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- 1. He ukana kāna, no laila e noʻonoʻo i kēlā
- 2. Mālama e hōʻoia iā ia he maikaʻi kou mau manaʻo
- 3. Maopopo ke kumu ʻo wai ʻo ia
- 4. Māmā ke keʻehi, palupalu ʻo ia
- 5. ʻoʻoleʻa ʻo ia
- 6. Hoʻolauleʻa iā ia
- 7. Mai lilo i pāʻani pāʻani
- 8. E hana ʻo ia me ka wahine ma mua
- 9. Hehi akahele inā keiki nā ʻāpana o ka hoʻohuihui
- 10. Nui nā mea nui e pili ana i ka launa ʻana me ka wahine hemo
Ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe a i ʻole ke pili nei me ka wahine hemo? ʻIke paha ʻoe aia paha he mau ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka pili ʻana i ka mea male ʻole a me ka mea i male ʻole ma hope ona?
ʻO ke ala a me ka mālama ʻana i ka launa ʻana me ka wahine hemo, he ʻokoʻa iki ia ma mua o ke komo ʻana me kahi kāne male ʻole.
Akā mai hoʻokuʻu i kēlā mea mai ka neʻe ʻana i mua me kāu hoihoi aloha. E ʻike ʻoe i ka pili ʻana i ka wahine hemo i lilo i mea waiwai nui loa, ʻoiai ua ʻike ʻo ia he aha nā pili ke pili i ke aloha maoli.
1. He ukana kāna, no laila e noʻonoʻo i kēlā
Ua ʻike kou hoa i kekahi o nā hanana kaumaha loa e hiki ai iā ia ke alo i ke ola: ʻo ka ʻike ua maikaʻi ʻole kāna male, ʻoiai ʻo nā hana maikaʻi loa.
Hiki iā ia ke akahele i kāna hoʻokokoke ʻana i ka pili aloha a me ke aloha ʻana no ka mea ʻike ʻo ia mai ka ʻike inā hoʻomaka nā mea āpau āpau a kupaianaha, ʻaʻole maikaʻi paha ka pāʻani hope.
2. Mālama e hōʻoia iā ia he maikaʻi kou mau manaʻo
Pono paha kāu ipo e hōʻoia hou aku ke ʻike nei ʻoe i ka ʻeha āna i ʻike ai i ka wā i hala, a ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e hana ʻeha i kāna ʻeha.
Hōʻike kēia iā ia ua maʻalahi ʻoe a pili i nā mea āna i hele ai, ʻaʻole wale i kekahi e hoʻohana ana i kona palupalu a me ka palupalu o kona ʻano.
3. Maopopo ke kumu ʻo wai ʻo ia
He ʻokoʻa nā pono o ka wahine hemo me kā ka mea i male ʻole.
Ua hele ʻo ia i loko o kahi ʻoi loa: kahi ʻano o ka eo, a i ʻole ka hōʻole inā ua hoʻopunipuni kāna kāne mua iā ia a haʻalele iā ia no kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe, kahi ʻano o ka haʻahaʻa a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa iā ʻoe iho. ʻO kāna kumu paha kēia e pili ai i kāna ʻike i ka honua, a ʻo ke kāne hoʻi, i kēia manawa.
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4. Māmā ke keʻehi, palupalu ʻo ia
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hāʻule i ke aloha me kēia wahine no laila pono ʻoe e mahalo iā ia i kāna manawa e pili ana i ka pili a me ka hoʻokō.
Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hana hou ʻana i kahi kuhihewa a ʻoi aku paha ka lōʻihi o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kēlā mau hōʻailona pili ʻelua me ʻoe. E hoʻopono e pili ana i kāu mau pono ponoʻī, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana iā ia, e hoʻomaka i ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mākaukau a me ke kamaʻilio.
5. ʻoʻoleʻa ʻo ia
ʻO kahi mea āu e ʻike ai e pili ana i ka launa ʻana me ka wahine hemo, pehea kona kūpaʻa, paʻakikī a lawa iā ia iho.
Mahalo paha kēia iā ʻoe inā ua maʻa ʻoe i ka launa ʻana me kekahi mea ʻaʻole i hele ma waena o kēia ʻano loli ola. ʻO ia wale nō, me nā keiki paha, a no laila ke manaʻo nei e pono iā ia ka wahine a me ke kāne i ka pilina.
Manaʻo paha ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hilinaʻi i kekahi kanaka inā loaʻa kahi pilikia. Me he mea lā paʻakikī ʻo ia, akā e ʻike ma lalo o kēlā persona, makemake ʻo ia e ʻike ua hoʻihoʻi ʻoe iā ia a maʻa mau iā ia ma laila.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ia i kēia ma nā ʻano like ʻole: e haʻi ana iā ia he maikaʻi ke hilinaʻi iā ʻoe, ke noho nei nona ke ʻike ʻoe he pono ʻo ia iā ʻoe, a e hāʻawi ana i ke kōkua (me nā hana o ka hale, a i ʻole nā hana hoʻoponopono, a i ʻole ke lawe wale ʻana i kāna kaʻa i kahi mele.)
6. Hoʻolauleʻa iā ia
Ua maʻa paha ʻo ia i kāna hana maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO kahi hoʻolaha ma ka hana, hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kekahi mea i loko o ka hale, nā mākau hoʻokele manawa maikaʻi e kahaha ai ka CEO nui loa.
ʻIke ʻoe i kēia mau mea āpau. E haʻi iā ia e ʻike ʻoe i kāna ʻano kupaianaha. ʻAʻole paha ʻo ia i lohe i kahi mahalo e like me kēlā i ka manawa lōʻihi.
7. Mai lilo i pāʻani pāʻani
Inā ʻoi aku kāu kumu hoʻohālikelike i kahi ʻano aloha-ʻem-and-leave-‘em, noho mamao aku i nā wahine hemo.
ʻAʻole lākou e hele iki i nā pilina, no ka mea ua pau lākou i ke ahi. Pākuʻi ʻia ko lākou naʻau a inā pāʻani ʻoe me lākou, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi hōʻino maoli.
No laila inā ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi a lōʻihi paha kou mau manaʻo, ʻoi aku ʻoe i ke kūlike me kahi mea ma ka ʻaoʻao like me ʻoe.
8. E hana ʻo ia me ka wahine ma mua
Hele mai nā wahine hoʻokaʻawale me nā kāne male, a hiki i kēlā mau mea ke lilo i pilikia no kekahi hoa hou.
He mea ʻole kāu e noʻonoʻo ai i kāna ex, e hana pū me ia. E lilo i mea hoʻolohe pono inā ʻōlelo ʻo ia e pili ana iā ia, e kunou nei i kou poʻo a ʻōlelo "weliweli loa kēlā!" akā ʻaʻohe mea hou aʻe. Mai hāʻawi iā ia e hele e ʻike iā ia e hoʻāʻo a hoʻoholo i nā helu.
Ke hele aʻe kou mau ala, lulu i kona lima a ʻōlelo "aloha" no ka mea āu e manaʻo ai e pili ana iā ia. I ka neʻe ʻana o ka hemo a hala loa i ka wā i hala, e emi ana ka liʻiliʻi o ko lāua pilina.
9. Hehi akahele inā keiki nā ʻāpana o ka hoʻohuihui
Ke hui pū ʻoe me kahi wahine hemo kāna keiki, ke pili nei ʻoe i kahiʻaʻai pūʻolo.
Lana ka manaʻo e loaʻa kekahi mau manawa liʻiliʻi ma mua o nā manawa kūpono me nā keiki. Inā liʻiliʻi a makua paha lākou, ʻaʻole e ʻae ʻia kou alo i ke ola o ko lākou makuahine me nā ʻelima kiʻekiʻe hauʻoli. ʻO ko lākou kūpaʻa mau me ko lākou makuakāne.
Lawe i kou manawa e hōʻike iā lākou he kāne ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe, hilinaʻi, kūpaʻa a lokomaikaʻi hoʻi i aloha i ko lākou makuahine. I ka manawa e palekana ai lākou i kēia, e hoʻomehana pū lākou iā ʻoe pū kekahi.
10. Nui nā mea nui e pili ana i ka launa ʻana me ka wahine hemo
ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻike ʻo ia i ka waiwai o ka pilina maikaʻi a e hoʻāʻo e mālama i nā mea hou, hoihoi a ola i waena o ʻolua.
Ua hoʻomohala ʻo ia i ke ahonui a me nā mākau kamaʻilio maikaʻi i mea e paʻa ai a hoʻonui ai ka hoʻopaʻa āu e hana ai. E loaʻa iā ia nā mākau hoʻomohala maikaʻi ma nā wahi e like me ke aloha, ke ahonui, ka hoʻolohe, ke kūkā ʻana, a me ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau ma muli o kāna ʻike hemo.
E hauʻoli me kēia wahine: he makua makua ʻo ia!