoʻo e hoʻomanaʻo ai iā ʻoe, akā, ʻaʻole pono ia e like me kēlā. No laila, paʻakikī ka launa pū ʻana no nā makuahine hoʻokahi?
No ka poʻe e makemake e hoʻokele i ka pili pūnaewele, a ke nīnau nei, pehea e hoʻomaka ai nā makuahine hoʻokahi i ka launa ʻana, eia ke kōkua kūpono me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kipa pūnaewele.
ʻO ka mea mua, eia nā kumu 9 i makaʻu ʻole ai ʻoe i ka pili pūnaewele
1. Ua hala mua ʻoe iā ia
No ke aha i pili ʻole ai ka hapanui o nā makuahine hoʻokahi? Makaʻu lākou no ka haʻalele ʻana o ka male, nā pēpē a me ka kaʻawale iā lākou.
Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke ola nei i kahi ola kahi āu e hana ai me ka male, nā pēpē a laila ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, he koa kahiko ʻoe. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻimi hou i kahi kāne e noho a ʻimi paha i kēlā chromosome Y maikaʻi loa i kāu chromosome X. Makemake wale ʻoe i kahi leʻaleʻa, a maikaʻi loa ka launa pū ʻana me ʻoe ma ka pūnaewele no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻimi ana no ka mau loa, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele i kēlā me kēia lā e kiki ana i kēlā papa inoa noʻonoʻo no kāu hoa.
2. ʻOi aku kou lokomaikaʻi iā ʻoe iho
Hiki i ka hemo male ke kumu i ka ʻeha akā aʻo pū ia iā ʻoe i ka mana o ke kala ʻana. Aʻo ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu ke ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e kala lohi i kāu ex, kona mau mākua a i ʻole iā ʻoe a pēlā aku. E neʻe ana ka manawa a lilo ʻoe i mea aloha a maopopo ʻoe i nā kuanaʻike o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hāʻawi kēia iā ʻoe i kekahi ʻano hilinaʻi a ʻano pilikino e huki pono i ke kāne kūpono nāu.
3. Ua lilo ʻoe i wahine e pono ai
Ke kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i ka hilinaʻi-e puka mai ana mai ke ahi ʻo ia ka mea ʻino i kou ola, ʻike hou ʻoe e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a hoʻololi ʻoe i kahi mana ʻoi loa o ʻoe iā ʻoe iho.
Ua ʻike ʻoe i nā mea ʻoi loa a ua hala ʻoe i kahi hopena maikaʻi loa o ka pilina ma laila. Hoʻohui pū kēia i kou pilikino a makemake ʻole i kahi kanaka unpretentious, ʻike iā lākou iho a ʻike i ka mea ʻaʻole.
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pūnaewele e hoʻomanaʻo ia he nui ia e pili ana i kēlā manaʻo mua, no laila mai poina e waiho i ka mana ʻoi loa o kāu iho ma waho!
4. ʻOi aku ka nui o kāu moekolohe ma mua o kāu ma mua
Ua hala ʻoe i nā mea he nui, ma ke ʻano a me ke kino. Ua loli kou kino a pēlā pū me kāu kuanaʻike i nā mea he nui. Ma mua, ua ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha ʻoe me ka ʻaʻahu ʻana i ka lole paʻa a i ʻole ka pīpī, akā i kēia manawa ʻo ʻoe ka wahine āu e manaʻo mau ai, aia kou hilinaʻi i kona piko. ʻO ka honua holoʻokoʻa kou ʻōpena a e like me kā Shakira i ʻōlelo ai, mai hūnā i ka wolf wahine i loko o ka lumi.
Ke komo nei i kou hilinaʻi ma ke ʻano he mea kōkua kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pūnaewele maikaʻi loa.
5. ʻAʻole ʻoe e maʻalahi i ka hoʻonele ʻana i kou manawa i ke kāne hewa
ʻOiai ua hele mua ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, ʻike ʻoe instinctively i ke ʻano o ke kāne hewa. ʻIke wale ʻoe i ke ʻano o kahi ʻōlelo a ʻano hana paha - loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi Ph.D. i nā ʻōkuhi minuke i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole ʻoe e haehae i kou lauoho inā nānā ʻole ʻo ia iā ʻoe, e neʻe wale ʻoe i ka mea aʻe a ʻo ke kāne hoʻokahi e ʻuhū nei ʻaʻole ia he mea nui iā ʻoe. Mālama kēia iā ʻoe me ka palekana a ʻike ʻole ʻoe i ka nalo o ka manawa i ke kāne hewa.
6. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana i nā mea āpau ma kāu iho
ʻO kāu keiki kāu ʻāpala o kou maka akā ke hoʻi nei i ka honua pili e manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa ma waho e waiho nei i kāu pēpē me ka mālama ʻole ʻia. Makemake paha ʻoe e lilo i makua lima, akā i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi nou (a me lākou) inā hoʻi ʻoe i hope a ʻimi i kahi kōkua.
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pūnaewele koʻikoʻi e nīnau aku i kāu hoaloha hilinaʻi, hoalauna a i ʻole kekahi mai kou ʻohana e hānai pēpē iā lākou i kēlā me kēia manawa. Lawe i kahi manawa nou iho, ʻaʻole inaina mai kāu poʻe keiki iā ʻoe no ia mea.
7. ʻAe ʻoe i kou kino
ʻO ka hānau ʻana a me ka ola ma hope o ka hānau ʻana hoʻololi i kou kino a mau loa aku. Aia nā māka kī, paha nā scars inā ʻaʻohe ou lawe maʻamau a ʻike paha ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke komo i ka nui o nā jeans āu i komo ai i ke koleke. Eia naʻe, ʻike ʻoe ua ʻoi aku kou helehelena ma mua o ka wā ma mua a ʻae ʻoe i nā hemahema āpau a ke ao e haʻi aku ai iā ʻoe e peʻe - haʻaheo ʻoe iā lākou a ua ʻae ʻoe iā lākou a ʻo kēia hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i wahine.
No laila, mai makaʻu a kau i kāu selfie ʻoi loa i kāu pili o ka polokalamu pili i kēia lā.
8. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopono mau
He makuahine piha ʻoe a he hana kāu, a me kahi ola ʻē aʻe āpau. ʻAʻohe ou manawa no ka nui o nā shenanigans e hele mai me ka launa pū ʻana, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopono e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a me kou ola.
No laila mai makaʻu, e hoʻopono ma kāu ʻikepili — e haʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he makua hoʻokahi ʻoe a he mau keiki kāu i hele mai i mua o haʻi. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e wahaheʻe e nani ai kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, a ʻo wai ka mea ʻike, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kūlike me hoʻokahi makuakāne e ʻimi nei paha i nā mea like me ʻoe.
9. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e haʻalele koke
ʻO ka mea hope loa, hoʻomanawanui.
Nui loa nā kāne e holo i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i ka manawa a lākou e aʻo ai he makuahine hoʻokahi ʻoe a hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki a hoʻonāukiuki paha i kekahi manawa. Akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kahi daimana i ka mea ʻino, no laila mai hāʻawi maʻalahi. ʻIke paha ʻoe i kekahi mea kūpono iā ʻoe a me kou ola inā nānā wale ʻoe.
Eia kekahi, he mea nui e ukali ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo palekana no ka makuahine hoʻokahi e like me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi inoa pale kaʻawale i kāu pili pili aloha, me ka hilinaʻi i kāu instincts a me ka waiho ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana inā hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe, a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā lā ma kahi i noho nui ʻia, ka hōʻalo ʻana i nā wahi kaʻawale. holoʻokoʻa. ʻOiai he mea hoihoi ia e luʻu i ka honua o ka pili pūnaewele, mai hoʻouna i nā kiʻi moekolohe i ka poʻe āu i hoʻomaka ai e kamaʻilio pū.
Ke lele nei i ka honua o ka launa pūnaewele me he makuahine hoʻokahi hiki ke paʻakikī ʻoiai aia kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe (ʻo ia hoʻi, kāu poʻe liʻiliʻi) e noʻonoʻo e pili ana, kou palekana ponoʻī e hopohopo a ʻike ʻoe he waiwai kou manawa.
Eia nō naʻe, leʻaleʻa loa inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawe i nā mea āpau āpau a i ʻole hoʻoweliweli paha i kou kūpaʻa. Hiki i nā polokalamu hoʻolauna pūnaewele ke ala kupaianaha e hālāwai me nā poʻe hou no ka mea ke hana nui ʻoe me kāu poʻe keiki a hana! ʻO ka mea hope loa, e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pūnaewele koʻikoʻi: ua puka kū ʻole ʻoe ma hope o kāu pili hope loa, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hana āpau i kēia.