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- Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā he luku paha kāu wahaheʻe?
- No ke aha ko lākou wahaheʻe i ka pilina
- 1. ʻO ka moe i kahi pilina e hōʻemi i ka hilinaʻi
- 2. Ke moe nei i ka pilina sabotage i ka pilina ma mua o kahi mau kāne
- 3. ʻO ka wahaheʻe i ka pilina hiki ke paʻakikī ke mālama
- 4. Paipai paranoia no nā hoa ʻelua
- 5. ʻAe i ka hewa a me ka hōʻalo aʻe e kolo i ka pilina
- 6. Hiki ke ulu i ka hilahila a me ka hōʻino
- 7. Hiki i ka moe ʻana i ka pilina ke lawe i ka ʻeha o ka noʻonoʻo
Wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo liʻiliʻi e hoʻopakele i ka manaʻo o kāu pakanā, a i ʻole e paipai iā lākou e hana i kahi mea āu e makemake ai e maikaʻi a maikaʻi.
ʻO kēlā 'wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo' kahi manawa kūpono o ke kamaʻilio a me ke kūkākūkā no ke ola male. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i nā mea ke ʻawaʻawa loa ke ʻike ka wahine i ka wahaheʻe maoli i kā lāua pilina a i ʻole nā wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo he nui loa.
Hiki i ka hopena o ka wahaheʻe i ka pilina ke loaʻa ka hopena hohonu a luku hoʻi i nā hoa ʻelua a me ka pilina ponoʻī.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā he luku paha kāu wahaheʻe?
Maʻalahi, kahi lula maikaʻi o ka manamana lima e kuhi ka mea luku nā moe āpau i kahi pilina.
ʻOiai ka wahaheʻe a me ka hūnā e pili ana pehea ʻoe e hoʻolilo kālā ai, ma hea ʻoe i ka wā i 'puka i waho' ʻoiai ʻoe e kūpaʻa, pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana i kāu hoa, ka pilina, ka moekolohe, nā keiki a me ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā.
Ke moe nei ka haʻi waha ʻana i kahi pilina, inā hewa ʻole lākou inā ʻaʻole paha e loaʻa ka hopena.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i nā hopena o ka wahaheʻe i kēlā manawa. Inā ʻike kāu pakanā e wahaheʻe ana ʻoe, ʻo ka mea maikaʻi ʻaʻole lākou e lawe iā ʻoe i ka manawa āpau i nā manawa āpau, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, alakaʻi ia i nā hiʻohiʻona luku.
No ke aha ko lākou wahaheʻe i ka pilina
Manaʻo ka hapanui o ka poʻe i ka moe i ka pilina ma ke ʻano he kumu mai ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana o kekahi hoa i kekahi, akā nui nā kumu ʻē aʻe i ʻike ʻia ai ka wahaheʻe i nā pilina e like me;
- ʻO ka hoa wahahe he wahaheʻe koi i hoʻomohala ʻia mai kā lākou ʻike i hala i ke ola.
- ʻO ka hoa wahaheʻe he narcissist.
- Aia ka hoʻopunipuni.
- Hiki i ka wahaheʻe ke hana e pili ana i kāu makemake moekolohe, pono a me nā makemake.
- Wahaheʻe paha nā kāne e pili ana i ko lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kā lākou wahine a me kā lākou pili.
- ʻAʻole maikaʻi paha kekahi hoa me ke kālā a me nā pilikia pili kālā e like me kekahi.
- Nā ʻano mākua ʻokoʻa.
- Ke moe nei i loko o kahi pilina i kēia manawa e hōʻalo i ke kaohi a me ka hana nele paha o kahi hoa.
- Loaʻa i kahi hoa i kahi kauhina hoʻopili pilikino a wahaheʻe e hana i kahi no lākou.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole kēia he papa inoa kūikawā, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka nui o nā ala i hiki i ka wahaheʻe ke kolo i kahi pilina.
Pehea e moe ai ka moe ʻana i ka pilina
1. ʻO ka moe i kahi pilina e hōʻemi i ka hilinaʻi
I kou wā kamaliʻi, ua loaʻa iā ʻoe ka haʻawina mai kou mau mākua a i ʻole nā kumu e pili ana i ka lōʻihi o ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi hilinaʻi, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i kekona. He haʻawina ola nui ia, ʻoiaʻiʻo. A paʻa ʻoiaʻiʻo i nā pilina.
ʻO ka wahaheʻe i ka pilina e hōʻemi i nā pae hilinaʻi i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kāne ʻelua.
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi wahaheʻe liʻiliʻi ke hoʻololi i ka nui o ka hilinaʻi āu i pili ai, akā ʻo ka nui o nā wahaheʻe liʻiliʻi hiki ke hōʻemi i kēlā nui i ka puʻuwai.
ʻO nā wahaheʻe nui ʻoi aku ka luku e hoʻopau koke i ka loko wai o ka hilinaʻi i ka haʻalele ʻana iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e hana ai ʻoe i kahi hana he nui, no kahi manawa lōʻihi e hoʻoponopono ai i nā mea i hōʻino ʻia e nā wahaheʻe i loko o ka pilina, inā hiki ke hana pēlā.
2. Ke moe nei i ka pilina sabotage i ka pilina ma mua o kahi mau kāne
Me ka hilinaʻi ʻole pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka pili? Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke palupalu me kahi wahine wahaheʻe e hilinaʻi iā lākou e loaʻa i kou puʻuwai keu pono, a i ʻole e hiki ke haʻi i kou hāmama a me nāwaliwali iā lākou?
ʻO ka pane, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe. Lilo ka hilinaʻi a me ka pilina ʻo ia ke kaola e paʻa ai ka pilina e lilo i lepo.
3. ʻO ka wahaheʻe i ka pilina hiki ke paʻakikī ke mālama
He mea paʻakikī ke hoʻomanaʻo i nā wahaheʻe, ma ka manawa o ka manawa e hoʻopoina ka wahine wahaheʻe i ka mea a lākou i wahaheʻe ai a me nā mea a lākou i hana ʻole ai - waiho ʻana i nā hōʻailona no kā lākou hoa e hoʻomaka ana i kā lākou kani kani kani.
ʻO kēia mau bele kani e hoʻonāukiuki ka wahine i ka wahaheʻe ʻole, e hōʻemi ka hilinaʻi a me ka pilina ma ka pilina, a ma ka wāwae hope ka wahine hoʻopunipuni ke ʻole lākou e piʻi aʻe a wehewehe pono a hoʻomau i ka hana ʻana i nā wahaheʻe hou aku. e ʻeli iā lākou iho mai kahi puka nui loa.
ʻO ke kūpono, inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kēia kūlana, ʻo ka hopena ʻoi loa, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - mai hoʻomau i ka wahaheʻe.
4. Paipai paranoia no nā hoa ʻelua
He paranoid ka hoa wahaheʻe e pili ana i ka hopu ʻia a me nā hōkele i ka hana sneaky, kānalua a hilinaʻi ʻole hoʻi; lilo ka wahine hoʻopono i paranoid e pili ana i ke kumu o kā lākou mau bele hoʻōho e kani ana a puni ka wahi.
Hiki iā Paranoia ke hānai a hoʻoluhi i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua i ke kaumaha, hopohopo a hopohopo akā hoʻokahi wale nō hoa e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu e hoʻohui hou ai i ka paranoia e ʻike nei ka hoa ʻike ʻole.
5. ʻAe i ka hewa a me ka hōʻalo aʻe e kolo i ka pilina
Hoʻomaka ka hoa wahaheʻe e hoʻomohala i kahi ʻano o ka lawehala e pili ana i ka mea a lākou i hana ai i ko lākou pilina a me kā lākou hoa, a no laila hiki i kekahi manawa ke pale aku i nā hana e pale aku ai i kā lākou wahaheʻe a pale iā lākou iho.
Hiki i kekahi hana ʻalo aʻe ke kolohe a me ke alo paha, no ka laʻana, hoʻāʻo ka wahine hoʻopunipuni e hūnā wahaheʻe lākou ma o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa e hōʻalo i ka wahaheʻe.
ʻO ka mea hiki ke hoʻoulu i ka hewa no ka hoa pono ʻoiai lākou e kuleana no kā lākou ʻāpana i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa - inā ʻaʻole ia no lākou ka hewa.
6. Hiki ke ulu i ka hilahila a me ka hōʻino
E ʻae i kēia hanana e ulu i ka manawa, a i kēia manawa e makaʻu ka wahine wahaheʻe i ka hilahila no ka mea a lākou i hana ai, a no ka hana a lākou i kā lākou hoa, ʻaʻole wale no ka wahaheʻe akā ʻo ke aloof, ka hakakā, ka hana ʻalo aʻe a me ka hopohopo. ʻo ia ka mea kānalua no ka wahine hoʻopono pū kekahi.
Hiki i ka hilahila ke huli i ka hewa, a ʻo ka hopena e alakaʻi iā mākou i kā mākou kiko hope loa.
7. Hiki i ka moe ʻana i ka pilina ke lawe i ka ʻeha o ka noʻonoʻo
ʻAʻole pono e wehewehe pehea mākou i hiki ai i kēia mokuʻāina ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka hūnā, ka lawehala, ka hewa, ka hilahila, ke kaumaha a me ka nalowale ʻana o ka pilina, ka hilinaʻi a me ka mahalo.
Ua ʻeli ʻo Lies i kahi lua ʻole o ka pilina i hāʻule ai nā hoa ʻelua i kēia manawa.
ʻO ka manawa wale no e pakele ai ka wahine inā hoʻomaka ka wahine hoʻopunipuni e ninini i ke kī.
Ke heluhelu ʻoe i ka hopena o ka moe ʻana i kahi pilina, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike pehea e luku loa ai hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau wahaheʻe liʻiliʻi. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ke kū ʻana i nā pilikia pili pili, a i ʻole nā pono pilikino e poʻo poʻo me kāu wahine i loaʻa iā ʻoe ʻelua ka manawa kūpono e hana pū ai - i kahi ʻano olakino olakino ʻole.